It's Monday! Vents, Celebrations?

[waverly]

Last week and the beginning of the weekend was terrible. It started to turn around Sunday. This week has to be better because I can't imagine it being worse.

[covergirl82]

waverly, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope things continue to improve.

[covergirl82]

We had a pretty good weekend, but it was busy. Saturday morning DS had a basketball game. He had a drive down the court to get a basket, and I actually got it all on video, so I was pretty happy about that all around. His team won, so the kids were pretty excited. In the afternoon DH had a bowling thing with some of his mom's family (adult-only participation), so I took the kids to see the live butterfly exhibit at the indoor/outdoor gardens. Then we came home and watched MSU lose again U of M, which was a bummer.

Sunday was church, a quick birthday lunch for a friend's daughter, and then some friends came over because DH does there taxes every year.

I didn't get to do any of the cleaning that needed to get done. I'm taking Wednesday off to go on a field trip with DD, so I'm hoping maybe I'll be able to do the cleaning that day.

[mommyatty]

DD and I were sick all weekend. We are both staying home today. It’s not the flu, unless we both had a false negative flu test. But good gravy, it feels like the flu!

[kimberlybb]

Dh and I had a great date night on Saturday. I was able to get a lot done over the weekend and feel like I'm making headway with our daycare issue next school year. mommyatty , hope you feel better soon! rere , how did your performances go?

[katrine05]

It's my birthday! Really not doing much to celebrate. DH and I had a date night Saturday and went to see a movie. My mom is taking me out for lunch today and my boss brings in a cake for everyone on their birthday.

I got my 3rd pp period over the weekend and I've been just miserable. It was so nice not having one for 2 years! I did nothing productive yesterday.

[librarychica]

Perfectly pleasant weekend here but then DD1 woke up puking so I’m trying to concentrate from my couch in between fetching and snuggling.

12 days until vacation.

[librarychica]

My laptop screen is really small and the adapter that is supposed to work with my monitor is not. 🙄

[HeartofCheese]

We had DD's bday party on Saturday. I'm going to be eating leftover cheese, pepperoni, and crackers, "unicorn" chow, and unicorn cupcakes all week long. I wasn't too upset about it at first, but I did it yesterday and I felt terrible. But I just.can't.waste.food. Ugh.

[mae0111]

We had a crazy storm roll through here Thurs night into Saturday morning. All rain around here, but 90 MPH winds in some spots and terrible flooding on the coast. We were OK, but ever town for miles around is still without power. We got a sitter for the first time in months, and tried to go out to eat without a reservation. Huge mistake. 2 hr waits everywhere, because no one had power, most didn't have heat or the ability to cook. Oops.

We had a great day as a family on Saturday. DD2 had her first ever soccer game, which she loved. I took DD1 to a hitting clinic for softball, and she did really, really well. It was so wonderful to see her have such pride in herself. Then Mass with her religious ed class, then a little party for the kids.

Sunday was an absolute shit show. I took the kids to pick out party stuff for DD2's birthday next weekend, and they fought the whole time at the store. Then I needed gas, but huge lines at the pumps because so many stations closed due to lack of electricity, and people were filling up gas cans for generators. More fighting. Then a quick run to Target because I was going to help them make slime... MORE FIGHTING. Then back in the car, where I put on their kids music... MORE FIGHTING over the song. Then we got home... fighting all afternoon while DH and I tried to figure out the last piece of our taxes. Then DH offered to put on a movie for the kids, and DD1 had a total and complete meltdown when he wouldn't buy one (instead of picking one of the 7,357,486 movies we already own or which are available through Netflix, Amazon Prime, or Verizon cable). I am talking a screaming, foot stomping, throwing things, tantrum. It happens every weekend. I'm at my wit's end.

This morning was not much of an improvement, so I'm hoping for a slightly better afternoon...

[xctsclrx]

katrine05, Happy Birthday!We don't really celebrate at our house either.

