Post by thejackpot on Sept 8, 2016 20:32:25 GMT -5
Thank you to @246baje for handing out the fuck yous. This is really rich. Not surprised at all. WOC always know it will eventually boil down to this, white tears and angst. I am sorry that I hung around even after the bag of dicks, @kirkette foolishness etc. I am pissed that Nata is another victim of y'all listening and learning.
I don't want to apologize and run. I want to do better and not pay empty lip service. I am going to do the Yale course on African American history and experience. If anyone else wants to participate and have a discussion group, please let me know and I will start a once-a-week thread.
I also want to remind people of the organization @kirkette recommended we donate to: www.jklivinfoundation.org
I will make a donation this week.
I know this will sound like I'm doing these things to myself feel better or to try and deflect blame or something. Maybe some of that is even true. But ultimately I want to be a good mom and a good friend, and these are the two first steps I can think to take. I will keep looking for more. When it might benefit other people too, I will post them. Otherwise, I will just do them.
by all accounts, this IS the general makeup of the board. that's the point.
this behavior does not only exist at Trump rallies. i'm honestly happy people are being forced to face the fact that THIS IS YOU, white america. this is not a shock to a single one of the WOC who post and lurk on these boards. not one. it's exhausting, sometimes infuriating, even a bit entertaining from the sheer ridiculousness, but surprising? not even a tiny bit.
own it and then move forward. but stop thinking that because you voted for a black man and you made grandma nugget's famous mac 'n cheese that this is not you. it is. that's life. now do better.
with that, i'm done posting here as well. this board is many things, but a place for WOC to post it is not.
You are so right. I like to think that racism is kept in the backwoods redneck conservative America, but it's simply not true. White people need to sit down and shut the fuck up. I worry about the direction this country is moving.
I don't think the direction of our country has changed. It's simply that our bubble has been penetrated, and we (white people) are seeing that this is our country's status quo, a reality that POC face every day. Our country's direction has always been piss poor, we finally managed to take notice for the first time.
Gross. Y'all are like my 4-year-old: "Sorry" only means sorry you got caught, and you're absofuckinglutely just going to KOKO once the ashes settle. Except she learns from her mistakes and gets more mature each day.
My God. I am so sorry for all of this. I am sorry that I don't know what to say. I am sorry that this is our culture, because regardless of our individual opinions, it is our culture. I am so sad and distraught that we can't see ourselves causing pain. I am so sorry.
Post by Faevantastic on Sept 8, 2016 20:49:48 GMT -5
The white privilege here is not surprising. And I can bet that those who apologized for having participated in that appalling high school mean girls group still feel like they are not racists. I bet they can sleep soundly at night believing that the things they said had nothing to do with race. They may be fooling themselves but no WOC is fooled.
Well now I'm feeling some fremdschämen. Actually it's more like rage-schämen. A whole heaping of rage with just enough second hand embarrassment to make my skin crawl.
You people have GOT TO BE FUCKING KIDDING ME with the friend requests on FB right now.
NO.
I DONT WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOU.
IN FACT, IM DELETING ALL OF YOU.
Really? Insecure people needing validation.
And to prove they aren't one of those people. Distancing themselves from the bad white people. I am pretty sure these are 2 behaviours listed this week in a post about how white peoples deal with racism badly. Denial denial denial.
It's crazy when you can see it happening in front of you, when you are literally following a playbook. Defensive, excuses, distancing, asking for a pat on the head from POC.
WTF is WRONG with you all that are fucking sending this woman Facebook friend requests?! This woman has been hurt and attacked by women on this board who care more about being gossipy hateful bitches who can't dare have their fragile little white upper-middle class bubbles popped while at the same time paying lip service here that meant jack shit obviously. And your solution, I'm thinking to make yourselves feel better, is to ask her for a goddamn friend on FB? Why? To show your "support"?! Jesus H this is maddening and sickening.
I don't go here, but damn. We need more TamiTaylor s in the white world.
I wonder if one of the posters here is my white female coworker who told my colleague in our D&I department that she didn't think we should have inclusion programs and that everything should be a meritocracy. You can't have a meritocracy if life isn't fair from the moment you are born. White people have privilege. Even white women. Even my Jewish white ass.