Meh. I'd send his bad ass home every time. What I wouldn't do is poll a group of randos on whether I should do so. That's the real issue, which proves to me that you're an idiot.
What the hell else are you supposed to do with him? And don't even give me that Sue Sue, give them ice cream and warm hugs BS.
I think you mean protein. Pretty sure the answer was always protein.
Nobody's saying OP and her neighbors should line up their kids to take a pummeling so this kid can get out his aggression. Of course it's a problem.
The bigger problem is the overwhelming lack of compassion being used to "address" it. This kid is going through some kind of shit, and the ONLY concern is "do you BELIEVE that I had to take my kids INSIDE??" CPS involvement, and the safety of this poor kid, are almost literally an afterthought of the OP, after she roasts everything/everyone around her. It's fucking gross.
And not for nothin, "multi-generational family" seems like code for a racial judgement... I hope I'm wrong, but I bet I'm not.
Nobody's saying OP and her neighbors should line up their kids to take a pummeling so this kid can get out his aggression. Of course it's a problem.
The bigger problem is the overwhelming lack of compassion being used to "address" it. This kid is going through some kind of shit, and the ONLY concern is "do you BELIEVE that I had to take my kids INSIDE??" CPS involvement, and the safety of this poor kid, are almost literally an afterthought of the OP, after she roasts everything/everyone around her. It's fucking gross.
And not for nothin, "multi-generational family" seems like code for a racial judgement... I hope I'm wrong, but I bet I'm not.
Multi-generational for me read like "not a normal house" which is gross.
Nobody's saying OP and her neighbors should line up their kids to take a pummeling so this kid can get out his aggression. Of course it's a problem.
The bigger problem is the overwhelming lack of compassion being used to "address" it. This kid is going through some kind of shit, and the ONLY concern is "do you BELIEVE that I had to take my kids INSIDE??" CPS involvement, and the safety of this poor kid, are almost literally an afterthought of the OP, after she roasts everything/everyone around her. It's fucking gross.
And not for nothin, "multi-generational family" seems like code for a racial judgement... I hope I'm wrong, but I bet I'm not.
I was thinking code for "poor" or "non-white" or both.
Nobody's saying OP and her neighbors should line up their kids to take a pummeling so this kid can get out his aggression. Of course it's a problem.
The bigger problem is the overwhelming lack of compassion being used to "address" it. This kid is going through some kind of shit, and the ONLY concern is "do you BELIEVE that I had to take my kids INSIDE??" CPS involvement, and the safety of this poor kid, are almost literally an afterthought of the OP, after she roasts everything/everyone around her. It's fucking gross.
And not for nothin, "multi-generational family" seems like code for a racial judgement... I hope I'm wrong, but I bet I'm not.
I was thinking code for "poor" or "non-white" or both.
That's how I read it. Coded language to show these people are outsiders in *her* neighborhood.
Nobody's saying OP and her neighbors should line up their kids to take a pummeling so this kid can get out his aggression. Of course it's a problem.
The bigger problem is the overwhelming lack of compassion being used to "address" it. This kid is going through some kind of shit, and the ONLY concern is "do you BELIEVE that I had to take my kids INSIDE??" CPS involvement, and the safety of this poor kid, are almost literally an afterthought of the OP, after she roasts everything/everyone around her. It's fucking gross.
And not for nothin, "multi-generational family" seems like code for a racial judgement... I hope I'm wrong, but I bet I'm not.
oh of course. I guess I just assume that many people here feel this way. It's why I don't let my kid play with a lot of the neighborhood children. And I most certainly sure as all hell would not let my child play with children of Trump supporters.
Post by Saint Monica on May 17, 2017 20:29:08 GMT -5
There was a woman in my building who had a situation slightly worse than this. She cooked a shitload of food. The kids were flaming asswads b/c they were hungry.
Post by WOUNDTIGHT on May 17, 2017 20:30:53 GMT -5
And not for nothin, "multi-generational family" seems like code for a racial judgement... I hope I'm wrong, but I bet I'm not.[/quote]
I'd bet you aren't, either.
OP, I know you're worried about your snowflake's outdoor time, but imagine if someone came of here and simply posed this this question:
What would you do if you saw a neighborhood kid wandering shoeless in the winter, telling people that his mom died (when she didn't) who has neither social skills nor parental involvement?
