week of 1/22

[mpc]

hi everyone.

I'm a fed and officially on furlough now. It has been such a cluster. We were told to come in to work for 4 hours today to do an orderly shutdown but no one could answer if that was required or just allowed if you need it. Plus the daycare closes at 10am so I have to be out of here soon anyway. (The daycare is on federal property, so it will be closed for the duration of the shutdown.) My H is a fed too so I guess we'll all be home. We have people telling us to check our email daily for status updates, then other emails that say do not turn on your government devices and do not check your email from a personal device. So that's clear as mud. 

[pandora89]

I have another cold, blah. I am so over being sick.

Invites for my shower went out and people have started RSVPing and buying things off our registry. It's getting real

I have my glucose test next Tuesday, I hope I pass. I haven't been eating the best diet so my goal is to clean things up this week.

[icedcoffee]

Enjoy the time off mpc! I hope they can come to a resolution soon.

I am currently fighting like the 8th cold since September. I am so over it. The silver lining is that this is my first cold since weaning and now that I am not pregnant or BF I can take ALL the meds!

[thoseareradishes]

E has woken up sad crying the last two nights. It's very different from her I'm hungry cry. Saturday night it was at 10pm, and it took her awhile to get back to sleep. Last night she woke at 4am sad crying, so I fed her since it was usual MOTN bottle time. She woke up again at 5:30. I couldn't get her to settle with back rubs in the crib, so I gave her some tylenol and held her for a bit until she calmed. It's the saddest cry; I'm not sure what is causing it. I suspect her teeth are hurting. H wonders if it is nightmares, which I hope not since I can't do anything about that. Any other ideas?

[scm1011]

Oh man, mpc. That's rough. I hope the shutdown ends soon.

DS and I went to the Boston/Cambridge Women's March on Saturday. It was a beautiful day, and we listened to a lot of great speakers.

Daycare let us know Friday that they're having a little issue with DS and meal times. He has to eat alone otherwise he throws his food on the floor and demands (by pointing and crying) the other babies' food   This is definitely an issue we have at home too (he can have an identical meal snack to me, but he still wants mine and gets really worked up about it). I really don't know what the answer is, but I don't want to raise a brat. Hopefully he grows out of it?

[icedcoffee]

Jan 22, 2018 10:01:59 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Daycare let us know Friday that they're having a little issue with DS and meal times. He has to eat alone otherwise he throws his food on the floor and demands (by pointing and crying) the other babies' food   This is definitely an issue we have at home too (he can have an identical meal snack to me, but he still wants mine and gets really worked up about it). I really don't know what the answer is, but I don't want to raise a brat. Hopefully he grows out of it?

Aww--poor kid.  If it makes you feel better my kid thinks it's just hilarious to throw his food on the floor to the dog.  I have no idea how to handle it.  I've chosen to ignore it because he seems to do it more when I get upset.  It's super frustrating.  Especially when I take the time to bake him expensive organic spinach shit that goes directly to the dog.  I typically ignore and don't give him more food a la "oh---you threw it on the floor so we're done now" and take him out of his chair.  I'll give him more food like 30 minutes later then if I think he's actually hungry.  I have no idea if this is how I should be handling it or if I am damaging my kid.  

[scm1011]

Jan 22, 2018 10:16:38 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Jan 22, 2018 10:01:59 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Daycare let us know Friday that they're having a little issue with DS and meal times. He has to eat alone otherwise he throws his food on the floor and demands (by pointing and crying) the other babies' food   This is definitely an issue we have at home too (he can have an identical meal snack to me, but he still wants mine and gets really worked up about it). I really don't know what the answer is, but I don't want to raise a brat. Hopefully he grows out of it?

Aww--poor kid.  If it makes you feel better my kid thinks it's just hilarious to throw his food on the floor to the dog.  I have no idea how to handle it.  I've chosen to ignore it because he seems to do it more when I get upset.  It's super frustrating.  Especially when I take the time to bake him expensive organic spinach shit that goes directly to the dog.  I typically ignore and don't give him more food a la "oh---you threw it on the floor so we're done now" and take him out of his chair.  I'll give him more food like 30 minutes later then if I think he's actually hungry.  I have no idea if this is how I should be handling it or if I am damaging my kid.  

Yes, I get so frustrated when I spend time (and money on fancy organic ingredients) to make him a healthy snack and then he throws it on the floor.

I probably give in to his demands too much. I'll generally give him a bite of what I'm eating to placate him, but I probably should just teach him he can't have whatever he wants and let him have his tantrum. Toddlers, man!

