Post by gilmoregirl on Aug 8, 2017 17:42:48 GMT -5
Two of three. By the time we got married, I already had grown apart from one of my bridesmaids. We both moved away to another state and lost touch along the way.
3 out of 5: my best friend, my sister and H's sister. I wasn't close to my H's sister, but I asked her because we wanted our siblings to be part of the wedding.
All of them. I had my three sils and a cousin of each of ours. My bff from birth (we lived next door to one another growing up) was my MOH and I would still ask her to this day.
On his side, probably just my brothers and his brother. So two would have to be new people because he doesn't talk to one of the guys anymore and the other died a few years back.
I'm leaning towards 0. I'm still in touch with all of them but 3 of them did not put me in their bridal parties. The 4th one did but then I had to go get hospitalized and I couldnt even attend. So I'm sour about the whole gaggle of bridesmaids thing. I got married first.
I only had 3. One is my sister, my other my bff from childhood. Both would still be in my wedding today.
My maid of honor was my best friend from college. We were very, very close, but about 9 years ago she completely ghosted me and the rest of our circle of college friends. It was totally bizarre and hurtful - we went from seeing each other all the time and talking on the phone for hours each day to her completely cutting of me and the rest of our group with no explanation that I can think of. I'm still sad and angry at times thinking about it.
It also pisses me off because I purposely kept my wedding party very small so I wouldn't be in the situation where I would lose touch with any of them. I remember looking at my parents' wedding photos and thinking it was so weird they no longer spoke to some members of their wedding party and not wanting that to happen to me. Oh well, best laid plans...
My side - 2 (sister in law and best friend - I wouldn't have my MOH, and my ex sister in law) H's side - 4 (My brother, my brother in laws and h's BFF - we would not have the best man)
Well, we kept it real small (my sister was MOH and his sister was the only bridesmaid), so 2/2 would be back lol. The groomsmen were my sisters' H and my brother, so I guess they'd be around too. ;)
Post by ladystardust on Aug 8, 2017 21:20:29 GMT -5
3/5 All were sisters and SILs. No room for friends lol. They are all lovely and no issues with them, I just wanted a smaller bridal party and was pressured into including everyone.
I probably wouldn't have any attendants if I got married again, maybe my daughter, but I think she'd prefer not to.
If I had to, I would have 2/3 (sister and bff) for sure, not sure about my cousin, she was about 10 when I got married, so I'm not sure if she would want to now.
That one is my SIL. Of the other five, I'm still in touch with four of them, but we're just not close like we used to be. The fifth is my aunt. We had a major falling out and haven't spoken in 5 years.
Post by bohemianmango on Aug 8, 2017 22:49:12 GMT -5
4 or 6 out of 7. I had and would keep my 2 sisters and 2 SILs. The 5th one is a pretty close friend to DH and me, and we're the godparents of each other's kids. The 6th one was a good friend and the person who introduced us but we're not really close anymore. I would lean toward 4 but it depends on whom my DH would select again. We had a few couples in the party.
We purposely chose only family for our attendants because even if we hate them, they'll always be family. My two closest friends at the time are long gone.
Out of my 3, only 2 - one is my SIL who I love and the other is my second cousin who is even more wonderful than she was as a young teen. My old BFF is no longer that - we fell out after the wedding unfortunately.
There wasn't really a wedding with attendants. There were only 14 people with us at the house that day. My witness was a good friend who has since turned into a attention seeking drama queen. I don't see her that much anymore.
The rest: only my father and my two brothers are still standing. I left the X in 2014.