People making comments on your kids sex

[L]

Lololol...yes. I have 4 girls. Everyone, yes virtually everyone who first finds out comments on it. I'd say when they find out that 75% are negative, nasty or rude comments. It doesn't bother me really though, because they are wrong & we have the sweetest, funniest girls (yes, even the near teen & tween) and we all are happy. I'm no girly girl & my DH grew up with all brothers...but we are damn good girl parents . I love it & those people have no idea what my life is like.

[PatBenatar]

I'm pregnant with our second girl and I'm done after this. I've gotten the sympathetic looks and comments that my poor husband isn't going to get "his boy" STFU

People need to keep their mouths shut unless they are saying "aw thats great!" Only the parents are allowed to be disappointed by the gender

[nicbreeful]

I am really surprised at that! I don't have kids but nearly all my friends do.. and all my female friends ever hear (when they reveal that they are giving birth to a penis) is how much boys love their moms!

[ksun]

We only have one child, and I get asked on a weekly basis "Oh, you only have the one? Don't you want more?" It doesn't matter if we did or didn't, or if we struggled to get pregnant - it's our business.

[cereal K]

We have a girl and a boy. We would have been happy with girl/girl or boy/boy. I get so, so fucking annoyed when people do the “oh it’s perfect! you have one of each!” as if there’s something imperfect about either sex that requires the opposite to balance it. The stereotype that moms want girls and dads want boys pisses me off so much.

You just love your babies, people. Why is there anything more than that?

[textbookcase]

I allllllways get the "when are you going to try for your boy??" Um never?

[hopecounts]

Tacky and false.
I have a good friend who has 3 boys and is thrilled and happy with that dynamic.
They have the 3 kids they always wanted and her boys are best friends and frenemies depending on the day.

[berbles]

Dec 21, 2016 19:49:58 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

Dec 21, 2016 18:34:22 GMT -5 mofongo said:

People are weird. I am guilty of saying things like 'Oh yay, you'll have one of each' or 'Two boys/girls, that's great, they can play together'. Mainly b/c I don't care what you're having but feel I should say something when you tell me, or even worse when you have a gender reveal. It's a...baby!!!!

My mom asked if we'd have a gender reveal party. What? No. it's a 50/50 shot, why are people so OMGSURPRISED? I'll show you my surprised face if you tell me I'm growing a cyborg in there.

[sapphireblue]

Dec 21, 2016 19:48:35 GMT -5 cabbagecabbage said:

The other thing that happened when we had a boy was that DH's mom and his grandparents were so excited about it that it was somewhat offensive to our daughter and their other granddaughters. They had not shown that level of enthusiasm for the first grandchild. It was bizarre and super clear that a boy was better to them in some way. It really bothered me.

This is how my family is except in reverse.

I guess they had me, then when my mom was pregnant with my brother, they are open about the fact they wanted another girl. They probably haven't said that in front of my brother but they are open with me about it.

Then they also admitted to me that they were hoping I would have a girl when I had my son. So now they get the girl and I am glad they are happy but it bothers me too.

[eddy]

Yes, I have two boys. I have gotten the "you must not feel fullfilled" type comments. Even from people who I thought were close friends. 

It annoyed me at the time. 

[themysteriouswife]

I had someone congratulate me on my salt and pepper pair. It was a weird exchange.,

[lucky513]

A women today in trader joes said she liked my daughter better then my son because she likes girls better based on her experience with her niece and nephews
So weird

[cinderbella]

We announced to the family on Mother's Day that baby #2 was a girl. (#1 is also a girl)

My sister in law walked over to my husband and said, "I'm mad at you because you shot out the wrong kind." In front of their mom and the rest of my in-laws. She was like, 48 years old at the time. And then she also told me to get ready because that obviously means we need to have a third baby.

So, yeah. I get it.

[isabel]

Dec 21, 2016 21:21:43 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

A women today in trader joes said she liked my daughter better then my son because she likes girls better based on her experience with her niece and nephews
So weird

[cinderbella]

Dec 21, 2016 22:01:01 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

Dec 21, 2016 21:46:36 GMT -5 cinderbella said:

We announced to the family on Mother's Day that baby #2 was a girl. (#1 is also a girl)

My sister in law walked over to my husband and said, "I'm mad at you because you shot out the wrong kind." In front of their mom and the rest of my in-laws. She was like, 48 years old at the time. And then she also told me to get ready because that obviously means we need to have a third baby.

