Week of 14 January

[loira]

Happy blue Monday! Is it today? I don't even know. My kid sure woke up cranky. She's back to sleeping through the night, and has peed in a public washroom twice in the last week (huge fear of them so this is a big deal). But now she's back to pooping in bed at night. What the hell?

In other depressing news I'm starting to feel like we'll be living with my parents forever. We've only saved up 6k, and we'd be looking at paying between 350-450k for a two bedroom here, and we are never going to get there. Admittedly we've had a lot of big costs we had to take care of the last 6 months, like importing the car (2k) and H's immigration fees (1.5k). And I know that his work permit will come through eventually and he'll be able to look for full time work, but I still feel like we're on a financial hamster wheel. Waaaaahhh!

[knx9211]

Ugh I’m sorry loira that sounds tough. I hope the time flies and everything gets worked out soon!

[knx9211]

My kid had slept through the night for several nights in a row. Of course last night he screamed so I brought him in with us. He moves so much he kept me up all night. Although his constantly reaching for me to make sure I was there or give me a little pat was adorable. My mom laid with him after we left this morning and claims he sang us a song of “Maaaaaama. Daaaaada.”

Not the best night for it since my transfer was this morning. Went smoothly. Transferred a beautiful AB Day 6 hatching blast. And now we wait! My mom and my husband are both here, so I’m gonna take a nap while they chase around the monster.

Oh also I was pretty sure he repeated me when I said “shit!” The other day. My mom confirmed he did it to her this morning. So now I have to clean up my language which is going to be the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

[kellikans]

Fingers crossed knx9211!

I feel so nauseous this morning. Not sure if it's because I'm pregnant or if I caught the stomach bug L has. Poor thing was throwing up Saturday night and once last night and has diarrhea. He was so sleepy yesterday. DH had to stay home with him today. I'm so over him being constantly sick. Damn daycare germs.

[pinkpeony08]

I finally stopped bleeding! After progesterone suppository drainage since September, then D&c bleeding for 5.5 weeks, then my period... I’m sooo happy for a break! Hoping to hear from reproductive immunology this week that they have my records and can schedule an appointment. I was able to cancel my ultrasound as there was concern my uterus wasn’t empty!

knx9211 sending good wishes!!

kellikans I hope you don’t have the gi bug. My son caught it and shared it with me a month ago. It was miserable.

[scm1011]

loira, I'm sorry, that's frustrating. Hopefully once your DH is able to work full time you'll be able to make faster progress.

Sending good vibes, knx9211!!

kellikans, I hope L feels better soon. For what its worth, I've found winter #2 to be MUCH better with the sickies vs. the first winter in daycare (I probably just jinxed myself, fingers crossed it stays that way!). Not much solice now, I know, but hopefully L is building up a solid immune system.

Things are good with us! I'm 20+ weeks pregnant and had a great anatomy scan last week so all is well. DS continues to be a fun little nugget who is learning more and more everyday. His new thing is saying "be right back!" whenever he goes somewhere and it cracks me up.

[ivy]

Oh loira, that's so frustrating when you feel like you can't get ahead. I hope you all catch a break soon!

Fingers crossed you for you, knx9211!

Excellent news, pinkpeony08! That must be such a relief. Hope you get your appointment soon <3

kellikans, I hope it's unrelated nausea for you. I'm in a similar boat. DD woke up this morning and puked, ugh. A girl in her class got sick over the weekend, so it wasn't unexpected. Apparently she only got sick once and then was fine. So far DD has only gotten sick once, so I'm remaining hopeful. H is home with her today to try and spare me (whatever good it would do at this point), and my stomach is feeling unsettled. Wondering if it's all in my mind at this point.

We did have a nice weekend. We celebrated C's 3rd birthday 2 weeks early because I am so paranoid about these babies coming early. Her party was a hit, and she had so much fun. Glad it's over with, and now I'll set my sights on babies coming after her actual birthday. One week at a time!

[pooh8402]

Things are good here, although I'm ready for it to be March.

