Monday vents, celebrations

[rere]

Because I have both.

Celebrate 1: Yesterday was one of the more relaxing days I have had in a while. Took the kids to lunch and to get Halloween costumes. Then came home to a rainy day, had bean soup in my crockpot and watched a ridiculous number of House Hunters.

Celebrate 2: 2 days of work the off to spend some time with the kids on fall break and hopefully actually really clean my house one day.

Vent:I had to dig my keys out of the trash this morning where I threw out some rotten potatoes yesterday and various other nasty things. My hands still smell and so do my keys.

[justcheckingin73]

My weekend was full of my dd’s social life mostly. My vent is related to Friday night. DD went to a friend’s house and was supposed to be picked up at 10. I was falling asleep on the couch at 9:30, went to bed and got a call at 10 asking if she could spend the night. Ugh. She was with two other friends who carpooled there so I got up packed a bag for her and thankfully one of the other moms dropped the bags off. I was not happy and I’m not sure how I’m going to handle this as gets into high school and wants to go out more. I can’t stay up that late

Celebration: DH and I had a spontaneous date night. He received some gift cards from a client so we had DD watch DS, got an Uber and had way too many cocktails. We had some good conversation and got some things out that had been wearing on us so it was a good night.

[akafred]

We made it to Myrtle Beach! We didn't *quite* run out of gas, but we did have to go about 6 miles off the interstate to find gas in a tiny podunk mountain town in NC. It was awesome! Also DD made friends with an Outlaw motorcycle gang in East TN (complete with skull and crossbones and rebel flag). And I have the pictures to prove it. Fun times!

We arrived in MB on Saturday. We went to the pool Sat evening, but almost all day yesterday was spent at the stupid time share office trying to scam MIL into spending more money. These people are such scum. In May they were trying to get her to give up points. Now they want her to buy more. Also I didn't pack a swimsuit so I had to go buy one yesterday (swam in clothes Sat evening). How do I go to the beach without a swimsuit??? Communication kerfuffle between me and DH while he was helping me pack. Sigh. Anyway we went to the beach for about 90 minutes and the pool for about 45 min yesterday. Let's hope we have some more beach fun coming up! DD is really being good though. MIL is good but annoyed at time share people.

[mommyatty]

I slept more in the past two days than I have any week in the past month or more. I napped on Saturday for a couple of hours. Then actually slept late into Sunday. None of us got up until 8:00. I woke up at 5:00 but went back to sleep! Then last night I slept all night. Two nights in a row is almost unheard of recently. So I feel amazing. Still tired, but amazing.

I appliqued two of DD’s uniform shirts and they turned out so cute! I really love being able to do things like that. My mom could sew, and I always felt really loved and proud when she made something for me. Unfortunately she virtually never finished anything so I constantly had to improvise to wear what she made (use a safety pin where she didn’t put on a closure, roll pants she didn’t hem), so I try to make sure the stuff I make for the kids looks really professional.

I worked quite a bit but got the filing out on Sunday that had to go out. So yippee! I still have an epic crap-ton to do, but one deadline down, 5,423,975 to go!

[saraml13]

Celebration: We bought a second car! I had already thoroughly researched what I wanted, but was afraid that DH was going to spend weeks or months shopping around and trying to save a couple hundred bucks. Fortunately he realized that we don't have much spare time to spend shopping around and actually pulled the trigger on a car. This will make logistics so much easier for me!

Celebration 2: dS2 turns 1 this week. I couldn't think of any presents for him, so I decided to splurge and get a toddler Tula "for him".

[2chatter]

Vent and Celebration in one - DH finished his steroid course for his ear. I forgot he was on steroids and hello that is why he was such a mess! We had a great weekend.

And...I have been stressing about money because nothing balances and I go to pay big things and have to hold off because there isn't as much money there as there should be. He has been giving his kids money through the AMEX he uses for travel. So I am not insane that we are 4K lower than where we should be - that money DID just disappear. It's why I haven't been able to figure out our finances since August. I feel gas lighted because I have asked and asked and been told no, he wasn't doing anything. He swears he will be transparent but I doubt it. Considering splitting our finances because I can't handle this. So YAY I am not crazy but my spouse is a liar. Ugh.

[Covergirl82]

Vent: Something is wrong with my car and/or tires. I think the tire pressure sensor has the front and rear tires mixed up (I put air in the rear tires this morning because it said they were low, but the PSI for the front tires went up in the info system) and I'm not sure if there is a slow leak in one of the tires. Luckily I have no meetings today, so this afternoon I'm going to take it to a GMC dealership (it's still under warranty) that has a service center and have them fix whatever is wrong.