Post by thatgirl2478 on May 17, 2017 20:31:50 GMT -5
So have any of the other parents on the block tried to talk to this kid about you know, not being an asshole? That's a conversation I regularly have with other people's kids at the park (when they are not letting other kids play on the community play ground equipment or taking over the 'big' slide). I'm not afraid of a 5 year old. And if their parents confront me about it, I explain that their kid was being a jerk (brightly). Maybe I clean up the language a smidge.
ETA - I would need more info on the shoeless thing and the whole making up stories about Mom being dead before I passed judgement on the parenting. My calling him an a'hole (which, come on, we're adults I wouldn't ACTUALLY say that to a kid or to their parent) is based only on the being a bully/name calling and breaking kids toys on purpose. I think we can agree that's a'hole behavior.
General kindness? Not calling him a brat, not judging his 'multigenerational family', maybe give him a snack and if there is truly neglect or something then call CPS.
Our block has a good group of kids age 6-8 that play outside together all the time. There are 4 boys and 2 girls. One boy is on the spectrum and has impaired social skills, but none so severe that he can't be unsupervised and the other kids don't mind or notice.
A block over, there's a multi-generational family that has 2 boys. The youngest is 5 (maybe 6 - in half day kindergarten). During the winter I would see the boy out barefoot on his bike roaming the neighborhood. He would also stand at the traffic circle a block from us and throw rocks at people and cars. A few months ago, he started coming over to our block to play with the boy on the spectrum, and then tried to play with the other 2 boys and 2 girls. He name calls, bullies, has broken toys, and doesn't listen to parents. He is on our block all hours of all days. It's bad enough that my neighbor with the 2 boys has to sit outside when he is around because he has broken several of their toys, and several times has grabbed huge branches and swung them at the kids. There is NO parental supervision.
About a month ago, the dad came looking for him. The one and only time any of us parents have seen him. My neighbor pretty much laid into him about the boy's behavior and he shrugged it off. Dad hasn't been seen again. I've only seen the mom on FB and her pictures don't make her look like a mom-of-the-year candidate, but not as much as her inactions as a parent, I guess.
I've finally told DD (8) that when he shows up, she comes in. She is really good about it because she doesn't like him. He has called her names and thrown things at her. The parents of the other girl (6) are pretty much on board with that rule as well. My neighbor with 2 boys will only let them play with him if she is outside, and they are 7 & 8 and she doesn't really feel like sitting outside all day supervising when she really shouldn't have to at this age. He does play pretty frequently with the boy on the spectrum, but his parents don't seem to mind (then again, they also don't make him wear a bike helmet, so I don't agree with all their parenting choices).
The 3 of us who are actively parenting and watching our kids are kind of at our wits end. The dad has been spoken to and doesn't seem to care. The kid is disruptive and fairly violent. We shouldn't have to parent someone's kid whose parents obviously don't care much (I mean, this kid is 5 and EVERYWHERE in our neighborhood - it's suburbia, but it's still noplace for a 5 year old to be running free). Do we gang up on the parents and have a come to Jesus talk, I don't know? What would you do?
quoting because you seem like the type to DD.
I won't, I promise.
I said he lives in a multi-generational family because not only are there parents, there are grandparents and no one seems to be stepping up to keep an eye on the kid.
The questionable pictures of the mother include drug use.
General kindness? Not calling him a brat, not judging his 'multigenerational family', maybe give him a snack and if there is truly neglect or something then call CPS.
I don't believe you. Sorry.
I can't tell if you're being snarky, or this response is specific to mofo.
Post by hopecounts on May 17, 2017 20:37:12 GMT -5
OP as a Mom of a kid on the spectrum your judging of the parents of the kid on the spectrum and your repeated reference to the kid as on the spectrum when it irrelevant is really pissing me off.
The parents probably don't force the helmet on him because he had sensory issues with wearing it. The social/physical benefits of bike riding outweigh the risk of doing it without a helmet.
Your judging of the 5 yr old for stuff that is related to home issues he can't control is tacky.
It's a simple situation when he acts up walk him home. Rinse and repeat.
My reference to the child on the spectrum is that he is socially awkward and this child often uses that to his advantage. He is a good kid, but he is often taken advantage of and doesn't deserve to be.
You all can flame away, but if you expect me to believe that all this time I've been posting on a board full of angels who judge NOTHING and no one, you're crazy.
Most of you in here have made problematic comments on various topics, so the righteousness is killing me. I know we like to jump on people who are foolish enough to ask questions here, but come on.
