Week of January 14th

[Jalapeñomel]

I’ll give seeyalater52 a break from starting.

I have four follicles after stimming with clomid for 5 days. I start gonal and menopur tonight, looking at retrieval on 1/23.

[fairfax]

Just got my ERA test results back and it shows I was pre-receptive so we will do an additional day of progesterone with this transfer. I’m glad we did the test, even though it hurt!

[Yankees21]

I have my first IUI this week. It’s unmedicated, so I’m just waiting to ovulate. FX for your transfer Jalapeñomel.

[chocolatepie]

My required mammogram was today and it was a piece of cake. Didn't hurt and wasn't even uncomfortable. I consider that a win!

My period finally showed so we can do the day 3 labs tomorrow for the insurance company. Injections start last week of Jan and we're moving forward with a 5 day fresh transfer, since insurance won't cover FET on the first one. Looks like retrieval will be 2nd week of Feb.

Interestingly... my mother decided to come visit us all in this same time period. She initially wanted to come the exact week of the transfer but flight cost bumped her to first week of March (thank goodness!). She knows nothing about what's going on - we talk all the time but she's exhausting, and critical, and has a special talent of making everything about her so I just haven't informed her. And now she'll be showing up at my house right at the end of the two week wait after the transfer (if the timing works).

So I'm not sure if I inform her now or just wait until things actually happen and if they do, THEN tell her. Maybe after she arrives at my house. That's what I'm leaning towards...

Surely I'm not the only one to keep this process from their parents, right? I did tell my dad though. Ha! (they are long divorced)

[seeyalater52]

Jan 14, 2019 18:28:29 GMT -5 fairfax said:

Just got my ERA test results back and it shows I was pre-receptive so we will do an additional day of progesterone with this transfer. I’m glad we did the test, even though it hurt!

That’s awesome that your results will be useful for you! Good luck with your next transfer.

[vmars]

chocolatepie - I told my mom what was going on and she’s constantly telling me how she’s thinking about me, which on the one hand is nice, but on the other hand just reminds me of what I am going through and I need a mental break from it.

I am waiting for test results at this point. They should be in within the next week or so. I have to wait until CD1 to schedule my HSG test. Hoping we can go back to TTC in February.

[starryfish]

Hey all. Just chugging along here...

Trigger below (D&C, chemical, etc)

my last IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy but now has developed into a pg of unknown origin/location. Did a scan and no sac visible but my HCG is still rising (slowly). They are worried it is ectopic so I have to have a D&C this week. This will be my first one. Anything I need to know? What if they don’t find anything?

[seeyalater52]

Jan 14, 2019 20:51:31 GMT -5 starryfish said:

Hey all. Just chugging along here...

Trigger below (D&C, chemical, etc)

my last IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy but now has developed into a pg of unknown origin/location. Did a scan and no sac visible but my HCG is still rising (slowly). They are worried it is ectopic so I have to have a D&C this week. This will be my first one. Anything I need to know? What if they don’t find anything?

I’m so sorry. I haven’t had a D&C so I unfortunately don’t have any advice on that, but my understanding is that if your hcg doesn’t begin to drop after the procedure you will likely be prescribed misoprostol to resolve it. Sending hugs.

[seeyalater52]

@yankees21 good luck with your IUI! Waiting to ovulate is almost harder than the TWW!

chocolatepie good luck with your upcoming cycle and I’m so glad the mammogram wasn’t too bad. I have had some really challenging interactions around fertility with my family so while we have been open it was basically the wrong choice and we are trying to walk it back some now. If you don’t think your mom is capable of being supportive of you without making it about herself not only would I not tell her anything in advance, I would be cautious about sharing transfer results (good or bad) that early on. It sucks not having the support we deserve but it’s better than having boundaries invaded and adding caring for someone else’s feelings on top of your own during a sensitive time.

[megstoo]

baseline scan yesterday was 54 follicles and we've started stims. Estimated ER is 01/25. We also finally told my FIL and my dad what's going on and they seemed supportive but only my dad asked questions. My FIL literally had a jaw drop when I said we had male factor and still can't believe it's DH that's part of the issue. He actually said we need to have it retested because it's impossible.

[G22]

I ordered my meds yesterday, so that's about all I have going on this week IF wise.


::Whine ahead::

Other than that, I'm just trying to figure out this keto diet after being told I was insulin resistant. I'm only 4 days into it and pissy over carb withdrawls. I have a lot of feelings about being told that this will be an indefinite thing, and not just a short time while TTC.

[G22]

Jalapeñomel, good luck moving forward towards ER!

Yankees21, good luck with your IUI!

chocolatepie, I'm glad things are moving forward finally!

starryfish, I'm so sorry you are going through this. ((hugs))

[seeyalater52]

Jan 15, 2019 9:39:27 GMT -5 G22 said:

I ordered my meds yesterday, so that's about all I have going on this week IF wise.


::Whine ahead::

Other than that, I'm just trying to figure out this keto diet after being told I was insulin resistant. I'm only 4 days into it and pissy over carb withdrawls. I have a lot of feelings about being told that this will be an indefinite thing, and not just a short time while TTC.

