Would you say something?

[Pilsy]

May 8, 2019 12:12:48 GMT -5 puppylove64 said:

Do you have a dog? I’m so non confrontational, I would probably blame my dog. Tell them please stop because my dog goes crazy and it is a pain to calm her back down.

Or plant a row of privacy bushes on both sides of my yard and hope the get a hint.

No dog of our own. 

[Que?]

I’m passive aggressive as fuck, so grain of salt lol.

I would call or text right now and play dumb. “Hi, I was on a conference call when you were over, I didn’t hear you knock and couldn’t leave my call; did you need something?”
This gives her no choice but to tell you wtf she was doing in your yard, and let’s her know that you require a reason for her doing so.

[Pilsy]

OMFG!!!!!!!!!!!!  There's shit by the shed.* HOW AM I GOING TO GET ANY WORK DONE THIS AFTERNOON?

I poked it with a stick and it's fresh.  (And no, I don't have a dog. I have never before found poop in my backyard.)


I'm completely dumbfounded and pissed. I don't know how to describe my neighbor, but I'm beyond shocked she would do this. She's rather...refined. Or I thought she was. I actually began to wonder if she's out of doggie bags and had plans to come pick it up later or something. But in that case, why my lawn instead of her own? So that can't be it.

WTF? I am so pissed.

* The shed isn't at the very back of the property. The swingset is farther back, so we go beyond it all the time, and the poop is just past the end of the ramp we use for the mower so it's not hidden at all. 

[Pilsy]

I'm actually glad I didn't approach her before checking, because I clearly need to address the poop, not just her being in my yard.

[candreco]

No fucking way. I'd be over there knocking on her door, and tell her that you saw her with her dog in your yard by the shed earlier, thought there might be a problem so went out to check, and are very upset to find dog poop.

[icedcoffee]

Ugh. I'm sorry. As a dog owner I was really hoping that was not the case because a lot of us are super responsible so I was kinda rolling my eyes at the suggestion of that. I don't understand at all why if you have 1 acre properties she'd take her dog to your property to poop. Does not compute.

Definitely say something. I'm sorry. That's annoying.

ETA:  I'd probably do it by text because I'm super non confrontational.

[Pilsy]

May 8, 2019 12:41:57 GMT -5 candreco said:

No fucking way. I'd be over there knocking on her door, and tell her that you saw her with her dog in your yard by the shed earlier, thought there might be a problem so went out to check, and are very upset to find dog poop.

Yeah, this sounds good. 

I just need to calm down a little. I am so pissed. 




They've given us lots of hand-me-downs for my kids, and I was thinking the other day how maybe I should give them a gift card as a thanks.  HA!

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May 8, 2019 12:41:57 GMT -5 candreco said:

No fucking way. I'd be over there knocking on her door, and tell her that you saw her with her dog in your yard by the shed earlier, thought there might be a problem so went out to check, and are very upset to find dog poop.

At this point I'd skip saying you were curious if there was a problem and say "I saw you. I looked in my yard and there's dog shit out there. Please go clean it up and stop walking through my yard. Let your dog shit in your own yard."

And I wouldn't offer to allow her to walk in the front yard any longer either. But I'm a vindictive bitch. 

[bcv513]

I'd be tempted to pull an NQB and bag the poop up and leave it on her front step

[Leeham Rimes]

How about a nice electric fence?

[wildrice]

May 8, 2019 12:48:17 GMT -5 @princessbubbleyum said:

May 8, 2019 12:41:57 GMT -5 candreco said:

No fucking way. I'd be over there knocking on her door, and tell her that you saw her with her dog in your yard by the shed earlier, thought there might be a problem so went out to check, and are very upset to find dog poop.

At this point I'd skip saying you were curious if there was a problem and say "I saw you. I looked in my yard and there's dog shit out there. Please go clean it up and stop walking through my yard. Let your dog shit in your own yard."

And I wouldn't offer to allow her to walk in the front yard any longer either. But I'm a vindictive bitch. 

I agree with this. She clearly brought her dog over to your house to go to the bathroom. WTF. 

You can't possibly look like the asshole in this situation. You wouldn't even be in this situation if she wasn't acting like an asshole. 

I hate the idea of warring with neighbors, but you also can't just let them walk all over you. 

Sorry. I hate confrontation too.

[wildrice]

Also I don't think you should have to spend thousands of dollars on a fence you don't otherwise need or want. I don't know why we always assume people have tons of money to throw at our problems. I certainly couldn't and wouldn't spend that just to keep an asshole neighbor from walking into my yard. She isn't supposed to be there whether there is a physical barrier or not!