Had an ultrasound on Friday at 31 weeks, and my placenta is still marginal previa, so I'm mentally preparing for a c-section. I have another ultrasound scheduled for 37 weeks specifically to look at the placenta and we'll make a decision then.

[shauni27]

loira, what is blue monday?
knx9211, I love everything about your post. Especially the shit part, because, I think you saw my video of S saying "shit" instead of sit? It is constant and hysterical. I am trying to get him to say fox now because I think it will sound like fuck and I am a bad parent.

nothing much to report on here except for the continued exhaustion of being essentially a single mom with a toddler. G has literally been working 18-24 hours a day lately, so if S wakes up in night I happily bring him into bed to sleep with me

[loira]

shauni27, it's the most depressing day of the year (supposedly), but I can never remember if it falls on the first or second Monday of January...

[EllenGriswold]

kellikans I feel you on the sickness! I had a cold from basically December 25 until about last week and then this weekend it started again. I’m over having to carry around a full Kleenex box everywhere I go.

G fell on the playground this weekend and is totally fine but he is now walking with a limp for dramatic effect. But otherwise things are good. He is just a nut and has gotten very bossy recently.
Last week we had a saline sono and mock transfer and everything looked good there so technically we are still on track for transfer cycle starting in a couple weeks. Now I just need to figure out financial stuff and get meds.
I’m also sort of pondering applying for a new job - I’m happy where I am but theoretically this could be more money and a big promotion. But it would also require a move and since we already have a lot going on I’m not sure what to do.

[shoeless]

Fingers crossed knx9211!

[thoseareradishes]

kellikans, hope you are feeling better. E has been sick a lot too, and she only goes to a couple of activities a week. We missed gym again this week because she started coughing a ton right before we were going to leave, so I decided to stay home. I'm so tired of being cooped up in the house, but it feels like every time we go out, she gets sick.

Good luck knx9211!

E has finally figured out how to run (sort of), and she's practicing jumping, so she does this run skip hop thing that is cracking us up.

[kellikans]

Well, the stomach bug has definitely hit hard. L needs his diaper changed every 30 minutes. I threw up at work and came home and have been puking ever since. And DH is now feeling some of it. It's gonna be rough here. I just hope it's quick.

[cactuscookie]

kellikans, I'm so sorry! How miserable for all of you.

[knx9211]

kellikans - NOOOOO!! I’m so sorry. When we got it we were totally back to normal within 24 hours. Hope the same is true for you.

[icedcoffee]

Good luck knx9211!

I'm sorry kellikans. I hope it passes quickly. Stomach bugs are the WORST.

Does anyone remember my drama from Thanksgiving? (http://pandce.proboards.com/thread/604295/thanksgiving-randoms)

Well, we told MIL/FIL this weekend we are pregnant. I also told them how shitty BIL/SIL are for telling us at Thanksgiving and that being there was "incredibly painful for us" and "I thought family would be more respectful of our feelings given what they know we've been through" and that being told in a private setting would have been much more considerate than in front of a room full of people on a major holiday.

MIL/FIL are clueless so I'm not sure they understood completely, but I do think they sort of understood. Afterwards my H was like "uhh...that was not like you at all. Where did that come from?" LOL. I do feel better even if they didn't understand completely.

I still have no intention of telling BIL/SIL anytime soon that we're pregnant. :::Shrug:::

[pooh8402]

I'm so sorry kellikans. I hope it passes quickly for all of you.


I've been mostly updating on GotP, but I'll update here too.

I've been having a lot of contractions, especially over the last week. I've been monitoring them per my OB's request, and this morning I showed her just the last 2 days. 17 yesterday, 24 on Sunday. She was concerned and performed a FFN on me (for those who are unfamiliar, a positive FFN means increased risk of labor in the next 2 weeks). If it is negative, more watchful waiting. If it is positive, she wants to check my cervical length and give me steroids for baby's lungs.

Add to that, I have marginal placenta previa currently, so if I were to go into labor, I would be automatic c-section. I have another ultrasound at 37 weeks to monitor placenta placement but now it's looking like I may not make it to 37 weeks.

