week of July 17

[awick14]

Yay!! oneslybookworm!! You may have already covered this but does this mean the adoption is finalized? Or does it take longer then this?

[oneslybookworm]

Jul 19, 2017 13:41:22 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Yay!! oneslybookworm!! You may have already covered this but does this mean the adoption is finalized? Or does it take longer then this?

No, it won't be finalized until next year. We have to have physical custody for at least 6 months before we can petition the courts for finalization.

[mrsgoontz]

oneslybookworm love getting these updates!!! I am just over the moon for you guys. I can imagine getting home is going to be a huge relief.

[linz]

Jul 18, 2017 1:02:37 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Just finished up round 1 of Gabe's middle of the night feeding. Listening to him grunt away in the baby bed next to me.

Anyone know how long you can wait to circumcise? We weren't able to at the hospital but I'm assuming we can when we go home. We haven't committed to it yet, but it would be good to know what the deadline is.

Not sure if there is a deadline. We did it in the NICU and my son was about 2 weeks old, maybe 3. He came home after 26 days and I know he was healed.

[grover]

starryfish, I only pumped, but after I cut from 3 pumps to 2 pumps, it only took a few days before I only had milk at 1 of the 2 pumps. Then while I hoped to continue the 1 pump a day for a week, I only was able to produce one or two more days.

[starryfish]

So I tried giving her 50/50 formula/milk and she would only take 2oz ( usually takes 5-6). This happened at both bottles this evening. 😢

[loira]

The mental load is so, so real. I mean, I appreciate that H doesn't exactly know our routine, but I honestly think he doesn't stop to wonder, "gee, it's been 2 hours and she's been playing hard, maybe she'd like a snack". FYI the "she" I'm referencing is A, although probably I get hangry after 2 hours myself.

starryfish, I was just pumping, but weaned slowly, dropping 1 session every 5-6 days until I was down to about 2. Once there, it was pretty easy to wean to 1, and go cold turkey with Sudafed from that. Admittedly, I didn't have a huge supply though (maybe 18oz per day at the height of pumping?).

[cactuscookie]

Jul 19, 2017 20:22:10 GMT -5 loira said:

The mental load is so, so real. I mean, I appreciate that H doesn't exactly know our routine, but I honestly think he doesn't stop to wonder, "gee, it's been 2 hours and she's been playing hard, maybe she'd like a snack". FYI the "she" I'm referencing is A, although probably I get hangry after 2 hours myself. 

How long is he staying? Long enough to get the hang of things and actually be helpful?
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[awick14]

Jul 19, 2017 14:13:50 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Jul 19, 2017 13:41:22 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Yay!! oneslybookworm!! You may have already covered this but does this mean the adoption is finalized? Or does it take longer then this?

No, it won't be finalized until next year. We have to have physical custody for at least 6 months before we can petition the courts for finalization.

That makes sense. I figured it wouldn't be easy/quick but I wasn't sure how it would work. I am hoping you are enjoying your first night at home with G. 😊

[shauni27]

oneslybookworm, seriously, I cannot stop smiling. I am just so happy. I think about you (and talk about you to G, lol) at least once a day. Oh goodness, I am going to start crying again.
starryfish, I LOVE BABIES WITH GLASSES! So cute!
swiftlyirun, great beta! YAY!

I have an ultrasound this afternoon and a meeting with my medical team to determine next steps with induction. I am excited and nervous at the same time.

[oneslybookworm]

Jul 20, 2017 7:14:00 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

oneslybookworm, seriously, I cannot stop smiling. I am just so happy. I think about you (and talk about you to G, lol) at least once a day. Oh goodness, I am going to start crying again.

I have an ultrasound this afternoon and a meeting with my medical team to determine next steps with induction. I am excited and nervous at the same time.

Thanks love!!

And omg, I can't wait until you have your little man too!!! Soooo close!!!

