@randoms 7/9

[HoneySpider]

suzv, I think if you go with the full name Mabel it does sound old fashioned, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. (DS's middle is after my grandpa so it's an old person's name)

[estrellita]

suzv I don't personally find the girls names that old fashioned, just because the first names are back in style (especially Violet). And I agree that I don't think it's a bad thing. FWIW my cousin's daughter has one of those names and her middle name is Esther.

And for the boy's name, my only hesitation is that he would basically have 3 last names. Obviously Harrison is used a lot for a first name but it's also super common as a last name. So that plus a middle name that isn't usually a first name sounds a little off to me, but that's just my opinion

[pooh8402]

I love the girl names, and I'm not so hot on the boy name idea, for reasons already mentioned.

[katespade]

Jul 10, 2018 15:48:50 GMT -5 suzv said:

Now that I think of it, my dad did tell me that the full boy name sounds like the name of a law firm. I’ll just not worry about it until we find out the sex on August 4.

I didn't think of this until you said it, but now that you've put the idea in my head I think your dad makes a really good point. lol.

I loooove the girl names. I think Mabel is adorable! Plus, I feel like one of the great things about middle names is how infrequently they're used in day-to-day life. I have a really weird middle name (with an apostrophe in it!), but no one I meet knows what it is unless I go out of my way to tell them. I also love it because it's a family name and it holds a lot of meaning for me. It's my mom's middle name, and mine, and I'm definitely passing it on to my daughter. It would never, ever work as a first name, but as a middle name I think it's great.  

FTR: I think Mabel would be adorable as either a first or a middle name, and I don't think it's too old fashioned at all. But if you're worried about it being too old fashioned as a first name then I think it would be perfect as is for a middle. 

[estrellita]

Ugh, this baby. I blame H. Lol. He gives in so easily. The second she cries he picks her up and brings her out to the living room. Apparently we've established her sleeping in the infant chair next to H on the couch with his hand on her. So now H is sick of it and doesn't know what to do. We've tried letting her cry a little but she just flips out constantly. Like full on screaming, spitting, flailing, kicking her feet, etc. I have no idea how to get her to calm down on her own. She just keeps screaming her head off until we pick her up.

Also she's currently screaming her head off at H. She is obsessed with him and wants nothing to do with me. Punch in the gut considering how much it kills me sometimes that I gave up on nursing. Ugh. I don't know if we/I did something wrong or if she's just a difficult baby

[ewall]

Hugs estrellita! You didn't break your baby - every kid's needs are different.

(I'm typing this as I sleep on the couch with the baby in the bouncer...whatever works...)

[estrellita]

Jul 11, 2018 2:18:17 GMT -5 ewall said:

Hugs estrellita! You didn't break your baby - every kid's needs are different.

(I'm typing this as I sleep on the couch with the baby in the bouncer...whatever works...)

I was fine with whatever it takes to sleep for a while but right now H is holding A and they're both sleeping. She just ate and was flipping out in the chair so he has to hold her to get her to stop screaming. I still don't see or feel teeth and I can't figure out anything else that might be wrong. She just wants to be held ALL the time and that's not safe or possible. I've considered bed sharing but I'm nervous about doing it safely. And I don't want that to be a long term thing. H was supposed to bring A into the bedroom last night instead of letting her sleep in the chair but he didn't even try. I'm annoyed that he's complaining about it and it seems like he wants me to fix it.

[MrsMB]

Personally, I don't mind the law firm names as my son has one that sounds like that. But that worked for us

I have a girl in my church nursery named Mabel. It's pretty cute She's a sweet baby.

[ewall]

estrellita ear infection? Not sure how long she has been inconsolable at night.

Otherwise, maybe send E to your parents for a weekend and buckle down for some CIO :/

[estrellita]

Jul 11, 2018 9:29:32 GMT -5 ewall said:

estrellita ear infection? Not sure how long she has been inconsolable at night.

Otherwise, maybe send E to your parents for a weekend and buckle down for some CIO :/

I have considered that but she isn't really pulling at her ears. She does hate being on her back at night though. I'm considering taking her in just to be sure but I hate going in and wasting time when it's nothing. But then I'd feel bad if I don't take her in and something's wrong.

Is it possible to do CIO when she's in our room? At some point we'll move her in with E but not until she consistently STTN and can calm herself and E can go to sleep more easily and we can trust him to leave her alone. I'm slightly regretting this house right now.. there's another bedroom but it's upstairs and full of junk right now. We never go up there, lol.

[MrsMB]

suzv Great news!!!!

[katespade]

Jul 11, 2018 9:26:08 GMT -5 suzv said:

NT scan went well! Measuring a few days ahead too!

YAY!!

[luv2rn4fun]

Great news suzv!!

estrellita- ((Hugs)). Ditto what ewall said. You didn’t do anything wrong. FWIW (and definitely bot encouraging) but I sleep trained both boys early. They knew/know how to put themselves to sleep (I still fed both for a while, 10 months and 17 months). That said, DS1 STTN pretty consistently once he night weaned but it’s been almost 5 months for L and he still wakes at night (but goes back to sleep without any or much help...and sleeps in his own room so we all can get the best sleep possible).

