The best revenge for this shit is living well. This is why there is so much angst about @kirkette's upbringing and current situation. Because much like Trump, v and booby, there are white folks on this board who are uncomfortable with black folks doing as well or better than them.
I was thinking of this after @kirkette 's AMA when she stated that she wanted her daughters to only go to a top tier university. So many people on here got up in arms and said shit like "oh, I just want my kid to be happy, they can be whatever they want to be" when all of the other hand-wringing posts on their children's education betray that sentiment. Plenty of women here want their kid to get, at a minimum, a four year degree. But something about a black woman wanting her kids to go to an ivy league university...
I was thinking of this after @kirkette 's AMA when she stated that she wanted her daughters to only go to a top tier university. So many people on here got up in arms and said shit like "oh, I just want my kid to be happy, they can be whatever they want to be" when all of the other hand-wringing posts on their children's education betray that sentiment. Plenty of women here want their kid to get, at a minimum, a four year degree. But something about a black woman wanting her kids to go to an ivy league university...
Especially when, in this family, we pretty much all go to elite and top tier universities. I mean the fucking horror!
Post by timorousbeastie on Sept 8, 2016 21:45:53 GMT -5
JFC. I just got caught up. I just don't even know what to say to all of this. My world has been falling apart IRL lately, and I've let that be an excuse not to step forward when I should. I am fucking embarrassed by how so many people have acted.
I came to MMM to see if there had been any more discussion in the 28 racist attitudes and behaviors repost from yesterday. I found this instead. The post that could've/should've started some thoughtful discussion on racism has one page of replies. One. What a fucking joke this board is turning out to be.
You guys aren't even special dumb. You're average dumb. There's nothing unique about you or how you have to have the issue of race laid out for you every day like a brand new baby bird. There aren't enough Salon articles in the world you can read to try to figure out how to just be a multifaceted human. You're just dead weight who has to cling to toddler outfit coordination to give your soul any sense of relevancy.
it really does come back to baby clothes, every damn time. This is why I truly do feel superior for dressing my daughter like an adorable little boy from the 1980's. Just kidding. Kind of.
ETA: in Target's finest clearance items. My soul is pure.
Post by humpforfree on Sept 8, 2016 21:56:31 GMT -5
I'm just going to ditto bex about my bubble and really working on myself in the last year or two since I stopped being oblivious. And shelbyann. And @246baje the fact that woc cant'a just escape this or ignore has been with me a LOT in the last year. I hate that this is reality. @natariru you have been an amazing friend and I will miss you around here but completely understand that this is not someplace that you want to spend your time.
jessnpaul and I are in a local MMM FB group together. Someone kindly tagged me in a post there, saying how shitty this whole thing is. You know, b/c we have all met each other. Our kids have played together. HUMAN SHIT LIKE THAT. In that post, jessnpaul decided that instead of paying attention to what the fuck is happening here, she needed to know why I defriended her. Now, I was pretty much defriending everyone anyway, cuz why the fuck do I need to be friends with you after this, but I told her "For fucks sake, are you really going to make this about you right now? I'm defriending everyone." To which she replied "Ok" and then I was like, eh fuck it, might as well burn it all down in one shot.
THIS rubbed me the wrong way at the time but I brushed it off b/c I've been hearing this shit all my life:
But NOT TODAY FUCKERS. I posted that screenshot in the facebook post and got a "I can see where that could be taken as offensive".
HELLO, HAVE YOU NOT READ ANYTHING POSTED OVER HERE LATELY?!
I'm tired dude. I'm really fucking tired of this shit. So I left the FB group.
And I feel like I'm not even coherent anymore. My mind is blown by the stupidity.
ETA: When CloudBee pointed out that my parents live in Newark (and I grew up there), she was all "Oh, I had no idea"
First, my comment about Newark was from a year ago. I realize it was in poor (very poor) taste. At the time i actually thought i shouldn't have said it after i posted it, but i didn't delete it. I should have never said it in the first place.
Second, i didn't know your parents lived there. I don't know the town that every one of my friends' parents live in. Again I'm sorry.
Silly me, I forgot my "manners". I almost forgot foolish white posters expect me to be like," You is kind. You is smart. You is important". And, as a magical negro Mammy trope, "Mrs. MMMs, I don't know nothing about birthin no babies! ".
You should only be here to gently show us our wrongs and quietly murmur about how much better we are doing after we manage to go one whole day with no overtly racist posts. Hello.