So, yeah. I get it.

So, my dad was the last male with his last name and he had two daughters.

So, the entire time growing up, I had to listen to my aunt tell us how she wished we were boys so we could carry on the family name. To our face.

Fuck you Aunt G.

What the fuck is wrong with people?

She wanted a boy because she knew we'd name him Jack after their late dad. It wasn't good enough that they already have a nephew to 'carry on' the last name.

[leshoequeen]

I have two girls. H is a coach & played sports in college. We get comments ALL. THE. TIME. about trying for a boy. Can't girls play sports, too?

[MixedBerryJam]

I used to get "So are you going to try for a girl?" after having two boys close together. My response was usually a witchlike cackle and "Fuck no. Have you met my second son? He's an asshole." Paraphrasing.

[phdprocrastinator]

Dec 21, 2016 17:58:41 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

I've gotten a few "Oh, is your husband disappointed?" about us having a second girl, which I am sure will get more annoying the larger and crankier I get. So far, though, I've just said "Not at all!" and moved on. I try not to even engage crap like that.

We have two girls and this drives me crazy.  I mean... we're in the bay area. People are supposed to be more woke.

Seriously, when I was pregnant the second time, on multiple occasions strangers asked what we were expecting, and then turned to my husband to apologize.  "I'm so sorry. You must really be wanting a boy."  Jokes on them, DD#2 is totally into trucks and sports (in so far as a 2 year old can be into such things).  Also, my husband hates sports.

[BaliHai]

Dec 22, 2016 15:59:39 GMT -5 phdprocrastinator said:

Dec 21, 2016 17:58:41 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

I've gotten a few "Oh, is your husband disappointed?" about us having a second girl, which I am sure will get more annoying the larger and crankier I get. So far, though, I've just said "Not at all!" and moved on. I try not to even engage crap like that.

We have two girls and this drives me crazy.  I mean... we're in the bay area. People are supposed to be more woke.

Seriously, when I was pregnant the second time, on multiple occasions strangers asked what we were expecting, and then turned to my husband to apologize.  "I'm so sorry. You must really be wanting a boy."  Jokes on them, DD#2 is totally into trucks and sports (in so far as a 2 year old can be into such things).  Also, my husband hates sports.

It happened when I was pregnant with DD1, too - people would say to H, "Oh, well maybe the next one will be a boy!" He was so taken aback that he'd be like "Yeah, or maybe another girl." I know part of him did hope for a boy this time, but he wasn't disappointed when we found out it's another girl, and has been clear about that when people have made comments to him. In his mind, we're saving money since we already have almost everything we need, and there's nothing he'd do with a son that he can't do with his daughters.

[berbles]

Dec 22, 2016 15:59:39 GMT -5 phdprocrastinator said:

Dec 21, 2016 17:58:41 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

I've gotten a few "Oh, is your husband disappointed?" about us having a second girl, which I am sure will get more annoying the larger and crankier I get. So far, though, I've just said "Not at all!" and moved on. I try not to even engage crap like that.

We have two girls and this drives me crazy.  I mean... we're in the bay area. People are supposed to be more woke.

Seriously, when I was pregnant the second time, on multiple occasions strangers asked what we were expecting, and then turned to my husband to apologize.  "I'm so sorry. You must really be wanting a boy."  Jokes on them, DD#2 is totally into trucks and sports (in so far as a 2 year old can be into such things).  Also, my husband hates sports.

Couldn't help it. LOL

Also, hey fellow Bay Area-er

[nikki25]

Almost nothing bothers me, nothing but I wanted to punch everyone in the balls who said "you are so lucky to be having twins, I always wanted twins, I basically have twins as my kids are only 34 months apart, etc etc etc." Shut.the.fuck.up.

[phdprocrastinator]

Dec 22, 2016 16:06:10 GMT -5 berbles said:

Dec 22, 2016 15:59:39 GMT -5 phdprocrastinator said:

We have two girls and this drives me crazy.  I mean... we're in the bay area. People are supposed to be more woke.

Seriously, when I was pregnant the second time, on multiple occasions strangers asked what we were expecting, and then turned to my husband to apologize.  "I'm so sorry. You must really be wanting a boy."  Jokes on them, DD#2 is totally into trucks and sports (in so far as a 2 year old can be into such things).  Also, my husband hates sports.

