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[redwino]

Sept 22, 2016 12:19:36 GMT -5 itsme said:

Sept 22, 2016 12:10:26 GMT -5 redwino said:

I've basically called in Black the last two days. I've come into work but they can't make me be productive. The
He only thing that got me through yesterday was going to a predominantly black school. Most students and staff are black and I was able to rant freely during lunch with some teachers.

Everyday for at least 5 years I have kissed my husband goodbye and told him to be careful. Everyday for at least 5 years he has said "you know ain't nothing going to happen to me". Yesterday his response was "I'll try". I about lost it.

That right there.  That brings tears to my eyes. 

I didn't share it yesterday because I couldn't replay it without feeling like I would passout.

[raangoli]

I'm so sorry redwino. Your husband's words brought me to tears.

[sfy]

Sept 22, 2016 12:10:26 GMT -5 redwino said:

I've basically called in Black the last two days. I've come into work but they can't make me be productive. The
He only thing that got me through yesterday was going to a predominantly black school. Most students and staff are black and I was able to rant freely during lunch with some teachers.

Everyday for at least 5 years I have kissed my husband goodbye and told him to be careful. Everyday for at least 5 years he has said "you know ain't nothing going to happen to me". Yesterday his response was "I'll try". I about lost it.

Mercy.

I'm so sorry.  I should have asked how you were also.  Charlotte has been on my mind more because it's so close to home.  I'm sorry about that.
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[orangeblossom]

sfy thanks for checking on me. I'm good. I've been in clincials all day, so I haven't heard any new news today.

[meshaliuknits]

Sept 22, 2016 11:45:38 GMT -5 NinaSimone said:

Sept 22, 2016 11:40:23 GMT -5 sfy said:

Lord.  Chile.  I mean.  Do say what, now?  Honey.  Does he know...forget it, I'm actually speechless.
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I KNOW!!! I told him he won't even get to the point of charming them since they shoot first and ask questions later. Being light brown doesn't make you any less brown or scary to them, don't be fooled.

I'm light (thought admittedly not terribly charming) and I regularly get questioned by the police. On more than one occasion I've been asked what I was doing while I was sitting on a bench in a bus stop in the middle of the day. I mean, WTF do you think I'm doing? Being light might save me some hassle, but I'm still suspicious.

(It mostly happens in the small towns between Oakland and Richmond, but never in those cities, I suspect b/c those police have actual work to do.)

[mujerchingona]

I'm sorry redwino That comment brought me to tears too

[redwino]

Sept 22, 2016 12:35:16 GMT -5 sfy said:

Sept 22, 2016 12:10:26 GMT -5 redwino said:

I've basically called in Black the last two days. I've come into work but they can't make me be productive. The
He only thing that got me through yesterday was going to a predominantly black school. Most students and staff are black and I was able to rant freely during lunch with some teachers.

Everyday for at least 5 years I have kissed my husband goodbye and told him to be careful. Everyday for at least 5 years he has said "you know ain't nothing going to happen to me". Yesterday his response was "I'll try". I about lost it.

Mercy.

I'm so sorry.  I should have asked how you were also.  Charlotte has been on my mind more because it's so close to home.  I'm sorry about that.
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No need to apologize but thank you. Protests have been peaceful. We live about 2 hours away from Tulsa but DH is there for work often. My city is functioning like it's just another fucking day.

[borinquen57]

Sept 22, 2016 6:57:50 GMT -5 capscapscaps said:

It's affecting my marriage. I've been increasingly distant from H and I don't know how to fix it. I'm angry at all od this bullshit over the past year but I know he won't understand why, and that makes me more angry.

Besides the issues within our marriage, my H's attitude over these murders and some of the things he's said regarding racial issues really contributed to our breakdown even more.  It's hard when you can't get that support in your own home, so I understand.

redwino, your husband's response is so heartbreaking.  I'm so sorry.

[itsme]

Sept 22, 2016 13:08:53 GMT -5 borinquen57 said:

Sept 22, 2016 6:57:50 GMT -5 capscapscaps said:

It's affecting my marriage. I've been increasingly distant from H and I don't know how to fix it. I'm angry at all od this bullshit over the past year but I know he won't understand why, and that makes me more angry.

Besides the issues within our marriage, my H's attitude over these murders and some of the things he's said regarding racial issues really contributed to our breakdown even more.  It's hard when you can't get that support in your own home, so I understand.

redwino , your husband's response is so heartbreaking.  I'm so sorry.

I feel you guys on this one. 

[redwino]

capscapscaps and borinquen57 Hugs. I'm sorry.