[swiftlyirun]

shauni27 FX for a good meeting!! So exciting that you're so close!!!

[shauni27]

YAY @daylily! That is great news about your fantastic betas. I am glad they got you in for an earlier ultrasound--these first 6 weeks drag by SO SLOWLY for those of us with IF and loss history.

I found scheduling lots of things during that time was super helpful for me. Something to look forward to every other day or so. Obviously I was still constantly thinking about the pregnancy but it helped to have other things to look forward to in order to break up the wait, you know? Even if it was just gym stuff (which I totally relate to).

I didn't feel pregnant at all with this pregnancy until I felt him move. I never had major exhaustion, sore breasts, MS, etc. Just crampy. Don't let that mess with your head!

[mpc]

So happy to have you over here @daylily! Your betas sounds great, how encouraging. I don't really know how to survive those first weeks. I mostly tried to ignore the pregnancy and distract myself with other things, which only works to a point. Good luck! We're all rooting for you!

[loira]

Jul 19, 2017 23:01:52 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Jul 19, 2017 20:22:10 GMT -5 loira said:

The mental load is so, so real. I mean, I appreciate that H doesn't exactly know our routine, but I honestly think he doesn't stop to wonder, "gee, it's been 2 hours and she's been playing hard, maybe she'd like a snack". FYI the "she" I'm referencing is A, although probably I get hangry after 2 hours myself. 

How long is he staying? Long enough to get the hang of things and actually be helpful?
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This morning I'm at least lounging in bed drinking coffee, so he's already proving himself more useful than yesterday. 😉 I suspect we'll get into a good routine just as he has to leave again.

[King26]

We had a great time on our mini vacation although I think my ankle got sunburned. Yesterday we took a walk in the 90 degree heat and when we got back to the car my fingers looked like sausages. Not the smartest idea I've had. We are on our way home and DH is probably going to have a heart attack when we get there because I have around 8-10 packages arriving today...all to complete our registries. Hopefully this will make him want to build the crib so I can put everything away

[King26]

oneslybookworm yay for bringing him home!

[cherryvalance]

shauni27, good luck today!! I hope you're holding baby boy before you know it!

loira, I've been talking to H about the mental load after that article came out, but I know he doesn't really get it, even though he tries. I was telling him about all the insurance dates/reporting dates and paperwork I have to do surrounding the birth and he was like, "Holy shit!" Yeah, man, and at least I'm out of work or I'd be doing this in addition to nit killing teenagers, lol.

@daylily, YAY! Those first weeks were fucking awful.

[cactuscookie]

@daylily, I'm so glad you're here! I wish I had more advice about how to survive the first couple of months. It's so hard.

[cherryvalance]

I saw shauni27 brought up Friends From College on the main board--anyone else watch? The IVF episode was the damn truth. I don't want to spoil it if people want to watch, but there's a snafu and my H literally gasped when I summarized it for him, lol.

[kristind3]

Congrats @daylily!!

Anatomy scan went well, but baby was not cooperating for pictures. It kept putting a hand up in front of the face.

[shauni27]

cherryvalance, it was so stupid and fake and yet so real at the same time. We cringed through the whole thing and just felt for them.

NO progress made on my end. I am just too good of a host for this little guy! Right now the plan is...there is not much of a plan. I have another appointment on Monday and then the team will discuss on Tuesday if I need to be inducted. Right now the induction is scheduled for Wednesday night. I am of the feeling that if my body does not progress at all before then and it is not medically necessary, I probably won't opt to be induced. If there IS progress and I finally hit 3 cm on my own then I would be willing to go forward with the induction because I would be able to start with pitocin rather than cervadil.

[cherryvalance]

shauni27, what was your due date? Man, that baby is comfy! The stop and go is so frustrating, though, I'm sure.

