Another question - I'm taking a flight next week and now I will be traveling with insulin ( pen and needles) and my glucose monitor ( also with sharps). Do I need anything special to get through security with it? I'll be seeing my OB and Endo this week so can ask for a note etc.
Post by farfalla2011 on Apr 8, 2019 16:53:48 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 16+2
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Heartburn has been terrible for the past week and a half AND I've had a horrible pain in the right side of my butt - sciatic type pain I guess? I did some stretching on Saturday, but I need to do a lot more. It comes and goes, but sometimes it hurts to even stand/walk and it makes me hobble which isn't a great. I've always had hip issues, so I'm sure being pregnant is making it worse.
3. Questions for the group?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? Currently, my plan is no visitors. Luckily(?) we have no family locally so it would be tough to get them here timed just right. Plus, I'd like to give us a week or two to get used to our new family and the transition with our dog. She'll be fine, but she tends to take a bit to warm up to new people and that just sounds incredibly stressful to add additional family members on top of a new baby to the mix.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I go see the RE for my 10 week US then hopefully will be done with that (so much $$$$!) and then have my first OB appointment next Monday. Lots of ultrasounds! Also yesterday I had the worst allergy headache; it sucks to pretty much be able to take nothing.
3. Questions for the group? If you haven’t found out what you’re having, sell me on Team Green! We have a boy and a girl and H doesn’t want to find out but it’s going to be hard for me to do.
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? Both of our parents are local, and my mom will have my other kids. They’ve been in the waiting room for our other two towards the end and I’m the weirdo that doesn’t mind it, but I’m very close to my mom and my ILs have been respectful of boundaries and fine too.
Post by KellyEasterbrook on Apr 8, 2019 17:55:17 GMT -5
1. 31 weeks, 3 days!! We were told by the neonatologist that 32 weeks is a big milestone. We didn't get much hope that I'd make it that far...so I'm extremely excited that it's within sight right now. In my skewed mind, I'm viewing 34 weeks as basically full term.
2. AW: We're going to a birthing class this evening. I signed up on Friday, hoping that wasn't going to jinx us for the weekend. But still pregnant! And so far, the every-4-days NSTs haven't shown any contractions, which is awesome. Vent: My mom (who has flown in to help us out) is itching to buy baby stuff (i.e. stroller, bassinet, changing supplies, etc). H and I, however, are adamant that we do not want ANY baby gear (other than the items I'm hand making) in the house until we're 150% sure we'll be bringing a baby home. Our plan is to order/shop for everything after while she's in the NICU. I so appreciate that she's excited and is willing to purchase all this gear, but I've got to keep reminding her how much it stresses me out to have that stuff around the house. Vent #2: Having my mom here has made it obvious that this extremely tiny rental isn't going to work. So now, on top of everything else, we're trying to find a new place to live. Vent #3: Still haven't narrowed down a name.
3. Nope
4. My mom arrived on a one-way ticket, so I guess she'll be here to help! *poof* I'm probably going to delete that last line in a few hours...
KellyEasterbrook You don’t have to let them stay. Especially considering how they acted last year, I would make your H tell them to plan on getting a hotel.
KellyEasterbrook You don’t have to let them stay. Especially considering how they acted last year, I would make your H tell them to plan on getting a hotel.
Adamantly seconded.
KellyEasterbrook, it also makes sense to me to not want lots of baby stuff around yet. I get it, with the road you've been down. The only exception I might make is whether you want to consider letting her order the car seat so you can get the installation checked, if you don't have one and will be driving home from the hospital. That is a process you probably won't want to deal with (referring to both the install and getting it checked if you choose to) while you have a little one in the hospital. Basically everything else you can just prime (or send mom for) when you need it.
KellyEasterbrook You don’t have to let them stay. Especially considering how they acted last year, I would make your H tell them to plan on getting a hotel.
Adamantly seconded.
