Week of 7/16

[icedcoffee]

Originally our plan was to TTC "naturally" from July until November and then call the RE with the plan of starting IVF or IUI in April 2019. (We would take a break for the winter to avoid another Sept - Dec baby if possible).

Well---It's been 2 weeks and DH confided that he's finding this too stressful and he wants me to call the RE.  Soooo...I called this morning and we have an appointment for early Aug.  I'm not even sure if we have time to cycle before Thanksgiving, but I guess it's worth a try.  I know they'll need me to redo some testing.  UGH.  I don't know how I feel.  I did not expect that coming off BCP would be so stressful for both of us.

Anyway--I know they'll want me to get a more current pap smear so I was able to get squeezed in for that on Friday with my gyno so....let the tests begin.

[icedcoffee]

In happier news, DS was sent home from daycare with a fever on Friday. I was worried our weekend would be a bust, but it seems like it was only a 5 hour fever and he was great the rest of the weekend!

[scm1011]

Good luck, icedcoffee. We didn't even entertain the idea of TTC naturally; the stress of it is still too fresh in our minds. I redid my tests in late spring and will start meds in a week or two once AF starts, for a FET in early September.

We had a crappy weekend and I'm actually happy to be back at work. DS was kind of a nightmare, just tons of whining/crying about EVERYTHING and even more clingy than usual. I think he must be going through some sort of leap. Then a family friend was murdered in the line of duty yesterday (police officer). I'm so devastated for his family (he had two young kids).

[icedcoffee]

Oh...and one more thing. LOL I got a new job this year in my home state which is one of the mandated fertility treatment states for insurance purposes. It was part of the reason I moved jobs. So, I called Cigna this weekend to confirm what my fertility benefits would be. The guy was a total idiot, but 2 things he said left me laughing:

1. He says no Cigna plans cover IVF because they consider it experimental (this is not true, I'm 90% sure my plan actually does cover it). Experimental? LOL, no. It's science, not an experiment.

2. After he said IVF is not covered I said "What about IUI?". He said, no that's not covered, but IUD's are and then listed like 12 IUD brands that are covered. Yeah, that's not going to help me.

I gave up and asked my RE to please confirm my benefits and let me know what they are.

[icedcoffee]

scm1011, Had I know this would happen I would have done my tests in the spring too. Ugh. Oh well.

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. That is terrible. DS has also been having a lot of "temper tantrums" lately. It's exhausting.

[pooh8402]

Good luck icedcoffee. We also didn't really entertain TTC on our own either. We had 3 embryos on ice so what was the point? Learning that DH has anti sperm antibodies justified that we made the right decision.

ETA: LOL to that insurance guy. He obviously has no clue. I totally would have spoken to someone else. Texas is technically a mandated state, but employers have the ability to opt out of paying for IF coverage. Wtf is the point of a mandate then?

[pooh8402]

Today is E's 3rd birthday! Omg I can't believe it. We had his party yesterday and it was a huge success!

[thoseareradishes]

icedcoffee, good lord, that's so annoying. Do you have a patient advocate you can call? I have a person I call who figures out all my insurance stuff for me, he works for a separate company from the insurance but my H's company pays for the service. It's great. I was so sad when my person got moved to a new division, I swear I was on the phone with him every week for a while.

E did great at gym class today. She did this exercise where she held onto the bar, then the teacher put her feet up on the bar too, and she hung on really well. Downside to gym class is that she climbs on EVERYTHING now. I can't let her out of my sight!!

[grover]

I'm thinking of starting to test on Wednesday, which also happens to be H's birthday. We had our first beta with A on his birthday in 2016, so maybe that will be good luck? Official beta isn't until Monday though, but Wednesday will be the same dpiui as our positive with A.

[icedcoffee]

Jul 16, 2018 10:59:16 GMT -5 grover said:

I'm thinking of starting to test on Wednesday, which also happens to be H's birthday. We had our first beta with A on his birthday in 2016, so maybe that will be good luck? Official beta isn't until Monday though, but Wednesday will be the same dpiui as our positive with A.

Good luck grover!  I love crazy coincidences like that.  DS was born at 39 weeks on my dad's 65th birthday.  I realized yesterday that if I somehow get pregnant this cycle (very unlikely), this baby could potentially be born at 39 weeks on mom's 65th birthday.  

thoseareradishes, I'm not sure about a patient advocate, but my clinic is pretty good about working with insurance directly.  I also found some very hidden document on the cigna portal this morning (they do not make it easily found) that seems to indicate we are covered for IVF.  We would need to try for 2 years or do 6 IUI's first, but male infertility seems to be a loophole for skipping all that so I'm feeling hopeful!

[pooh8402]

I love those kinds of coincidences too, grover. E's birthday is also my stepdad's birthday, is also my maternal grandparents' anniversary.

FX for you this week!

[cactuscookie]

I'm kind of annoyed that we just barely missed one of those coincidences. My brother turned 40 and my nephew turned 10 the day we went in for H's induction - so she was born the next day.

[shauni27]

scm1011, I am sorry for your loss. And sorry you had a chaotic weekend with C.
I love that you send E to gym classes already, thoseareradishes! So cute!!!

