Monday vents and celebrations

[akafred]

Vent: I think I have a UTI starting. Which sucks because it isn't because of something good like sex. DH was grumpy all weekend (as per). He took DD to a high ropes place yesterday and (according to him) was an asshole parent. So DD was a mess the rest of the day also. I swear I am almost glad he isn't going on vacation with us next week.

Celebration: DD's Halloween costume is coming along nicely! I can't wait to see it finished!

Ransoms: Today is DD's speech eval. I hope DH can find it in his heart to be gentle with the kiddo this morning. I have a feeling that is why she was wound up yesterday. I have a prediction: She will talk baby talk the whole time and it will be an utter waste.

[twinmomma]

My kids were at an 11 all weekend. They kept "playing" games that involved punching each other, kicking each other, or cutting up shreds of paper for "crafts" that then left a trail around my entire house. My the time they went to bed yesterday I was so over it that I was forcing myself to whisper at them so that I wouldn't yell. So, I'm glad to be back at work. But, this is another week of insanity.
Tonight I've got a major work event - fingers crossed we win the award we're up for, or my bosses will not be pleased. We were a finalist last year too and didn't win. Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary, then I'm out of town Wednesday and Thursday. Friday is the rehearsal dinner for a friend's wedding (DH is officiating), DH has the bachelor party Saturday, and then the wedding is on Sunday. Total madness.

[justcheckingin73]

Vents:

#1 It was DHs birthday yesterday and we went out to eat as a family on Saturday. The kids were moody and/or complained and it was clear that we should have left them at home. Of course they would have complained about that too.

#2 On Sunday, DH did more cleaning than he has done in ages. He always does this on his special events - Father’s Day, his birthday. I don’t know what it is. Any other night and he’d be sitting down watching football while I cleaned up for the evening. It’s like he enjoys telling people how mundane his life is even though I repeatedly told him to chill out and I would take care of it. He wouldn’t even let me order a pizza or get some take out for dinner. Annoying.

#3 I just discovered a huge scratch on my car this morning  . Our cars were parked next to each other on the driveway and there was only about a foot or so distance between the two. I’m sure one of my or the neighbors kids did it as they were playing. 

Celebration:

I ran 5 times last week including Saturday which was a really good one. I did 5 miles and felt great. I’ve been struggling with my runs lately so it did a lot for my motivation. Of course today and tomorrow are supposed to be 80+ and then it’s supposed to rain. We need it but hopefully I can sneak in a run in between rain showers.

[akafred]

twinmomma, congrats on not yelling. I cannot say that about me or DH.

[xctsclrx]

Sometime over the last week my child has stopped calling me momma or mommy. (unless he is whining) I am officially Mom. My baby is not even 3 yet. How did that happen? Last night as I was leaving his room he says "Mom, I want my door open and my nightlight on please." Just like that. He is really not a baby anymore.

[Covergirl82]

Celebrations: I spent half the day on Friday with my mom and it was fun. We went shopping and had lunch. She helped me pick out a dress for DH's work dinner that is coming up in a few weeks. Saturday me, DH, and the kids went to a college football game (it's where DH went for two years and I grew up very close to the college, so it feels like a hometown team to me). Our team won!

Random: My cousin lives in Vegas, but she checked in with her mom (my aunt) and is safe, so that was a relief. A coworker and her husband are also in Vegas for a long weekend, and they let friends know on Facebook that they are safe, so that is also a relief.

[erinshelley21]

justcheckingin73, my H's birthday was yesterday too!

[twinmomma]

akafred, Trust me, it was not a yelling free day. I was just spent and desperate. I figured a scary mom voice whisper might be more effective. Spoiler alert: It wasn't.

[erinshelley21]

Vent: I am not as prepared for vacation as I would like to be. I was hoping to have everyone's clothes laid out at this point and so far I have just the kids. The beach/pool bag is packed and I guess that's what is important haha. Instead of staying home and packing tonight, I'm going to the HS volleyball game for alumni night because our coach is retiring, so all the girls that played for him over the years are attending and being recognized in some way. I wish it weren't the night before we are leaving but oh well. I'm excited to see my friends so I guess this is a celebration as well.

