Good morning....FFFC, anyone??

[doriswe]

Who's got them??

[doriswe]

Mine....probably not even that bad....

After the whole May 2012 beebee bride thing, I can't help but wish that the biggest stressor in my life was if my colors will mesh well in real life.

One of my bffs turned 40 yesterday and is throwing herself a party on Saturday. While I'm excited about going out, she's just announcing what *I* will be doing for this....currently, I'm hosting a preparty at my house (hello? I would like to be asked, not told....and I don't really have much to drink her currently), then going out for dinner, then to the bar an hour earlier than everyone else.

She's also the girl I posted about a million years ago, who met the dude in the bar and then had their first date with her 10 year old in tow (he's now her FWB and hangs out with her kid all the time *rolls eyes*). Anyway, she's banking on meeting new dudes at the bar to build up her self esteem. It's making me crazy, but she doesn't listen when I talk to her about this shit.

[vikingqueen]

I go to a Church group and I have met a lot of cool people there and gotten to know a lot of them.

There is this guy from there that I really like. Well one of my good friends from the group and him were kind of talking right after she started at the group, I don't know how serious they were or anything or if they even dated but they would flirt with each other a lot. Now suddenly there is an awkward space between them, they barely talk, barely look at each other, and avoid each other if possible.

I kind of feel bad that I am happy that whatever was going on between them fell through because now I have a chance to talk to him.

[callunafirefly]

I think I'm a stalker.
My ex-guy and I broke up 3 months ago. Two weeks ago we had a long phone conversation, and since then have been texting regularly; almost every day, and sometimes more than 100 back and forth in a day. Yesterday we were texting and I mentioned I was getting out early for doing adopt a highway. I knew he was working at his parents’ house. He texted later, said he was leaving there. He asked if I was leaving early or taking it another day, then later asked if I had left yet. He said "it’s a nice day for hanging outside". We didn't date long (6mo) but I know him and I know that meant he was going fishing. So I went to the lake, and his car was there.
I went over to the spot where we used to sit and there he was. It wasn't even like he was surprised. Just like yep - knew you would show up, just like I knew he would be there.

[doriswe]

May 18, 2012 8:06:59 GMT -5 callunafirefly said:

I think I'm a stalker.
My ex-guy and I broke up 3 months ago. Two weeks ago we had a long phone conversation, and since then have been texting regularly; almost every day, and sometimes more than 100 back and forth in a day. Yesterday we were texting and I mentioned I was getting out early for doing adopt a highway. I knew he was working at his parents’ house. He texted later, said he was leaving there. He asked if I was leaving early or taking it another day, then later asked if I had left yet. He said "it’s a nice day for hanging outside". We didn't date long (6mo) but I know him and I know that meant he was going fishing. So I went to the lake, and his car was there.
I went over to the spot where we used to sit and there he was. It wasn't even like he was surprised. Just like yep - knew you would show up, just like I knew he would be there.

Uhhh, then what happened?

[sparkles17]

I have really bad gas today for some reason and my attempts at releasing it "quietly" at work are failing miserably. I'm sure that all of my CW are judging me right now

[liubotflittyfud]

I'm really having a hard time today. It's the one year anniversary of my friend's death. Also the one year anniversary that my STBXH was served with divorce papers. I am trying to keep in good spirits, but I already called STBXH today to say hey and burst into tears. Our friend was his brother...not biologically but grew up together, lived together for a long long time since they were 11, and he became a big part of my life. Part of me wants this divorce to be done so I can cut him out completely, but I know I can't all together because he has my dogs and we have many mutual friends. I dunno..it's just a hard day. I locked myself in my office and am listening to A Perfect Circle. Fuck. Emotional attachment is difficult.

[callunafirefly]

May 18, 2012 8:54:49 GMT -5 doriswe said:

May 18, 2012 8:06:59 GMT -5 callunafirefly said:

I think I'm a stalker.
My ex-guy and I broke up 3 months ago. Two weeks ago we had a long phone conversation, and since then have been texting regularly; almost every day, and sometimes more than 100 back and forth in a day. Yesterday we were texting and I mentioned I was getting out early for doing adopt a highway. I knew he was working at his parents’ house. He texted later, said he was leaving there. He asked if I was leaving early or taking it another day, then later asked if I had left yet. He said "it’s a nice day for hanging outside". We didn't date long (6mo) but I know him and I know that meant he was going fishing. So I went to the lake, and his car was there.
I went over to the spot where we used to sit and there he was. It wasn't even like he was surprised. Just like yep - knew you would show up, just like I knew he would be there.