I hear you on the show. The appointments and shots were so realistic, it was incredible. The windows, not so much, lol, although I WAS pretty crazy on meds. I was cleaning my desk and found some notes I took while on the phone with my prescription plan and they were all, "Rhonda--total bitch! KILL. Call her manager and complain. Chantel--very sweet and helpful! Will send meds asap."

[shauni27]

cherryvalance, I legit just LOL at your notes! hahahhaha. I don't recall having rage, just crying a lot. The window was so stupid, but in general I think every character on that show does not think ahead about a single fucking thing and only acts in the moment, which I hate. I thought all of the emotions and anxiety that went along with IVF though was spot on.

Our due date isn't until next week so technically we are still ok. The 26th.

[loira]

shauni27, cherryvalance, So now I've watched a total of 3 episodes of the aforementioned show and I think I can safely say I hate almost every character. Haven't seen the IVF episode yet, but there is some truth to the cringeworthy group dynamic and the partners on the periphery. I have a couple of friends from uni who were part of a group like this (including various members having dated/married over the years). They all lived in the same residence and I lived in a different one, so I wasn't friends with them all, but I've been to gatherings that have included the whole group and whenever one of them brings a new partner, that person is always left out of pretty much everything and ends up standing awkwardly to the side until the rest of us take pity on them. Lol, actually one of them is getting married this weekend. I wasn't invited.

[cherryvalance]

loira, ITA. I binged it out of boredom, but at the end, I couldn't think of any character I actually liked. Maybe Fred Savage. I can't even tell if I'm supposed to like any of them.

[pooh8402]

Jul 20, 2017 15:45:45 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

cherryvalance, it was so stupid and fake and yet so real at the same time. We cringed through the whole thing and just felt for them.

NO progress made on my end. I am just too good of a host for this little guy! Right now the plan is...there is not much of a plan. I have another appointment on Monday and then the team will discuss on Tuesday if I need to be inducted. Right now the induction is scheduled for Wednesday night. I am of the feeling that if my body does not progress at all before then and it is not medically necessary, I probably won't opt to be induced. If there IS progress and I finally hit 3 cm on my own then I would be willing to go forward with the induction because I would be able to start with pitocin rather than cervadil.

How late are you willing to go before agreeing to induction, if you don't make it to 3 cm on your own? And Fwiw, I rather enjoyed my overnight induction and avoiding the pitocin. I started at 1.5 cm.

[shauni27]

pooh8402, that is the million dollar question! I did two overnights during the failed induction and was miserable. I was so uncomfortable and strapped up to the monitors and crampy, etc. Plus the cervadil insertion and removal was SO painful--and the second night it got stuck in there and it took forever (and lots of probing...) to get it out. So I am kind of traumatized.

I am at 1.5 cm now and like I said, took 48 hours and a lot of misery to get there. I would really like to get at least another cm on y own before trying again...and yet I hate the idea of going another week. It is a toss up at this point.

[konapoppy]

After my doctor told me a few months ago to expect to go 32-36 weeks, this week he told me he would let me go to 38. Wtf.

If I go to 38 I won't make it to the hospital because I will have killed or alienated everyone around me lol. I am miserable.

I decided last night I am making my last day of work the last Friday in September (if I don't go out earlier). October ain't gonna happen at work.

[pooh8402]

Jul 21, 2017 6:53:57 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

pooh8402, that is the million dollar question! I did two overnights during the failed induction and was miserable. I was so uncomfortable and strapped up to the monitors and crampy, etc. Plus the cervadil insertion and removal was SO painful--and the second night it got stuck in there and it took forever (and lots of probing...) to get it out. So I am kind of traumatized.

I am at 1.5 cm now and like I said, took 48 hours and a lot of misery to get there. I would really like to get at least another cm on y own before trying again...and yet I hate the idea of going another week. It is a toss up at this point.

Has anyone discussed a Foley bulb? loira used it iirc, but it wasn't an option for me (only because it just wasn't done at the hospital where I delivered). Some providers will place the Foley bulb and allow you to go home while it does its thing.