Maybe talk to your pediatrician and see what he/she suggests. I have never done CIO in the same room so no advice there (seems like it would make it worse). If I were in your shoes I would consider clearing that other room out and likely put A in there for awhile and then transition to E’s room....or send E away for a long weekend (maybe with you while your DH handles sleep training!?!) and see how it goes. But your DH just caving to her wants isn’t helping it get better (it’s fine if that’s what he wants but it sounds like he’s done so A needs to figure out how to self soothe to some degree). It’s hard and it sucks and there are so many different paths. I hope you guys figure this out and get better sleep soon! She will sleep eventually!!! L was horrible and still isn’t great but it’s better than it was at 6 months 😀

[estrellita]

luv2rn4fun Thanks! The problem with putting her upstairs is having to go up there when she needs something instead of in the same room or eventually just across the hall. We even have the door to the upstairs blocked half the time because it's just been a storage area since we moved in, haha. It's on my list to get things cleaned up there. We've considered moving ourselves up there and kids in the 2 main floor rooms but I'm paranoid and don't feel completely comfortable with that either. Maybe it's weird but in my head I'm imagining that if something bad were to happen, it would be on the main floor and not get to us first, KWIM? Plus there's no bathroom upstairs, lol.

[luv2rn4fun]

Speaking of sleep...it’s been so hot here and we can’t afford to run the a/c all the time. So DH has been opening all the windows except L’s (I won’t let him due to fear of him not sleeping well...it’s noisy, light, etc). He also opens both bedroom doors when we go to sleep (usually they sleep with their door shut). Anyways, L ends up waking C up between 4-5...I go to close both doors and C yells that he wants it open. He also doesn’t fall asleep now til we open the door at night (whereas at nap he sleeps with everything closed no problem).

C is such an overtired mess and it’s wearing on everyone (we are all tired from vacation and then this heat and not getting enough sleep). DH is being hard headed and thinks we just need to leave the doors open...we go to bed later than them and are up earlier...I don’t want to start a habit of early wake ups...they already are up by 6-6:30 (C used to sleep til 7 but hasn’t been lately and I believe he was up at 5 today when L woke him up). Is summer over yet!?!

[luv2rn4fun]

Jul 11, 2018 15:41:39 GMT -5 estrellita said:

luv2rn4fun Thanks! The problem with putting her upstairs is having to go up there when she needs something instead of in the same room or eventually just across the hall. We even have the door to the upstairs blocked half the time because it's just been a storage area since we moved in, haha. It's on my list to get things cleaned up there. We've considered moving ourselves up there and kids in the 2 main floor rooms but I'm paranoid and don't feel completely comfortable with that either. Maybe it's weird but in my head I'm imagining that if something bad were to happen, it would be on the main floor and not get to us first, KWIM? Plus there's no bathroom upstairs, lol.

Yeah, I wouldn’t be comfortable with that either at this point. We have a room downstairs and then 3 upstairs. We are all upstairs. I am paranoid of when C can escape his room...we have no baby gate on the stairs etc so I fear the worst. But I would think being on the same floor helps and we would likely hear him.

((Hugs)). Such a tough spot to be in. You guys will figure something out...when your DH decides he’s realy done holding A all night long. But he has to be there and you both have to find a strategy you are comfortable with. I think talking to your pediatrician might help get you guys there.

[estrellita]

Kinda TMI

DC called and said A has blood in her diaper. Yikes. She had beets this past weekend but I'd think that would be out of her system by now. I remember E had this happen once too and it was just from being a little constipated. A's poop has been a little firmer now with solid food but I don't think it would have caused this. So I'm sitting here pumping as "fast" as I can (because if you've pumped, you know you can't speed it up easily, lol) so I can run back up and tell my bosses I'm leaving like, now because we got an appointment at 10:30 (it's just after 9:30 now). I'm really hoping it's nothing!

[estrellita]

Jul 12, 2018 9:55:23 GMT -5 suzv said:

estrellita Jack had MSPI which was diagnosed after blood in his diapers. Could be that. We had to go on alimentum formula which is pricy but made a difference in his sleep and overall fussiness within a few days.

Ugh, I'm afraid of that, lol. She has been fussy (obviously from my posts, haha). They're going to check her ears too. Do you think it would get this bad at 7.5 months even though she hasn't really had symptoms until now?

[Deleted]

suzv: I like the girl names and they were all on my list at one point. So like PPs said, they may be old-fashioned, but they are in style.
I agree that the three last names will be confusing. Our LN can be a first name so we eliminated any boy's names that can be last names.

katespade: I saw your pregnancy announcement. I was saying to DH that the MN must have family significance because it was different. Nice that you two will have that unique connection!

[katespade]

@opal - Yep! I grew up with two apostrophes in my name. One in my middle and one in my maiden name. When I got married, my dad tried to convince me that I should either keep my last name or hyphenate, rather than take H’s. I was like.... yeah, no. I’m getting rid of some punctuation, not adding more! 😂

[katespade]

Also, can I share one of my favorite announcement pictures that didn’t make it to social media? (PDQ)



❤️

[estrellita]

katespade Love it!

