I mean, I feel like I'm on here all the time and I have like 15k posts.
Girl, yes!! Sometimes I'm like "man, I need to take a break from this place. What am I doing with my life?" and I'm only sitting here with 16,000 posts.
You know I believe in change. It's kind of what I do. Do I sincerely hope that tamb has actually learned something this time, yes.
But she doesn't need to keep posting here to prove it.
And your post once again places the needs, emotions and feelings of a white woman over the needs, emotions and feelings of all of our women of color. Don't they deserve a place where racism isn't acceptable? Where they never have to be skimming posts and run across the most hateful word in the English language?
Unfortunately we have shown time and time again on these boards that we will never have a racism free board. It's far to ingrained in the majority of the posters here, myself and yourself included. But we can have a board where it's unacceptable. We should have an overt racism free board (and yes, using that word and the token phrase is overt). And we can have a board that calls out the more subvert racism and the microagrressions.
Eta: and scotty one of our jobs as white people is to stop excusing racism. Full stop. No giving reasons. No giving rational. It's not acceptable. It's not kind. Don't feel empathy for the person who exhibited the racism, feel empathy for the person towards whom it was directed and hurt.
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Although I have always been so intrigued how someone has over 100,000 posts, works 80 hours a week, picks up kids, cooks dinner, etc. How? I mean how does she have the time? How is it possible? I am truly curious and can not figure out how she does it.
No one has ever wondered this before?
Frankly, it's the only thing I ever wanted to know about her.
The ONE thing she didn't describe in extreme, never needed to know, detail!
I mean, I feel like I'm on here all the time and I have like 15k posts.
Maybe you take time to think about your posts instead of just posting whatever thought enters your head with no time to reflect on all your "listening" and "learning."
I've wondered the same, but more so...how is it okay to be so open about her preference for one kid? Did that come out in a flame-free confession or something? Maybe I missed a call out on that, but I'm shocked that shes so flip about it.
I don't understand how "no one saw it" you can't NOT see it. It's like a fucking vegas sign.
The last time I heard that word in public it was like fucking nails on a chalkboard, I mean like entire table stopped talking and looked wide eye'd shocked at the lady. The only thing louder was my husband saying "wow, so you're a racist?"
That word doesn't just glide off the tongue unless you're fucking racist.
If you have to put a word in quotes to make you feel better, you still shouldn't use it.
I don't think I've said this more in my life then I have this week but WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.
I've wondered the same, but more so...how is it okay to be so open about her preference for one kid? Did that come out in a flame-free confession or something? Maybe I missed a call out on that, but I'm shocked that shes so flip about it.
Which one? The older one, yes?
No definitely a preference for the younger one. The older one annoys her non-stop.
Post by VeryViolet on Sept 15, 2016 18:49:49 GMT -5
This makes me so sad. I just am shocked that in light of everything going on around here that it keeps happening, though I shouldn't be.
I haven't participated in discussions thus far because I am not here much during the day and also who the fuck cares what I think. However I have been reading and yet I am still shocked at how far my privilege extends when things like this still make me gasp in shock/horror.
I can't just read all this and not respond, but holy shit, Tamb. Joining the chorus of what the fucks in here. How can this even possibly be seen as anything but complete and utter overt racism? Unforgivable and unforgettable.
No definitely a preference for the younger one. The older one annoys her non-stop.
Didn't she say once she wondered if the younger one would die to punish her for preferring her over the older one?
Am I making that up?
Yes, something very close to this effect. But overall that she has overwhelming feelings that something (death) is going to happen to E.
Not that her use of the n word wasn't enough, but I don't think a lot of people here did enough digging to also see her comments about her work having "token" employees (POC, minorities). Using the n word (seriously I don't even like typing that) isn't her only offense in the past couple days, never mind the past year. So no, I do believe people can be better. But I also believe that when people repeatedly show you who they are, there comes a time that you just have to believe them and stop giving them the benefit of the doubt.
Post by demofea01 on Sept 15, 2016 19:04:47 GMT -5
What the fuck?! How is it that we can't go even one day without someone being a racist ass and at least a few others going down in defense of that person? Good grief.
No definitely a preference for the younger one. The older one annoys her non-stop.
Didn't she say once she wondered if the younger one would die to punish her for preferring her over the older one?
Am I making that up?
No, you're not. I think she's gone a little far with the favoritism posts. I stay out of them because, whoa. They're a little intense. Answering that shit is above my pay grade.