week of 1/22

[shauni27]

knx9211 , yes and they are all on their own timelines. 3 friends have babies born within 2 weeks of S--the youngest of those 3 is CRAWLING for real already and the other two (both younger than S by 10 days) cannot even roll over. Who knows, man.

[thoseareradishes]

I think some kids concentrate on certain things for a while too - E can crawl, pull up to standing, and do a wee bit of cruising on the furniture, but doesn't babble yet. She is ALL about gross motor skills right now. But as far as vocalizations, she still just grunts and screeches like a pterodactyl.

[lo]

DD2 is 8 months and does not roll, but sits fine and can pull up to standing. She just wants to be held in a standing position alllllll day so I hope she learns to move around somehow, and soon!

[Mushe]

I just wanted to commiserate with you ladies with young infants. The first year of DS’s life was the abosulte hardest on our marriage, and that was a common thread in my baby group. It got better as he got older, and my husband felt more confident and comfortable that he knew how to meet the little guy’s needs. Communication is so key, though! I would let things fester, and it didn’t help an already stressful situation.

[cherryvalance]

Mushe, I'm very happy for you!

I don't feel like I really "go" here, but I think of you all frequently and hope things get easier for those of you who are struggling.

[cactuscookie]

Jan 25, 2018 15:32:14 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I think some kids concentrate on certain things for a while too - E can crawl, pull up to standing, and do a wee bit of cruising on the furniture, but doesn't babble yet. She is ALL about gross motor skills right now. But as far as vocalizations, she still just grunts and screeches like a pterodactyl.

H was more like this. For me, it was always fun to compare her to loira's A (hopefully fun for loira too...), because they had due dates within days of each other, but they had totally different priorities are far as development. H was more into gross motor movements, while A was a verbal superstar.

[cactuscookie]

Jan 25, 2018 18:09:10 GMT -5 Mushe said:

I just wanted to commiserate with you ladies with young infants. The first year of DS’s life was the abosulte hardest on our marriage, and that was a common thread in my baby group. It got better as he got older, and my husband felt more confident and comfortable that he knew how to meet the little guy’s needs. Communication is so key, though! I would let things fester, and it didn’t help an already stressful situation.

I keep wanting to post for the same reason. But I don't really have any specific to add, except just another person on the list whose marriage got kinda shitty for a while and has slowly improved. We had a super minor parenting disagreement tonight, and I was snide about it in the moment, and he got pissed, and then...we put H to bed and I apologized and he said he wasn't mad about disagreeing, just about me being snide and...that was it. So...it does get better, really. Eventually.

[loira]

Jan 25, 2018 22:49:07 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Jan 25, 2018 18:09:10 GMT -5 Mushe said:

I just wanted to commiserate with you ladies with young infants. The first year of DS’s life was the abosulte hardest on our marriage, and that was a common thread in my baby group. It got better as he got older, and my husband felt more confident and comfortable that he knew how to meet the little guy’s needs. Communication is so key, though! I would let things fester, and it didn’t help an already stressful situation.

I keep wanting to post for the same reason. But I don't really have any specific to add, except just another person on the list whose marriage got kinda shitty for a while and has slowly improved. We had a super minor parenting disagreement tonight, and I was snide about it in the moment, and he got pissed, and then...we put H to bed and I apologized and he said he wasn't mad about disagreeing, just about me being snide and...that was it. So...it does get better, really. Eventually.

Me three, except us being separated has lent a whole new level of crap of our marriage. But when we are together, it's much better. Especially now that major sleep deprivation is no longer at play.

[shauni27]

Mushe cactuscookie loira thank you. That is so reassuring. It just helps to know that it is not just us.

loira, I think of you guys a lot because you are LITERALLY doing this on your own. I keep saying I am a single parent but the reality is G is technically home occasionally, not in a different country.

[loira]

Jan 26, 2018 8:38:06 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Mushe cactuscookie loira thank you. That is so reassuring. It just helps to know that it is not just us.

loira , I think of you guys a lot because you are LITERALLY doing this on your own. I keep saying I am a single parent but the reality is G is technically home occasionally, not in a different country.

Aw, thanks. I think it's hard no matter what. We do live with my parents, which helps a lot. And I do have H for emotional support, so there is that. It's been hard on all of us, and I think it's just getting harder for A. I don't know how to fix that except with time. He'll be back end of May, and then it's for good. He's decided not to take another contract and just adjunct part time online next year, so we can work on being together and establishing ourselves here. I'm counting down the weeks.

[oneslybookworm]

Well, we are in the hospital. G was admitted for monitoring and tested positive for both RSV and Influenza A. I need my baby to feel better more than 5 days a month!

[shauni27]

oneslybookworm, no!! I hope little G is feeling better soon. Hugs, guys.

[thoseareradishes]

I hope you have a short stay oneslybookworm and G is feeling better soon.

[kellikans]

Oh no oneslybookworm! Hope little G feels better soon and you guys can go home!

[cactuscookie]

Jan 26, 2018 13:52:06 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

Well, we are in the hospital. G was admitted for monitoring and tested positive for both RSV and Influenza A. I need my baby to feel better more than 5 days a month!

Oh no! Poor little guy.

[knx9211]

Oh no! I hope G is better soon.

[loira]

oneslybookworm, I hope G feels better soon!

[Mushe]

Oh no, oneslybookworm! Good thoughts for a quick recovery for G.

[scm1011]

Oh no oneslybookworm! Poor G. I hope your sweet boy feels better ASAP.

[dellabear]

Sorry to hear hope he's feeling better soon oneslybookworm,

[oneslybookworm]

Still in the hospital. Likely a 3-4 day stay. Ugh. At least he’s staying stable (if not slightly better) and not getting worse!!