He's the oldest in his room now (he moves up to toddlers at 15 months in a few weeks). I'm kind of hoping the bigger kids put him in his place when he tries to steal their food. Kid could probably benefit from being knocked down once or twice lol #moty

[shauni27]

mpc, such a fucking mess. I hope that something nice comes out of it for your family--some good quality time!
pandora89, I cannot believe you are just a few months from meeting this little guy! I ate AWFUL for my entire pregnancy and I was sure I would have GD but my numbers were perfect. fingers crossed for you!
scm1011, that is really frustrating. I do not have an answer for you, but maybe try talking to your pedi? I am sorry

I don't want to jinx it, but I think sleep training is going well. Sage is at least not waking up every 1.5-2.5 hours and has been able to put himself to sleep if we put him down drowsy. CIO just doesn't work because he is so stubborn. His daycare ladies both have the flu so I will be picking him up early as they are closing around noon (the sub can only work a half day today).

[scm1011]

Wooot, great news about the sleep training shauni27 ! I hope things continue to go well.

[scm1011]

Thanks, @daylily. I really appreciate the helpful advice. I definitely need to be more firm and consistent. I'm not sure what I can do in regards to consequences, other than let him sit in his high chair without food if he chooses to throw it like you suggested. I'm too quick to pick him up.

[kellikans]

I've made it to the 3rd trimester! Can't believe we'll have a baby in less than 10 weeks. We're starting on the nursery this week, and I think once we get things set up it's going to feel really real.

I'm irritated with how my MIL and SIL are handling my shower. It's in less than 3 weeks and people haven't received invitations yet. And there are people traveling from a few hours away. I'm so annoyed.

[loira]

A had an awesome birthday weekend. We took her to a play place that had a slide into a foam pit, and that's all she wanted to do. I was very proud of her for figuring out how to climb up the little rock wall to get to the top of the slide. We took her out for a birthday dinner, and she enjoyed her first ever meal off the kids' menu. The only thing that would have made it better is if H could have been there.

Glad the training is going well, shauni27!

[thoseareradishes]

So E is definitely teething - her little upper lateral incisors have broken through. Apparently she is going to teethe out of order? - more common to get central incisors first according to my quick google search.

So glad sleep is getting better shauni27!

Happy birthday A! loira

[King26]

Started sleep training and it hasn't been too bad. We are only working on nights now. He's done well putting himself to sleep in under 10 minutes. He's still waking up to eat during the night and once or twice more but those times he puts himself back to sleep in 5 or 10 minutes. When he gets really worked up I know he's hungry. If this goes well we will tackle naps in the next few weeks but I want to make sure nighttime is ok first.

[King26]

Jan 22, 2018 20:21:55 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

So E is definitely teething - her little upper lateral incisors have broken through. Apparently she is going to teethe out of order? - more common to get central incisors first according to my quick google search.

So glad sleep is getting better shauni27!

Happy birthday A! loira

I hope she's feeling better. I hate the sad cry, it kills me.

[cactuscookie]

King26 , that is great sleep-training progress! I'm so relieved for you.

thoseareradishes , I am definitely not the expert (like, you could spend 30 seconds googling and know more than me), but I think it's too young for nightmares. I say that because I remember the first time H woke up at an unusual time just totally screaming her head off, and I thought it was possibly a nightmare, but when I looked it up, it would have been on the way early side for nightmares. I can't remember how old she was then, but I'm pretty sure it was older than E's adjusted age.

icedcoffee , scm1011 , H went through a food-throwing stage a few months ago. It was ENRAGING. We did take her out of the high chair; we don't have a dog, so the longer we let her sit there and throw food, the more cleaning we had to do. But mostly we wanted to send a message that she could choose to eat or not, but throwing wasn't an option. So you throw food, and you're done, no more food for you. We would occasionally wait half an hour or so and try it again, but not usually. We also told her that if she didn't want to eat something, she could put it into the cupholder on her high chair tray. (We don't give her a cup of milk until the end of her meal, because she dumps it or puts food in it or dips her fingers into it, etc.) Honestly, I don't know that anything we did really helped, I think it was just a phase that she eventually got through. That being said, she does still put food she doesn't like into her cupholder.

[loira]

Jan 22, 2018 20:22:28 GMT -5 King26 said:

Started sleep training and it hasn't been too bad. We are only working on nights now. He's done well putting himself to sleep in under 10 minutes. He's still waking up to eat during the night and once or twice more but those times he puts himself back to sleep in 5 or 10 minutes. When he gets really worked up I know he's hungry. If this goes well we will tackle naps in the next few weeks but I want to make sure nighttime is ok first.

This sounds like great progress! A did not STTN consistently until 15 months. From 12-15 months she'd wake up once a night roughly 50% of the time. But sleep training helped SO MUCH with those MOTN bottles. Way easier to do a quick feed and stick her back in bed. If I kept my eyes half closed, I could usually get myself back to sleep much more quickly, too.

