Month End TWERKS & DDOTS

[k3am]

Did I get that right? It's Thursday but doesn't feel like it.. 

[covergirl82]

Mine is a DDOT...

School ends next week (Friday, 6/8) and I'm so glad. I'm so over making lunches (I have to be gone or sick for DH to do them, so he packed lunches about 4 days this whole school year). Thankfully, the last 3 days of school are half days, so I only have 3 more days of packing lunches left.

[186momx]

Sports TWERK
DD got her certificate at gym last night saying she is now officially in Express starting 6/4. Coach A who was sitting next to the class when DD's coach made the announcement and resented it to DD was pretty negative about it and how it wasn't going to work. DD and I talked last night as she picked up on it and I just told her she has to show Coach A she is wrong but I think it is going to be a rough transition.

[msn06]

Twerk: there is still no date as to when my new boss will be here full time. She had to push to get to start spending two days a week over at my office.

District manager should be here next week but no one knows if that’s full time.

DDOT

I’m irrationally annoyed that friend asked tons of info about my sewing machine and then ordered from a different dealer to get it $20 cheaper but then paid for shipping on it now wants me to teacher her how to work it. If she didn’t save the $20 with the dealer she could have had the free in store class at my dealer.

[k3am]

msn06 - "Hey! I don't have time to give lessons, but you may want to try my dealer. I know they do free classes with purchase, they may be willing to let you sign up for a nominal fee."

Her problem is not your problem.

[xctsclrx]

Last Day of May! Next month is baby month. I am ready to be done!

and on that note my job is being um dumb. I was supposed to have my back fill May 7th so I could have a month to train him. Now he won't be here until June 7th which gives me two days. . . Well four but I am not counting the last two because I am working half days.

WTH? you guys have known I was pregnant since December we had a plan in place since Feb. No one took any action on this until I reminded people I was 7 weeks away from my due date. My job is not easy. It takes time. My back fill will now be useless and actually cause my team more work because they will be training him. By the time he is in a groove I will be back.

[mommyatty]

msn06- the place I bought my machine gives lessons. Free if you bought it there, $25 if you didn’t, for machine embroidery.

[msn06]

k3am and mommyatty. I will work on it but it’s hard when she’s coming over for a sewing day this weekend. 🤦🏻‍♀️ My other issue is another friend is looking at new machine and this friend is directing her toward the dealer that’s way far away because I know so much and can help. I need to work at not being so accommodating for things like this.

[akafred]

I hope she has to pay $25 for the lesson since she saved $20. That would be karma at its finest.

[akafred]

TWERK - DD's bad attitude has been creeping back this week. It is her birthday week so hopefully next week she will be back to her new awesome normal.

[xctsclrx]

akafred, could it be the transition from school to summer? Different routines might be causing stress and anxiety?

[waverly]

I mentioned a tax issue for a while. I think it is finally resolved. They knocked 20K off our 23K bill. We didn't owe the 23K in totality because it was on 401K rollovers, so it was a filling out the paperwork wrong issue with the rollover (thanks DH). And part of the reason I forced him to use a CPA this year (and every year hopefully). So that is awesome news!

[polecat8]

MIL was finally discharged from the hospital to home yesterday.
FIL is already confused because the doctor took MIL off of some medications, including blood pressure pills. FIL wanted DH to help get MIL in the house when she was discharged, but DH had to get DD off the bus. So I have no idea how MIL got in the house.
PT/OT and a home nurse and aide have been scheduled to help FIL. I have no idea how all of this will work out...

[mommyatty]

polecat8- I can guess how it’s going to work out: not well. But FWIW, it sounds like MIL is ready for hospice. My MIL brought FIL home to die. It’s what he wanted. She has no regrets about that, and only regrets not doing it sooner. But if your FIL is under the impression his wife is getting better, he’s sorely mistaken.

[erinshelley21]

DDOT: I've spent the entire day lounging around the house. I felt like crap yesterday, ended up with a low grade fever last night, and could barely function this morning. Looking back at my calendar, our weekends have been jam packed for the last 10. This happened back in February. I got sick, biggest symptom was exhaustion, but mostly fine other than that. I need to find a way to slow our family down but I don't even know where to begin.