Uhhh, then what happened?

oh - sorry. He fished, we chatted. Sat in the grass for awhile...nothing of interest. Then we both had to leave to get our kids. Honestly, I'm just happy to have him back as a friend...I'm not pushing him into anything more until he's ready.

[doriswe]

May 18, 2012 9:00:19 GMT -5 callunafirefly said:

May 18, 2012 8:54:49 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Uhhh, then what happened?

oh - sorry. He fished, we chatted. Sat in the grass for awhile...nothing of interest. Then we both had to leave to get our kids. Honestly, I'm just happy to have him back as a friend...I'm not pushing him into anything more until he's ready.

lol....well that's better than just showing up say "hi" and walking away!!

[turtle1120]

May 18, 2012 8:57:39 GMT -5 @sparkles17 said:

I have really bad gas today for some reason and my attempts at releasing it "quietly" at work are failing miserably. I'm sure that all of my CW are judging me right now

Omg this made me crack up laughing! Too funny!

[turtle1120]

May 18, 2012 8:59:49 GMT -5 @liubotflittyfud said:

I'm really having a hard time today. It's the one year anniversary of my friend's death. Also the one year anniversary that my STBXH was served with divorce papers. I am trying to keep in good spirits, but I already called STBXH today to say hey and burst into tears. Our friend was his brother...not biologically but grew up together, lived together for a long long time since they were 11, and he became a big part of my life. Part of me wants this divorce to be done so I can cut him out completely, but I know I can't all together because he has my dogs and we have many mutual friends. I dunno..it's just a hard day. I locked myself in my office and am listening to A Perfect Circle. Fuck. Emotional attachment is difficult.

So you had your STBXH served with divorce papers on the exact same day that his brother died? That's a huge coincidence. You should just reconcile with him since you can't seem to quit him.

[audg]

Yay I have one... I found this super hunky guy on Skout and we may be meeting tomorrow for a "date". He's so dam hot I'll probably jump his bones... but the bad part is..I'm techinically still married..(for another 2 weeks anyway!)

[liubotflittyfud]

May 18, 2012 9:16:48 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

May 18, 2012 8:59:49 GMT -5 @liubotflittyfud said:

I'm really having a hard time today. It's the one year anniversary of my friend's death. Also the one year anniversary that my STBXH was served with divorce papers. I am trying to keep in good spirits, but I already called STBXH today to say hey and burst into tears. Our friend was his brother...not biologically but grew up together, lived together for a long long time since they were 11, and he became a big part of my life. Part of me wants this divorce to be done so I can cut him out completely, but I know I can't all together because he has my dogs and we have many mutual friends. I dunno..it's just a hard day. I locked myself in my office and am listening to A Perfect Circle. Fuck. Emotional attachment is difficult.

So you had your STBXH served with divorce papers on the exact same day that his brother died? That's a huge coincidence. You should just reconcile with him since you can't seem to quit him.

Actually, no. He was supposed to be served the month prior, but he kept dodging the papers. He wouldn't sign the certified, and they ended up going to his work to serve him. It coincidentally fell on the day Rob died. I felt horrible about this.

I "can't quit my STBXH" because he has my dogs that were my children. We very rarely speak. I thought it was nice to talk to him today as I know I'm upset about the day, and I was checking to see if he was okay. We're on good terms. I don't want him. I don't want anyone. I'm not seeing anyone and I deleted my OKC account yesterday because I don't want anyone. Sorry, I'm just a little annoyed at the comment "You can't quit him". I left him. I think I could quit him. I've been without him for over a year now. But then again, flame free doesn't mean flame free these days. I forgot.

[turtle1120]

May 18, 2012 9:26:51 GMT -5 @liubotflittyfud said:

May 18, 2012 9:16:48 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

So you had your STBXH served with divorce papers on the exact same day that his brother died? That's a huge coincidence. You should just reconcile with him since you can't seem to quit him.

Actually, no. He was supposed to be served the month prior, but he kept dodging the papers. He wouldn't sign the certified, and they ended up going to his work to serve him. It coincidentally fell on the day Rob died. I felt horrible about this.

I "can't quit my STBXH" because he has my dogs that were my children. We very rarely speak. I thought it was nice to talk to him today as I know I'm upset about the day, and I was checking to see if he was okay. We're on good terms. I don't want him. I don't want anyone. I'm not seeing anyone and I deleted my OKC account yesterday because I don't want anyone. Sorry, I'm just a little annoyed at the comment "You can't quit him". I left him. I think I could quit him. I've been without him for over a year now. But then again, flame free doesn't mean flame free these days. I forgot.

If they're your dogs, then take them back. You'll no longer have a need to be in contact with your STBXH anymore. Problem solved. No need to text him, talk to him, or send him pics of your flavor of the week's junk.

