Good morning....FFFC, anyone??

[hainesherway]

May 18, 2012 10:32:15 GMT -5 callunafirefly said:

May 18, 2012 10:14:41 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I met a new guy yesterday. Last night he told me he loved me.

Is there more to this? Was he drunk?

That's what I wanna know too. Please tell me he was drunk or kidding!

[explorer2001]

I forgot that my bonus last year was prorated because I hadn't been here a full year at that point. Somehow I'm now stressed out because my bonus is almost double what I expected. I can't decide what to do with it (extra 401(k), savings, pay off debt, something fun). I know I should be happy but I just feel stressed and irresponsible for thinking of spending any on fun when I still have debts.

[redredwine]

May 18, 2012 12:03:25 GMT -5 starryfish said:

May 18, 2012 11:57:13 GMT -5 redredwine said:

I talked to him a little bit...we were both pretty drunk on Tuesday night, so we started fooling around and both admitted that neither one of us was going to get "there". and then I said "Um, I'm starting to take offense that you haven't slept with me yet" and he laughed and was like "OH, well, we didn't have a condom last time" and I said "No, last time you totally fell asleep" and he said "OH, yah, I was sooo tired". And then he said his sex drive has waned the past few years...so I kinda just dropped it at that poitn and passed out anyways.
I'm going to bring it up again (and tell him "Dude...I think you're gay, have a disease or are sleeping with other people and don't want to have too many partners at once) the next time we see each other. I figure a non-drunk discussion about it is better.

So, we talked about it a bit. But now I need to talk about it for real.

Yea definitely have a talk next time...but i am leaning towards option c for the reason....

That's what my gut is telling me, too.
Fark.

[audg]

May 18, 2012 11:57:13 GMT -5 redredwine said:

May 18, 2012 11:37:47 GMT -5 starryfish said:

Have you not talked to him at ALL about the no sex thing? Have you had the "disease" talk?

I talked to him a little bit...we were both pretty drunk on Tuesday night, so we started fooling around and both admitted that neither one of us was going to get "there". and then I said "Um, I'm starting to take offense that you haven't slept with me yet" and he laughed and was like "OH, well, we didn't have a condom last time" and I said "No, last time you totally fell asleep" and he said "OH, yah, I was sooo tired". And then he said his sex drive has waned the past few years...so I kinda just dropped it at that poitn and passed out anyways.
I'm going to bring it up again (and tell him "Dude...I think you're gay, have a disease or are sleeping with other people and don't want to have too many partners at once) the next time we see each other. I figure a non-drunk discussion about it is better.

So, we talked about it a bit. But now I need to talk about it for real.

How long have you been dating/seeing this guy? This would bother me too and IMO, when you're dating someone new and you're way into each other, it's hard to keep your hands OFF each other and not take it there. The fact that he is tired or too drunk or whatever, just sounds like he's making excuses... (of course not having a condom is a valid reason), but this just strikes me as odd. And it's certainly not a conversation I would wanna have to have. I feel for you...

[redredwine]

May 18, 2012 12:29:50 GMT -5 audg said:

May 18, 2012 11:57:13 GMT -5 redredwine said:

I talked to him a little bit...we were both pretty drunk on Tuesday night, so we started fooling around and both admitted that neither one of us was going to get "there". and then I said "Um, I'm starting to take offense that you haven't slept with me yet" and he laughed and was like "OH, well, we didn't have a condom last time" and I said "No, last time you totally fell asleep" and he said "OH, yah, I was sooo tired". And then he said his sex drive has waned the past few years...so I kinda just dropped it at that poitn and passed out anyways.
I'm going to bring it up again (and tell him "Dude...I think you're gay, have a disease or are sleeping with other people and don't want to have too many partners at once) the next time we see each other. I figure a non-drunk discussion about it is better.

So, we talked about it a bit. But now I need to talk about it for real.

How long have you been dating/seeing this guy? This would bother me too and IMO, when you're dating someone new and you're way into each other, it's hard to keep your hands OFF each other and not take it there. The fact that he is tired or too drunk or whatever, just sounds like he's making excuses... (of course not having a condom is a valid reason), but this just strikes me as odd. And it's certainly not a conversation I would wanna have to have. I feel for you...

About 6 weeks...we've gone about about 9 times now? We kissed on date 3, so at first I was thinking "well, it's just slow" We see each other about 1-2 times a week...email/text often. It's now clearly becoming an issue. I don't really question that he likes me. I've slept over at his place the last 4 times, we cuddle all night long, his choosing.
There is something else going on.

[formerlyak]

May 18, 2012 12:38:33 GMT -5 redredwine said:

May 18, 2012 12:29:50 GMT -5 audg said:

How long have you been dating/seeing this guy? This would bother me too and IMO, when you're dating someone new and you're way into each other, it's hard to keep your hands OFF each other and not take it there. The fact that he is tired or too drunk or whatever, just sounds like he's making excuses... (of course not having a condom is a valid reason), but this just strikes me as odd. And it's certainly not a conversation I would wanna have to have. I feel for you...

About 6 weeks...we've gone about about 9 times now? We kissed on date 3, so at first I was thinking "well, it's just slow" We see each other about 1-2 times a week...email/text often. It's now clearly becoming an issue. I don't really question that he likes me. I've slept over at his place the last 4 times, we cuddle all night long, his choosing.
There is something else going on.

Could it be like Carrie when she started dating Aidan and he didn't want to have sex for a while because in the past he rushed into it and it didn't work out, and he really liked her so with her he wanted to do things differently and take it slow?

[redredwine]

May 18, 2012 12:43:28 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

May 18, 2012 12:38:33 GMT -5 redredwine said:

About 6 weeks...we've gone about about 9 times now? We kissed on date 3, so at first I was thinking "well, it's just slow" We see each other about 1-2 times a week...email/text often. It's now clearly becoming an issue. I don't really question that he likes me. I've slept over at his place the last 4 times, we cuddle all night long, his choosing.
There is something else going on.

Could it be like Carrie when she started dating Aidan and he didn't want to have sex for a while because in the past he rushed into it and it didn't work out, and he really liked her so with her he wanted to do things differently and take it slow?

I wish...but I have a feeling that's looking at it too positively.

i.just.don't.get.it

i need him to hurry back from his vacation...i need to figure it out.