[threejs]

Sept 22, 2016 12:10:26 GMT -5 redwino said:

I've basically called in Black the last two days. I've come into work but they can't make me be productive. The
He only thing that got me through yesterday was going to a predominantly black school. Most students and staff are black and I was able to rant freely during lunch with some teachers.

Everyday for at least 5 years I have kissed my husband goodbye and told him to be careful. Everyday for at least 5 years he has said "you know ain't nothing going to happen to me". Yesterday his response was "I'll try". I about lost it.

This is so very heartbreaking. 

[iammalcolmx]

Sept 22, 2016 13:54:00 GMT -5 capscapscaps said:

Sept 22, 2016 7:01:19 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

It would impact mine as well. If H wasn't on my side about this, I don't know if I could be with him. We all are different so I don't judge your choices but I seriously don't think I could take it.

And that's what sucks, is once I talk it through with him he gets it. But I'm tired of talking through it with him. He thinks the shootings are wrong, but doesn't understand why I personally am so upset by them.

I dunno. I'm just really tired.

I am sorry so very sorry. H and I grew up together and he is kinda a POC himself so I think that makes my situation very different.

[pandora89]

redwino - Your husbands words made me cry at work. I am just so sorry.
((capscapscaps))

Just hugs to everyone, I am so sorry.

[sfy]

The officer who murdered Mr. Crutcher is being charged. I know better than to be hopeful that this will result in a conviction, but step one happened and happened faster than normal here.

[mujerchingona]

It's so easy to be skeptical about the reasons they charged her, but instead I'll settle for cautiously optimistic. Not too convinced it will result in a conviction though, or even if it does that she'll serve any time. I guess when even Trump thinks you messed up then you HAVE to charge them, right?

[iammalcolmx]

Feminism is for white women. I am tired of hearing how hard it is to be a white woman when black people are murdered just for being .

[redwino]

I knew this sexism bullshit would come up. Fuck those assholed.

[borinquen57]

There is a post on FB going around about tweets made about the officer's history but I'm having a hard time linking it here. Let me keep trying.

[borinquen57]

YIKES...sorry so huge! Let me know if you want me to delete.

[borinquen57]

[sfy]

Those tweets are excellent.

[imobviouslystaying]

Sept 22, 2016 17:55:31 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

Feminism is for white women. I am tired of hearing how hard it is to be a white woman when black people are murdered just for being .

These sorry ass white women are raising these squirrely ass cops so they can fucking miss me with these tears.

[skwcm80]

Sept 22, 2016 12:10:26 GMT -5 redwino said:

I've basically called in Black the last two days. I've come into work but they can't make me be productive. The
He only thing that got me through yesterday was going to a predominantly black school. Most students and staff are black and I was able to rant freely during lunch with some teachers.

Everyday for at least 5 years I have kissed my husband goodbye and told him to be careful. Everyday for at least 5 years he has said "you know ain't nothing going to happen to me". Yesterday his response was "I'll try". I about lost it.

I've had to call in Black more times than I care to admit this last year. After the murder of Philando Castille I cried for hours in my office before I gave up and went home.

[andwhat]

Wow she is killing it with those tweets. I only saw the first one of FB. If the domestic violence stuff is true, I cannot believe she was allowed to become an officer.

[andwhat]

All day I have been trying to think of something profound to say, but all I have is hugs capscapscaps. That must be an extremely hard position to be in.

[anonymous]

Sept 22, 2016 19:06:38 GMT -5 borinquen57 said:

Good for her.

[anonymous]

I feel helpless. And I am so scared for my husband

[borinquen57]

Sept 22, 2016 20:42:27 GMT -5 andwhat said:

Wow she is killing it with those tweets. I only saw the first one of FB. If the domestic violence stuff is true, I cannot believe she was allowed to become an officer.

This information was supposedly pulled from her PD job application.  I'm hoping she did get all the facts before posting like that.

[iammalcolmx]

Sept 22, 2016 21:29:40 GMT -5 borinquen57 said:

Sept 22, 2016 20:42:27 GMT -5 andwhat said:

Wow she is killing it with those tweets. I only saw the first one of FB. If the domestic violence stuff is true, I cannot believe she was allowed to become an officer.

This information was supposedly pulled from her PD job application.  I'm hoping she did get all the facts before posting like that.

I scrolled down a bit and they linked an article from HuffPo.

[busybodyk]

Just lots of tears. So many things set me off. I'm in ATL and work in an office that is 90% black so I am just enjoying being in my black bubble.

I do however have a headlight that is out and I'm having nightmares over getting pulled over for it. I know it should be easy just to get it fixed but I just found out its an electrical issue, which means a simple bulb isn't going to fix it. My fear of being pulled over is real and has multiplied.