2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I actually had energy this weekend and was semi-productive! I removed all the leaves/dead brush from our yard that we neglected last fall and we put the patio furniture out. I also socialized with friends Friday, Saturday, and Sunday instead of being a lazy homebody. It was a good weekend
3. Questions for the group? nope
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? My family is local, and my parents and sister/nieces will likely visit in the hospital like they did with DS, and then probably again once we make it home. They generally stay for an hour and then leave, so they're ideal visitors.
My in-laws are 3+ hours away and I know they think its "unfair" that my family gets to meet the baby first again, but I'm not up for having them at my house for 12 hour stretches, which is what they do even when they get a hotel. If they want to come up and visit for an hour and then leave like my family does, than more power to them! But obviously with such a long drive that isn't realistic. They're also clearly uncomfortable with breastfeeding, which makes ME uncomfortable and makes their long visits tough. Its definitely a source of tension, and I probably will only be able to push them off for a week or so.
1. How far along are you this week? 31+7. 7+3 to go.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Got the closet in the nursery painted, and started going through clothes and baby gear. NB and 3 month is all washed and either in the dresser or hung up. Going to Hobby Lobby this morning for some decorations. Making my big amazon order at some point this week too most likely.
H asked me if I was getting excited, and I just kind of muttered that that was one my emotions. He brought it up again later, but truth is I've been so anxious about my own health, NICU fears, and the idea of a 19m old and a newborn I haven't really felt excited for the bulk of the pregnancy. It makes me feel bad/guilty for this kid though I know it's also probably normal.
3. Questions for the group? Silly question. Should I try and have baby wear the same thing home from the hospital as C, or something different. It's not really a special outfit otherwise, it was just a sleep and play that matched C's nursery theme. I haven't found one for this kid yet in the same vein.
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? MIL will bring C by on day 2? We actually haven't talked about it. My dad will come down soon after but not sure when. I just assume not tell my mom at all. But adamantly nobody in the waiting area! My mom wont even get a text until after because she was so annoying last time.
1. How far along are you this week? 20 weeks today! Can’t believe it.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week?
I was in London for the weekend and it was so great. We did so much walking that it’s crazy. My body hurts from all the activity. But! I got some maternity jeans from Seraphine and they are amazing! So comfortable and actually flattering and fitted. I’m so glad to finally have jeans that I can wear again. I also got baby a mini Hedwig from platform 9 3/4. 😁😁 Im a nerd.
3. Questions for the group?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family?
Yes, my mom is coming August 23 (I am due August 26) for 1 month and my dad is also coming with her but only for 2 weeks. She didn’t really ask and I didn’t really say anything haha. She’s good though and stays out of our way plus will cook and clean extensively so I think it’ll be good. My in laws are coming end of September and we are doing a road trip to a villa in Cinque Terre for 2 weeks where my brother in law and his family are meeting us. Not sure how I’ll feel about that one or if I’ll be ready for it but we will see. They kept asking us to commit so we did but I have no clue how I’ll feel then so we shall see.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I have a follow up appointment with the MFM tomorrow to check on my low placenta. Fingers crossed it moved up!
3. Questions for the group? Not right now.
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? My parents are coming for about 20 days a few days after the due date. They are a great help, so i’m happy to have them come. We have a guest house so it’s easy for us to host guests without disrupting our routines.
hamster, I plan to bring the same going home outfit for DD as I used for DS (we were team green the 1st time so its gender neutral). Its really nothing special, but I thought it would be cute to use it for both
And yes, I hear you on the waiting room. There will be no one there, FOR SURE. We didn't notify anyone I was in labor/had the baby until several hours after DS arrived. I'd do the same this time, but my mom will need to come stay with DS so she'll know ahead of time.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I'm still pregnant. Not feeling super bad, although sleeping is really hard. Mostly just sick of the constant texts and messages asking "Baby news??" and it sometimes surprises me who sends them - people I don't consider myself to be *that* close with! C'mon people, we aren't good enough friends to be asking me every other day. I'm really just irritable. Ha.