No vents just exhausted. DH being out of town all weekend and parenting a very demanding toddler, trying to get baby's room somewhat put together while being pregnant. I am just tired. I get to do it all again next weekend too. Boo.

[supertrooper1]

Happy birthday katrine05!

[mae0111]

Happy birthday katrine05!

[mellym]

We had a great weekend. DH and I had our first date night after having three kids on Friday. It was a dueling pianos benefit and was really fun to get up and dance. Saturday was errands, cleaning up more of the basement and then a pro basketball game with my work crew. The kids did pretty well and my work friends were fighting over holding DD3 so we had lots of helping hands. My parents came over Sunday to see the kids and my Dad helped us with the layout in the basement. He's going to start working on it today! I went to the spa with my BFF in the afternoon and it was so nice to catch up with her and relax.

Vent is that our soon to be 6 year old is so defiant and refuses to listen. mae0111, all the sympathy as we are going through the same thing. I thought your daughter was about the same age. She is our oldest so IDK is it normal for them to lose their shit every time they don't get their way? She is almost 6 and I feel like she should have better control over her emotions but it's always her way or the highway. We seem to start every weekend with no tv or treats because she's lost them by Friday night.

[rere]

Mar 5, 2018 8:41:16 GMT -5 kimberlybb said:

Dh and I had a great date night on Saturday. I was able to get a lot done over the weekend and feel like I'm making headway with our daycare issue next school year. mommyatty , hope you feel better soon! rere , how did your performances go?

Pretty well. Footloose was an early on, so my other performers were still sober. Everyone got a kick out it. They used the wrong version or Uptown Funk, so it cut out the last part, which we thought was the best.

Oh well, you can't be too serious when some of the other performances included the local middle school front office and counseling department singing a song about inappropriate body parts and a 6 ft 5, 250 lb guy as Dolly Parton singing "Islands in the Stream " with a mini skirt and a G cup.

[akafred]

I was sick all weekend. Wednesday i woke up with a sinus infection, and I have entered Phase II (Phase I is in the sinuses, Phase II is in the lungs). I will have to be careful not to let it turn into bronchitis as it sometimes does.

My brother came for a short visit and saw my dad sort of twice. Second time he was asleep and he didn't have the heart to wake him. We had dinner Sat night and that was about it. I was so tired from being sick.

DD's first inline hockey practice went well. They had half in a learn to skate event and half in a practice. She started out in learn to skate since she is new but quickly passed the skills and went to the practice side. She took 2 shots at the goal (drill) and made them both, but was evidently slow in taking the shot (DH went). It will be interesting to see if this sport sticks.

Sunday I had to work :/.

[2chatter]

DD and I had an amazing weekend. Lots of kayaking, canoeing, off trail hiking (we climbed some rock faces to get to the top of a waterfall - so fun), and great experiences at small town restaurants being able to make her food (I had called in advance to arrange).

We took a longer route home (we went west and south on the way, which is more direct) because of three insane road rage incidents on the way down - I avoid that area generally, and should have continued to do so. Silver lining? We biked my alma mater and ate lunch at a place where I waited tables in college. It was a fun extra!

Now we both have insanely sore throats. Stressing about that.

[mae0111]

mellym, it's the worst. I'm sorry. DD1 is 8.5, so it's totally unreasonable for her to react this way when we say no. I have been cutting her some slack on some other things lately. For example, her school work is very messy, and we've been working on getting her to be a bit neater and more organized. She fights me on it, complete with screaming and slamming doors, but I've been calm and holding my ground. But stomping her feet because I won't buy her candy at the store or let her get a new movie is unacceptable.

Is there anything that triggers your DD? I can't quite figure it out with mine. Sometimes it's dinner. Sometimes it's getting in the shower (and I can't just say "fine, skip it" anymore because she's starting to get a little funky if she doesn't shower), sometimes it's homework, sometimes it's the word "no".

[mustardseed2007]

Busy but decent weekend leading into a majorly crazy week....6 days until vacation!

