God, this. Seriously. I can't imagine how nasty I'd feel after not bathing for 7 days. LAZY AS FUCK.
Let's bring this back full circle, shall we? It's fine or even funny/cute to be lazy or dirty when you are white. NOT OK as a POC.
Indulgent white people parenting. I contemplate this a lot while doing DD's hair since she hates having it brushed (but too damn bad for her). Being able to let your kid walk around looking like a hot mess with little to no judgement from others is definitely a privilege.
oh, I was simply discussing putting poop on someone's door step. I'm trying to imagine a scenario where that would be called for.
Pretty much never; and it was a huge overreaction in that particular situation.
This seven day without a bath thing is gross. Â I feel bad if we skip more than one night. Â Was it someone who is crunchy? Â Nata's comment makes it obvious it was someone white. Â Crazy how EVERY SINGLE THING is turned into a double standard for POC.
I think that is her point. How white posters/people can do xyz but not POC.
Look at how people reacted to @kirkette and Smo back in January. They were called scary and threatening. When I yelled and cussed I just got called a bitch and was told I made them feel uncomfortable.
Let's bring this back full circle, shall we? It's fine or even funny/cute to be lazy or dirty when you are white. NOT OK as a POC.
Indulgent white people parenting. I contemplate this a lot while doing DD's hair since she hates having it brushed (but too damn bad for her). Being able to let your kid walk around looking like a hot mess with little to no judgement from others is definitely a privilege.
Yes it is. And you can't even say this is a money thing. I know too many people who try to turn every racial issue into a SES one. (not saying you did, but this post made me think of it) Because look at how people went off about Blue Ivy's hair and she is a child of the richest people ever basically. And still people were all 'how can you let your child go out with her hair looking like that.' And yes, many/most of these comments came from other black people. But they are built on a history of being inferior and having to always look a certain way so you are perceived to be a certain way.
Yes! And then the shit talking if you give your kid a bath in a regular basis. Like, ain't nobody got time for that and I'm turning my kids into a dry skinned lizards for bathing them with regularity.
This is the first time I've ever considered there are people who ask their children for permission to do something necessary, like baths. What?! If they don't want you to brush their teeth do you just go 6 weeks without that too? DD can either take a bath and play in it after she's clean, or she can just get washed quickly and get out. Those are your options. Same for teeth: I can brush them and then you can brush, or I can just brush them and then you're finished. I don't really care if you don't want to keep up with basic hygiene.
Oh I do the same thing @246baje. I wasn't saying I am above it. I don't let DD go out with her hair all over her head. Which is really hard on days like today when I am at work before she wakes up and H has to take her to gymnastics. But I know I feel that way because people will say why did her MOTHER let her go out with her hair looking like that. It is all about how other people are going to perceive her and me based on how she is dressed/looks. And we know white people do not have to deal with that.
Pretty much never; and it was a huge overreaction in that particular situation.
This seven day without a bath thing is gross. Â I feel bad if we skip more than one night. Â Was it someone who is crunchy? Â Nata's comment makes it obvious it was someone white. Â Crazy how EVERY SINGLE THING is turned into a double standard for POC.
I think that is her point. How white posters/people can do xyz but not POC.
Look at how people reacted to @kirkette and Smo back in January. They were called scary and threatening. When I yelled and cussed I just got called a bitch and was told I made them feel uncomfortable.
Post by NewOrleans on Sept 10, 2016 10:17:49 GMT -5
I'd say folks gon learn, but that is demonstrably never happening round here. There is not even an ancient Babylonian goddess who can fix your specific shit and redeem these ones.
Reminds me of that woman on the bump who blew her husband while she nursed....
Her sn was blondebarbie but we all remember her as bjbarbie. Gag.
I think I'm going to throw up. WTF?
There were so many questions...
We're your husbands balls touching the child? What kind of husband wants a blow job while seeing that? If that was a man on your breast that's a three some. Ya she never returned after that confession.
Post by momin2013 on Sept 10, 2016 10:38:54 GMT -5
O.k., I was in here much earlier, and came back to try to say something heartfelt and meaningful, but a) I see this thread has taken a sharp left turn and b) I'm now having trouble forming a coherent thought after that Jamie Fraser gif and all the quoting thereof. Yes, please.
Was the permission thing from celiacmom's extreme attachment parenting? I didn't see it mentioned in the linked bathing thread.
@nqb got upset that a custodian told the kids at daycare their was a monster in a closet. Ok, whatever. It went off the deep end when it devolved into, "I don't like the because I said so" mentality and I'm sending my kid to a daycare that asks permission to change diapers.
She tried to come for me when I said that sometimes that is perfectly reasonable, especially when changing a diaper is a non negotiable.
Was the permission thing from celiacmom's extreme attachment parenting? I didn't see it mentioned in the linked bathing thread.
@notquiteblushing got upset that a custodian told the kids at daycare their was a monster in a closet. Ok, whatever. It went off the deep end when it devolved into, "I don't like the because I said so" mentality and I'm sending my kid to a daycare that asks permission to change diapers.
She tried to come for me when I said that sometimes that is perfectly reasonable, especially when changing a diaper is a non negotiable.
So not being a racist asshole or someone who harbors racist asshole is too hard of a promise?
No I won't be either of that. I don't want to make this about me (lol) but I was just talking to my therapist about how all white people are racist. I think I struggled to understand this initially and have acknowledged as much. I will try not to be an ass too. Please check me if I break that in the future. I mean it.
See, this is the stuff I miss by not opening half the threads because I'm not actually a mom but got bored one day and wanted to find a new group of people to argue about food with.
Yes! And then the shit talking if you give your kid a bath in a regular basis. Like, ain't nobody got time for that and I'm turning my kids into a dry skinned lizards for bathing them with regularity.
And without their permission.
Don't forget, also killing the environment! That was sessalee's holier than thou contribution to that thread.
Post by TamiTaylor on Sept 10, 2016 11:58:42 GMT -5
I am dying that NQB will likes asking for permission to change a baby's dirty diaper yet doesn't think to ask the party host "hey can I get my freak on in your kid's play tent."
Post by bugandbibs on Sept 10, 2016 12:22:40 GMT -5
Sorry for all the late likes. I needed some space from the board, but came back today. Thanks too for quoting Maud and her foolishishness so it's not scrubbed.
I struggle sometimes in race posts because my personal dealings with racism as an Asian woman are different than the struggles different WOC face based on their race.
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Post by TamiTaylor on Sept 10, 2016 12:34:38 GMT -5
I sent @this a message on here and on FB.
Honestly she is one that I am most disappointed in (along with Groupchat girls.)
She also was very vocal and outspoken about a lot of things. I told her that when she is that type of poster, people expect to see her speak out in these threads. And when she doesn't it is very noticeable and hurtful to lots of people.
@notquiteblushing got upset that a custodian told the kids at daycare their was a monster in a closet. Ok, whatever. It went off the deep end when it devolved into, "I don't like the because I said so" mentality and I'm sending my kid to a daycare that asks permission to change diapers.
She tried to come for me when I said that sometimes that is perfectly reasonable, especially when changing a diaper is a non negotiable.
So what happens when the kid is sitting in shit and says no?
This is my question. I missed the whole diaper permission thing the first time around. I just don't understand how that would work. My kid would surely say no a good portion of the time.