3. Questions for the group?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? Our only local family is my brother and his family, and they will be helping watch DD. They have 3 kids of their own who are too young to come visit at the hospital (under 12 has to be siblings of the baby) so I doubt they will come visit us while in the hospital. They would be welcome though, if they did want to come. My parents are coming on Friday, they will be here for a week. I'm sure MIL is bummed that they will meet the baby so much before she does, but I don't think she is planning to come visit until June or July. FIL's health hasn't been super great and they are hoping he will get well enough to travel and come, so it makes more sense for her to wait a bit.
Oh - the only thing is that if I'm able to go into labor naturally I don't think I want to tell people that I'm in labor, necessarily. Mostly DH's family - I just know his mom would be calling for constant updates and that would bother me. I don't know how he'd feel about that, though...we haven't really talked about it. And it's probably a moot point because apparently I do not go into labor on my own and will likely just end up being induced.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I've seen the chiropractor a few times for my SPD and I KNOW it takes more than a few visits but progress now would be great lol.
3. Questions for the group? Hospital bag. When did you pack yours and what did you pack?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? Everyone is local to us, so no one will be staying with us but I imagine my MIL will stop by a few times a week. But I like her and she'll let me nap and not entertain her so I'm cool with it.
hamster - I hear you on having a lot of feelings other than excited. I had a horrible loss end of 2017, and this pregnancy has mostly been anxiety and worry for me, despite not having any actual problems. I realized I hadn't gotten a baby book for this little guy, and pulled out DD's book to look through. It was sort of sad to read all the things I wrote in hers about being so excited to find out I was pregnant, how fun the pregnancy was, etc. I definitely could not write things like that this time, mostly I was just scared. When I first found out I was pregnant I didn't even want to talk about it at all, even with DH. Too much anxiety.
3. Questions for the group? Hospital bag. When did you pack yours and what did you pack?
I was pretty minimalist. I packed some comfy clothes (yoga pants, nursing tank, cardigan), some grippy socks, my phone charger, ipad, and some basic toiletries (deodorant, moisturizer, lip balm). I knew I wasn't gonna wash/blow out my hair or put on make up, so I skipped that (I only wash my hair twice a week as it is). The only thing I'll add this time is a boppy pillow.
I think I packed it around 36/37 weeks last time? We live close enough to the hospital that I didn't really stress it.
oliviapope I'm guessing I packed around 36/37 weeks? No idea what I packed, but I wore H's shirts that were big and soft, flip flops, and a robe. Plus clothes to wear home. I didnt bother with pants, lol. When my water broke I basically threw in my bathroom bag and called it good.
H went through way more than me because he needed real clothes and didnt have anything packed so he did a piss poor job. The man brought six books "for the downtime" LOL for days.
For the baby I'll bring a couple of shirts and gowns, plus a pack of wipes.
2. I have a growth scan on Wed., looking forward to knowing what position he is in. I can't tell at all from all the movements.
I sort of feel like I am going through the motions of getting ready... and I feel like I'm not hitting a lot of the important things. Room is painted, crib is set up, I have some clothes, a box of NB diapers. But I don't know when I'm going to make the "big" Amazon order from the registry, pack the hospital bag, install the car seat, or any of the other stuff. I guess I should start thinking about it! I've just been sort of getting through day to day for a lot of the last month or so, and haven't felt very strategic.
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4. I'm not really sure. We're still working out when/whether my dad will come visit to help us with DD when I'm in the hospital, and what that might mean for an induction decision. I also don't know how much time H will take off. MIL says she wants to come help me, but I'm not counting on that translating to actual predictable help. She always says she wants to, but when you name a date and time it's always "oh but not THEN."
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? OMG the SPD pain just started this weekend and it's AWFUL. I have been staying pretty active but then this weekend we had a big event weekend at work and I was running around all weekend in non-supportive work shoes (flats, I don't wear heels anyway, but still). And now my pubic bone is on FIRE after I've been on my feet for more than an hour.