Saturday I had a big brick workout and it took forever. I came home and we cleaned house before our housekeeper came. We then took the kids to the bookstore to chill while she cleaned. That was then followed by our anniversary dinner.

Sunday was spent on DD's birthday party, which went pretty well. She had a blast and the cupcakes were so cute! I managed to spend about 200 dollars less than we normally do, which was also good.

That was followed by DS' baseball practice. Although he had fun joking around with his team mates, I guess he's finally noticed he's the worst one (just like in soccer) and he participated the whole time, but in the end he said he "did horrible." I'm hoping if we work with him a bit he'll get better and then he'll start to feel better about himself. Although I'm not sure that's going to happen? DH is not a help either b/c he never really played sports when he was a kid.

Rather than spending time playing with DS, he wants to spend time doing drills himself so that he's "good enough" to teach DS. I'm like dude, stop it. Just toss him the ball underhanded.

[2chatter]

mustardseed2007 - have you tried individual sports where DS can see his progress and not have to constantly measure himself against the other players? Tennis was great for DD, who didn’t want to play fast paced team sports and it was a great confidence builder. She started team sports in 4th grade after building her confidence.

And your DH cracks me up! Mine had to wait for hats to get here to set up drills....and has yet to actually do it because he lost the link to the drills. I’m like “go outside, kick the ball”.

[justcheckingin73]

Sorry about the bad weekend waverly. I hope this week is better.

Happy birthday katrine05!

Since the kids and I had Friday off, I took them to the mall to get some clothes for DSs 1st Communion and DDs Confirmation. We had a good day.

On Saturday, we had DSs basketball game. He did really well and had 4-5 baskets. After that I went grocery shopping, came home and set up the Wii that had been sitting in the attic since we got them the PS4 for Christmas a year ago. They pretty much played that all weekend and I even got a few games in myself. We all forgot how fun it was. Saturday night I went out for apps and a drink with a good friend. I really needed that.

Sunday was more Wii playing, some outside play for DS and just being lazy.

DH is still with his Dad. I feel so bad for him. He deteriorated so quickly that I think they thought he would have passed by now. Obviously its incredibly emotionally and physically exhausting for DH, his sister and FILs wife. I’m just praying for peace for FIL.

[judyblume14]

Excluding some exhausting 3yo antics, we had a decent weekend. My H has recently been itching to get together with some of his friends. He fail to realize that, now that we live about an hour from most of our friends, and because most of them have kids... he cannot wait until noon on Saturday to invite friends them over for Saturday afternoon or evening.

Oh well, at least he got some chores done while waiting to hear back from them

[erinshelley21]

We had a busy weekend but it was really pretty great.

Saturday we went out to breakfast, then DH helped our friends unload things at their new house, then we went to Build-A-Bear with DS to make a present for DD. We got home later than I would have liked but oh well. We had DD's first birthday party yesterday. I was pretty proud of how well it went and how cute her cake smash area was. We did a mac & cheese/salad bar and it was stupidly easy.

I got frustrated this morning and threw my phone into the recliner on my way to comfort DD. DH was adamant a couple months ago that he would get up with DD during his stretch of days off so that I could hit the gym at 5am. It lasted an entire week and that was 3 weeks ago. Last night before we went to bed he asked which wake up I wanted. He has no idea why I am frustrated and I'm trying to get un-frustrated because I'm trying to just let it go and accept that he sucks at MOTN stuff and can't function as well as I do on less than 6 ours of sleep. It's not worth fighting over. Back to the phone throwing vent, I didn't grab my phone on my way back to bed and slept through the morning workout, so now I have to go after work.

Another vent: my theft deterrent system needs serviced. I'm torn between wanting it to cost over $1200 to fix since that's the amount have decided isn't worth it so I can get a newer car and hoping its a cheap fix so we can keep rolling without a car payment.