I'm also doing veeeeery low carb (maybe keto? kinda?) and I feel like CRAP 4 days in. Solidarity. 

[ilovecandy]

Jan 14, 2019 19:07:06 GMT -5 chocolatepie said:

My required mammogram was today and it was a piece of cake. Didn't hurt and wasn't even uncomfortable. I consider that a win!

My period finally showed so we can do the day 3 labs tomorrow for the insurance company. Injections start last week of Jan and we're moving forward with a 5 day fresh transfer, since insurance won't cover FET on the first one. Looks like retrieval will be 2nd week of Feb.

Interestingly... my mother decided to come visit us all in this same time period. She initially wanted to come the exact week of the transfer but flight cost bumped her to first week of March (thank goodness!). She knows nothing about what's going on - we talk all the time but she's exhausting, and critical, and has a special talent of making everything about her so I just haven't informed her. And now she'll be showing up at my house right at the end of the two week wait after the transfer (if the timing works).

So I'm not sure if I inform her now or just wait until things actually happen and if they do, THEN tell her. Maybe after she arrives at my house. That's what I'm leaning towards...

Surely I'm not the only one to keep this process from their parents, right? I did tell my dad though. Ha! (they are long divorced)

My mother came when we in the middle of Injecti during my first ivf. But she knew and my family is very if you want to talk about it we are here they don't often ask or bring up the kid stuff.

Ddo what you got to do for your piece of mind. If you don't think it would be beneficial in the long run then don't do it. If you think she will respect your wishes in terms of talking about it and offering emotional support then go for it.

[ilovecandy]

Hey everyone. Good luck with those in the middle of iui's and transfers

It took a week for me to get over being sick and even now I still feel so weak I can't do my normal everyday activities because yet because it just takes to much out of me. Nice have a couple hours of energy everyday but if I overdo it (like yesterday) and now I feel like shit again. H got a PS4 (chistmas and birthday gifts that will cover this past year and this upcoming year) and so now he wants to be a gamer. I am trying but I am just not. Also I miss Mario kart.

[G22]

Jan 15, 2019 9:55:48 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Jan 15, 2019 9:39:27 GMT -5 G22 said:

I ordered my meds yesterday, so that's about all I have going on this week IF wise.


::Whine ahead::

Other than that, I'm just trying to figure out this keto diet after being told I was insulin resistant. I'm only 4 days into it and pissy over carb withdrawls. I have a lot of feelings about being told that this will be an indefinite thing, and not just a short time while TTC.

I'm also doing veeeeery low carb (maybe keto? kinda?) and I feel like CRAP 4 days in. Solidarity. 

Ugh godspeed to you! I hope you feel better soon!

I dont feel bad necessarily yet. I'm just cranky, but also just plain exhausted. My RE said expect to go through "keto flu" for a few days as I come off carbs. It sounds like that may be what you are feeling. Supposedly once you come out of it, you'll feel amazing. 🤷‍♀️

[shoeless]

starryfish I'm so sorry for your loss. I would ask before the D&C about what your options will be if they don't find anything in the uterus. Since you will already be under GA already it might an option for them to treat an etopic right then and there. Or they may suggest methotrexate, either way it might be nice to know your options ahead of time.

[shoeless]

megstoo I'm sorry your FIL is taking this so personally and not handling it well

[starryfish]

Jan 15, 2019 10:39:41 GMT -5 shoeless said:

starryfish I'm so sorry for your loss. I would ask before the D&C about what your options will be if they don't find anything in the uterus. Since you will already be under GA already it might an option for them to treat an etopic right then and there. Or they may suggest methotrexate, either way it might be nice to know your options ahead of time.

Yea I definitely need to ask how they will do it since they don’t know where to look....or if they could do another scan again before they start? Thanks

[icedcoffee]

chocolatepie, I think that's one of those things you need to decide for yourself. For both rounds of IVF we didn't tell either of our parents until we were decently far along in a pregnancy. I could not deal with other people's emotions or questions. It's ok to keep it private as long as you want!

starryfish, I am so sorry. That is such a nightmare. I hope the D&C is a breeze and you can get started on your IVF trial soon.

[King26]

Jan 14, 2019 19:07:06 GMT -5 chocolatepie said:

My required mammogram was today and it was a piece of cake. Didn't hurt and wasn't even uncomfortable. I consider that a win!

My period finally showed so we can do the day 3 labs tomorrow for the insurance company. Injections start last week of Jan and we're moving forward with a 5 day fresh transfer, since insurance won't cover FET on the first one. Looks like retrieval will be 2nd week of Feb.

Interestingly... my mother decided to come visit us all in this same time period. She initially wanted to come the exact week of the transfer but flight cost bumped her to first week of March (thank goodness!). She knows nothing about what's going on - we talk all the time but she's exhausting, and critical, and has a special talent of making everything about her so I just haven't informed her. And now she'll be showing up at my house right at the end of the two week wait after the transfer (if the timing works).

