Week of 11/26

[konapoppy]

I am so sorry knx9211. ❤️

[scm1011]

Thinking of you today, icedcoffee! I hope the transfer goes smoothly.

[knx9211]

Good luck icedcoffee!!

[pinkpeony08]

Sending good wishes, icedcoffee!

[woowoo]

12.5 week NT scan was all good today. Baby looks perfect and was dancing all around. In love with him so much already - it's incredible how fast they grow!

Let us know how it goes icedcoffee!

[icedcoffee]

Thanks everyone! The embryo thawed beautifully and the embryologist said it was the best one she has seen all day. I cried. LOL. Beta is December 10th.

[woowoo]

Nov 27, 2018 11:51:23 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Thanks everyone! The embryo thawed beautifully and the embryologist said it was the best one she has seen all day. I cried. LOL. Beta is December 10th.

YAY!!!  Settle in little one! 

[pooh8402]

I'm so sorry knx9211.


woowoo, I think you should do what you feel is right. We opened up about our IF before I ever got pregnant the first time. It was during NIAW that year that we did a bunch of IUIs and our IVF cycle. So when we announced, it included a bit about our long road but most people already knew about it.

I continued to post each year during NIAW to increase awareness and decrease stigma. Everyone who knew me knew we were IF and required IVF to get pregnant. So when we announced the second time, I didn't mention the IF because it was well known.

I do think that it would be nice to give your cousin a heads up. I've always appreciated a heads up when a close friend was about to announce. Email or text would be good.

[shauni27]

Nov 27, 2018 19:17:39 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

I do think that it would be nice to give your cousin a heads up. I've always appreciated a heads up when a close friend was about to announce. Email or text would be good.

Agreed about this. Don't do it in person or even on the phone--give your cousin time on her own to have the emotions she needs without having to respond positively to you immediately.


icedcoffee, glad the transfer went well!

Been thinking of you non-stop, knx9211.

[knx9211]

Thank you shauni27 ❤️❤️❤️

Beta dropped to 7 which is actually a relief. I didn’t want this to linger and result in 50 follow up appts. Unfortunately we wouldn’t be able to start cycling again until their December-January schedule, going off BCP the week of Xmas. I hate that they’ve switched to that- before the main doc left shortly after I had P, you just cycled whenever yours started. Doctor is going to call to discuss more tomorrow.

We only have one more blast frozen. We both feel strongly about giving P at least one sibling. I’d like to get moving because if I have to go through the entire IVF process again to do that, I’m willing to. But I didn’t respond that great at 30, so who knows how I’ll respond at 33+.

We also have four “2PNs” frozen which I think is just fancy talk for fertilized eggs because of a wonky cycle I had once. I’m going to ask what we need to do to have those thawed and attempted to grow them out just so we can see what we’re working with. They might all fail but I’d like to know.

I wish we didn’t have to wait a month but it’ll go quick I think. It is what it is.

[mpc]

oh knx9211, I'm so sorry. I"m glad you've got a plan for what comes next. I know that can help make it just a little easier to bear. much love to you. <3

I scheduled my kidney stone surgery for next week. I'm kind of freaking out a little, which seems silly since I've had 3 c-sections. This is my first non-birth surgery and it feels different. We have been working with DD to take a bottle while I'm away. She sometimes will, sometimes won't. I think that part will work out ok though. Maybe she'll give DH a hard time, but they will survive.

[knx9211]

Good luck next week mpc!!

[shauni27]

knx9211, the month will FLY by--it is so chock full of holidays and events!

[kellikans]

I'm so sorry knx9211.

Our Thanksgiving week was hectic. My sister, BIL and nephew came to visit, and my parents are also here. We had 8 people in a 1200sqft 2 bedroom/1 bathroom house for a week. Yikes. We did go to Disneyland one of those days, so it helped to be out of the house.

L had some Thanksgiving dinner - little bits of turkey, mashed potatoes and sweet potatoes. He seems to really enjoy any new foods we give him.

I started decorating for Christmas yesterday. Should be able to finish it up today. DH and I are going to go see Bohemian Rhapsody tonight since my parents are here and can babysit. It's been a while since seeing a movie in the theater!

This is my last week of vacay (I took 2 weeks of baby bonding), but I'm looking forward to going back to work next week. I'm quickly getting over having visitors. I love my parents to death, but having them here through Christmas is going to be tough.

[knx9211]

Nov 28, 2018 12:34:51 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

knx9211, the month will FLY by--it is so chock full of holidays and events!

You’re so right! Plus we’re hosting for Xmas eve so there will be a lot to be done in the week before that will be a good distraction!

[icedcoffee]

I survived my dentist visit and telling them no xrays because I’m doing fertility treatments. Phew. Except at the end I saw her write in my chart “No xrays due to fertility treatments. Ask if pregnant before doing xrays in 6 months”. I wanted to be like “please don’t ask. I’ll volunteer the info.” Haha.

I’m glad that is over. Anxiety over stupid things really sucks. Especially when you know it’s stupid.

[janegold]

Hugs, knx9211. I'm so sorry.

[loira]

I'm so sorry, knx9211.

Last night my kid tried to issue the mother of all guilt trips by telling me "I don't like that you go to work." I thought it would really make me upset but instead delivered a lecture on how it's important for parents to work to make money, and especially mums if that's what they want, and how if she was going to grow up to be a paleontologist like she wants to be, mama has to work and make lots of money for her school fees. So there. Lol

[cactuscookie]

Nov 29, 2018 10:23:27 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm so sorry, knx9211 .

