Post by Chrysanthemum on Feb 23, 2017 21:54:32 GMT -5
Congrats King26!!! I'm also so glad that you told your group of friends so you can start to share the excitement! FWIW, H and I only agreed on like 2 boys' names my whole pregnancy. In the end, it doesn't matter so long as you have one. Yay!!
I am back to having some serious nerves and doubt and anxiety. I thought I had been feeling baby move for the last few days and we had a good appointment monday with a strong heartbeat and my measurements looked spot on. But now I wonder if I am just feeling gas bubbles and why am I not showing yet? And I had a dream last night that I suddenly had a hard bump and not squishy belly fat and woke up all worried. I know I am just being overly anxious but G and I both said this week that we started to feel more confident after our appointment on Monday and now I feel like just thinking that way is "jinxing" things. As soon as we got comfortable with the idea of being pregnant and "in the clear" we had our loss. I am terrified that will happen again :/
So reassure me--how often did you feel baby move around 18 weeks? Did anyone feel movement before having a bump? When did your belly go from extra bloat/fluff to a real bump?
(((shauni27))) I wish I could be there to have a cup of tea. I remember freaking out about movement at that point. I was to the point of tears several times a day leading up to our a/s because I was so sure it would all end there. I had felt things that I thought were maybe movement but nothing consistent/regular. As soon as our a/s was over (at 20w) I immediately started feeling movement all the time. My OB said the mind is very powerful and I was likely blocking it out before, even though I was telling myself I wanted to feel him move more. It was crazy, but it was like an immediate switch after my a/s. Then as soon as I got freaked about the wait between a/s and viability it happened again and I started also feeling lots of cramping that I could time and was convinced I was going into PTL around 21-22w. My OB didn't think I was but brought me in for a cervix check and another full scan which was really helpful in easing my mind. The movement after that really helped.
shauni27 I didn't feel ANYTHING at 18 weeks. I started feeling bubbles around 19/20 weeks, and was closer to 23ish weeks before I started feeling him consistently.
Tomorrow is my transfer-versary!! I can't believe it has been a year.
This afternoon I'm meeting a local mom to talk about my IVF experience. I posted in my local FB group that I conceived DS via IVF, and that I'm an open book if anyone needs to talk. This woman messaged me since she's starting to cycle at the same place I did soon and is very anxious. I'm happy to be able to chat with someone and hopefully provide some reassurance. I don't know what I would have done without some of the women on this board, and I'm happy to pay it forward so to speak.
scm1011, I love that you are doing that! I have said the one good thing that has come out of this entire experience has been that I can hopefully provide comfort to other women--women with losses, women with IF, women who need to do IVF, etc. I love being a resource and answering questions and sharing my experience in the hopes that it can help others and educate the community. I often wonder if there is a career I can segue this into, almost like an infertility counselor or almost like a doula for infertility, haha.
I think you'd be WONDERFUL at that, shauni27 And I feel the same way you do. I've been VERY open in real life about IF and IVF. I really want to help make it less of a secret stigma, or something women need to suffer with quietly. I found it all to be so isolating at times, and I'd love to help change that. I think my openness made DH a little uncomfortable at first TBH (mostly because he still feels so much guilt about his MFI), but he gets it now and is on board.
shauni27, I didn't feel my baby move at all until 20 weeks. everyone described it as butterflies, but it was more like popcorn for me. I am also hoping to relay my IF experience into a job. I'm in school right now getting my family nurse practitioner, and am hoping to work as a NP for a RE someday--histories, ultrasounds, IUIs, education, etc. I've been very open about the whole experience, and once I opened up, a lot of my friends did as well that I had no clue about! it was kind of amazing.
shauni27,I don't remember feeling anything at 18 weeks, and if I did, it was probably food. Mine never felt like flutters either, it eventually started to feel like popcorn around 20-21 weeks. Just little pokes. I didn't feel him start to move consistently until pretty much this week.
Also at 18 weeks I had a bit of a disappearing bump, so a lot of it was still kind of bloat.
shauni27 ,I don't remember feeling anything at 18 weeks, and if I did, it was probably food. Mine never felt like flutters either, it eventually started to feel like popcorn around 20-21 weeks. Just little pokes. I didn't feel him start to move consistently until pretty much this week.
Also at 18 weeks I had a bit of a disappearing bump, so a lot of it was still kind of bloat.
Ugh, you are the person I always compare my bump too since we are so close, and you have had a perfectly defined bump for so long! I still, at almost 19 weeks, am just pure bloat.
I am definitely feeling little pops and pokes. I keep describing it as a bubble popping. I also feel plenty of round ligament pain and just "growing" feelings, and I can tell that my uterus is growing--it is up to my belly button and is measuring right at 19 cm, but I am so damned anxious that I do not have a bump and that something could be wrong :/
shauni27, I've never even known to measure anything! They mentioned starting to measure around 20-24 weeks at my OB, but they haven't done it yet.
People are just SO different. It's really hard to remember that, but a girl I work with looked smaller at 38 weeks than I looked now. She had her baby a week or two ago, and when we had a trial together in early October she didn't even look pregnant at all. I attribute my early showing to a very large-headed baby and a total lack of abdominal muscles. I'm thin but not in shape at all, so there was nothing to hold him back! I could always tell that I was going to get a little bigger that week by the really low, almost side-stich pain that I'd get in the few days before - so that's a good sign you're on your way I think! I hope your little bump pops soon <3
shauni27- I remember when we bought our crib during my second pregnancy. The woman we bought it from kept asking were my bump was, I was only 11 weeks, I guess she thought the moment you get pregnant you show? It was weird. Everyone is different, as long as you are growing and your doctor is happy with the measurements then I wouldn't worry about how big you are. Everyone is different. But I know how hard being pregnant after a loss is, hugs!
DD is getting her 2 month shots today. I'm not looking forward to this, I also have a meeting right after them that I need to go to, I am taking her with me so I hope it doesn't go too badly.