[mommyatty]

I’m enjoying the heck out of summer. I still have to work like a fiend, but I’m trying to really embrace weekends and take afternoons off here and there.

[sandandsea]

We are in the lyft on the way home after vacation. We go back to work on Monday and I’m not ready. Vacation is amazing. One thing we kept bringing up is how we want our kids to travel internationally growing up to see the world is large and have more awareness. Our boys are 4.5 years apart and have been around the US, including HI, and to Mexico and we live in CA. At what age would you venture further? I’m thinking the youngest has to be 4 or a very potty trained 3.

Also, how do you teach your kids a second language? Dh is fluent in Spanish but not around/talkative enough for any kind of immersion and I’m a baby Spanish speaker with a horrible accent. I want them to learn it when they’re young but am stuck on how. Do we buy educational videos?

[2chatter]

In more mortgage servicing woes - our loan was sold at the end of last year. New servicer sends me a letter that there’s a partial payment in an unapplied funds account. I call and they say there isn’t but that there’s an extra amount due. I paid that, but WTF. I think they made an error and didn’t have time, but I have never made a payment in the amount they claim as a partial, pay on time like clockwork and the extra amount doesn’t match an escrow shortfall or anything else. It’s bizarre. I am handing this to DH to chase down tomorrow.

Oh, and their letter said we may be in foreclosure. You know, with zero lates. These clowns have me so mad!

[k3am]

2chatter, why do mortgage people suck so bad?!?!?

[2chatter]

May 31, 2018 16:33:50 GMT -5 k3am said:

2chatter, why do mortgage people suck so bad?!?!?

I still feel sick after opening the foreclosure letter. I also realize I forgot to eat lunch. I am still SO MAD and after DH figures out WTF is going on I am pretty sure I am going to BLAST them on social media. This is a major, national servicer. There’s no excuse for this insanity, especially the crazy foreclosure letter with no lates!

[traveltheworld]

Adding to the mortgage woes - we are closing the sale of our townhouse rental tomorrow. We got the payout statement yesterday and it makes no sense. I spent all day trying to chase down someone at the bank to figure this out. So far the response has varied from: "go talk to your account manager" (um no, we don't have one, it's just a mortgage) to "this is just what the computer calculated, and the computer is never wrong" (but you can't explain the calculation???)

I've instructed our lawyer to just close tomorrow and we'll sort it out later, but it's infuriating.

[waverly]

May 31, 2018 16:18:49 GMT -5 sandandsea said:

We are in the lyft on the way home after vacation. We go back to work on Monday and I’m not ready. Vacation is amazing. One thing we kept bringing up is how we want our kids to travel internationally growing up to see the world is large and have more awareness. Our boys are 4.5 years apart and have been around the US, including HI, and to Mexico and we live in CA. At what age would you venture further? I’m thinking the youngest has to be 4 or a very potty trained 3.

Also, how do you teach your kids a second language? Dh is fluent in Spanish but not around/talkative enough for any kind of immersion and I’m a baby Spanish speaker with a horrible accent. I want them to learn it when they’re young but am stuck on how. Do we buy educational videos?

The answer is it depends. I know one family where the husband is Spanish so they do send their children to a Spanish immersion school in the city. He works nearby and does drop off and pick up I guess.

I wanted my kids to learn, and I am around but I faced resistance from them. I am not fluent but proficient. So what I have ended up doing is just talking to them sometimes and some words. And I do have an app on my phone but I didn’t go as far as to pay and upgrade it.

[waverly]

May 31, 2018 14:13:18 GMT -5 waverly said:

I mentioned a tax issue for a while. I think it is finally resolved. They knocked 20K off our 23K bill. We didn't owe the 23K in totality because it was on 401K rollovers, so it was a filling out the paperwork wrong issue with the rollover (thanks DH). And part of the reason I forced him to use a CPA this year (and every year hopefully). So that is awesome news!

Nevermind. He read the letter wrong and those amounts weren’t right either. I don’t understand how a man who is so smart can be so dumb and can’t read for comprehension either.

[traveltheworld]

May 31, 2018 16:18:49 GMT -5 sandandsea said:

We are in the lyft on the way home after vacation. We go back to work on Monday and I’m not ready. Vacation is amazing. One thing we kept bringing up is how we want our kids to travel internationally growing up to see the world is large and have more awareness. Our boys are 4.5 years apart and have been around the US, including HI, and to Mexico and we live in CA. At what age would you venture further? I’m thinking the youngest has to be 4 or a very potty trained 3.