Vent 2: I've come to the conclusion that DH has an "all or nothing" outlook on life, particularly our house situation.
DH - "I want 100 acres, a barn with cows, a very modest 1-story house and a pond"
Me - "can we scale that down to about 5 acres?"
DH - "I just don't know"

This coming from the man who complains weekly about having to mow the open 3 acres that we have now. He also spent most of last night moping because of that and because he can't be a farmer. So, I have a husband that will never be 100% happy with his life and will probably always feel like he is just settling. It's starting to get frustrating.

[justcheckingin73]

erinshelley21, my DH is 1 of 4 people in his office that had bdays yesterday. And so many more today or Sept 30th. Someone mentioned they were conceived on or around New Year’s which grossed DH out. Lol. 

[rere]

Celebration : I conquered the hill on my 5k! I almost puked 2/3 the way up, but I was not stopping. I wish my time was a little better, but I think I was going backwards at some point on the hill. Some nice church lady had homemade cinnamon rolls at the end, so that helped my motivation.

[erinshelley21]

Oct 2, 2017 8:22:57 GMT -5 justcheckingin73 said:

erinshelley21 , my DH is 1 of 4 people in his office that had bdays yesterday. And so many more today or Sept 30th. Someone mentioned they were conceived on or around New Year’s which grossed DH out. Lol. 

It is a popular birthday! He shares a birthday with his grandpa, another guy in town, and his pediatrician lol. 

[mellym]

Celebration: DD2 was so happy and had a great time at her birthday party yesterday. She was adorable when we were singing happy birthday because she covered her face with her hands. She doesn't like to be the center of attention.

[Covergirl82]

Oct 2, 2017 8:25:11 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Oct 2, 2017 8:22:57 GMT -5 justcheckingin73 said:

erinshelley21 , my DH is 1 of 4 people in his office that had bdays yesterday. And so many more today or Sept 30th. Someone mentioned they were conceived on or around New Year’s which grossed DH out. Lol. 

It is a popular birthday! He shares a birthday with his grandpa, another guy in town, and his pediatrician lol. 

My niece's birthday was Sept. 30!

[mommyatty]

Celebration! I survived the weekend! I had a work trip last Tuesday through Thursday, and I flew home so that I landed at 2:15 Thursday morning. Friday was Homecoming at the kids’ school, which is a Very Big Deal. I was in charge of tent decorating for DD’s class. Plus they were both in a parade Friday morning.

Saturday DD had her first game as a cheerleader. She was great! Unfortunately, it appears to be a disorganized cluster, which is killing me. The lady in charge has a daughter who spent the entire game crying because she wanted a chocolate egg. (Wtf? Do they still have Easter candy??) Anyway, I would have smacked the kid, and I’m generally opposed to corporal punishment in virtually every circumstance. She finally told her mom to take the kid home. Things got better from there.

Sunday the kids played really nicely together, and we just chilled at home. And I figured out how to embroider socks for DD! I’m so excited about that!!

Vents: I’m here in the office today, then out of town the next two days. So sick of traveling, and there’s not an end in sight until Thanksgiving, literally.

Also I had to take my car in today because the battery is dying.

And another vent: if I have to listen to DH and MIL complain for one more second about how tired/stressed/overwhelmed they are, when both are at home all day every day and literally each have the kids for 2.5 hours, I’m going to strangle them with my briefcase strap.

[k3am]

Celebration: DD loved the new dance class that we tried out. They're much more rigid than the one we did at the community center - for example, her leotard and ballet skirt have to go (no decorations allowed, no skirts allowed) - and I'm wondering if that's part of why she enjoys it more. So she's signed up for October and I've had to rebuy everything (ballet shoes, tap shoes, leotards, tights) because nothing fits anymore. I'm just glad I didn't buy anything in advance because in-store places only have leotards with embellishments.

Vent: DD diagnosed me with a fever yesterday. I was actually feeling pretty good at the time and only took my temperature to humor her... 100.4! It didn't last very long, but I've definitely got a cold. And of course, I'm at work.. yay?

[waverly]

Vent #1- 2 families that RSVPed yes to DS's party did not show. Did not text and say why or they were sick or anything I can explain to the kids. DD spent 5-10 minutes sobbing because her friend wasn't there. They were besties although I am not super close to the mom, so this party was my attempt at getting them together, and it totally failed. I texted the mom, she didn't respond for a week. Then she said she had deleted my text and asked me all the info on the party again, which I sent. Then she asked if sibling could come, and I said yes and she said she would be there. DD was devastated.

