Post by barefootcontessa on Sept 19, 2012 14:41:27 GMT -5
Around here there are childcare services where you can pay a monthly or annual fee and have access to a nanny when your child is sick. I am sorry you are under so much pressure.
That sucks and I am sorry but that would be a great time for you to use sick day care. Have you ever tried it?
I've heard about these agencies/places but I just can't pull the trigger. I don't know these people, and neither does my baby, kwim? I don't know that I would want to resort to this unless my job depended on it. My boss has been AMAZING and felt so bad that I felt bad about it last week. But like I said, it's the professional guilt, of feeling like you're letting your boss/clients down. I hate that.
I think there is a big big big misconception about what sick day care is. Sick daycare is usually at a hospitals on campus day care. It is fully staffed by pediatric nurses that work at the ajoining hospital. It is not a room full of sick kids. It is a one to one kid teacher/nurse ratio. The room is full of toys and it is sanitized each night.
I think there is a big big big misconception about what sick day care is. Sick daycare is usually at a hospitals on campus day care. It is fully staffed by pediatric nurses that work at the ajoining hospital. It is not a room full of sick kids. It is a one to one kid teacher/nurse ratio. The room is full of toys and it is sanitized each night.
Gotcha. Oh yes, someone suggested this to me a few months ago and I looked into it and my insurance doesn't cover it and our hospital doesn't have it. =(
Neither does mine but it is only $8 per hour. Here is the link so you can find one in your zip code if you change your mind www.brighthorizons.com/back-up/what.aspx
Ahhh! You just described my last year with P. She was sick every 3 weeks no joke and I was missing a ton of work. I'm no lawyer but my job is similar in that NO ONE here knows how to cover for me and when they do its a clusterfuck. Anyway, all that to say, I'm sorry. Vent away. It sounds like your boss is cool like mine and the guilt we are feeling has more to do with not wanting to let anyone down when the reality is, they understand.
Hang in there mama! You are doing a kick ass job.
PS: Stock up on EmergenC. Drink it 2-3 times a day when your little guy even shows a small sign of getting sick. This will help you fight off whatever that little booger is bringing home from DC.
Post by Ashley&Scott on Sept 19, 2012 14:58:29 GMT -5
I feel your pain Farmer. My DH's job isn't very flexible either, he was able to stay home with M yesterday but he had to fill out FMLA paperwork so it didn't count against hit stats. (yep FMLA for 1 sick day...)
We don't have any friends or family in the area that can help. (My job is pretty flexible which is great, however I work in a small office, if my boss is gone I have to be there.)
Post by savannah11 on Sept 19, 2012 15:18:41 GMT -5
I'm sorry. I know exactly how you are feeling. DS was constantly sick that first year and DH traveled 100% so I was the only who could stay home. I remember sitting at work, shivering with a fever because I could not use my sick days for myself.
I will say that it does get better. The kids (3 and 5) hardly ever get sick now and I have 2 weeks of banked sick time which would have been unheard of a few years ago.
Post by kimibrighteyes on Sept 19, 2012 18:03:52 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I also struggle with the balance. I have found that having a nanny really helps since she still looks after the kids even if they are sick.
Post by biscoffcookies on Sept 19, 2012 18:58:11 GMT -5
Big hugs from me too. I definitely understand what you are talking about in terms of sometimes wishing you didn't work but also not being ready to give up your career. I'm pretty sure that if I were to quit my current job I'd never be able to get back into the legal field, but some days it is so tempting nonetheless. Today I felt like death but went to work because I used up all my sick days in the last couple of weeks when DD was sick. I felt so awful and exhausted that I ended up bawling in the car on the way home.
Hang in there. Just remember that being sick is just for a short time and having a baby is just for a short time. It's just a little glitch in your long career.
I am so sorry. I also struggle with the balance. I have found that having a nanny really helps since she still looks after the kids even if they are sick.
This is why we are going with a nanny. It is very bad if I miss too much work. And my H has appointments 3-4 days a week.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 19, 2012 22:50:00 GMT -5
Hugs. I can't imagine what you are going through, but it sounds miserable. It will get better though. Just think of the good snuggle time you got with him last week.
Post by petitefrite on Sept 19, 2012 23:19:49 GMT -5
I'm a lawyer who doesn't have billable hours either, and I totally understand how great of a gig it is. Sounds like you've had a really tough couple of weeks. ** hugs**
I completely understand as well. We also don't have family in the area and very few friends, none of which could help with workday care. Normal childcare options are sparse here and sick care/drop in options are non-existent. I'm currently waiting to hear back from a job interview to try to change positions such that I can afford to take time off when needed and don't get called in for things at the last minute. It isn't a job I'll love, but it will be better for our family for now.