Couldn't help it. LOL

Also, hey fellow Bay Area-er

It may be all the grading I'm doing right now, but I cannot stop laughing at this.

[phdprocrastinator]

Dec 22, 2016 16:05:09 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

Dec 22, 2016 15:59:39 GMT -5 phdprocrastinator said:

It happened when I was pregnant with DD1, too - people would say to H, "Oh, well maybe the next one will be a boy!" He was so taken aback that he'd be like "Yeah, or maybe another girl." I know part of him did hope for a boy this time, but he wasn't disappointed when we found out it's another girl, and has been clear about that when people have made comments to him. In his mind, we're saving money since we already have almost everything we need, and there's nothing he'd do with a son that he can't do with his daughters.

DH said the exact same thing about saving money.  #practical

[chchchia]

So I have a bunch of boys with one girl being the youngest and I loathe hearing oh you finally got your girl...no we weren't trying for the girl and I would hate for any of the boys to think we weren't happy with them so we kept going til we got her.

[newnamesameperson]

Dec 22, 2016 16:47:06 GMT -5 nikki25 said:

Almost nothing bothers me, nothing but I wanted to punch everyone in the balls who said "you are so lucky to be having twins, I always wanted twins, I basically have twins as my kids are only 34 months apart, etc etc etc." Shut.the.fuck.up.

This is crazy to me.  I think some people have some weird issues when it comes to twins.

[lolo]

Someone in my family asked if my H was happy he had a boy now. I asked her, 'what do you mean?'

Shut that shit right up.

[statlerwaldorf]

I get comments about my twins being a boy and a girl. I guess it's perfect to have one of each and then you can stop? Except I already had one of each. Things always get awkward after I tell them I have two older ones.

[statlerwaldorf]

Dec 22, 2016 16:47:06 GMT -5 nikki25 said:

Almost nothing bothers me, nothing but I wanted to punch everyone in the balls who said "you are so lucky to be having twins, I always wanted twins, I basically have twins as my kids are only 34 months apart, etc etc etc." Shut.the.fuck.up.

I'm going to be honest here and say I don't like having twins. I love both of them and don't regret having them. It is just if I had the option I would have had them separately. I'm still in survival mode, so maybe I will feel differently when they are older.

I hate getting stopped too. I have 3 under 3 at home during the day. I'm pretty much holding my breath that no one will melt down or poop while running errands. Don't slow me down.

[chchchia]

Dec 23, 2016 8:51:19 GMT -5 connie0000 said:

Dec 22, 2016 16:47:06 GMT -5 nikki25 said:

Almost nothing bothers me, nothing but I wanted to punch everyone in the balls who said "you are so lucky to be having twins, I always wanted twins, I basically have twins as my kids are only 34 months apart, etc etc etc." Shut.the.fuck.up.

I HATE this! And yes, the whole "My kids are only 15 months apart, I know what you're going through" No. Not the same. Not even close.

Dec 23, 2016 0:30:16 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

I get comments about my twins being a boy and a girl. I guess it's perfect to have one of each and then you can stop? Except I already had one of each. Things always get awkward after I tell them I have two older ones.

Oh didn't you know its just perfect if you have a boy/girl!! Because 2 girl or 2 boys is somehow imperfect.

And my new favorite... " Better you than me!" All I can do is look at them and say "Yes, I agree"  that always shuts them up.

That is a great comeback, I get that all the time when I am out with the kids.

[nikki25]

Dec 23, 2016 0:45:08 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

Dec 22, 2016 16:47:06 GMT -5 nikki25 said:

Almost nothing bothers me, nothing but I wanted to punch everyone in the balls who said "you are so lucky to be having twins, I always wanted twins, I basically have twins as my kids are only 34 months apart, etc etc etc." Shut.the.fuck.up.

I'm going to be honest here and say I don't like having twins. I love both of them and don't regret having them. It is just if I had the option I would have had them separately. I'm still in survival mode, so maybe I will feel differently when they are older.

I hate getting stopped too. I have 3 under 3 at home during the day. I'm pretty much holding my breath that no one will melt down or poop while running errands. Don't slow me down.

I feel ya girl. I am in the same boat. My twins will be 3 and my DD is 6 and I pretty much cry everyday, lol. Hang in there.