God damn, people. I used to have a lot of respect for this community. The only good I can think is that this behavior is worse than most kids I know, so maybe there's hope yet.
Holy shit. Next level idiocy right here. But then you go and out do yourselves with friend requests to atone for your vileness. What would make you think that's ok? Clearly some of you haven't been listening and reading enough.
Saying that you hope we can create a safe environment for WOC participants is like, the most noncommittal and dumb shit ever. Hope is lazy. Hope doesn't do fuckshit. And a safe environment? Black people aren't baby bunnies you need to save from the hard winter coming. Like what? Preferring to not be suffocated by blinding ignorance is hardly requesting a super special safe space.
I read the whole thread, pissed off at most of you and ugly laughing at @kirkette's way with words and well-deserved insults.
I am not perfect--far from it. I've made a lot of missteps as a liberal white woman, and am sure I will make more (although hopefully fewer and eventually none). I have gossiped a lot off board in past years. But I'm disgusted. SJ we have been friends for years but I'm so disappointed
Gotta get that one brown friend, ya know? Because we're all LEARNING AND LISTENING
I've been the funny brown friend all my life. Or the one they call in when they are too scared to say something themselves. "Oh tell Renata, she'll go after them for you."
"It really hurts my feelings Natariru when you don't let me just have you as my token sassy friend because it makes me feel nice."
Liberal, educated, white women are often among the most racist.
And it's because they say "I'm liberal, educated, and a woman, so I can't possibly be racist!"
It's like people who wrongly think there are no racists in the north, because only southerners are racist. And then you just don't see racism except where you expect to find it (i.e. Trump rallies).
It's too easy to say "I'm one of the GOOD ONES," and not actually challenge yourself and those around you to do better.
I mentioned it in another thread, but I feel like this is where Canada's at. Nooo, we can't possibly be racist. Only Americans have a problem with racism, and we're better than the Americans (being "better than the Americans" is very important to Canadians). People will be all "yay multiculturalism! Yay refugees!" and then shit like what happened to Jesse Lipscombe happens (http://edmonton.ctvnews.ca/edmonton-is-better-than-these-fools-video-of-racist-incident-going-viral-1.3054670) or everyone just ignores the missing and murdered indigenous women.
And I am seriously so pissed that people keep pulling this shit and bouncing. Must be nice to run off after an "apology" and KOKO with your bitch ass racist self.
I don't even post here often, but have been catching up over the past few weeks now that I'm emerging from my infertility/loss fog, and Jesus. I'm horrified, embarrassed, and sad at this behavior from grown women who are supposedly all ears.
I try every day to DO FUCKING BETTER, both because I'm a person living on this earth who cares about others, and to set a good example for my son. I am so frustrated that the collective we keep failing the WOC here.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
You guys aren't even special dumb. You're average dumb. There's nothing unique about you or how you have to have the issue of race laid out for you every day like a brand new baby bird. There aren't enough Salon articles in the world you can read to try to figure out how to just be a multifaceted human. You're just dead weight who has to cling to toddler outfit coordination to give your soul any sense of relevancy.
I mentioned it in another thread, but I feel like this is where Canada's at. Nooo, we can't possibly be racist. Only Americans have a problem with racism, and we're better than the Americans (being "better than the Americans" is very important to Canadians). People will be all "yay multiculturalism! Yay refugees!" and then shit like what happened to Jesse Lipscombe happens (http://edmonton.ctvnews.ca/edmonton-is-better-than-these-fools-video-of-racist-incident-going-viral-1.3054670) or everyone just ignores the missing and murdered indigenous women.
Yes, what the fuck to thinking America's do-rag (copyright capscapscaps ) is immune from racism. I bet if I asked a black person there about that, they'd say otherwise.
iammalcolmx , isn't one of the Provinces where an angry mob chased your black father?
He had to flee because he spoke up about black people being fed after white folks. He left in the middle of the night.
I am so disappointed. While I am not a poster on MMM, I feel like all of GBCN is connected these days and I really thought this was a better community. I realize that was my white privilege being blind to much of what was going on. In the last year or so I've realized how much I missed before we started talking more about microaggressions and how WOC are treated here. And I'm sad. And disgusted. And I'm not sure why I'm here trying to be a part of a community that ignores or minimizes the feelings and challenges of its members. I am in no way perfect when it comes to recognizing my privilege, and I'm embarrassed to think of things I may have said in the past without really "getting" it. But I am crushed that some of my favorite people here have been hurt, over and over again, and that others that I have liked and respected over the 7+ years I've posted here don't seem to care to do better.
I'm honestly not sure if I want to continue being a part of this community. I am having major cognitive dissonance about continuing to spend my time in a place where people are made to feel unwelcome.
I only got to page 10. Oh the hand wringing and "We're listening!" and "You shouldn't have to deal with this!" and the "Do better!" earnest bullshit. Come the fuck ON. I guarantee this whole thread could be copy/pasted in a week. Because although some people are interested in learning, the majority aren't. This repetitive messiness is exhausting for me and I'm white.
Perhaps it's time to open ears and shut mouths. Stop insisting you're listening and actually fucking listen.
So much for listening and learning. I don't even know what to say. All of our "I'm sorrys" to the WOC here are so inadequate and, frankly, just lip service at this point.
You guys aren't even special dumb. You're average dumb. There's nothing unique about you or how you have to have the issue of race laid out for you every day like a brand new baby bird. There aren't enough Salon articles in the world you can read to try to figure out how to just be a multifaceted human. You're just dead weight who has to cling to toddler outfit coordination to give your soul any sense of relevancy.
You guys aren't even special dumb. You're average dumb. There's nothing unique about you or how you have to have the issue of race laid out for you every day like a brand new baby bird. There aren't enough Salon articles in the world you can read to try to figure out how to just be a multifaceted human. You're just dead weight who has to cling to toddler outfit coordination to give your soul any sense of relevancy.
You know, Betty, you really shouldn't mince words so often. When you have an opinion, don't be afraid to express it with panache. It's not good to keep it all bottled up.