And flame free has never been flame free, btw. If you can't take it, then stop posting.

[doriswe]

May 18, 2012 9:31:52 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

May 18, 2012 9:26:51 GMT -5 @liubotflittyfud said:

Actually, no. He was supposed to be served the month prior, but he kept dodging the papers. He wouldn't sign the certified, and they ended up going to his work to serve him. It coincidentally fell on the day Rob died. I felt horrible about this.

I "can't quit my STBXH" because he has my dogs that were my children. We very rarely speak. I thought it was nice to talk to him today as I know I'm upset about the day, and I was checking to see if he was okay. We're on good terms. I don't want him. I don't want anyone. I'm not seeing anyone and I deleted my OKC account yesterday because I don't want anyone. Sorry, I'm just a little annoyed at the comment "You can't quit him". I left him. I think I could quit him. I've been without him for over a year now. But then again, flame free doesn't mean flame free these days. I forgot.

If they're your dogs, then take them back. You'll no longer have a need to be in contact with your STBXH anymore. Problem solved. No need to text him, talk to him, or send him pics of your flavor of the week's junk.

And flame free has never been flame free, btw. If you can't take it, then stop posting.

All of this!
Plus....you tried to quit him by hopping onto multiple warm bodies....not the smartest choice!

[liubotflittyfud]

May 18, 2012 9:31:52 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

May 18, 2012 9:26:51 GMT -5 @liubotflittyfud said:

Actually, no. He was supposed to be served the month prior, but he kept dodging the papers. He wouldn't sign the certified, and they ended up going to his work to serve him. It coincidentally fell on the day Rob died. I felt horrible about this.

I "can't quit my STBXH" because he has my dogs that were my children. We very rarely speak. I thought it was nice to talk to him today as I know I'm upset about the day, and I was checking to see if he was okay. We're on good terms. I don't want him. I don't want anyone. I'm not seeing anyone and I deleted my OKC account yesterday because I don't want anyone. Sorry, I'm just a little annoyed at the comment "You can't quit him". I left him. I think I could quit him. I've been without him for over a year now. But then again, flame free doesn't mean flame free these days. I forgot.

If they're your dogs, then take them back. You'll no longer have a need to be in contact with your STBXH anymore. Problem solved. No need to text him, talk to him, or send him pics of your flavor of the week's junk.

And flame free has never been flame free, btw. If you can't take it, then stop posting.

I can't take my dogs, because I live in an apartment that doesn't allow animals. I don't know why I try this, ever. I'm not bitching or complaining, but it's just exhausting. I assumed calling STBXH to see how he was doing on the anniversary of his brother's death was appropriate. Apparently not? Look, I learned from my mistakes with dating, which is why I'm NOT dating. I got my face smashed in, had a concussion, and have permanent damage to my left optic nerve because I was dating the wrong person. SO yes. I learned. Believe me. I'm taking my fucking time this time. So yeah you guys shook me, and I got it. Can we drop it? Everyone makes mistakes, but somehow mine keep getting thrown in my face. Ugh.

Flame confession: the past two days my left eye socket hurts like a mother and throbs where I was punched and left knuckle marks. I don't want pity. I just want to stop the reminder of what happened. I have a permanent dent which some people have kindly called a dimple, on my upper cheek bone because of his knuckles. I'm reminded that I made a mistake every time I look in the mirror and see the discoloration around my eyes that WILL NOT GO AWAY. The shape of my cheek structure changed.

I am reminded. So yes. I made my mistakes and I'm trying to move on.

So thank you.

[turtle1120]

May 18, 2012 9:49:12 GMT -5 @liubotflittyfud said:

May 18, 2012 9:31:52 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

If they're your dogs, then take them back. You'll no longer have a need to be in contact with your STBXH anymore. Problem solved. No need to text him, talk to him, or send him pics of your flavor of the week's junk.

And flame free has never been flame free, btw. If you can't take it, then stop posting.

I can't take my dogs, because I live in an apartment that doesn't allow animals. I don't know why I try this, ever. I'm not bitching or complaining, but it's just exhausting. I assumed calling STBXH to see how he was doing on the anniversary of his brother's death was appropriate. Apparently not? Look, I learned from my mistakes with dating, which is why I'm NOT dating. I got my face smashed in, had a concussion, and have permanent damage to my left optic nerve because I was dating the wrong person. SO yes. I learned. Believe me. I'm taking my fucking time this time. So yeah you guys shook me, and I got it. Can we drop it? Everyone makes mistakes, but somehow mine keep getting thrown in my face. Ugh.