Vent 3: my brother is too busy to print off 3 reports from our quickbooks for the property management company so that we can get our taxes done. IT TAKES 5 MINUTES. Quit freaking arguing with me about how it's March 5th and we only have 10 days left in sales season to be messing with non-crop insurance stuff and go do it. You could have gotten it done by now!

[mellym]

mae0111,everything? It seems to be when we say no or not being on her terms. Teachers have told us she is a "strong" personality and likes to be in charge. I'm trying to play to those strengths and letting her do things her way when we can but she still needs to be respectful and listen to us. Examples of screaming fits this week are saying no to ice cream after supper, tv, time to come home from the neighbor's house, put your bike away, etc.

[sweetptater]

mae0111, does it happen at a particular time of the day? I've noticed that my kids need down time after getting home from school. As much as I don't like to encourage electronics, I've found that letting them zone out between getting home from school and dinner (~30-45 minutes) leads to a lot less random meltdowns.

[xctsclrx]

mellym, take this has a parent to a 3 year old and not a 6 year old, but I think it is time to double down with her and show her she is not in charge of anything. If she is going to act like a baby (toddler) then she can be treated like one. She has to earn her respect and that takes a long time. For reference my 3 year old might have one maybe two melt downs a day. Short crying mess that last about 20 minutes. Occasionally like maybe once every few weeks he will have a knock down screaming throwing kicking tantrum.

I want to say that DH and I had to have CTJ meeting with our oldest when he was around 7 about that. We timed it after he had a complete melt down and we were all calm, it worked, but we definitely had to keep enforcing it. We only had him on the weekends though. He and his mom still butt heads to the point where if we see it we call him out on it, but he doesn't act that way with us anymore. (he is 15 now)

[k3am]

I just paid $25 to ride share into work with two other people because my freaking garage door broke (massively, massively broke) and my car is trapped inside. The idea of paying to work sucks. The idea of paying to fix (and possibly replace) the broken garage door sucks even more.

We got to take the kids to the new house this weekend. I'm pretty sure DD loves it almost as much as we do. She did try to claim the master bedroom as hers though... the girl's got good taste. Now we just need the next 60 days to fly by so we can be settled. The whole school enrollment process is... going to be tricky.

[186momx]

Happy Birthday katrine05,

I worked almost 16 hours this weekend at the office and have no finished taxes to show for my efforts. Either I couldn't finish them because I needed more info from the client or couldn't finish them because of the government and all the extender crap being on hold. Corp/Partnerships are due next week and I just feel like nothing is getting done. Some how we have no appointments today so hopefully things aren't too crazy and we can get actual work done.

mellym, DD is almost 7 and has a "strong" personality and is an only. We've had a few discussions and she has a to do list for each day (her idea). She has to get everything on her list done before bed but it is up to her when she does it. Her list for Tu/Th/Fr is read, shower, eat dinner. This has really taken the arguing away over have to chores. Movies/TV are only a weekend thing right now we tend to give her 3 choices she can choose one of those or not watch TV. Sometimes she comes up with a different choice and we say okay. Such as she doesn't want to watch Cars, Sing, Emoji and asks for a baking show instead we will say okay. Good luck

[2chatter]

DS is six and went through a fit phase at the start of the school year (kinder - he was 5). 123 Magic is magical. He goes to his room to calm down (initially this was kicking and screaming, now he goes on his own when he’s upset). Consistency is key. It totally worked with being disrespectful (middle DD).

[traveltheworld]

We had a good weekend and just spent time hanging out as a family. We realized a few weeks ago that DD behaves terribly for the rest of the day (whiny, melt-downs etc.) if we let her watch TV first thing in the morning, but she gets up at 6:30 a.m. and neither DH nor I could get ourselves out of bed that early on weekends, so this weekend we told DS that if he "babysits" her, he can get a dollar. So he made her breakfast (cereal) and played with her while DH and I slept. BEST MONEY SPENT. LOL

Then we sent the kids to my parents last night for a sleep-over, and DH and I just opened a bottle of wine and watched some Neflix documentaries, it was so relaxing.