Celebration: I had a great time with DD yesterday on our girls day. (DH and DS went to a pro football game, and they had a great time.) DD definitely has some ideas of what style of clothes she likes to wear now (but thankfully no preference for stores/labels, so she was fine with OshKosh), so it's fun to have her with me to pick out a few clothes she really likes. We also went to an American Girl store and I let her get an AG doll (since the tickets to the game were almost the cost of a doll and I knew DH would let DS get a few souvenirs). She picked Nanea, the new BeForever doll (from 1941 in Hawaii).

Overall it was a good weekend. I took DS to breakfast on Saturday since I wasn't going to see him much over the weekend. I went to get a facial and massage with a friend for her birthday. The massage was a-mazing, and I'm definitely going to go back for another one sometime. Later on that day, that friend and I took our DDs to see the My Little Pony movie.

It was the big college football rivalry game in our state on Saturday (Michigan State v. University of Michigan). We are Michigan State fans, and were wearing our State gear at breakfast on Saturday, and the owner of the restaurant (a small local place) came over and asked DS if he could guess what his weekend job was in college. Turns out he was Sparty (Sparty is a big deal for Michigan State fans), so that was pretty cool.

[k3am]

saraml13, what did you guys end up with?

[k3am]

It's a mixed lot for me today. I have the day off... I had been scheduled to go get a massage and relax and do nothing all day. But suddenly DH is working from home, which means.. ew. And my massage is canceled so that I can wait for a dishwasher repair guy to come in the only appointment they had today (because DH wouldn't commit to actually WFH the whole day and "may" need to go into the office), which happens to be an 8-5 window. (They have narrow windows like 8-11, but not for same day apparently.) But I would rather miss my massage and have a working dishwasher again.

[saraml13]

Oct 9, 2017 9:28:51 GMT -5 k3am said:

saraml13, what did you guys end up with?

We got a new Kia Optima. Not the most exciting car, but a big improvement from my 2007 Civic.

[mustardseed2007]

Celebration: I survived DS' first soccer game of the season with me as the coach...that brings me to some vents...

Vent 1: DS. He will not try. He has no confidence. He is by far the worst kid on the team b/c he will not run. And the more he senses that other kids are performing better, the worse he gets. And I say that with 100% of the love of a mother for her baby boy. My goal this week is to try to carve out some time to practice power kicks with him b/c maybe that will reignite his love of the game.

Vent 2: This surrounds me being a crazy person.

There's a kid on the team who...is often not very nice. He says belittling things to his teammates during practice. I have had to call him out multiple times at practice and have told him repeatedly that there will only be positive support on our team.
During the game, after we scored our first goal, he walked up to the other team's goalie and started criticizing her "what's wrong with you! You don't know anything about being a goalie!" I called out to him from across the field "we are not doing that, all you kids on XYZ team, we are using positive words only!" At one point he was sitting on the side line next to me and started in on his critique of the goalie again, so I had a 1 on 1 with him about different skill levels and either giving support or staying quiet...

After the game, his mom makes him come up and apologize and say he's going to work on being a better sport...while maybe that should make me happy, I about died. I felt so bad. I wasn't even THINKING about the fact that his mom was witnessing all this and all my corrections. Although I can't see that I could have done it different...I still am replaying that over and over in my head. Was I too mean? Was it really that bad that I needed to call him out? I mean...I think yes. But I STILL feel bad.

[meagain]

Celebration: We had the annual hayride at my families this weekend. That's always fun and rather dirty this year as we haven't had a decent rain in awhlie

Vent: I hate driving h's truck. It's filthy. I want a vehicle of my own. Unfortunately, there is no money for a new or even used car.

[erinshelley21]

Vent: Vacation is almost over. My mom is driving me a tad crazy. I've gained approx 38 pounds on this trip.

Celebration: I'm laying in a king size bed with a sleeping baby watching tv in an empty condo. Too windy and sunny for the baby and everyone else is exploring, beaching or golfing. This is nice. It's also been a good trip. DH and I are still argument-less. No real issues from the hurricane.

[186momx]

Vent: What needed to get done this weekend didn't get done. Yes we got the inside of the camper clean but it didn't get packed. DH jumped to some random wood project and when I reminded him about the camper his response was you have plenty of time during the week to get that done. I actually started to cry as we are swamped at work so no I can't just take a day off to pack, load, grocery shop, clean house, deal with the garden/yard all before we leave Thursday afternoon. I really hate camping as all it turns out to be is DH & DD getting to have a ton of fun and me becoming a slave for our vacation time. Argh!