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May 8, 2019 13:03:29 GMT -5 wildrice said:

Also I don't think you should have to spend thousands of dollars on a fence you don't otherwise need or want. I don't know why we always assume people have tons of money to throw at our problems. I certainly couldn't and wouldn't spend that just to keep an asshole neighbor from walking into my yard. She isn't supposed to be there whether there is a physical barrier or not!

I agree with this 100%. 

[achi]

What in the actual fuck?! Who does that?! This woman is nuts. We had a previous problem with a neighbor who had a large dog and he used to let the dog shit everywhere and clean it up. There was no fence between the two properties and one time I got so fed up I picked it up and left it on his back deck right in front of the door. So I'm with bcv513, leave it on her front door with a note that says "I think you forgot to pick this up off my property."

[knx9211]

I KNEW IT!!!! What an asshole. I'd not only go over there and let her have it for this since there is NO CHANCE it's the first time, I'd tell her that not only is she not allowed in your backyard, she is no longer allowed to cut through your front yard either. Stay off of my property.

"I know that I told you that you could cut through the front, but since you've shown such a blatant disrespect for my wishes and my property, stay off of it entirely in the future. Bitch."

[mel]

May 8, 2019 13:03:29 GMT -5 wildrice said:

Also I don't think you should have to spend thousands of dollars on a fence you don't otherwise need or want. I don't know why we always assume people have tons of money to throw at our problems. I certainly couldn't and wouldn't spend that just to keep an asshole neighbor from walking into my yard. She isn't supposed to be there whether there is a physical barrier or not!

This. I'm also very non-confrontational but I don't think I'd let this go. 


Did you find older poop too or just the fresh stuff from this morning? 

[Leeham Rimes]

Also, we actually had this problem in our last house. H went out and spoke with the neighbor to please stop coming onto our property and also stop letting the dog poop in our yard. It was in our front yard, so there really was not a lot of options for barriers. They did stop. They're the ones that made it awkward for trespassing and letting their dog shit all over.

[liverandonions]

Not fucking cool. Address it now while the situation and poop is fresh.

[Pilsy]

May 8, 2019 13:02:07 GMT -5 wildrice said:

May 8, 2019 12:48:17 GMT -5 @princessbubbleyum said:

You can't possibly look like the asshole in this situation. 

GOOD POINT!

[knx9211]

May 8, 2019 12:37:31 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

OMFG!!!!!!!!!!!!  There's shit by the shed.* HOW AM I GOING TO GET ANY WORK DONE THIS AFTERNOON?

I poked it with a stick and it's fresh.  (And no, I don't have a dog. I have never before found poop in my backyard.)


I'm completely dumbfounded and pissed. I don't know how to describe my neighbor, but I'm beyond shocked she would do this. She's rather...refined. Or I thought she was. I actually began to wonder if she's out of doggie bags and had plans to come pick it up later or something. But in that case, why my lawn instead of her own? So that can't be it.

WTF? I am so pissed.

* The shed isn't at the very back of the property. The swingset is farther back, so we go beyond it all the time, and the poop is just past the end of the ramp we use for the mower so it's not hidden at all. 

later when? Tomorrow? I mean, look at how long it's been! She had no intention of coming back and don't let her give you that excuse when you go over there.  You know she'll try it.

[Pilsy]

May 8, 2019 13:18:22 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

May 8, 2019 12:37:31 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

OMFG!!!!!!!!!!!!  There's shit by the shed.* HOW AM I GOING TO GET ANY WORK DONE THIS AFTERNOON?

I poked it with a stick and it's fresh.  (And no, I don't have a dog. I have never before found poop in my backyard.)


I'm completely dumbfounded and pissed. I don't know how to describe my neighbor, but I'm beyond shocked she would do this. She's rather...refined. Or I thought she was. I actually began to wonder if she's out of doggie bags and had plans to come pick it up later or something. But in that case, why my lawn instead of her own? So that can't be it.

WTF? I am so pissed.

* The shed isn't at the very back of the property. The swingset is farther back, so we go beyond it all the time, and the poop is just past the end of the ramp we use for the mower so it's not hidden at all. 

later when? Tomorrow? I mean, look at how long it's been! She had no intention of coming back and don't let her give you that excuse when you go over there.  You know she'll try it.

Yeah, I know. Like i said, that can't be it. I'm just shocked and was grasping for an explanation. 

I am quite eager to hear her explanation. Or denial. I'll update once I've been over there. I wanted to go before the kids got home, but I heard someone's kids a while ago, so I knew I was already too late. I need to get a couple things done for work but I will go today. 

