Week of June 27

[King26]

Hey all,
   What's up this week?

[shauni27]

I had a major anxiety attack Monday night into Tuesday that resulted in a nice 1 hour of sleep and lots of tears and calls to the midwives. I am fine now and have an appointment tomorrow and am looking forward to my first cervical check. I doubt there are any signs of early labor but here's hoping! Baby will be really low one day (hello crotch pain) then super high the next (fuck me, the rib pain). So I think he is still comfy in there and not at all ready to come out, despite how huge and uncomfortable I am getting.

[loira]

Huge hugs, shauni27.

[awick14]

((shauni27)) How far along are you again? Will you be induced early to help calm your nerves? The end can be a very hard and scary time, after a loss it can be even worse. If you need anything please feel free to FB message me. Even if it's in the middle of the night. I may not respond right away but I'm up 2-3x a night with DD so I will respond at some point.

DD is officially six months. She had her shots on monday. I asked about the 12 month shots being in the arm loira, and yes they said that the shots are in her arm at 12 months. But I can always ask if they can do them in the leg instead. They said they do them in the arm because most babies are walking/almost walking at that point and they don't want their legs to hurt while doing so.

[loira]

Jun 28, 2017 16:06:57 GMT -5 awick14 said:

((shauni27 )) How far along are you again? Will you be induced early to help calm your nerves? The end can be a very hard and scary time, after a loss it can be even worse. If you need anything please feel free to FB message me. Even if it's in the middle of the night. I may not respond right away but I'm up 2-3x a night with DD so I will respond at some point.

DD is officially six months. She had her shots on monday. I asked about the 12 month shots being in the arm loira , and yes they said that the shots are in her arm at 12 months. But I can always ask if they can do them in the leg instead. They said they do them in the arm because most babies are walking/almost walking at that point and they don't want their legs to hurt while doing so.

Oh, good to know! Maybe it's also because lots of babies have really strong legs at that point and it's easier to keep the arms still. A has never had much soreness after her shots, so I'm going to ask that they do them in her legs. Also, that way they aren't getting too close to her. I think a big part of the trauma for her is also the stranger danger aspect.

[janegold]

((shauni27 )) Glad you're feeling better now.

B officially started daycare this week! H also happens to be out of town for this week and next, so it's been a bit crazy trying to get used to going to daycare and figuring out how to do literally everything by myself. H was out of town a ton during my maternity leave (for a month straight at one point!) but it is a whole different ballgame now that I'm back at work - trying to coordinate getting myself ready, walking the dog, getting B ready, and coordinating all the various feeding/pumping supplies that need to be cleaned and organized each day.

PLUS work is crazy and somehow, despite vowing to myself that I would not take on any deals while I was transitioning back to work (because they are really demanding), I am now on two, plus several other non-deal matters. This working mom thing is tough!

[awick14]

loira- I would never have asked about it though if I hadn't read your post here, so thank you for that.

For all you ladies who have started solids already how did you do it? I am so confused on how/what to do. I wanted to do BLW, and I gave her cooked carrots, zucchini and some avocado. She didn't eat any of it, but did put it into her mouth, gun some pieces off and then spit them out. Should I just keep trying? Or should I just wait a little longer to see if she's not quite ready yet?

[loira]

awick14, we did a combination of BLW and purees because I was concerned about her calorie intake. Otherwise I might just have stuck with BLW. Oh, and she liked regular food, and she liked purees, but she absolutely HATED the purees with "texture". Sounds like your DD has got the right idea. I think at 6 months it's more about taste and texture than actual chewing and eating.

[shauni27]

awick14, 36.5 weeks. They offered early induction at 39 weeks but I would rather not do that. I will message you for sure

[boiler717]

awick14 I did a mix of purées for weight gain and finger foods. I would just keep offering. She will get it soon enough. Sounds normal!

[cherryvalance]

Hello!

I am terrified of going into labor early. I have no real reason to believe I will, except that literally everyone is like, "It could be any day now!" No, assholes, I have four and a half weeks and I want every minute of them.

Other than that, I'm just trucking along getting the house ready for the baby and guests.

I know nothing about babies (yay, this should be awesome), but I'm glad to read all the updates from you guys and see them all growing and thriving!

[swiftlyirun]

awick14 we did a combo of BLW And purees. I would say just keep at what you're doing for now. I read somewhere that it can take MANY tries before a kid decides if they like a food or not. I just always offered some type of BLW food at mealtime, if she ate it - great. If she just played with it, that's fine too. It's less about how much they eat and how many calories they consume at this point and more about learning about eating real food. My pediatrician said they get most of their nutrients from milk until 1year. Try not to stress and remember that mealtime is fun and not a fight !
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shauni27 (hugs) I'm rooting for you over here, none of this is easy, but glad you've got a good support system!