Now she's a manipulative toddler who stalls at bedtime. She recently tricked me into checking on her by pretending to be hurt. Then, when I picked her up, she grinned and said "no more sad". Lol, well played!

[scm1011]

loira, legit lol at "no more sad"!

[mpc]

At 9 pm last night I got a text from my boss saying not to come in to work today, then at 11 he sent a text saying yes come in. Of course I didn't see that til I woke up this morning. This whole thing has been so ridiculous. But here I am, at work.

Yesterday afternoon we went to IKEA and bought some shelves to try to organize the playroom. The toys have taken over and need to be subdued! It's almost funny because we have tried to be so diligent about limiting the amount of toys brought into the house, but they still seem to find a way to multiply while you're sleeping.

[shauni27]

loira, what a little stinker, lol.

[loira]

Jan 23, 2018 12:24:25 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

loira , what a little stinker, lol.

I know! I couldn't even be mad because a) I did fall for it and b) she doesn't know she's being devious, she just knows that mama's her BFF and of course she wouldn't want to go to bed when she could be having fun with me.

I know some people really love the baby stage, but I am all about the toddler years. So much fun!

[starryfish]

mpc, I hear ya. I woke up to a text from my boss telling me to come in today. I was hoping for today off but oh well. yesterday I created a HUGE spring cleanin/purge list and now am sad I can't do it this week.

S is doing well. She finally outgrew her milk allergy and OMG has it made our lives easier!!!! She is STILL not standing or walking yet (13m) but figure she will soon (hopefully).

She says mama ALL the time, barely says da da lol. She has a HUGE mommy preference but will go to my DH a lot too. But if she is crying its MAMAMAMA!!! lol

[loira]

starryfish, A didn't walk until 16 months, and it drove me crazy. But she figured it out and when she did, it wasn't just a couple of steps, she was walking laps around the house. Everyone told me not to worry, and I still worried, and now I'm the one telling you not to worry, haha.

[starryfish]

Jan 23, 2018 14:13:22 GMT -5 loira said:

starryfish , A didn't walk until 16 months, and it drove me crazy. But she figured it out and when she did, it wasn't just a couple of steps, she was walking laps around the house. Everyone told me not to worry, and I still worried, and now I'm the one telling you not to worry, haha.

Oh I know.....I am sure I will regret when she does walk lol! 

[King26]

Jan 23, 2018 13:50:47 GMT -5 starryfish said:

mpc, I hear ya. I woke up to a text from my boss telling me to come in today. I was hoping for today off but oh well. yesterday I created a HUGE spring cleanin/purge list and now am sad I can't do it this week.

S is doing well. She finally outgrew her milk allergy and OMG has it made our lives easier!!!! She is STILL not standing or walking yet (13m) but figure she will soon (hopefully).

She says mama ALL the time, barely says da da lol. She has a HUGE mommy preference but will go to my DH a lot too. But if she is crying its MAMAMAMA!!! lol

My cousins daughter is 16 months and she just started taking a few steps at 15 months. I've read that it's not an issue until 18 months.

[konapoppy]

Good luck at the u/s tomorrow Mushe. Thinking of you!

I start work tomorrow and am already a mess. At least sleep training is going well (passes a drink to shauni27 and King26).

[Chrysanthemum]

Hey everyone! I haven’t posted recently, but I always read to catch up on you all!

C turned one a few weeks ago and started a new daycare. He adjusted so easily and it seems to have actually benefitted his gross motor development. We’ve seen some huge steps in the areas he’s been delayed, which is super exciting. starryfish , C isn’t walking either. He will pull to standing, but locks his knees and just stands there. Really, he doesn’t crawl either just scoots.

All in all, we still say regularly how happy he makes us and how grateful we are for our little science miracle. 

[Mushe]

Thank you, konapoppy!

Sending you so much strength and many good thoughts for tomorrow! Have the girls already been to daycare to try it out?

[konapoppy]

Jan 23, 2018 22:18:29 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Thank you, konapoppy!

Sending you so much strength and many good thoughts for tomorrow! Have the girls already been to daycare to try it out?

Thanks! H and my dad are watching them tomorrow. Daycare starts the 5th. I am working PT until mid February and will keep them home with me a few extra days to soak up the cuddles.

[Mushe]

Jan 23, 2018 22:57:21 GMT -5 konapoppy said:

Jan 23, 2018 22:18:29 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Thank you, konapoppy!

Sending you so much strength and many good thoughts for tomorrow! Have the girls already been to daycare to try it out?

Thanks! H and my dad are watching them tomorrow. Daycare starts the 5th. I am working PT until mid February and will keep them home with me a few extra days to soak up the cuddles.

That sounds like a great idea. I went back PT too, and it really helped to ease back.