[King26]

Hey guys, i read all the time but rarely have time to write. I miss keeping up with everyone. J is currently in the tantrum phase which is exhausting. He gets upset when we tell him no and cant communicate too much woth us. He does understand what we are saying though. Hes trying to be so independent which is adorable but just tiring.

[King26]

Also, im glad to hear that not every kid STTN
J still wakes up once at night and i thiught it was just us.

[pooh8402]

Jan 15, 2019 12:52:54 GMT -5 King26 said:

Also, im glad to hear that not every kid STTN
J still wakes up once at night and i thiught it was just us.

E didn't STTN until 15 months, and even now at 3.5, he sometimes wakes up MOTN from like a nightmare or something. Today, he woke up at 4:30am and came to my bed, and proceeded to go back to sleep until 6:30.

[EllenGriswold]

Oh no kellikans! Hang in there, hopefully the whole house is feeling better soon!

[knx9211]

Jan 15, 2019 12:52:54 GMT -5 King26 said:

Also, im glad to hear that not every kid STTN
J still wakes up once at night and i thiught it was just us.

P slept through the night starting at 9 weeks like a unicorn. Only in the last few months has he woken up screaming in the middle of the night. Last night I didn’t want to go in and get him because my transfer wasn’t even 24 hours earlier and he’s heavy. My husband didn’t even wake. I let him go and he stopped crying after 2 minutes and went back to sleep. Made me feel dumb for all of those times I went to get him.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jan 15, 2019 12:52:54 GMT -5 King26 said:

Also, im glad to hear that not every kid STTN
J still wakes up once at night and i thiught it was just us.

DS2 is 2y3m and rarely STTN. He is literally the worst sleeper at night (naps are normal). Thankfully that’s his only bad quality and he’s a much easier kid to parent than DS1 (who sleeps great and who I love so much- he’s just challenging). Crazy how different they are.

[lo]

Jan 15, 2019 14:46:45 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

Jan 15, 2019 12:52:54 GMT -5 King26 said:

Also, im glad to hear that not every kid STTN
J still wakes up once at night and i thiught it was just us.

DS2 is 2y3m and rarely STTN. He is literally the worst sleeper at night (naps are normal). Thankfully that’s his only bad quality and he’s a much easier kid to parent than DS1 (who sleeps great and who I love so much- he’s just challenging). Crazy how different they are.

I think DD2 will be like your DS2. She’s 20 months and wakes 2-3 times every night. Sometimes more and rarely less. And I’m the only one who can comfort her at night. H tried to get her the other night and she screamed like th exorcist and held onto the crib bars so he couldn’t pick her up. Fun times lol.

[ivy]

I've found it helps my mental state to not think about STTN as linear. There are lots of ups and downs due to illness, teething, regressions, forming bad habits through regressions, etc. My nearly 3 year old DD still isn't super consistent, but it has gotten much easier when she does wake up the older she's gotten.

[luv2rn4fun]

Jan 15, 2019 14:52:37 GMT -5 lo said:

Jan 15, 2019 14:46:45 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

DS2 is 2y3m and rarely STTN. He is literally the worst sleeper at night (naps are normal). Thankfully that’s his only bad quality and he’s a much easier kid to parent than DS1 (who sleeps great and who I love so much- he’s just challenging). Crazy how different they are.

I think DD2 will be like your DS2. She’s 20 months and wakes 2-3 times every night. Sometimes more and rarely less. And I’m the only one who can comfort her at night. H tried to get her the other night and she screamed like th exorcist and held onto the crib bars so he couldn’t pick her up. Fun times lol.

Same! He only wants mama LOL. I am starting a parenting class tonight for DS1 and DH will have to do bedtime. He’s never done it for DS2 (who also still nurses). I am seriously worried for both of them but we desperately need this class and it’s only 1x/week for 4 weeks. They are both going to need to just deal with it so we can best help DS1. Worst case- they both don’t get as much sleep and can both go to bed when I get home at 9:30.

[shoeless]

pooh8402 thinking of you and hoping it’s a negative result.

[pooh8402]

Result is negative, yay!

[thoseareradishes]

Great news pooh8402!