We are expecting our first frost while we are gone so I need to pick what produce is or almost ready so I don't loose it all while we are gone which is why garden work is on my list.

[judyblume14]

Vent - our pool closing has been rescheduled. Again. Which means I could have gone to chicken reiki after all! I'm pissed. less about the reikki and more about the face that we pay eight zillion dollars for this shitty pool company to dick us around on every single appointment. We will NOT be using them next year.

Celebration - the weekend was nice. We got to hold a teeny tiny new baby, and go to a fun party on Saturday. MIL was with the girls, so my H and i got to spend some time together without having to parent. It was enjoyable enough for a few hours that we can overlook how miserable the 3yo was at bedtime.

Aside from bedtime, that same 3yo, who usually gives me a tough time, was super sweet on Sunday - she went to the gym with me, and then we went shopping and out for donuts, and then to swim class (where she is doing awesome!). Our girls morning also gave my H some quality time with the 9mo, and he was in heaven.

[k3am]

Oct 9, 2017 9:35:36 GMT -5 saraml13 said:

Oct 9, 2017 9:28:51 GMT -5 k3am said:

saraml13, what did you guys end up with?

We got a new Kia Optima. Not the most exciting car, but a big improvement from my 2007 Civic.

Honestly I think the new lineup is pretty nice... the only thing most people don’t like about Kia is the brand reputation. If they took the logo off/rebranded and kept everything else the same, people would he all over it.

[mae0111]

mustardseed2007, I have done exactly what you did. I actually take it a step further and bench the kids that act like that. And I'm a crazy person about equal playing time, especially at that age. For soccer, I would time the shifts, and make sure everyone sat out an equal amount if we didn't have an even number of kids for 2 shifts. In softball, I would painstakingly make up a line-up to ensure that every kid got the play the "good" positions in every game, only to have a lot of kids just not show up 1/2 the time. But I've called my own kid out and others for poor sportsmanship. It's the right thing to do.

Celebration: DD1 had an awesome birthday, and was such a good kid all day. The next day DH took her to soccer, and I stayed home with DD2 who was having an awful day. DH said DD1 tried really hard (which she usually doesn't do), and had an awesome game as goalie. I even had some of the team moms texting me. So I'm bummed that I missed it, but so happy that she might be finding her groove.

[saraml13]

Oct 9, 2017 11:47:26 GMT -5 k3am said:

Oct 9, 2017 9:35:36 GMT -5 saraml13 said:

We got a new Kia Optima. Not the most exciting car, but a big improvement from my 2007 Civic.

Honestly I think the new lineup is pretty nice... the only thing most people don’t like about Kia is the brand reputation. If they took the logo off/rebranded and kept everything else the same, people would he all over it.

Agreed. I initially was focused on a Camry or Accord and discounted the Kia based solely on brand bias. But the Optima was Consumer Reports' top rated sedan last year and we really liked it when we drove a rental car this summer. We got a fairly nice trim line /option combo, and to me it feels like a much more expensive car than it is.

[waverly]

This weekend was interesting. I am adjusting to H back to traveling all the time. We had it out a few times this weekend but it feels better to clear the air and be partially on the same page with some of the things, so I think it was good.

Got a lot of stuff done Sat, birthday party, haircut and movie on Sun. Today I am off and debating what the plans are for the afternoon. H just flew out for a conference, so we spent the morning together. Kids are annoying me, so we'll see on this afternoon...

[polecat8]

The weekend started out nice enough and then it quickly went downhill.
On Saturday, DH went to the library for some alone time and I took the kids to a small free fall festival. It was hot and there were some long lines, but everyone behaved pretty good. Then we decided to go out for dinner. DS1 was a handful and DD wasn't helping the matter. I've never ate a meal faster than I did on Saturday. It was so bad that I sent DH outside with DS1 so I could pay the bill. I don't think we'll be going out to eat for awhile...
Yesterday, we had to go grocery shopping. Apparently, we didn't learn our lesson from the night before and DS1 and DD were making a scene there. I don't know what got into them this weekend. We will be having a talk with them on how to behave out in public.
Then DS2 was up every 2 hours last 2 nights. I tried feeding him, changing him, etc, but he was still getting up. I'm at my wits end on this one. I even tried letting him cry it out a few times, but he started choking, so I had to go in. I told DH to work on getting DS2 to nap and eat well today. I'm hoping to get some relief here, because I honestly don't know what else to do...

