Monday vents and celebrations

[justcheckingin73]

Oct 2, 2017 11:40:59 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

justcheckingin73 , waverly , My DH and I decided that once DS starts making "friends" he will get to pick a few and have them over for dinner and sleepover (if they are old enough) and maybe take them to the Zoo or trampoline park or something fun. I always had better birthdays that way and my parents didn't break the bank. Luckily DH and I agree.

Part of the “problem” is that he sees the parties his sister has which I don’t mind doing because we know her friends so well and they actually show up. However, In the past I’ve had a few parties at home and one where we brought 2 of her friends to a bounce house years ago so he will just have to get used to that!

[justcheckingin73]

polecat8, I think that’s a good idea - leaving the house with the kids. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with kid stuff and I just want to veg in my own house rather than go anywhere.

[waverly]

Thanks ladies! The party was for DS, and he had a great time. He had 20 kids come. But yeah the RSVPs were the hardest part for me.

I had just invited the one friend for DD to have, and that was the one that bailed. DD ended up having a great time too, but I have to confess I kind of hate the mom now for seeing my baby in so much pain. I know I can't protect her from this and friends come and go, just so sad.

This is the last class party for DS. I plan to only have small ones for him going forward.

I do plan on having a class party for DD, but I am undecided. She has 3 year olds in her class, so I don't know if they really would do a class party.  DD is 4 turning 5. So I don't know if I should just invite a few friends to the house and do a class party next year? I was telling her this year, but I don't really see people coming at that young age for a class party.  4 and 5 years old yes.  3 year olds no, and there are a lot of 3 year olds. 

[mustardseed2007]

waverly, I think it depends on the party. DD is 3 and she often goes to parties that are held for older kids in her class. There's a kindergartener that she REALLY looks up to so we'll definitely be going to that one, but there was the one at the painting studio (paint on canvas) and DS did that, but DD did not.

[twinmomma]

UGHGHG. DH just called. He's currently bringing DD1 to get xrays. Her hand got slammed in a door at school and it's hugely swollen and bruised and not looking good. Because you know what we needed this week? A child with a broken hand. So I'm 90% sure I'm not going to my event tonight, and figuring that situation out instead.

[mae0111]

Vent: As predicted, DH planned nothing for my birthday, which is tomorrow. He keeps asking me if we can go out to dinner for my birthday on Saturday, and I keep telling him no - DD's is Fri, my dad's is Sun, both will revolve around food. I do not want to go out for dinner between having crap Fri and a then having a huge, home-cooked, delicious, but decidedly unhealthy dinner on Sun for my dad. We have this conversation every year. DD is turning 8. It is not a surprise.

Celebration-ish: I was a hot mess this morning. I was grabbing breakfast food out of our basement fridge, and somehow a bottle of wine rolled out and smashed on the floor. I started to pick up the glass, and cut myself (of course). It was a puncture, so it was small and deep... and started to gush. The celebration is that my normally not-morning-people kids were so completely fabulous this morning. Super helpful, listened, did everything I asked them to do. DD1 got bandaids, helped get her little sister ready, etc.

It made me so happy - I hate when they're grumpy, then I get grumpy, then they go off to school thinking I'm mad at them. Small victories!!

[phdmomma]

Mom of the year: I switched the kids' lunch boxes this morning. DD won't care, as she is less picky than DS. However, DS is super picky, and school just called. He refused to eat his lunch (because it was his sister's), and didn't want the hot lunch ( he has tons of money in his school account), and just had a chocolate dairy milk. He is lactose intolerant, and school just called to let me know what happened. I don't care that they gave him dairy milk, if anything his stomach will just be upset, I feel stupid that I got the boxes in the wrong backpacks.

[2chatter]

My favorite kid parties continue to be sleepovers. I buy matching PJs for all the girls and it's just stupid cute. I hate venue parties and that's how the airfare instead of party offer came into play.

Vent: I have sleepwalked every night since returning from San Diego, including in Utah in the hotel. I woke up on our front sidewalk last Wednesday, luckily it was wet from rain. I'm over it. I haven't done this in years. And I definitely haven't done it for this many consecutive nights ever.

[ilovelucyvv]

Yuck twinmomma, FX its not as bad as it looks!