Flame confession: the past two days my left eye socket hurts like a mother and throbs where I was punched and left knuckle marks. I don't want pity. I just want to stop the reminder of what happened. I have a permanent dent which some people have kindly called a dimple, on my upper cheek bone because of his knuckles. I'm reminded that I made a mistake every time I look in the mirror and see the discoloration around my eyes that WILL NOT GO AWAY. The shape of my cheek structure changed.

I am reminded. So yes. I made my mistakes and I'm trying to move on.

So thank you.

I'm done.

[BookLover]

My dog may have cancer. He is going into his 2nd surgery today to remove another tumor. If it is cancer, I don't have the ability to keep getting him surgeries to remove it. He may die in 7 months. I feel like a horrible doggy mommy.

[blackkitty]

I met a new guy yesterday. Last night he told me he loved me.

[doriswe]

May 18, 2012 10:13:59 GMT -5 BookLover said:

My dog may have cancer. He is going into his 2nd surgery today to remove another tumor. If it is cancer, I don't have the ability to keep getting him surgeries to remove it. He may die in 7 months. I feel like a horrible doggy mommy.

Ohhhh, that sucks...((hugs))

[doriswe]

May 18, 2012 10:14:41 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I met a new guy yesterday. Last night he told me he loved me.

Damn....that is all!

[starryfish]

May 18, 2012 10:14:41 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I met a new guy yesterday. Last night he told me he loved me.

Stage 5 clinger alert!!!

[starryfish]

I have been somewhat seriously contemplating being FWB with trainer guy...yes this is going to get me flamed and I am prepared...

I dont want to date right now (I am on a dating break starting on Sunday) but I still want to get some, and I figure since I have already seen him naked, it will work out well.

[turtle1120]

May 18, 2012 10:27:25 GMT -5 starryfish said:

May 18, 2012 10:14:41 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I met a new guy yesterday. Last night he told me he loved me.

Stage 5 clinger alert!!!

This! Run far away! Quickly! Now!!!! Abort, abort and all that other shit. LOL

[bullygirl979]

May 18, 2012 10:28:58 GMT -5 starryfish said:

I have been somewhat seriously contemplating being FWB with trainer guy...yes this is going to get me flamed and I am prepared...

I dont want to date right now (I am on a dating break starting on Sunday) but I still want to get some, and I figure since I have already seen him naked, it will work out well.

Eh, if you really think that you can do it without an emotional connection then I won't flame you. I just don't want you to get hurt.

[callunafirefly]

May 18, 2012 10:14:41 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I met a new guy yesterday. Last night he told me he loved me.

Is there more to this? Was he drunk?

[bullygirl979]

May 18, 2012 10:13:59 GMT -5 BookLover said:

My dog may have cancer. He is going into his 2nd surgery today to remove another tumor. If it is cancer, I don't have the ability to keep getting him surgeries to remove it. He may die in 7 months. I feel like a horrible doggy mommy.

You are NOT a horrible mommy! It is tough to make those choices but you can only do what you can. You are doing more than a lot of other people would!

[starryfish]

May 18, 2012 10:31:21 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

May 18, 2012 10:28:58 GMT -5 starryfish said:

I have been somewhat seriously contemplating being FWB with trainer guy...yes this is going to get me flamed and I am prepared...

I dont want to date right now (I am on a dating break starting on Sunday) but I still want to get some, and I figure since I have already seen him naked, it will work out well.

Eh, if you really think that you can do it without an emotional connection then I won't flame you. I just don't want you to get hurt.

I know...I am still 50/50 on it....

[doriswe]

May 18, 2012 10:31:21 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

May 18, 2012 10:28:58 GMT -5 starryfish said:

I have been somewhat seriously contemplating being FWB with trainer guy...yes this is going to get me flamed and I am prepared...

I dont want to date right now (I am on a dating break starting on Sunday) but I still want to get some, and I figure since I have already seen him naked, it will work out well.

Eh, if you really think that you can do it without an emotional connection then I won't flame you. I just don't want you to get hurt.

I agree with this....but you've already sort of said you were interested in him in a more than FWB way and I'd be afraid you would start off as FWB but then find yourself still feeling more for him, kwim?

[turtle1120]

May 18, 2012 10:28:58 GMT -5 starryfish said:

I have been somewhat seriously contemplating being FWB with trainer guy...yes this is going to get me flamed and I am prepared...

I dont want to date right now (I am on a dating break starting on Sunday) but I still want to get some, and I figure since I have already seen him naked, it will work out well.

Did I miss a good story? You've already seen him naked? My only reservation about the situation is what if things go sour...are you still going to feel comfortable going to your box? Because if you really like the one you're at it would suck to have to find a new one.