You guys aren't even special dumb. You're average dumb. There's nothing unique about you or how you have to have the issue of race laid out for you every day like a brand new baby bird. There aren't enough Salon articles in the world you can read to try to figure out how to just be a multifaceted human. You're just dead weight who has to cling to toddler outfit coordination to give your soul any sense of relevancy.
it really does come back to baby clothes, every damn time. This is why I truly do feel superior for dressing my daughter like an adorable little boy from the 1980's. Just kidding. Kind of.
ETA: in Target's finest clearance items. My soul is pure.
Mine's not.
My kid's best clothes are hand-me-downs from my rich white co-worker.
jessnpaul and I are in a local MMM FB group together. Someone kindly tagged me in a post there, saying how shitty this whole thing is. You know, b/c we have all met each other. Our kids have played together. HUMAN SHIT LIKE THAT. In that post, jessnpaul decided that instead of paying attention to what the fuck is happening here, she needed to know why I defriended her. Now, I was pretty much defriending everyone anyway, cuz why the fuck do I need to be friends with you after this, but I told her "For fucks sake, are you really going to make this about you right now? I'm defriending everyone." To which she replied "Ok" and then I was like, eh fuck it, might as well burn it all down in one shot.
THIS rubbed me the wrong way at the time but I brushed it off b/c I've been hearing this shit all my life:
But NOT TODAY FUCKERS. I posted that screenshot in the facebook post and got a "I can see where that could be taken as offensive".
HELLO, HAVE YOU NOT READ ANYTHING POSTED OVER HERE LATELY?!
I'm tired dude. I'm really fucking tired of this shit. So I left the FB group.
And I feel like I'm not even coherent anymore. My mind is blown by the stupidity.
ETA: When CloudBee pointed out that my parents live in Newark (and I grew up there), she was all "Oh, I had no idea"
First, my comment about Newark was from a year ago. I realize it was in poor (very poor) taste. At the time i actually thought i shouldn't have said it after i posted it, but i didn't delete it. I should have never said it in the first place.
Second, i didn't know your parents lived there. I don't know the town that every one of my friends' parents live in. Again I'm sorry.
Your apology sucks. "Here are all the reasons you shouldn't be mad at me, sorry that you are."
jessnpaul and I are in a local MMM FB group together. Someone kindly tagged me in a post there, saying how shitty this whole thing is. You know, b/c we have all met each other. Our kids have played together. HUMAN SHIT LIKE THAT. In that post, jessnpaul decided that instead of paying attention to what the fuck is happening here, she needed to know why I defriended her. Now, I was pretty much defriending everyone anyway, cuz why the fuck do I need to be friends with you after this, but I told her "For fucks sake, are you really going to make this about you right now? I'm defriending everyone." To which she replied "Ok" and then I was like, eh fuck it, might as well burn it all down in one shot.
THIS rubbed me the wrong way at the time but I brushed it off b/c I've been hearing this shit all my life:
But NOT TODAY FUCKERS. I posted that screenshot in the facebook post and got a "I can see where that could be taken as offensive".
HELLO, HAVE YOU NOT READ ANYTHING POSTED OVER HERE LATELY?!
I'm tired dude. I'm really fucking tired of this shit. So I left the FB group.
And I feel like I'm not even coherent anymore. My mind is blown by the stupidity.
ETA: When CloudBee pointed out that my parents live in Newark (and I grew up there), she was all "Oh, I had no idea"
First, my comment about Newark was from a year ago. I realize it was in poor (very poor) taste. At the time i actually thought i shouldn't have said it after i posted it, but i didn't delete it. I should have never said it in the first place.
Second, i didn't know your parents lived there. I don't know the town that every one of my friends' parents live in. Again I'm sorry.
Hey next time this comes up you should try apologizing.
jessnpaul and I are in a local MMM FB group together. Someone kindly tagged me in a post there, saying how shitty this whole thing is. You know, b/c we have all met each other. Our kids have played together. HUMAN SHIT LIKE THAT. In that post, jessnpaul decided that instead of paying attention to what the fuck is happening here, she needed to know why I defriended her. Now, I was pretty much defriending everyone anyway, cuz why the fuck do I need to be friends with you after this, but I told her "For fucks sake, are you really going to make this about you right now? I'm defriending everyone." To which she replied "Ok" and then I was like, eh fuck it, might as well burn it all down in one shot.