Last night my kid tried to issue the mother of all guilt trips by telling me "I don't like that you go to work." I thought it would really make me upset but instead delivered a lecture on how it's important for parents to work to make money, and especially mums if that's what they want, and how if she was going to grow up to be a paleontologist like she wants to be, mama has to work and make lots of money for her school fees. So there. Lol

Also if she's going to be a paleontologist, she's going to be working, so I guess that means she doesn't get to have kids too?

[loira]

Nov 29, 2018 12:05:32 GMT -5 cactuscookie said:

Nov 29, 2018 10:23:27 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm so sorry, knx9211 .

Last night my kid tried to issue the mother of all guilt trips by telling me "I don't like that you go to work." I thought it would really make me upset but instead delivered a lecture on how it's important for parents to work to make money, and especially mums if that's what they want, and how if she was going to grow up to be a paleontologist like she wants to be, mama has to work and make lots of money for her school fees. So there. Lol

Also if she's going to be a paleontologist, she's going to be working, so I guess that means she doesn't get to have kids too?

Ha, yeah that too. Although she's still trying to convince me there are t-rexes in the forest, so I think there's a long way to go for her on her chosen career path. 😂

[cherryvalance]

knx9211, I'm so, so sorry.

woowoo, what tipped the scale for us to announce (at 15 weeks, then 14 weeks this time) was that I knew I would need the support if, God forbid, something did happen. I felt like I would want people to know they existed, if that makes sense.

[Mushe]

PDQ but I’m having feelings that I’m not comfortable with. I swear, this should be old hat by now, but it’s not. How do you handle the folks who compare struggles? A friend just had a baby, and talked so much about how much trouble she had. In reality, she was given Clomid after about 3 months of trying. I have zero interest in playing pain Olympics, but come on, don’t tell me you know exactly what I’ve been through.

How do you shrug this off? It helps that I have no time to wallow, but I still wish I could let it go entirely, and not bother me.

I’m sure part of this is some PTSD for having my last 10 weeks of pregnancy ever stolen (ahhhh I’m dramatic today) from me. I didn’t block her or anything, but it was hard to skim past the ‘I can’t believe I’m still pregnant’ posts.

ETA I know the answer is, what does it hurt me for her to think we’ve had the same experience, but it’s hard to ignore in practice.

[Mushe]

knx9211, I’m just catching up. I am so sorry for your loss, my friend. 💔

[icedcoffee]

Mushe, I'm so sorry. I don't think you're being overdramatic at all. I would hide her from my feed and if she made comments to my face I'd probably make a snide comment about how our experiences are very different and she couldn't possibly understand, but I'm a bitch.

I'm having similar feelings about my SIL and dreaming up ways I can hurt her and my BIL's feelings in return for hurting me last week. Mature, right?

I don't know what the solution is. Wine?

[pooh8402]

(((Mushe))) ugh, she sounds awful. I would probably just avoid her, hide her in Facebook, stuff like that but I'm generally nonconfrontational. What doctor in their right mind would give Clomid after 3 months? I mean, we started clomid after 10 months, and that was with a known history of irregular cycles (I had been with that OB for years), 10 months of tracking my cycles, charts, and a bad SA (that was post vasectomy reversal which is the only reason we had one done before 12 months). 3 months with no known issues? That's just bad medicine.

[kellikans]

Mushe, I'm sorry you're struggling. But I agree with icedcoffee. I would hide her from your feed and if she said something in person, tell her that you're happy for her, but in no way are your experiences the same.

[knx9211]

Mushe - you’re not alone. I’d be super annoyed by that, too.

[Mushe]

pooh8402, it’s even worse than my introduction. That was an OB, but the she saw an RE who told her she had unexplained infertility and should jump to IVF. This baby was a third IUI, because why not, before spending $20k on IVF. We’re talking 8 months max between getting her IUD out and getting pregnant.

She sometimes texts me, and it’ll be 100 texts in an hour, and then not again for a few months. Luckily her big ‘our miracle babies’ texts were before I had B! I don’t think I could hold my tongue now.

[knx9211]

Anyone want to help tell me what to do?

So I had a long chat with my doctor after we confirmed a CP this week. We have one Day 6 hatching blast and four 2PNs left. Essentially the latter are simply fertilized eggs? Whatever, frozen on day 1.


So we’ll starts meds again right after Christmas. We have three options:
1) just transfer the blast and worry about it later
2) grow out the four 2PNs now and genetically test whatever makes it to blast, freezing any normal ones
3) take out the 2PNs five days before transfer and grow them out. If one survives that is a better grade than our blast, transfer that one, don’t thaw the blast, and test any others that survive, freezing normal ones

The lab assured her that thawing, testing, refreezing, etc wouldn’t have any effect if it was a good embryo. For no scientific reason, my gut tells me to have them handled as little as possible and do option 3.

Anyone? Help me.

[icedcoffee]

knx9211, Have they said why they froze them as 2PNs? I'm confused as to why they didn't just grow them out at the time.

Personally, I would probably do option 3 especially because you have a backup blast in case they don't survive so you wouldn't need to cancel a cycle regardless. I'd probably only test if I had several that looked hopeful after transferring 1.