KellyEasterbrook , it also makes sense to me to not want lots of baby stuff around yet. I get it, with the road you've been down. The only exception I might make is whether you want to consider letting her order the car seat so you can get the installation checked, if you don't have one and will be driving home from the hospital. That is a process you probably won't want to deal with (referring to both the install and getting it checked if you choose to) while you have a little one in the hospital. Basically everything else you can just prime (or send mom for) when you need it.
I have to laugh..I took your advice and mentioned to her that maybe we should go ahead and order a carseat. Apparently she already has, and had it delivered (and stored) to the local baby gear shop down the street. Her task while we're at the hospital will be to get that installed. Good call!
Post by stellelinds25 on Apr 9, 2019 7:50:53 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 10+6
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I have a UTI that I didn’t even know I had, that’s annoying! We have our first appt with the ob on Friday and see MFM on Monday for our NIPT and NT scan...looking forward to hearing a hb (RE never let us hear it, we just saw it) and seeing baby again! And of course finding out the gender!
3. Questions for the group?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? Our families are local...so they’ll all be around a lot I’m sure. My mom will be retired by then, so I know she’ll be around a lot...which is fine because I know she’ll be helpful. I also know this baby will be a source of healing for her after we lost my dad in December. This has been something good for all of us to focus on. My ILs are also retired and DH is going to have the boundaries talk with them, they are welcome to come visit, but with a phone call first and not for hours at a time.
gastro, I think I took 6 or 8 flights total with my IVF meds/needles and was never stopped once. The first several times I had my RE Dr. note with me, but then after that I just stopped bothering.
Another question - I'm taking a flight next week and now I will be traveling with insulin ( pen and needles) and my glucose monitor ( also with sharps). Do I need anything special to get through security with it? I'll be seeing my OB and Endo this week so can ask for a note etc.
My exH was diabetic and he generally would carry a note from his doctor just in case he ever got questioned when we traveled. Since you are seeing your Dr, I would probably get a note to be on the safe side. But, I don't recall a single time of him being questioned by security when we traveled. Also, that was almost 10 years ago and I feel like things have loosened up quite a bit over the past several years with regard to how strict security is.
Oh, I do have a question. For those that have given birth before do the nurses come in at all hours of the night to do checks on baby or you? I remember with DS2 they'd come in all the time for routine checks and turn on the bright lights etc. I wish they would be quiet, leave the lights on low when they do the routine checks.
They did for me, not sure about AJ because I sent him to the nursery overnight and they would bring him in if he was hungry. I feel like the first night they were all over checking my vitals every 4 hours but the second night they were better about stretching to every 6-7 hours or checking my vitals when I was already up. This time around I'm hoping I'll remember to straight up ask if they can time my vitals checks for when I'm already awake starting the first night.
1. How far along are you this week? 26w today...holy crap!
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Saturday night, J and I took AJ to a baseball game (Cleveland's minor league affiliate is located here in Columbus and the games are super fun). Except J forgot his wallet so I got to waltz my very pregnant self up to the beer stand twice to get him beers. Summer shandy no less, which is one of my favorites. Needless to say I got a small "mommy tax" sip of both before I handed them to him
3. Questions for the group? Nope!
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? My mom works for a school and won't be back to work until mid August so she will almost certainly be around quite a bit to help me out...she's actually helpful though and will do things like laundry, load dishwasher etc and not just sit around and hold the baby while I do those things. When AJ was a newborn I was fine with immediate family and close friends coming over in the few days after we got home so we'll see what the case is this time. J is planning on taking two weeks off when Girlfriend is born so the amount of help we'll need may be different compared to the first time around. I don't anticipate any tension though-J gets along great with my parents and I get along well with FIL (MIL passed away when I was pregnant with AJ) but we both have gotten pretty good at recognizing when our respective parent(s) is/are being a little much and have no problems reining them in.
hamster, ditto on no one in the waiting area while I'm in labor. We made that abundantly clear to all immediate family last time and for the most part they stuck to it, but FIL did randomly show up when he thought I was going to need a c-section despite J telling him otherwise. The only reason I didn't tell J to make him leave was because labor was taking for.ev.er and I was bored AF. This time around I am planning to ask J to 1. gently let his dad know that even if I do need a c/s he is NOT to come to the hospital until after the baby is born and we have given the green light and 2. please not tell extended family that I am in labor. (In addition to FILs surprise visit, J's cousin randomly popped in while we were waiting for the anesthesiologist to come give me my epidural. She works in the student health center for the hospital I delivered at and when she had heard I was in labor, she LOOKED ME UP IN THE SYSTEM to find out what room I was in. Holy HIPPAA violation Batman. She meant well but FFS.) I am not putting up with that shit this time.
