I got re-married in February and didn't have a bridal party.
If I did, I'd still have asked my 2 sisters, who were in my first wedding party. I would not have asked the other girls who were bridesmaids the first time around. I am not in contact at all with one of them anymore, and the other I still love to death but we're not close (mostly due to geography) at this point in our lives.
It would be the same, as would my H's people, although I'm hoping my bff and bil would not still hook up during the reception 20 years later. They probably would though lol.
I had 8 and thought that was a lot. Did your H have 12 as well?
For me, I would have 2 out of the 8. I am still friends with everyone and there have been no falling outs but life has taken most of us in different directions and we aren't that close anymore.
Post by wildfloweragain on Aug 8, 2017 13:36:42 GMT -5
I wouldn't get married again, but if I married H again, I'd probably have mostly the same people but swap out my cousin for a close friend that I have had since we had already been married a while.
BM's - 3. 1 BM and MOH I don't talk to. For men only 1 which was the best man. H doesn't talk to him much and he moved to another state. But I think we would add a couple guys that he is closer to now.
2/3. One is my cousin who I love dearly. The other is a wonderful friend although I rarely see her. The third went a little off the rails and now ignores my husband on the street. I have no idea wtf caused all that but she didn't even call or text on the birth of my child, so...
I don't have a big circle of friends. A lot of my current friends were my husbands first.
0/2. I would campaign harder for no bridal party. I only had one because H really wanted his groomsmen and he thought it would be weird if only one of us had attendants. If I'd had my way, I would have borrowed one of his groomsmen to stand on my side instead.
Post by sunflowers7 on Aug 8, 2017 13:55:00 GMT -5
We originally had 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsman. If I had to do it today I would skip the wedding party completely. I don't have a relationship with 2 of my bridesmaids one being my maid of honor. And my husband only talks to his "best man" which was his sister.
Luckily I haven't been asked to be in many weddings and I'm okay with that.
Probably 1 of 4 if we were carrying on the same. One is still my sister, one has since died, and I'm no longer as close - geographically and otherwise - to the other two. If I was to be married today and could change plans entirely, I think we'd elope.
3 of 4 for me. DH had 7 and he would probably have 4 or 5 now. He's still friends with them but I don't think they're all wedding party level friends anymore.