Also, how do you teach your kids a second language? Dh is fluent in Spanish but not around/talkative enough for any kind of immersion and I’m a baby Spanish speaker with a horrible accent. I want them to learn it when they’re young but am stuck on how. Do we buy educational videos?

We took DS to Asia when he was 2 and just took DS and DD to France and they were almost 6 and almost 3. DD was not potty trained, which I found worked out well - no need to find bathrooms in a pinch. We thought it'd be quite a mess travelling with two kids to a foreign country, but we had a blast. We are now planning to go back to Europe (either Spain or Italy) next year. Do it! You'd love it!

[supertrooper1]

TWERK : I got great news at work this week. The supervisor I was worried about won't be my supervisor after all. My branch ended up being reorganized and my new supervisor is awesome. He is a no bs kind of guy that will let me do my job.

DDOTS: the cables on my garage door came undone. I took it upon myself to try to fix it. After a couple of YouTube videos, I was able to fix it, or so I thought. One of the cables ended up being too stretched out so it comes undone when I open the door. I was hoping to save a couple hundred dollar service call. But I still feel good about being somewhat handy today.

[freezorburn]

TWERK: I'm loving this new little waffle iron that DS and I picked up on a whim at Target over the weekend. It makes individual round waffles that look exactly like an Eggo. Downside is the lack of efficiency from having to make them one at a time. Upside is that I love that they are thin and have smaller squares. I've been feeling kind of meh about the Belgian waffle stick iron that we got off of our local Buy Nothing group. Have been looking for a thin-old-style waffle maker and they are surprisingly hard to find.


(Mug for scale)

DDOTS: Having coffee tomorrow with an acquaintance, and feeling a bit cautious. I've known her for several years, and this last year of her life has been a bit of a train wreck, much of it as a consequence of her own choices. And have been hearing odd things about her behavior from mutual friends/acquaintances, that gives me the impression that people in our community are beginning to distance themselves from her. I don't know if anything will come up. And I would never betray anyone's confidence, nor would I betray hers. It's sad to see someone so in need of support behaving in a way that is alienating people. And I will probably be walking a fine line, too, because I can only offer so much of my time and energy. I don't really owe her anything but I want to be kind.

[mae0111]

DDOTS - after advising her not to, and after telling us repeatedly that she hadn’t, I found out DD1 told one of her frenemies thstvshe is going to Awesome Private School next year. She lied to us about telling her for weeks.

I’m angry that she lied. This has been an issue with her lately. I get that it’s a big secret for an 8 year old to keep, but she kept asking when to tell, and we told her to wait until her last week. She still has over 3 weeks left. So she’s been playing along with us, insisting she hadn’t said anything.

I’m also annoyed because I didn’t get to help with her messaging. The reality and the message are different. Message would simply have been, “my parents wanted me to go to Catholic school.”

Now the mom that confronted me about my DD telling her 8year old DD that Paw Patrol is for babies wants to “chat” today. Ugh. I have no idea what my DD told her DD about why she’s leaving, and I can’t get a straight answer out of DD. I have a strong feeling that I’m walking into a confrontation, and I’m not looking forward to it.

Really can’t wait to leave that school behind.

[2chatter]

mae0111 - I am a coward who has decided I don’t actually have to endure these conversations when no wrong has been done. I hate the way other adults make me feel like I have done something wrong, judged, and stressed when it’s their issue. I use “I’m on back to back calls but can text” for those scenarios some of the time - and like today, it’s even totally true!

[polecat8]

freezorburn, I love the coffee mug! I'm from the Pittsburgh area.

[polecat8]

mommyatty, I think FIL is in denial that MIL will go back to 'normal' (whatever that is). I think the care needed for her is going to increase, not decrease. Honestly, I think MIL is on the path of a long decline. She can't do anything unassisted (including eating and standing up) and is still pretty confused on everything. DH is trying to set lower expectations, but FIL doesn't get it. All we can do now is watch and wait and provide assistance when needed. I'm not above calling the department of aging if the situation becomes unsafe for either of them.