You all can flame away, but if you expect me to believe that all this time I've been posting on a board full of angels who judge NOTHING and no one, you're crazy.
Most of you in here have made problematic comments on various topics, so the righteousness is killing me. I know we like to jump on people who are foolish enough to ask questions here, but come on.
I keep thinking about this OP. I have so many kids who've come from neglected homes or who have experienced some other form of trauma at an early age. Many of them act like this kid, and have been labeled "brats" and worse--based on the assumption that the kids were 100% choosing to act the way they were.
I'm not saying it's the OP's responsibility to tolerate or fix negative behaviors, but ksun, maybe a little compassion will enable you to figure out a better solution?
You all can flame away, but if you expect me to believe that all this time I've been posting on a board full of angels who judge NOTHING and no one, you're crazy.
Most of you in here have made problematic comments on various topics, so the righteousness is killing me. I know we like to jump on people who are foolish enough to ask questions here, but come on.
I've been away for a little bit. I missed you.
all of a sudden I've found myself on a board full of social justice warriors!
Lol. How could I have missed this detail over the last 10 years?
My neighbor just told me that a few weeks ago the boy told her boys that his mom died, and her boys felt so awful.
A few days later, my neighbor asked the boy how his mom was and he said "she's good, she's going to buy me a fidget spinner"
I don't understand this at all. If your neighbor was under the impression that the child's mother was dead, why in Gods name would she ask how the mother was just a few days later?? This really isn't adding up to me.
My neighbor just told me that a few weeks ago the boy told her boys that his mom died, and her boys felt so awful.
A few days later, my neighbor asked the boy how his mom was and he said "she's good, she's going to buy me a fidget spinner"
I don't understand this at all. If your neighbor was under the impression that the child's mother was dead, why in Gods name would she ask how the mother was just a few days later?? This really isn't adding up to me.
You all can flame away, but if you expect me to believe that all this time I've been posting on a board full of angels who judge NOTHING and no one, you're crazy.
Most of you in here have made problematic comments on various topics, so the righteousness is killing me. I know we like to jump on people who are foolish enough to ask questions here, but come on.
well, i judge everything. including OP.
i judge her judgment! lol.
hey it's all good. What kills me is our requirements for storytelling here. "That's not enough detail!" "Why the fuck would you include THAT detail, you asshole!?!?" It's highly amusing.
Meh. I'd send his bad ass home every time. What I wouldn't do is poll a group of randos on whether I should do so. That's the real issue, which proves to me that you're an idiot.
What the hell else are you supposed to do with him? And don't even give me that Sue Sue, give them ice cream and warm hugs BS.
How are we going to pass our days once you chase everyone off? You're going to end up with just dickmove, mofongo, an LLR consultant in some beaver leggings and a few ham sandwiches.
I'm obviously trying to be chased off my damn self. It's a cry for help, people!
Meh. I'd send his bad ass home every time. What I wouldn't do is poll a group of randos on whether I should do so. That's the real issue, which proves to me that you're an idiot.
What the hell else are you supposed to do with him? And don't even give me that Sue Sue, give them ice cream and warm hugs BS.
How are we going to pass our days once you chase everyone off? You're going to end up with just dickmove, mofongo, an LLR consultant in some beaver leggings and a few ham sandwiches.
Do you mean leggings with ham sandwiches on them? I have some I can sell you at below wholesale. Some have holes and many are odd sizes. But they're super cute!!!!! PM me.
I don't understand this at all. If your neighbor was under the impression that the child's mother was dead, why in Gods name would she ask how the mother was just a few days later?? This really isn't adding up to me.
Because she knew she wasn't dead.
When my nephew was 5, he told his teacher that his family's house had burned down over the weekend.
Teacher calls my SIL, frantically offering help....SIL had no idea what she was talking about.
Point is, little kids making up far-fetched tales happens. That in itself doesn't mean the kid is "bad" in any way.
You keep finding reasons to make him out to be super shitty which is really gross if his home life is as bad as you've tried to make it sound.
Meh. I'd send his bad ass home every time. What I wouldn't do is poll a group of randos on whether I should do so. That's the real issue, which proves to me that you're an idiot.
What the hell else are you supposed to do with him? And don't even give me that Sue Sue, give them ice cream and warm hugs BS.
How are we going to pass our days once you chase everyone off? You're going to end up with just dickmove, mofongo, an LLR consultant in some beaver leggings and a few ham sandwiches.