I just spent a zillion dollars on some new Cole Haan supportive flats to get my through the next two months and also bought some more birkenstocks for the weekend. I'll lay off the sumo squats and such for awhile, and made a Chiro apt for Wednesday.
3. Questions for the group?
Any other recommendation for SPD pain?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family?
My Mom flies in a week before my due date, and considering I'll likely be induced some time in my 39th week this works well. She'll be here for two weeks, then my Dad comes in for the last 5 days or so of that.
My In-laws are about 90 minutes away. I REALLY don't want them to visit in the hospital, but there aren't inherently bad people (just annoying) so I may negotiate on that but not until we're closer to being ready to go home. And they can only stay for an hour or so (DH is handling that conversation). Same for home visits afterwards. Only a few hours at a time.
Otherwise, my sisters will come in July for a week as well (due in early June).
I sort of feel like I am going through the motions of getting ready... and I feel like I'm not hitting a lot of the important things. Room is painted, crib is set up, I have some clothes, a box of NB diapers. But I don't know when I'm going to make the "big" Amazon order from the registry, pack the hospital bag, install the car seat, or any of the other stuff. I guess I should start thinking about it! I've just been sort of getting through day to day for a lot of the last month or so, and haven't felt very strategic.
You're away ahead of me if it makes you feel better, i've done none of the above! We ordered a dresser but it needs to be assembled. Its been sitting in a box in the hallway for 3 weeks.
ugh turbo, that sounds awful. I don't particularly like my MIL, but she is at least nice to my face (she just talks shit behind my back). I would definitely have a talk with your DH about how he needs to run interference and shut shit down. No staying at your house. No tolerating abusive behavior. That's not ok.
Add me to the zero motivation camp. I'm all "meh, so what if she doesn't have a room?" she won't be sleeping in it for a while anyway. And we don't have an infant car seat yet (used the old on for trade in since I hated it and had no intention of reusing).
Add me to the zero motivation camp. I'm all "meh, so what if she doesn't have a room?" she won't be sleeping in it for a while anyway. And we don't have an infant car seat yet (used the old on for trade in since I hated it and had no intention of reusing).
I have seriously considered just dragging out all the infant inserts for DS1’s convertible car seat and calling that good enough to get home from the hospital with, but I think we need to change the recline and installation on it to use it as an infant seat and the thought of figuring that out is more of a headache than my plan to just use the older car so.... 🤷♀️
lol. they'll make it home somehow. i figure if i put it off too long it becomes a DH problem, not mine
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Add me to the unmotivated group. I finally ordered some fabric to make a ring sling but still need to get nb diapers, clothes, misc baby stuff, move a dresser upstairs, etc.
3. Questions for the group? Nah
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? My mom and DH's dad are local. My mom is on call for DS and is generally helpful. Plus she is retired now so I expect she will be around to help. I assume my dad will drive up at some point to meet the baby, but they don't stay with us when they are here. No idea about MIL, she usually visits for a few weeks in the summer but haven't heard any plans yet from her. She will probably want to stay at our house, which stresses me out without a baby so we shall see how that goes.
Post by chocolatepie on Apr 8, 2019 10:15:28 GMT -5
1. How far along are you this week? 9w5d
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? Both of us lost weight in the last year (90lb for me, 30 for him) and since we hadn't had pics taken in ~10 years because I hated how I looked, I booked a session at Magic Kingdom with a local photographer. And then we found out the IVF worked so we threw in baby announcement pic & fake gender reveal (took w both boy and girl balloon so we can just use the right one when we find out LOL). Anyways, those were Saturday morning and I love the sneak peeks she already sent me and can't wait to see the rest. We aren't announcing until week 13 when we get NIPT results.