THIS rubbed me the wrong way at the time but I brushed it off b/c I've been hearing this shit all my life:
But NOT TODAY FUCKERS. I posted that screenshot in the facebook post and got a "I can see where that could be taken as offensive".
HELLO, HAVE YOU NOT READ ANYTHING POSTED OVER HERE LATELY?!
I'm tired dude. I'm really fucking tired of this shit. So I left the FB group.
And I feel like I'm not even coherent anymore. My mind is blown by the stupidity.
ETA: When CloudBee (who has been an amazing friend through all of this) pointed out that my parents live in Newark (and I grew up there), she was all "Oh, I had no idea"
FFS! jessnpaul you should be ashamed not only about what you said but that you couldn't even bother to apologize.
jessnpaul and I are in a local MMM FB group together. Someone kindly tagged me in a post there, saying how shitty this whole thing is. You know, b/c we have all met each other. Our kids have played together. HUMAN SHIT LIKE THAT. In that post, jessnpaul decided that instead of paying attention to what the fuck is happening here, she needed to know why I defriended her. Now, I was pretty much defriending everyone anyway, cuz why the fuck do I need to be friends with you after this, but I told her "For fucks sake, are you really going to make this about you right now? I'm defriending everyone." To which she replied "Ok" and then I was like, eh fuck it, might as well burn it all down in one shot.
THIS rubbed me the wrong way at the time but I brushed it off b/c I've been hearing this shit all my life:
But NOT TODAY FUCKERS. I posted that screenshot in the facebook post and got a "I can see where that could be taken as offensive".
HELLO, HAVE YOU NOT READ ANYTHING POSTED OVER HERE LATELY?!
I'm tired dude. I'm really fucking tired of this shit. So I left the FB group.
And I feel like I'm not even coherent anymore. My mind is blown by the stupidity.
ETA: When CloudBee pointed out that my parents live in Newark (and I grew up there), she was all "Oh, I had no idea"
First, my comment about Newark was from a year ago. I realize it was in poor (very poor) taste. At the time i actually thought i shouldn't have said it after i posted it, but i didn't delete it. I should have never said it in the first place.
Second, i didn't know your parents lived there. I don't know the town that every one of my friends' parents live in. Again I'm sorry.
How is it that through all of this, people still haven't figured out how to react properly when called out for racist bullshit? Here's a hint - don't defend it and don't double down on it. Listen. Evaluate yourself. Meaningfully apologize. Don't do it again.
jessnpaul and I are in a local MMM FB group together. Someone kindly tagged me in a post there, saying how shitty this whole thing is. You know, b/c we have all met each other. Our kids have played together. HUMAN SHIT LIKE THAT. In that post, jessnpaul decided that instead of paying attention to what the fuck is happening here, she needed to know why I defriended her. Now, I was pretty much defriending everyone anyway, cuz why the fuck do I need to be friends with you after this, but I told her "For fucks sake, are you really going to make this about you right now? I'm defriending everyone." To which she replied "Ok" and then I was like, eh fuck it, might as well burn it all down in one shot.
THIS rubbed me the wrong way at the time but I brushed it off b/c I've been hearing this shit all my life:
But NOT TODAY FUCKERS. I posted that screenshot in the facebook post and got a "I can see where that could be taken as offensive".
HELLO, HAVE YOU NOT READ ANYTHING POSTED OVER HERE LATELY?!
I'm tired dude. I'm really fucking tired of this shit. So I left the FB group.
And I feel like I'm not even coherent anymore. My mind is blown by the stupidity.
ETA: When CloudBee pointed out that my parents live in Newark (and I grew up there), she was all "Oh, I had no idea"
First, my comment about Newark was from a year ago. I realize it was in poor (very poor) taste. At the time i actually thought i shouldn't have said it after i posted it, but i didn't delete it. I should have never said it in the first place.
Second, i didn't know your parents lived there. I don't know the town that every one of my friends' parents live in. Again I'm sorry.
I predict that lindsaymgSJ @mrswindycity will be taking a break. Or maybe they will just get super busy, that's the excuse @asdfjkl seems to fall back on.
AmyRI seemed to think it was wrong when we dragged tokenhoser for being the racist, miserable bitch that she is.
I don't forget shit.
I do not intend to run away, delete, or deactivate.
But I also do not want to post long-winded posts making this about me or my feelings or anything that will resemble an excuse. I saw what was going on in that group and instead of shutting it down I let myself question and criticize TamiTaylor 's motives and methods. It is shameful beyond words.