[cleo29]

May 8, 2019 11:50:30 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

May 8, 2019 11:37:09 GMT -5 dochas said:

I would be so uncomfortable in my home if I thought someone might pass my window at any moment, or be wandering around my property - especially with an acre, I would expect privacy.

Exactly. 

We deal with it in the front because they can't see in the windows and we truly didn't know how to say no when they asked us. The way the houses sit - all far from the road, and one actually around a corner on a perpendicular road - it saves them a significant walk. Not our problem, of course, but it's a very small town and we don't want to be the asshold neighbors when everyone else seems to be comfy hanging out all the time. All the kids are outside anytime the weather is nice enough, and they go back and forth a lot. 

I'm going to talk with my husband about the possibility of a fence for at least part of the side/back, which would prevent access to the back. I'm so annoyed. 

there will be poop. i would bag up what you find, take it over to her house and tell her, " you forgot to get this the other day. in the future, please keep your dog in your large yard. "

[imojoebunny]

I was sitting on my porch, enjoying a cup of coffee, when a woman from the apartment building next door, and her dog walked right up next to the porch, so the dog could poop. I said, "Hey there, could you walk your dog in the dog area for the apartment building, this is my yard." She said without one bit of shame, "I am going to pick it up." Nope, lady, you are going to get off my lawn, and a month later, we had a fence.

You have ask them not to, and they ignored you, likely thinking your not home. You are not going to shame them into doing anything different. Your fence doesn't have to be fancy, a couple of strings of barbed wire or goat fencing will do. You could even plant some grapes along the property line, no fence necessary, just the wires and post for the arbor. Let the vines do their work.

[icedcoffee]

May 8, 2019 13:28:05 GMT -5 imojoebunny said:

You could even plant some grapes along the property line, no fence necessary, just the wires and post for the arbor. Let the vines do their work.

That'll surely keep the dogs out....when the grapes kill the dog.  

[pixy0stix]

Now I'm invested.

[knx9211]

May 8, 2019 13:41:08 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Now I'm invested.

I am embarrassed at how invested I am at this point. I am really heated about this

.

OP I can't wait for you to go over there. It is ruining my work productivity.

[carmenere]

May 8, 2019 13:26:04 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

May 8, 2019 11:50:30 GMT -5 Pilsy said:

Exactly. 

We deal with it in the front because they can't see in the windows and we truly didn't know how to say no when they asked us. The way the houses sit - all far from the road, and one actually around a corner on a perpendicular road - it saves them a significant walk. Not our problem, of course, but it's a very small town and we don't want to be the asshold neighbors when everyone else seems to be comfy hanging out all the time. All the kids are outside anytime the weather is nice enough, and they go back and forth a lot. 

I'm going to talk with my husband about the possibility of a fence for at least part of the side/back, which would prevent access to the back. I'm so annoyed. 

there will be poop. i would bag up what you find, take it over to her house and tell her, " you forgot to get this the other day. in the future, please keep your dog in your large yard. "

I was going to suggest passive-aggressively leaving the poop on her doorstep but this is much better.

Just curious, do the neighbors on the other side have a dog? Could she plausibly claim it's not hers?

[ECB]

May 8, 2019 13:28:05 GMT -5 imojoebunny said:

 Your fence doesn't have to be fancy, a couple of strings of barbed wire or goat fencing will do. You could even plant some grapes along the property line, no fence necessary, just the wires and post for the arbor. Let the vines do their work.

I DO think when confronted with "I was home and I saw you", you're neighbor is going to be like "Oh shit!".  They didn't think you were home.  BUT this might just mean they'll get smarter/ pay more attention to when you aren't home.

But I agree with the above- a fence doesn't have to be fancy.  If you can do SOMETHING at least on their side of your property that doesn't affect your view/use/enjoyment of your property, I'd seriously consider it.  

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May 8, 2019 13:43:27 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

May 8, 2019 13:41:08 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Now I'm invested.

I am embarrassed at how invested I am at this point. I am really heated about this

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OP I can't wait for you to go over there. It is ruining my work productivity.

Same here!

Can you give us an approximate timeframe of when you plan to go over there? And would it be possible for you to record it so we can all enjoy the backpedaling by this neighbor? 

[ECB]

May 8, 2019 13:52:03 GMT -5 @princessbubbleyum said:

May 8, 2019 13:43:27 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

I am embarrassed at how invested I am at this point. I am really heated about this

.

OP I can't wait for you to go over there. It is ruining my work productivity.

Same here!

Can you give us an approximate timeframe of when you plan to go over there? And would it be possible for you to record it so we can all enjoy the backpedaling by this neighbor? 

Yes, this.  I need to put this on my schedule to come back and check.