[saraml13]

Vent/celebration: DS1 turned 3 yesterday. I can't believe my baby is a little boy. How can they both so cute and such little fuckers at this age?

Vent: I forgot how stressful weaning can be. I'm almost at a year with DS2 and I'm so ready to be done bf and pumping. I'm just finding it stressful to juggle introducing larger quantities of WCM, managing my rapidly depleting freezer stash, getting crappy pump output, and worrying that DS2 is getting enough to eat. DH makes it harder because he keeps forgetting that he actually needs to feed the kid "people food" instead of just throwing a bottle at him.

[ilovelucyvv]

welcome meagain!

[twinmomma]

I hate this. I'm still at work while DH waits on the xrays and doctor at urgent care. DH doesn't text. He has an old flip phone without texting ability. So I'm just sitting here, waiting for an update, chomping at the bit to find out what the hell is wrong with my kid. And he's getting annoyed that I just called again. It's been an hour! I want an update!

[186momx]

twinmomma, I'm sorry and waiting is hard and not getting updates is harder. I just want to give your DH a big hug that he dropped everything and school and rushed to get DD and take her to the doctor and he didn't call Mom or you to deal with it because his students and classes were more important. I know you have had a hard time getting him to put you guys first.

waverly, I think inviting 3 year olds for a class party is fine especially if it is at a venue that is little kid friendly. Birthday party invites at daycare really started coming home in the 3 year old class.

I've yet to do a big class party and have just done a few good friends from daycare so it was like 4 families and super chill. Last year DD just wanted to do her birthday at the barn and have the horse as her guest. It was easy and I loved it. Thinking maybe sleepover with a couple friends in June when she turns 7.

[waverly]

2chatter , I am starting to hate the bouncy house, trampoline and Chucky Cheese parties (luckily no Chucky Cheese super close to us so that is limited). This was at the local gym and they did such a good job doing kid games with them. I could tell the kids had a blast, and everyone dropped off which was surprising in that they are still a little young, but I think everyone just really trusts that community gym (more so than me who they had just met).

In the future, I will definitely do the sleep overs or invite 1 friend over to the family party type thing. Once they have people they are closer with.


twinmomma,  I hope its not broken.  DS broke his hand a couple of years ago, it was just a hairline so luckily he only had to wear the cast for 3 weeks. 

[twinmomma]

186momx, Yes, I am so glad too! I asked him several times if he wanted me to come deal with it so he could get back to class, and he told me not to worry about it because my office is so far away. He totally stepped up!

And, final verdict: there is no final verdict. The xrays were inconclusive because her hand is so tiny and the bones are so flexible in little kids that they can't really tell if there are any fractures. So we have to treat it like it is broken, she's all splinted up, and we have to follow up in a couple days with the pediatrician. She doesn't seem phased at all. Her biggest concern when I talked to her was that she couldn't wait to show off her "cast thing" to her sister. lol

[katrine05]

Vent: Kids woke up at 430! DD was so excited it was snowing (yes, snow, kinda vent #2). DS did go back to sleep just before 6 until I woke him up to leave at 730. Roads have gotten worse as the day goes on so hoping it doesn't take me too long to get home.

Celebration: we have a signed lease for one of our suites! Now for the second one, we have someone interested but they are taking their sweet time sending me the info I requested. We said once both are rented we are booking and going on vacation!

[erinshelley21]

twinmomma, I'm glad she seems unphased.
Again, 2chatter I am stealing your birthday party idea for when DD is older.

A celebration: My brother just told me that he was talking to his BFF over the weekend about our business and BFF wanted to know what my plans were. He said he may have a job for me that would work out perfectly timing wise. Decent commute, 30ish hours, accounting work, flexible schedule. The BFF is like a brother so it would be fun working for him I think. I'm trying to not get excited, but the fact that I might have options when the time comes is more than I expected.

[2chatter]

DH has lost more hearing in his bad ear and both eardrums are depressed. That's the bad news. The good news is that he has a consult on Friday to decide which hearing solution is best - the Baja or another product. He's really doing this! You guys I'm so hopeful he will turn into a nice guy again. Currently we can't talk in bed because he lays with his good ear down. Being in noisy places makes him very short tempered, so he usually leaves the kids' sports and activities. If we are watching TV or a movie no one can speak because he can't hear. So pretty much we communicate very little.