Similar to scm1011 we had a hectic weekend a lot because of S being super cranky and fussy and not sleeping well and just clingy, etc. We had friends come up on Saturday and went to the brewery and played and had fun. But that led to a late nap which he did not wake from until 4:30. So then his bed time was thrown off and he CIO for 2.5 HOURS before falling asleep. Then he woke up again a few hours later and cried for another hour before I went in and got him. Sunday he was just crying and throwing himself at me all day. We also did a photo shoot in the 90 degree sun and I fear for how sweaty we will look.

S is also teething again.

And guys, I know I am a broken record with this sleep thing, but seriously. I do it to myself. One second I am like, let him cry, it is fine, he will be ok, etc. The next I think of the parents who no longer have the ability to hug their children and I rush right in and snuggle him back to sleep. I cannot help it.

[pooh8402]

I want to take advantage of Prime day, but E just had a birthday, we don't need any electronics, and it's way too early to start buying baby stuff--I haven't even seen a heartbeat yet!

[grover]

I see a line!!

[scm1011]

yay, grover!!

[pooh8402]

Yay grover!

[shauni27]

grover!!!!!!!

[mpc]

Hi all. I have been so busy at work. My big project of the past couple years is finally coming to its final culmination. Sometime around early august I should have plenty of time on my hands, but for now things are crazy. I worked 12 hours on saturday and only got to take sunday off because we have a rule about working more than 7 days in a row. My project lead gave me the "day off" today by saying I could work regular hours at my desk rather than being on site with the project like I have been for the past couple weeks. I have a bunch of paperwork to catch up on.

My son is finally over the flu. It really knocked him out for a couple days, he didn't even get off the couch. He missed a whole week of school. It looks like none of the rest of us caught it which is great. My daughter still has a nasty cough so H is taking her to the pedi again today. We took her once last week to rule out flu, just in case. My "pre-e" is still being monitored and still looking ok. I use quotes because each doctor I've seen has been like, well we can't say for sure, but you have the markers so we're diagnosing you. I keep asking if there's anything else that could've caused the protein in my urine, or if that could just be normal for me, but the answers are wishy washy. I guess I should get it tested sometime when I'm not pregnant, although that doesn't help me now.

[Mushe]

Yay, grover!!!

[loira]

So pleased for you, grover!

[cherryvalance]

Yay, grover! I got my first positive for DS on my birthday.

[oneslybookworm]

WOOHOO!!! YAY grover!!

[oneslybookworm]

Ugh, this past week has been crazy. Late last week, G had an allergic reaction to cottage cheese, which now has us wondering if he has a dairy allergy. He had some for lunch, and his entire face broke out in this horrible red hive rash. Plus, on top of this, he's been having way more bowel movements than he did on formula, he's been fussier overall, and he has a red bumpy rash around his mouth. Until he had the reaction to the cottage cheese, we had thought the other symptoms were in response to other issues (teething, acne, a leap, etc.), but it's all coming together. We've switched him off WCM and onto Ripple (which is a pea protein) for now, and he has allergy testing tomorrow morning.

On top of all of this, while we were at the doctor's office yesterday morning (they wanted to see him to refer him to an allergist) he face planted into a shelf and chipped his front tooth really badly. So, he had a dentist appointment this morning to see if we needed to do anything. Thankfully, no nerve damage, and they're not going to sand it down or anything, but we should keep an eye on it for changes in color, etc. Overall, it's been a hot mess in our household.

[starryfish]

grover, congrats!!!!!!!!!

[Mushe]

Ah, I’m so sorry oneslybookworm! My DS chipped a front tooth at about 12 months too, when he’d only just got it in. I hope it hangs In there! His became almost unnoticeable as he got bigger.

Good catch on the milk! I hope you have your answer soon.

[thoseareradishes]

So exciting grover!
Oh my, that's a lot all at once oneslybookworm! I hope you get some solid answers at the allergy appt.

Anyone use Pampers here? Apparently they are trying out some new designs and fabrics, and I'm not loving them. The new designs are boring (except the cat, it's cute), and E constantly has lint all over her butt.

[mrsgoontz]

Yay grover!!!

oneslybookworm oh my goodness. That is a lot, I'm impressed you caught the dairy allergy thing. I feel like I am quick to blame things on "he must be teething."

shauni27 C is still whining a bit more than usual during the night but I am only getting up once to feed him around 5:30am and then he sleeps until 8. It is the hardest thing to hear them and not just run in there. Sometimes I do get up to go soothe him and by the time I make it to his room he is passed out again. Why is sleeping so difficult?? Sleep is amazing, why don't they just zonk out for 12 hours??

thoseareradishes we use pampers during the day and huggies overnight at you guessed it....night time. We recently switched from swaddlers (i agree, the new designs suck but I hadn't noticed lint) to cruisers and we are so much happier in them. They just seem to fit him better, especially now that he's moving all over the place. They don't have the indicator line which I kind of miss but they seem super absorbent which I like.

mpc glad he is on the mend and no one else caught it!

[thoseareradishes]

mrsgoontz , hmm, I'll have to give Cruisers a try. We use Babydry at night, but I feel like they get a pee stink to them really fast so I don't use them during the day.

So E just had her annual Early Intervention eval. She did fine on everything except verbal, which was no surprise. Looks like we'll be starting up speech again. Pretty happy with how she did considering they test her by actual age, not adjusted (so 16.5 months vs 13).

[King26]

icedcoffee I have Cigna in a mandatory state and everything was covered. I had to call and ask for a fertility specialist before anyone had a clue about coverage.
thoseareradishes we use huggies overnight but pampers during the day. We also switched to cruisers recently and like them.