Post by sparkles17 on Sept 19, 2012 9:36:42 GMT -5
Jesus! I cannot even process this information. I have a 16 y/o son, and I can PROMISE you that no one is going to be freaking excited if his girlfriend ends up pregnant. A 12 year old is still a child for godsake.
While it may be more widespread than it used to be, back in 1973 we had a 12 year-old get pregnant by a 26 year-old. The court allowed them to get married and they were married for about 12-13 years before divorcing. Meanwhile a 16 year-old guy in my class (juniors) got an 17 year-old senior girl pregnant. They went to court to get permission to marry and they court would not allow it. I can't remember why the teenagers had to go to court to try to get married, I think it was something to do with his age, being under 18?
My mom's school had a 6th grader give birth last year, the father was a 7th grader. Her family let the boy move in with them so that he could "help raise the baby"
So she had a child at 12, and that child is having a child at 12? And they are happy? And the 24 yo is going to be a grandma?
Mind = blown
Oh and to pp re: story about the marriages, I think it is absolutely gross that the 12yo married the 26yo. the 26yo should have fucking gone to JAIL. AND I agree the 16 and 17yo should not get married. They are already stuck with one HUGE mistake, no need to add another one. This isn't 1950!
My mom's school had a 6th grader give birth last year, the father was a 7th grader. Her family let the boy move in with them so that he could "help raise the baby"
OMG if it was MY SON, that wouldn't happen over my dead body. Just because they don't have the sense to get their CHILD to abort doesn,T mean my CHILD should have to become a father.
After going through pregnancy and birth and newbornness etc -- I honestly don't think I would have been capable at any age earlier than say....23. And EVEN THEN. I mean, I know you just DO it but it's heart wrenching to think of a twelve year old going through this. And having her family be excited for it.
Post by BillyJoelLover on Sept 19, 2012 9:48:49 GMT -5
This doesn't really help my cause but I actually had 2 cousins that were pregnant at 12 and gave birth at 13. I never see them because they live in MO and KY. It is really sad though. I can't believe the parents are proud of her.
I'm now really thankful my mother used the Grey's Anatomy book to teach me about sex at 10 b/c I didn't do it until I was 18. Anatomical diagrams are creepy, yo.
ETA not that I would have done it earlier w/o it, I don't know, but my mom did NOT use it w/ my sister and she had sex at 14. Trauma trauma trauma, lol.
That's so sad and disturbing. It just breaks my heart that those kids won't be able to be kids anymore. If I had a kid who got pregnant, I would definitely try to support them, but I would be so heartbroken over them losing their childhood.