3. Questions for the group? Hospital bag. When did you pack yours and what did you pack?
I had the majority of my bag packed around 35-36 weeks because 1. nesting hit me hard and 2. I didn't have another kid to chase around . The stuff I packed that early was the "not everyday" stuff-like a couple nursing tanks, PJ pants etc. The everyday stuff like contact stuff, some makeup in case I wanted it, phone charger, etc went on a list that I kept with the bag-that way, when go time came I (or someone else) could just go down the list and grab stuff. My water ended up breaking in the middle of the night and I had zero contractions at the time so I was able to gather stuff pretty easily. My husband did NOT make such a list and not surprisingly he forgot stuff like his deodorant and razor/shaving cream...thankfully we live ~20 min from the hospital so it wasn't a huge issue.
As far as stuff I packed, this was what was on my overall list (said list is saved on my work computer so it's easy to pull up):
Pajamas Nursing bras /tanks Underwear bathrobe
Toiletries (contact case, contact juice, glasses, toothbrush, mini toothpaste, deodorant, mini shampoo/conditioner/body wash/razor/shaving cream, lip balm, lotion, makeup)
Hair ties and brush, hair dryer and flat iron
Chargers-phone/kindle
Kindle
Pillow
cheap flip flops
The toiletry stuff is really a personal preference thing. I brought makeup etc because I didn't know if I'd want it and didn't trust my husband to grab the right stuff if I asked him to get it...thankfully I felt pretty okay after delivery and was feeling up to putting on a bit of makeup and drying my hair. I did have to have my husband bring my hair dryer from home though, because I did forget that My list this time will be similar. For the baby...I brought way too much stuff last time. This time I'm bringing a couple outfits and that's it!
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? we had our first OB appt yesterday (after being released from RE). long intro appt, but everything seems fine. she was like, "oh, we just got a new ultrasound in the office, so we are all learning how to use it, do you mind if we take a quick peek at baby?" ummmm, yeah, that's fine! like, who says no to that, lol. baby was pretty active and she caught a heartbeat at 167. scheduled the NT scan for next week, so that will be exciting.
3. Questions for the group? our infant bucket seat from DS expires in april 2020, due date in late october. we can't decide if we should just get a new one now, or wait it out until april. thoughts?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? we will need someone to stay with DS this time around. two SILs are local, and my sister is also semi-local. my mom will be retired by then, so will probably ask them to come stay for a few days, but once we get home with baby they will depart for a hotel. last time local SILs and sister came on day 2 to hospital for quick visit, then my parents and ILs the next two weekends after we got home. but everyone stayed in a hotel. no one stayed with us. the night times are so hard and long, and we wanted to not worry about guests. we needed space. it worked well since we had other siblings around to keep our parents busy.
3. Questions for the group? our infant bucket seat from DS expires in april 2020, due date in late october. we can't decide if we should just get a new one now, or wait it out until april. thoughts?
I'd use it until April and then switch to a convertible seat.
Pretty sure I switched my (chunky) kid around 4 months, mostly because I was tired of it sitting in the living room. I'll probably swap early again unless I feel like I'll switch DS1 forward facing right at 2, in which case I'll ride it out and just get a FF only seat for #1.
3. Questions for the group? our infant bucket seat from DS expires in april 2020, due date in late october. we can't decide if we should just get a new one now, or wait it out until april. thoughts?