3. Questions for the group? Can y'all help me out with the bra situation? My bra is super tight already and hurts, plus my boobs hurt when they aren't in a bra. I started to look at maternity sleeping bras and nursing/maternity bras and am wondering if it's completely silly to invest in some when I'm barely pregnant. Have you used a maternity sleeping bra and did it help with the pain? Did you just go up sizes in regular bras or did you transition to a nursing and/or maternity bra while in early pregnancy?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? I hope to not have anyone... our family lives 1200 miles away so that makes it easier. My mother is the most unhelpful person ever so having her here would be a disaster and I'm not comfortable enough with my MIL. I think I'd prefer to just tell everyone once baby is here but we'll see how my DH feels once we get closer.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I got sick Friday and was throwing up among other stomach issues. Saturday I felt ok, but Sunday was back to feeling awful. Today is a little better, but not by much, but whatever I caught can disappear anytime. Then Sunday night I started to get period like cramps that freaked me out, but they went away after about 10 minutes. FTM worries!
3. Questions for the group? Does anyone have any tips to stop snoring? H said I have started snoring lately, but I have tried Breathing strips and those haven’t helped, I was going to try Vick’s Vaporub next.
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? Both of our families live in the area, but I am trying to convince H to not call or text anyone until the baby is born. They can pop into the hospital and visit, but once we are at home, I don’t think I want anyone coming over for a couple days. I guess we’ll see when the time comes.
Sorry for those who are having a tough time with their inlaws. My MIL can be very pushy and it’s exhausting to constantly fight back. I foresee a lot of that in my future.
3. Questions for the group? Does anyone have any tips to stop snoring? H said I have started snoring lately, but I have tried Breathing strips and those haven’t helped, I was going to try Vick’s Vaporub next.
I throw elbows until he goes and sleeps in the guest room, does that count lol? Generally though it helps that I go to bed first, and we use a noise machine and fan for white noise.
Does anyone have any tips to stop snoring? H said I have started snoring lately, but I have tried Breathing strips and those haven’t helped, I was going to try Vick’s Vaporub next.
Earplugs for your H
But seriously. You're presumably large, struggling to breathe, and probably have a bit of congestion. H whines about it, but realizes it's just a fact of life at this stage.
I sort of feel like I am going through the motions of getting ready... and I feel like I'm not hitting a lot of the important things. Room is painted, crib is set up, I have some clothes, a box of NB diapers. But I don't know when I'm going to make the "big" Amazon order from the registry, pack the hospital bag, install the car seat, or any of the other stuff. I guess I should start thinking about it! I've just been sort of getting through day to day for a lot of the last month or so, and haven't felt very strategic.
You're away ahead of me if it makes you feel better, i've done none of the above! We ordered a dresser but it needs to be assembled. Its been sitting in a box in the hallway for 3 weeks.
I painted the room like 2 months ago - felt super proud of myself - and then totally dropped the ball. I bought 7 yards of fabric for the curtains that I draped over the crib to see with the wall color, and frankly 21 feet of material was just so unwieldy and overwhelming that I left it there. For 2 months. I finally got it out this weekend and started cutting the pattern and a bit of the sewing, I am hoping it kick starts some progress on other stuff as well.
I'm also feeling overwhelmed by like 64 different piles of stuff that I've "sorted," but not done anything with. We emptied our office to make DS's room, and that stuff has flowed into every other room of the house. We've had to do a lot of reducing. But there are piles of "books to donate," "baby girl clothes to send to my BFF who lives across the country," "toddler girl clothes to send to my other BFF, also across the country," "play condition girl clothes to give away locally," "crap to put out at the neighborhood yard sale," "maternity clothes that I've outgrown and might use postpartum," "maternity clothes that I've outgrown but won't use postpartum"... and it continues. I'm paralyzed by the unfinished seeming nature of all of these piles, and simultaneously so frustrated at the clutter that they cause.
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Unrelated: I thought of a question! Especially for STMs: Are you doing the whole Dreft laundry detergent routine for hand me down baby clothes from your first? I used Dreft when DD was a NB because I guess you're "supposed" to? But this time I'm kind of like... eh... my usual detergent is probably fine?
Does anyone have any tips to stop snoring? H said I have started snoring lately, but I have tried Breathing strips and those haven’t helped, I was going to try Vick’s Vaporub next.