Vent #2- Boy scout camping was OK ish. But I only got 4 hours of sleep and it was cold and hard. My sleeping bag was warm but anything not totally covered by sleeping bag was cold. I was guilt tripped by a friend to go instead of H even though well neither H nor I really wanted to go. And friend brought her back up friend plan anyway, so while she did spend a good amount of time with me, she would have been perfectly fine on her own without the guilt trip. She is really nice, but she drives me crazy with her lack of compromising.

Vent #3- Work. So one of my co-workers had an idea shot down at a meeting which I did not attend, and is now sending out passive aggressive e-mails and handouts on management. OK... She is also having an affair with a co-worker so....

Some people were offended that I didn't tell them something in person. I was literally not here in person.

Celebration #1- I had a great day with my mom. We did pedicures and went for a walk. Later in the weekend we went for another walk near a waterfall. It is nice to go without the kids. DH took care of menu planning and groceries- I told him because I went camping. Despite DD sobbing for the first 5 minutes, DS's party went so smooth and was a huge success. We now have 8 billion pokemon cards like literally.

Vent #4- Camping was a bit sucky with cold and a little drama, but overall was fun and DS had a blast. (He did get hit by one kid though which I did not see as he was wearing gray and black and it was pitch dark out). I felt bad for that, but he didn't know who the kid was either- it was an older kid. So we just went to bed at that point.

[traveltheworld]

I finally got home from my London trip last night. Flight was delayed so I didn't get in till about 7. DH took the kids to the airport to pick me up, which was sweet, but just ended up pushing back dinner, bath and bed. So the kids were super whiny by the day because they were overtired. And DS has a cold, again. So I'm once again super stressed about his asthma flare up and woke up multiple times a night to check on him.

This week looks like it'll be hell at work. Every conference call I have is scheduled for 5 pm or later - seriously?! I want to be home for dinner!

[mustardseed2007]

This weekend was busy but fine. Attended a birthday party, took DS to the movies (Lego Ninjago was unfortunately not great), took DD to gymnastics (which was a cluster, the coaches had zero control of the kids), and ran 12 miles gearing up for a Half Marathon portion of a relay resulting in the worst chaffing on the top of my ribs I've ever had ever ever in my history of running. I promptly went to Lululemon and dropped 100 bucks on a bra that the 20 year old sales clerk promised they stand 100% behind and I could return if it doesn't work out.

This week is really what has me keyed up as I have something after work every single day. And I'm not going to make the social I wanted to go to because I have too much other stuff in the evening. Help me.

[rere]

Another celebration. No games this week! Volleyball is over til spring and the football game for Thursday is cancelled. Plus, Dh is home this week , so he is in charge of dinner. I predict nights of straightening my disaster house and binge watching Real Housewives and Downton Abby. It's amazing how much you enjoy time at home when you haven't been there in a while.

Vent : Dd was sad that a bunch of her friends were camping this weekend without her. The moms hang out and she wonders why I can't hang out with them. Well, I have known most since grade school or high school and they are 40 yr old mean girls who discard and pick up people like old toys. We are going camping in a couple of weeks, but she hates that she has to wait and her friends were all there this weekend. Hard to explain to a kid though.

[meagain]

I am new to the board and I hope you don't mind if I jump in.

Vent: I am so tired of working 2 jobs. I work 64 hours a week between the two. My house is a disaster and I am always tired and cranky. I know some people do that and more but I cannot seem to get my act together. And I am getting sick. Sore throat coming on. I don't have time to be sick.

Celebration: My sister got married this weekend. She was a beautiful bride. I am so very happy for her.

[akafred]

meagain, welcome to this board!

[rere]

Oct 2, 2017 10:09:28 GMT -5 meagain said:

I am new to the board and I hope you don't mind if I jump in.

Vent: I am so tired of working 2 jobs. I work 64 hours a week between the two. My house is a disaster and I am always tired and cranky. I know some people do that and more but I cannot seem to get my act together. And I am getting sick. Sore throat coming on. I don't have time to be sick.