Me, I'm just over here back on the TTTC roller coaster. Praying that I ovulated from the trigger. Worrying about a small glass of wine with dinner. Ugh.

[mpc]

We moved DD to her room last night, and it's going ok-ish. She didn't get up more often than normal, but when she was up we were up for a long time. And then tonight it took forever (almost 2.5 hours) to get her to go to sleep. So I had a mini breakdown in the middle of it all. She's sleeping now so all better I guess...

I go back to work in less than 2 weeks now. I can't believe my time home is coming to an end already! I might start posting again more often once I'm back at work. Funny how that works.

[Chrysanthemum]

((( shauni27)))
That sounds TOUGH janegold. The bright side is that things will feel like cake when your H is back!
I can't believe a few of you are so close! King26, cherryvalance, shauni27
awick14, I think we'll get the solids go-ahead soon too, so I'm reading with curiosity over here!

C is almost 6 months and I'm officially on summer vacation with him. We've had a GREAT first few days--a good balance of playing at home, walks, and outings. I've also been able to work out a bunch this week which is so good. I really want to keep this up while I'm off this summer. We moved C to his own bedroom a couple nights ago and he acted like it was no big deal. It felt like a big step, but I think we're all going to sleep better this way.

[dollyllama]

awick14 we did BLW and he did a lot of just tasting for the first week or 2. DS didn't get his first tooth until 13 months so he certainly became a gumming master but for the first month or so I always made sure he had something super soft so he could actually ingest (banana, avocado, preloaded spoons of yogurt, sweet potato, etc) and then offered what we were eating. I offered 3 thing per meal & early on his favorites were broccoli, bell pepper, & green beans because he could suck all the juice out. I'd just keep offering, DS's weight gain was always good so I stuck with the "food before one is fun" to keep from stressing.

[awick14]

Thanx ladies. I will just keep offering the food and give a little purées as well. Her weight is not an issue at all so I'm not worried about that, I'm mainly worried about keeping her iron levels up. (Anemia runs in the family.) but I'm probably just stressing about it for nothing. The doctor says just to watch out for symptoms of it and if I notice any to call him.

[G22]

My family is coming to visit this weekend! And Z somehow managed to catch HFM last weekend, but thankfully it was a super mild case. He seems to be on the upswing and healing now, but I've been sanitizing/bleaching/lysoling the shit out of everything in this house all week.

shauni27, so many hugs! I'm glad you are feeling better and I hope the coming days are smoother and more calm for you!

awick14 we did a mix of BLW and purees as well. Z seemed to prefer purees for awhile, so I just followed his lead.

[shauni27]

Thanks guys. I really do feel better now, I think I just needed to ride it out. Anxiety is something I have dealt with for years so it is not new.
cherryvalance, see, I am so anxious all the time that I am almost ok with him coming a couple of weeks early because at least he will BE here. Which is terrible, because I know he needs to be in there getting all good and cooked to perfection.

[cherryvalance]

shauni27, I understand totally. And, good news, we're far enough along that if he did come early, he'd be pretty much fully baked .

I'm panicking because I still haven't started the 30 day exclusion period for my STD. Rationally, I know there's nothing I can do and I kind of just need to unclench and see what happens, but, you know, anxiety.

[boiler717]

Jun 29, 2017 0:46:38 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Thanx ladies. I will just keep offering the food and give a little purées as well. Her weight is not an issue at all so I'm not worried about that, I'm mainly worried about keeping her iron levels up. (Anemia runs in the family.) but I'm probably just stressing about it for nothing. The doctor says just to watch out for symptoms of it and if I notice any to call him.

The only puree I made was a beef puree from baby foodie to help with iron levels. I added it to store bought veggies. You can also do baby oatmeal for added iron.

[loira]

Ditto boiler717. We gave a lot of baby oatmeal because A hated meat for the longest time. I still mix formula into her milk because I worry about her iron levels.

Boiler, how are you doing these days? Are things getting a bit easier with T's new diet?

[mpc]

janegold,how's it going with your H out of town? My H just informed me that he will be traveling during my first two weeks back at work as well. It feels a little overwhelming, but in some ways it's better than if he traveled while I was still on leave. He takes our older son to daycare every day (it's located at our work) so at least I won't be making the hour round trip drive twice a day. Of course, transitioning back to work and parenting 2 children alone for the first time sounds kind of rough... Only 11 more days you guys.