[traveltheworld]

So we finally got the schedule for DS's indoor soccer practice. It's Tuesdays from 6:00 - 7:00; which would be fine, except tomorrow is the first day and both DH and I can't be there. I have a call that I have to do at the office (the team wants everyone to be here so we could put the other parties on mute while we plan and strategize as the call moves along), and DH is going out of town. Normally I'd send our nanny to go - but I don't want to give off the impression that we are THAT family - you know, the one where the parents are super non-involved.

[supertrooper1]

This weekend was a lot of fun. Spending one on one time with DS on vacation was a blast. We ate so much good food and just wandered the city. We stood in line for really good pizza and got sat at a crappy slanted table but still enjoyed ourselves, where DH would have complained about everything. Our travel home went smoothly.

We got home, DS took a short nap and then I dropped him off at preschool. I went for my overdue hair cut and got purple highlights that I love. I don't think I've ever done something this bold with my hair.

Vent: DH came home from work just as I was rushing out the door for preschool. He looked pretty bad and was thinking kidney stone or infection. He drank a bunch of water and by the time his doctors appointment rolled around, he was fine. The verdict? Dehydration.
I'm also exhausted from my weekend of fun, especially having to get up at 3:30 am for my flight. I need a vacation from my vacation.

[greenmonkey1]

traveltheworld I really dislike those situations when the schedule finally comes out and the first day is tomorrow or sometime that week. Many of us cannot pivot on a dime to rearrange our schedules. IMHO, I would not feel bad to send your nanny. You cannot be the only family who had a scheduling conflict.

[mommyatty]

traveltheworld, send the nanny. Last week I sent DH to DD's first cheerleading practice. In Texas. Where cheerleading is a religion and cheer moms are A Thing. I felt terrible. DH came home talking about the 3 other dads and one uncle he met. The worry was for nothing.

[mae0111]

traveltheworld - I used to send my nanny to stuff like that all he time. DH traveled a lot, and I couldn't always get there in time. My thought was that I'd rather my kids be able to participate without me there, rather than suffer due to my crap schedule. My nanny made tons of friends doing stuff like that. It has been nice to have "warm" introductions to people who know my kids through that stuff.

Good luck!

[supertrooper1]

Since it's my work Monday, I need to vent about work.
I came back to 2 emails telling me I have OT today (not volunteer). I can't access my work email from home. So a phone call would have been nice.

[2chatter]

traveltheworld - don't even think twice. This is exactly why you HAVE a nanny. So family and career lives both run smoothly. People are going to think whatever they think - who cares.

I have started running during the kids practices (in the last year) when I can. Twice I have been asked if I "don't enjoy the practices" or "have a hard time finding time for myself". Both times I had to focus really hard on just answering the question and not launching. People are idiots.

[mellym]

traveltheworld and 2chatter, it's just a practice right!? To me this is no big deal if you aren't there.

[2chatter]

mellym - yes! Just practices! This is my new soap box and a hill I will die on. I don't stay and watch. I don't even stay and watch gymnastics! It's not about ME. I watch some of these things some of the time because yes my kids are adorable and they amaze me and all of that stuff but my kids need room to grow and experience. Without me. And I don't need a front row seat to all of their experiences. I used to feel like I was the odd man out on this but between this board and getting older I just don't care. Someone has 90 minutes of practice? That's a good run AND errand running!

[186momx]

I would love to be able to do stuff during DD's 90 min. gymnastics practice. The gym is located in an industrial area so not safe to walk/run and is 15-20 minutes from home/stores so a little pointless to drop and run. We could switch to one of the other gyms that are closer to shops, residential areas but the fees double and cost wise it doesn't make sense. Once she hits pre-team or team it will be drop off and come back as those practices go between 2.5-4 hours. During tax season my mom does drop off and I pick up after work but DD really misses me watching. I also use this as mommy social time as there are about 4 other mom/grandparents who stay because of travel time.

T-ball last spring was me walking around the school unless I was helping out.

[traveltheworld]

Thanks everyone! We'll send the nanny. And yes, it's just practice. Typically I wouldn't even stay. But I was actually looking forward to it since we are in a new city and I'm desperate for friends, so was hoping I could hang around and make some.

[waverly]

traveltheworld, too bad you are not in my city. We could be friends.