Earplugs for your H
But seriously. You're presumably large, struggling to breathe, and probably have a bit of congestion. H whines about it, but realizes it's just a fact of life at this stage.
Ha! Yes. He has just been moving to the spare room, but I am not a snorer usually, so I feel terrible! It will soon be over at least!
But seriously. You're presumably large, struggling to breathe, and probably have a bit of congestion. H whines about it, but realizes it's just a fact of life at this stage.
Ha! Yes. He has just been moving to the spare room, but I am not a snorer usually, so I feel terrible! It will soon be over at least!
Oh, i totally missed that YOU were the snorer. You're super pregnant, too bad so sad for your DH. He'll survive!
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I was super productive this weekend! I cleaned a ton and did a bunch of yard work. The weather was so nice. It feels good to be productive! The yardwork made me feel awful Saturday night though. I think I overdid it a bit. So nice to get things off the "to-do" list.
I am huge. I think I might be as big as I was at 39W last time. LOL
3. Questions for the group? Don't think so.
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? My parents, sister/BIL, MIL/FIL and BIL/SIL will probably visit in the hospital. Everyone is local except my parents so they'll probably just stay a couple hours. Last time my parents stayed for like 6 days. That's about all I can handle so I hope that's their plan this time too. If it's a weekend it will be nice to have my mom to entertain DS, but during the week we have daycare so I'm fine to be on my own then. We'll see. Sometimes it can be hard to convince them to leave. Hopefully they don't fight me on it. The topic hasn't come up yet and I don't really want to bring it up. LOL
Oh...also. DS (2.5 years old) climbed out of his crib after nap for the first time. BIG BOOM! I yelled at him and we still used the crib that night even though they say to discontinue use at that point...but...I'm not ready. LOL We were going to wait until the first week of June, but we may need to do it sooner. UGH. I just need to get the blinds in his room hung and get him a new pillow and we should be ready but....I don't wanna. We'll probably do this over Easter weekend so hopefully my yelling scared him enough to knock it off for 2 more weeks.
2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for this week? I finally felt baby girl move on Saturday! I’ve been waiting for it a long time so I’m very excited! I actually figured I might feel it a bit earlier this time since I’m a STM but I have not - turns out I have an anterior placenta so that explains it.
3. Questions for the group?
4. Do you plan to have any visitors/helpers immediately after giving birth? Has this been a source of tension at all with your spouse or family? So last time my dad came to visit us when DS was like 4-5 days old. He stayed for 3 days I think but cooked and cleaned. It was great. Then my mom and step-dad came when DS was 14 days. Again they cooked and helped. The IL’s came from Canada when DS was 6 weeks and stayed for two weeks. They always stay in a hotel so they’re not bothering us. We did a mix of eating out, me cooking and MIL cooking.
This time things might be a little different, mostly because we already have DS so someone needs to come watch him. We’re not sure exactly how we will do that. Maybe mom will come stay with us (though she lives 3 hours away so she would have to come stay for awhile, especially since DS was born 10 days past his due date and I’m expecting something similar again). What will also be different is that my dad and step-mom have decided to move closer to us (currently they are about a 5 hour drive away). They’ve bought a house about 40 min from us and will most likely be in it by the time I’m due (though not 100% sure, it depends on when they sell their property and if they’ve managed to get rid of the sheep they own). I guess if they’re here they can watch DS. And I guess they won’t come for overnight visits (unless I ask them to). I’m guessing the IL’s are thinking a similar timeline as last time but I would be ok with them coming earlier. So in short people will probably come and they are welcome
Silly question. Should I try and have baby wear the same thing home from the hospital as C, or something different. It's not really a special outfit otherwise, it was just a sleep and play that matched C's nursery theme. I haven't found one for this kid yet in the same vein.
We were team green last time so I brought a cute onesie and two pair of pants (one brown from the same set as the onesie and one pink). We will bring the same onesie this time but only the pink pants. If this had been a boy he would have worn the same as DS.