[mommyatty]

One of my employees was picked for a lateral move. That’s great. He’s a smart guy and will be much better suited to the new role. But it’s throwing my team into utter chaos. As an industry, we are cutting people left and right. So I need to absorb someone whose position is being cut onto my team, deal with a current employee who is going to want the two-step-up promotion when his boss leaves (he’s not ready for that) by managing to give him a one-step promotion, and then rejigger my team to make sure our internal clients still get great service when our team’s makeup and skill set is changing pretty dramatically. Oh plus I have an employee with terminal cancer who is finally going on disability who may never be able to return. So there’s that.

Happy Monday!

[mellym]

This weekend flew by. We got pumpkins on Saturday and went to the My Little Pony movie which was fun for DD1 but DD2 was out of her seat for most of it. Did all the laundry, grocery shopping and I got some new clothes for nursing and fabric to make baby a blanket. We carved the pumpkins on Sunday, installed the car seat, washed all the bottles and tackled more of the to-do list. I'm feeling pretty good about it but I did not want to get up this morning.

[mustardseed2007]

Oct 9, 2017 11:47:26 GMT -5 k3am said:

Oct 9, 2017 9:35:36 GMT -5 saraml13 said:

We got a new Kia Optima. Not the most exciting car, but a big improvement from my 2007 Civic.

Honestly I think the new lineup is pretty nice... the only thing most people don’t like about Kia is the brand reputation. If they took the logo off/rebranded and kept everything else the same, people would he all over it.

I was about to say this same thing. I have a friend with a Kia Optima and it's suuuuuper fancy. Love it. 

[mustardseed2007]

Thank you mae0111. It helps to hear that.

By the way, I made a very detailed line up, but we had kids not show up and it was very hot so the plans quickly deteriorated. I was subbing left and right whenever there was a goal or other long pause, and then kids were also just deciding to walk off the field when they were hot or thirsty. But I felt like it was controlled chaos and most of the time we had the right number of kids on the field, lol. Everyone took a break some times and it would have been more equal except for those self imposed, walk off breaks. oh and 4 kids played goalie, which is the only major position the kids keep track of right now. I felt good about that.

[waverly]

In other news- my kids are weird. It's DS's birthday finally officially. He chose to forgo the pumpkin farm and spend the entire day inside playing with his toys and his sister. Perhaps because I told him he had to change out of his long sleeve new Pokémon t shirt if we went outside in 80 degree weather.

So I was baking brownies (yes I actually baked!) and was washing the walls with wipes and they both wanted to wash the walls. So instead of the pumpkin farm, they chose to wash walls? 😂 They did all the stairways and their rooms supposedly. I did not inspect after because anything is better than nothing.

[186momx]

Celebration: It is the local utility customer appreciation week meaning free espresso all week long only a short walk from the office

mustardseed2007, I wish DD's coach would have done this during t-ball. Good for you! Sportsmanship is as important as fundamentals at this age!

waverly, DD loves to clean the bathroom. I'm taking advantage of this while it last.

[mustardseed2007]

An old acquaintance messaged me to have lunch with her next week. She sells Arbonne. I wonder if this is a sales call or a hope at getting back in touch with someone she once knew?

[campermom]

My life is pretty boring lol

The Disney book I made turned out so well. I ordered 2 copies, 1 for us and one for the family we went with. I opened one and it looked awesome.

We met them at the campground and were all around the fire and she opened her book to look at it. The cover looks great but then you open it up and It was a random old lady and her daughter touring NYC.

We got a ton of laughs out of it. Shutterfly is sending us another copy expedited.


My 2 year old is having a second set of tubes placed and adenoids out tomorrow. How's the recovery on this? I've only experienced the easy tube surgery.

[k3am]

Help me make the right financial decision...

Our dishwasher broke. The repair guy came out today and got it running. But apparently, something inside is cracked and will eventually need to be replaced. It could hold out for a week, it could hold out for a year, he has no clue.

The piece that needs to be replaced is pricey, in the $500 range. So we can pay $500 to get it fixed.

They gave us a voucher for $100 if we buy a new GE dishwasher in the next 30 days and replace it. And they start in the $450-500 range.

We can hold off on doing anything as long as possible and buy a new one if it comes down to it down the road, but no $100 voucher.

The repair guy says he'd go with option 3 (and hope it lasts longer than a few weeks). I would prefer to go with option 2. DH votes for option 1.

[twinmomma]

Our weekend ended up working out really well, but I'm exhausted! Spent Saturday hanging out with my girls and my sister, visited my parents and dropped the kids off, and then watched tv alone while DH was out for the bachelor party. Wedding on Sunday morning was fun and followed by an after party at the amusement park with the bride and groom. Today we picked up the kids and had a lazy day at home since we were all off.
I'm surprisingly ready to get back to work and actually get stuff done. Travel the last two weeks and upcoming trip next week has me way over my head with projects!