Celebration: My sister got married this weekend. She was a beautiful bride. I am so very happy for her.

I know that 64 hours a week on the regular plus kids would put me into not fit to associate with other humans catagory

[k3am]

meagain, the "like" was for joining us... 64 hours a week sounds like a sneak preview of hell. I barely make it work with my 40-45.

[justcheckingin73]

Oct 2, 2017 11:07:56 GMT -5 rere said:

Oct 2, 2017 10:09:28 GMT -5 meagain said:

I am new to the board and I hope you don't mind if I jump in.

Vent: I am so tired of working 2 jobs. I work 64 hours a week between the two. My house is a disaster and I am always tired and cranky. I know some people do that and more but I cannot seem to get my act together. And I am getting sick. Sore throat coming on. I don't have time to be sick.

Celebration: My sister got married this weekend. She was a beautiful bride. I am so very happy for her.

I know that 64 hours a week on the regular plus kids would put me into not fit to associate with other humans catagory

Ditto. 

And welcome!

[186momx]

Vent: Seminar was a disaster and the only thing I learned is that we need to meet with our insurance guy to make sure we have enough cyber insurance for all the possible cyber hacking of our system

Celebration: DD had a blast staying with my mom and I got home cooked dinner all 3 nights of the seminar and didn't' have to cook for 3 whole days!

Vent: DH has his panties in a twist. He is just mad at everything/everyone and we got into a big fight Saturday night. He said I was keeping DD from him and he hadn't seen her in 3 days. This coming from the guy who didn't see her the previous weekend because he went paintballing and who sees her on Sunday and not again until she comes home from gym on Wednesday nights each week because of his own things and her schedule so the argument was just stupid. I also told him I didn't want him hanging out with the girl M and he got all upset that I won't let him have friends. No I don't like that she propositions you for drinks over Facebook and you are going and doing favors for her and being sneaky about it.

Celebration: saw the chiropractor this morning so actually can move and sit again.

[xctsclrx]

Oct 2, 2017 11:07:56 GMT -5 rere said:

Oct 2, 2017 10:09:28 GMT -5 meagain said:

I am new to the board and I hope you don't mind if I jump in.

Vent: I am so tired of working 2 jobs. I work 64 hours a week between the two. My house is a disaster and I am always tired and cranky. I know some people do that and more but I cannot seem to get my act together. And I am getting sick. Sore throat coming on. I don't have time to be sick.

Celebration: My sister got married this weekend. She was a beautiful bride. I am so very happy for her.

I know that 64 hours a week on the regular plus kids would put me into not fit to associate with other humans catagory

I second this. I worked 50 hours at my full time job and the weekend before with my Guard unit. So about 66 hours and I was a zombie on Friday. Hopefully you can find some balance soon meagain,

[justcheckingin73]

waverly, I’m sorry your DD had such a disappointing experience. DS keeps telling me where he wants his next bday party and I don’t have the heart to tell him that I’m not dropping $300 for another party where 2 people from a class of 20 RSVP and only 2 people show up (this happened twice - in Kindergarten and 1st grade). I’m over the damn parents who can’t figure out how bday parties work. Thankfully DS hasn’t been upset at the low attendance but it’s such a waste. I think for the next one, we will invite 2-3 friends and I’ll just pay for them. 

[xctsclrx]

justcheckingin73, waverly, My DH and I decided that once DS starts making "friends" he will get to pick a few and have them over for dinner and sleepover (if they are old enough) and maybe take them to the Zoo or trampoline park or something fun. I always had better birthdays that way and my parents didn't break the bank. Luckily DH and I agree.

[polecat8]

Vent: DS2 is six months old and still doesn't sleep through the night... Last night was awful. He was up 4 times between 11 and 4am. I am beat. He also has thrush, so I'm sure that doesn't help. I predict sleep training will be in order after the thrush is gone.

Vent: DH is burned out from being a SAHD. Everyone is so tired in the evening that we all just get on each other's nerves. Last night, I was in the shower for 10 minutes and when I came out, everyone was in tears. DH really needs some alone time, but feels guilty for even requesting it. Dude, I'm just trying to help you, so quit being a martyr and take the offer! I might have to disappear with the kids for a few hours this weekend...