Hell, even if they don't feel unloved, they really don't see what they have in life beyond babies. Many of these girls know they aren't going to college, know they'll never travel the world, lack true career aspirations. They know they'll have a series of relationships and have kids so they can't see why they should delay it.
I think even a portion of them don't believe they'll have a long lasting marriage that would make it worth it to wait.
Post by pinkplasticdoll on Sept 19, 2012 13:14:35 GMT -5
My mom was a L&D nurse for many years and her youngest patient was 10 years old. I was sad when I found out.
I also have a friend that worked at the county hospital as MA and she had a patient that was 9 years old then come to find out the patient was molested by her dad and the dad told the little girl "it's okay if I put my pee pee in you because that is where I belong", needless to say my friend left that job very quickly.
Since I have a baby at home right now I have been reading a lot about nuturing and how important it is in these early months. You know picking them up, snuggling, talking to them. Easy stuff but how developmentally important it is.
Even a well intentioned 12 year old would really struggle with this. And if her mother was a very young mom she might have struggled too. And the cycle continues you know. It just makes me sad. A baby needs so little, but what they do need is so freaking important. I can not imagine my 12 year old self being selfless enough to meet the needs of a baby.
I'm nodding along with this.
Hell,my 26 year old self wouldn't have handled a baby well.
My mom was a L&D nurse for many years and her youngest patient was 10 years old. I was sad when I found out.
I also have a friend that worked at the county hospital as MA and she had a patient that was 9 years old then come to find out the patient was molested by her dad and the dad told the little girl "it's okay if I put my pee pee in you because that is where I belong", needless to say my friend left that job very quickly.
I am so thrown at HOW a 12 year old can even end up pregnant! At 12 there was no way in hell I was allowed or anyone I know for that matter to be hanging out unsupervised with the same sex let alone the opposite sex. Where in the hell are these kids even getting pregnant at that age. Where are their parents.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Sept 19, 2012 22:07:42 GMT -5
By 12 a lot of kids age out of daycare and other afterschool care programs. There are a lot of families that work outside of school hours or during the summer that can't afford babysitters or nannies.
I am so thrown at HOW a 12 year old can even end up pregnant! At 12 there was no way in hell I was allowed or anyone I know for that matter to be hanging out unsupervised with the same sex let alone the opposite sex. Where in the hell are these kids even getting pregnant at that age. Where are their parents.
Um at age 12, I was babysitting newborns. There is no way my parents would have paid someone else to watch me. This was the norm among my friends as well.
I was babysitting at age 12 as well. That's actually the only place I would have been able to get knocked up though. My mom had me on a tight leash at that age so I would have had to have been sneaky and had guys over while I was babysitting someone else's kid.
But since I was terrified of getting into trouble, I spent my babysitting time eating doritos and watching Elvira Up All Night.
I was babysitting at age 12 as well. That's actually the only place I would have been able to get knocked up though. My mom had me on a tight leash at that age so I would have had to have been sneaky and had guys over while I was babysitting someone else's kid.
But since I was terrified of getting into trouble, I spent my babysitting time eating doritos and watching Elvira Up All Night.