Stolen from MMM - Do you have your shit together?

[waverly]

Well I can understand if the weather warms up dramatically the kids won't think to grab their coat. It should still be in their locker though instead of in music or gym class. I did mention to the aftercare to grab DD's coat when the bring her over from pre-school. They were fine with it. I have lots of coats, but after 4 days of leaving coats, I start to run out, and I only have 1 winter coat.

[2chatter]

Sandwiched vent because it seems to fit here: I may be OKish but I am one disaster from a breakdown at any point. My mom’s car was totaled in a wreck that was not her fault. She was driving an early 2000s luxury car. She got almost nothing for it. She needs a car. So I took a half day to shop with her. Exh called in a favor and we found an Accord at a great price. But now I have to work from the dealer tomorrow. He offered to do it for me as he knows the finance guys there - and he said their sales game is super strong and to resist anything except gap insurance. DH will freak if I have my ex do this for me. But it would help my mom and I.

So obv I am going to take three work calls from the dealer and do this myself, after starting work at 5:30am because I am swamped, and DD gets her cast off and I get an MRI in the late afternoon.

I need fewer people to be responsible for please.

[sdlaura]

I'm with rere too. I try to savor the days when I feel like I have it together, since it reverses frequently. Overall, though, for people with two careers and three small children, I feel like we're doing pretty well.

We outsource cleaning, have babysitters help a few mornings and afternoons a week with kid drop-offs and pick-ups (that's our main crazy issue since all three kids are at different schools/daycares), and we only have a home-cooked meal a few nights a week.

We've tried hard to set up our lives to keep things together. We live below our means so we have flexibility to hire help and aren't too stressed out when we have an unexpected expense. We bought a house before we had kids that's on the same street as a good public elementary school, and live in a community that has good preschool and daycare options close by. DH drives a (cheap) electric car so he can drive in the carpool lane by himself and shorten his commute. We got an elliptical for the garage so we can fit in short workouts at home. We don't sign up for many weekend activities....etc.

Like a few PPs though, I wish we did better on the social stuff. It would be awesome to have family nearby or be able to spend more time with friends. Also when anything goes wrong - sick kid, car breakdown, unexpected work travel, or whatever - it quickly goes to shit

[msn06]

I thought of this post yesterday at daycare drop off. DD came home sporting a fabulous braid. DD was super proud ms t did the braid. I complimented her teacher on it. The reply was thanks I don't usually get to do DDs hair because she comes with it pulled back and the others need their hair put up. So I guess I'm not doing bad on that front.

[twinmomma]

This post is resonating today. I'm feeling decided "not together" at work lately. I'm missing deadlines, dropping the ball on mentoring and training my employees, and generally just feeling like I can't get my head above water and people are noticing. It's a really shitty feeling. I haven't had a full week in the office since September, and won't until the end of November. I know I'm good at my job, but it is not showing right now. It sucks.

[sweetptater]

Nov 3, 2017 12:53:14 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

This post is resonating today. 

I'll sit with you on this. I have been majorly dropping the ball. Luckily no one has noticed yet (at least I don't think they have) but I could be doing so much more than I am, instead of doing just enough to get by. I just can't find the motivation lately. There's just too. much. life happening right now. 

[waverly]

We just keep getting additional expenses thrown at us. The latest a 1200 repair on our vehicle, so the endless barrage is difficult.