[estrellita]

So good news, A just had a couple fissures. Had to explain to DC it's just a break in the skin, lol. Doctor prescribed some cream to help it heal and just said to watch for an actual fever (temp was slightly up at 99.3), and actually bloody or black stools. Checked her ears too and they were fine.

I did also talk to her about A's sleep and she basically suggested CIO. We did have her in the PnP longer last night and I'm hoping to keep stretching it out. I told her about how A just screams and won't calm down and she kinda made me feel like "yeah, it sucks to hear your baby cry". It's not just crying. I don't think I can sufficiently explain the severity of her screaming. She literally sounds like someone is ripping her arm off. It honestly doesn't bother me for her to cry a little (I mean, I don't WANT her to cry, I just know it's inevitable and if she's fed/changed/etc she's fine to cry a little bit). But it does bother me that she's screaming her head off, flailing, kicking, spitting, everything. Sigh. Wonder if we could squeeze the PnP on H's side of the bed, maybe that would help her at least sleep in there?

[awick14]

suzv- I like the girl names, but agree with others on the boy name. And yay for a good NT.

estrellita- I hope that it won’t take long to break her of this habit. Dh tends to take the easy way out and then when he tries to change things he gets upset.

For example, at night I give her a cup of milk and when she is done we cuddle and then I put her in her crib awake. She tosses and turns or plays with her stuffy for 5-10 mins and she sleeps through until 6:30am. When dh puts her to bed he gives her a bottle (I just found out that he’s still giving her a bottle yesterday, Urg) and rocks her to sleep. Then she wakes up between 2-3am and needs to be rocked to sleep again and sleeps until 6-6:30. But the only way she will fall asleep for him is on him. It’s frustrating.

Freckles, I’m glad it’s nothing serious. I hope it heals fast.

Dh is going on a fishing trip this weekend, so my mom is coming out to hang out with us on Saturday and she will babysit Sunday until she gets home around dinner time. I am trying to figure out what to do on Saturday with my mom and DD.

[estrellita]

awick14 Maybe it's a dad/daughter thing because I don't really remember H doing this with E, lol. Then again E was a better sleeper as a baby. Now he's fine to leave E screaming in his room. Obviously different at his age, because he can talk and he's usually screaming because we took something away, but still. (And FTR we don't just lock him in there to scream, it's usually a last resort and I always make a point of going back in the once he's calmer and talking to him). Anyways, H did agree to try putting the PnP on his side of the bed so we can try that. I'm hoping her being next to H will help!

[bk1]

suzv I love all the names. I agree with the sounding like a law firm for the boys name, but I don't mind that. Our first choice boy name is your last name, so obviously using a last name as a first name it something I like. 

estrellita Glad you got her checked out! I hope the sleep issues get better. It's so different with each kid for sure. 


TMI:
We have been busy this week. Today C has thrown up 3 times, including right when we got to the splash pad. Ugh. G has handled it all well but I felt bad for the girl that we had to pack back up and come home. G also had an accident in her swimsuit right before we left. I've already done one load of vomit laundry today and now I have another load with a poop smeared swim suit bottom as well. 

[estrellita]

bk1 liked for the response, not the rest of the post! Poor C, I hope she feels better soon! E has had a few accidents recently and I'm trying so hard not to be mad about it. I know it happens but sometimes he just doesn't care. The other day he was playing in the living room and suddenly he says "I just peed". Really kid?! He should know better by now, he's been PTed for about 10 months! Not to mention the poop accidents at DC.. ugh!

[estrellita]

E has a fever now. Ugh! Idk what's wrong. He said his tummy hurt but he doesn't feel sick. It's 101.3 in one ear and 100.4 in the other. H said he can stay home and work. I'd feel terrible calling in tomorrow after leaving so abruptly today! I hope it's just a quick thing and that it's not another tummy bug. I will flip if we all get that thing again!

[ewall]

bk1 I hear you on the laundry! Between newborn blowouts and 3 year old poop training...I was looking at the settings on my washer. There are stain settings for blood, chocolate, etc, but I'm all like where's the shit setting because that's where I'm at in life right now, lol.

estrellita we had 2 random pee accidents this week, too. Glad A is okay, and I hope it's nothing major with E!

[estrellita]

Poor E was so miserable last night. He woke up crying a couple times. The first time we think a moth maybe flew in his face because we have a few floating around the house and he was just crying and pointing toward where one flew. We ended up giving him some ibuprofen then because he was obviously achy from the fever. The second time H went in and said he was shivering so he covered him back up with the blanket and sat with him until he fell back asleep. He still hasn't gotten sick or anything so I'm not sure what's going on.

Poor A seems to have a diaper rash. It's like she's experiencing this backwards. I would think a fissure would happen after the diaper rash, but she had the fissures and now her skin is just red and doesn't look great. She's also been pooping multiple times a day.. it was like 4-5 times yesterday. So that's not helping matters! My poor babies

ETA apparently another kid went home last night and started throwing up. Awesome. Hoping so much that E doesn't today