So I'm not sure if I inform her now or just wait until things actually happen and if they do, THEN tell her. Maybe after she arrives at my house. That's what I'm leaning towards...

Surely I'm not the only one to keep this process from their parents, right? I did tell my dad though. Ha! (they are long divorced)

Nope my parents didnt know and i talk to them all the time. They knew we were struggling but i told them nothing about what we were doing because i knew they would be asking constantly. I also didnt tell them until i was 12 weeka pregnant so...im all for keeping it a secret if you want too.

[fairfax]

Jan 15, 2019 9:55:48 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Jan 15, 2019 9:39:27 GMT -5 G22 said:

I ordered my meds yesterday, so that's about all I have going on this week IF wise.


::Whine ahead::

Other than that, I'm just trying to figure out this keto diet after being told I was insulin resistant. I'm only 4 days into it and pissy over carb withdrawls. I have a lot of feelings about being told that this will be an indefinite thing, and not just a short time while TTC.

I'm also doing veeeeery low carb (maybe keto? kinda?) and I feel like CRAP 4 days in. Solidarity. 

I’m sorry to both of you. BUT, give it a few more days and I bet you will feel amazing! Drink lots of water!

[fairfax]

Jan 15, 2019 9:11:55 GMT -5 megstoo said:

baseline scan yesterday was 54 follicles and we've started stims. Estimated ER is 01/25. We also finally told my FIL and my dad what's going on and they seemed supportive but only my dad asked questions. My FIL literally had a jaw drop when I said we had male factor and still can't believe it's DH that's part of the issue. He actually said we need to have it retested because it's impossible.

Whaaa??? Sorry he’s being so weird about it!

[stellelinds25]

I had my mock transfer yesterday and she said everything looked good! Going next Tuesday for my baselines and we’ll go from there. I’ve been on BCP for a week now and good grief I’m breaking out like a teenager. Thank God I only have 1 more week left on it.

[landmermaid]

starryfish I'm so sorry to hear that it's happening to you. How frustrating and scary. Big hugs.

For me all the lead up to the D&C was the worst. After the surgery I felt absolutely nothing. It was like nothing happened. I bled for two weeks, but I was in no physical discomfort. I think it's strange that they can't find anything. I would definitely want another scan before they went in for surgery. I hope they can locate what's going on for a more precise treatment or that it resolves on its own. Best of luck to you. I hope you're doing ok.

[landmermaid]

I've told a few people. Before my second loss I was 10+ weeks along and told my immediate family we were expecting, and that we had suffered an earlier miscarriage. Then I had to postpone a vacation once I learned that it was a MMC and had to go in for a D&C. So pretty much everyone in our extended family knew after that.

The extent of what we're going through now. A third loss. RPL testing. Acupuncture. Possible intervention. Etc I'm keeping very close. My closest friends who I've confided in after the third loss know, and my mother (and grandmother, because my mom can't help herself) know because she asks a lot of questions. But I've told her I'll be keeping the rest private from here on out. I'm a talker though, and so is my whole family. I just don't want to have people asking me constantly. I think about it enough and it only makes everything seem slower.

I'm sorry your FIL did that to you megstoo Not exactly supportive.

[starryfish]

Jan 15, 2019 16:04:49 GMT -5 landmermaid said:

starryfish I'm so sorry to hear that it's happening to you. How frustrating and scary. Big hugs.

For me all the lead up to the D&C was the worst. After the surgery I felt absolutely nothing. It was like nothing happened. I bled for two weeks, but I was in no physical discomfort. I think it's strange that they can't find anything. I would definitely want another scan before they went in for surgery. I hope they can locate what's going on for a more precise treatment or that it resolves on its own. Best of luck to you. I hope you're doing ok.

Thanks. My IUI was on 12/11. My beta are still very very low...371? But still slowly increasing. I have had my blood drawn so so many times it’s nuts. I’m definitely going to ask for another scan before they do anything.

[chocolatepie]

starryfish I am so sorry. I hope they are able to get answers for you before the D&C; I, too, would be hesitant to go under without knowing more of what was going on. When do they have the D&C scheduled for?

[starryfish]

Jan 15, 2019 16:47:06 GMT -5 chocolatepie said:

starryfish I am so sorry. I hope they are able to get answers for you before the D&C; I, too, would be hesitant to go under without knowing more of what was going on. When do they have the D&C scheduled for?

Waiting on nurse to call me back to schedule

I just got my bloodwork done yesterday again. Ultrasound was on Friday. I have also bled 3 times in the past three weeks. Ugh this sucks

[Jalapeñomel]

Jan 15, 2019 16:51:50 GMT -5 starryfish said:

Jan 15, 2019 16:47:06 GMT -5 chocolatepie said:

starryfish I am so sorry. I hope they are able to get answers for you before the D&C; I, too, would be hesitant to go under without knowing more of what was going on. When do they have the D&C scheduled for?

Waiting on nurse to call me back to schedule

I just got my bloodwork done yesterday again. Ultrasound was on Friday. I have also bled 3 times in the past three weeks. Ugh this sucks

I’m so sorry.