[mpc]

have you guys done your wills and stuff? We've had a few false starts over the past several years - we'd meet with someone, talk about what to do, and then just... never do it. We met with a new guy while I was still pregnant and made some good progress, but then let it slide again when DD was born. I'm going to see him this afternoon to hopefully get the last of everything sorted out so he can draw up the papers. It'll be good to have it done, but it's been so hard to make ourselves do it. It's been hard picking people too. I wish I could just list my mom for everything... Of course, my BIL and SIL just got in touch with us about making us the guardians for their first kid -who is due next month. Show offs, getting it done before the kid's even here! lol. I know it stresses my h out that we don't have anything official yet, so hopefully this will be it finally.

[G22]

Jun 29, 2017 11:41:02 GMT -5 mpc said:

have you guys done your wills and stuff? We've had a few false starts over the past several years - we'd meet with someone, talk about what to do, and then just... never do it. We met with a new guy while I was still pregnant and made some good progress, but then let it slide again when DD was born. I'm going to see him this afternoon to hopefully get the last of everything sorted out so he can draw up the papers. It'll be good to have it done, but it's been so hard to make ourselves do it. It's been hard picking people too. I wish I could just list my mom for everything... Of course, my BIL and SIL just got in touch with us about making us the guardians for their first kid -who is due next month. Show offs, getting it done before the kid's even here! lol. I know it stresses my h out that we don't have anything official yet, so hopefully this will be it finally.

We updated our wills to include Z right before his first birthday. Mostly because H was getting ready to deploy and we wanted them updated before that regardless since we hadn't done them since we were newlyweds.

[janegold]

Jun 29, 2017 11:28:59 GMT -5 mpc said:

janegold ,how's it going with your H out of town? My H just informed me that he will be traveling during my first two weeks back at work as well. It feels a little overwhelming, but in some ways it's better than if he traveled while I was still on leave. He takes our older son to daycare every day (it's located at our work) so at least I won't be making the hour round trip drive twice a day. Of course, transitioning back to work and parenting 2 children alone for the first time sounds kind of rough... Only 11 more days you guys.

For me, the hardest parts are 1) getting out of the house in the morning, and 2) taking care of the dog.  We live in the city so I can't just let the dog out into the yard or anything, I have to take her out on the leash 3x a day; that's hard to do with a baby when you're also trying to do 8 million other things to get everyone ready for work/daycare/bed, etc.  Ideally, I've been trying to wake up before the baby to get the dog taken care of, get myself ready for work, get the daycare bag packed up, etc. before the baby wakes up but it's been easier said than done, especially since I can never get to bed as early as I would like since all the cleanup and prep work for the next day is on me in the evenings.

So, I'm really busy and exhausted but the actual coordination of work and daycare hasn't been too bad.  I've only been able to get to the gym once this week, though, since I have to do both pickup and drop off, so that kind of stinks.

Good luck, 2 weeks is definitely a long time, especially when going through a big transition.  It is really good that daycare is convenient for you in terms of pickup and drop off.

[loira]

mpc, we're doing ours this summer. My uncle is a lawyer, and while he normally does not take on work for family, he doesn't mind drawing up a will. It won't be difficult because we basically have no assets. This does remind me to call up my cousin, though, and make sure she's okay with being named legal guardian if we die.

[King26]

Guys, I have CANKLES! No lie, my stupid ankles are so swollen today, I'm guessing because of the heat and probably because I had to sit for 8 hours the last 4 days for class. I'm hoping now that I'm done with class I'll be better tomorrow.

Add me to the anxious about delivery, this baby, everything club. I started crying last night because the nursery isn't finished (or even painted) and was flipping out. I feel better today though, and DH did buy everything we need to paint.

[cherryvalance]

King26, the only good thing about getting cankles now is that you can always reassure yourself you don't have them when not pregnant. I was secretly afraid of cankles because of an ill-advised pair of heels, but now I've seen real cankles! lol!

You are exactly where I was a few weeks ago. I was freaking out that nothing was done, especially the painting. Now, it's almost all done. It's frustrating, but you will finish.

[thoseareradishes]

Guys, E might be coming home this weekend! We stayed overnight with her last night and did all her care ourselves; it was exhausting, but she did really well (ate then went right back to sleep). We already have about a million appts we have to go to in the next few weeks, and I still need to make more. She will have the feeding tube at home, which I had to learn to insert, eeek, but hopefully she'll be rid of it soon. I'm so glad this day is finally here, even if I am still so so nervous about it!!

[pooh8402]

That's so exciting thoseareradishes!