So if I count right that’s about 5 months you can use it? Yeah I wouldn’t get a new then. DS started hating his infant seat when he was around 7 months (the 5 hour drive home from my dad at Easter was really fun...) Since we didn’t have a car back then and only used car shares every now and then we stuck it out for another couple of months until I found a 15% off deal on the seat I wanted. So we switched at 9 months. It sucked and if we had been driving more I would not have waited. He’s loved the car ever since he got the new seat which is good because now we have a car and drive daily.
1. 14+5, twins 2. I went to my OBGYN this week and both she and the ultrasound tech mentioned that I will be the size of a 40 week pregnancy at 28 weeks. I was all gung ho about this pregnancy until that. I was HUGE and in a lot of physical pain at 40 weeks with DS. I do not know how I can get any bigger than that. I’m a little scared. They also said I would need to mostly rest in third trimester and probably need to get everything done before then, so my timeline just lost several weeks of planning! 3. If you had twins, what week did you do maternity pics? 4. My family lives 10-11 hours away, H’s lives 8 hours away. They’ll probably come in around my planned c-section time but I kind of hope I go earlier so I can have some time with just H, DS and me. There were far too many people who came into town when I went into labor with DS. It ended up taking two more days to actually have him and I felt a lot big pressure to get him out since everyone was there. Plus my mom literally made herself sick with worry and had to go to the emergency room. I’d love to be able to focus on the babies (and my recovery).
3. Questions for the group? our infant bucket seat from DS expires in april 2020, due date in late october. we can't decide if we should just get a new one now, or wait it out until april. thoughts?
So if I count right that’s about 5 months you can use it? Yeah I wouldn’t get a new then. DS started hating his infant seat when he was around 7 months (the 5 hour drive home from my dad at Easter was really fun...) Since we didn’t have a car back then and only used car shares every now and then we stuck it out for another couple of months until I found a 15% off deal on the seat I wanted. So we switched at 9 months. It sucked and if we had been driving more I would not have waited. He’s loved the car ever since he got the new seat which is good because now we have a car and drive daily.
We also switched to a convertible really early because my DS was a huge baby and it was hard to carry the infant seat after a short time.
We found out yesterday that my 7 year old rescue pup has cancer and will be getting a mass removed in two weeks. We'll know then how bad it is and whether chemo is necessary or if there is a fatal prognosis. I'm all levels of devastated and of all things, certainly wasn't prepared for this coming up on 32 weeks pregnant. I'm glad we discovered it now before we have an infant at home but shit man. Come on.
We found out yesterday that my 7 year old rescue pup has cancer and will be getting a mass removed in two weeks. We'll know then how bad it is and whether chemo is necessary or if there is a fatal prognosis. I'm all levels of devastated and of all things, certainly wasn't prepared for this coming up on 32 weeks pregnant. I'm glad we discovered it now before we have an infant at home but shit man. Come on.
I'm so sorry! I hope they can get it all and hell be cancer free after the surgery. We had to put our cat down when I was 6 months pregnant last time and it was awful. It wasnt something we were expecting and the pregnancy hormones made it so much worse/more emotional.
We found out yesterday that my 7 year old rescue pup has cancer and will be getting a mass removed in two weeks. We'll know then how bad it is and whether chemo is necessary or if there is a fatal prognosis. I'm all levels of devastated and of all things, certainly wasn't prepared for this coming up on 32 weeks pregnant. I'm glad we discovered it now before we have an infant at home but shit man. Come on.
I'm so sorry. We were possibly facing this a couple of weeks ago and I was a total wreck.
We found out yesterday that my 7 year old rescue pup has cancer and will be getting a mass removed in two weeks. We'll know then how bad it is and whether chemo is necessary or if there is a fatal prognosis. I'm all levels of devastated and of all things, certainly wasn't prepared for this coming up on 32 weeks pregnant. I'm glad we discovered it now before we have an infant at home but shit man. Come on.
I'm sorry I know how devastating that would be...I can't imagine something happening to either one of my dogs. Hoping that it's not bad and no chemo is needed!