June Randoms

[red]

I can't believe we are a few days into June already!

I'm currently 12w2d, still very nervous. Going for our NT scan on Wednesday, I think I'll feel better after that. We close on our house this Friday, so we'll have something to keep our minds off things for a while. We looked at furniture yesterday and when the sales associate asked if we had any kids we mentioned we were expecting. When I stopped in the ladies room (I always have to pee lately), H told the sales associate where I work/what I do... well, turns out she is the neighbor of a coworker of mine. I haven't mentioned to people at work yet. UGH. I guess we shouldn't tell strangers, you never know what connections they might have. I politely asked her not to mention anything about the pregnancy, but obviously I do not know how much of a gossiper she is. I wanted to wait a few more weeks before saying anything at work. 

[pinkpeony08]

Happy June! I really can't believe it's already June.

red hopefully she will not say anything as it is your news to tell.

I've been having a rough last week or so. This past weekend was my due date from my last loss. And we still haven't met with the reproductive immunologist. It's finally next month. I've been sad that we aren't having a baby and sad seeing people I know with their babies who were due right around my prior due dates, knowing that's how old my baby would be.

It's our anniversary later this week. We are going out for dinner to our favorite restaurant. I'm looking forward to it. We are all moved into our new house, which has been really great! I'm just hoping the last little details can get finished up this week -still waiting for our master shower door, bathroom mirrors, etc.

[landmermaid]

Big hugs to you, pinkpeony08. I hope you have a lovely anniversary dinner.

[shauni27]

red, congrats on the house! hopefully that will be a good distraction to get you through a few weeks. Exciting!
pinkpeony08, hugs. Anniversaries are always hard.

Nothing much to report on here. S just went through a word explosion and it is SO helpful in communicating with him! He is not quite 2 and so far, this is my favorite stage (I keep saying that, lol). But he is so awesome, I love getting to talk WITH him and hearing him say "love you, mama." and give me kisses and hugs, etc.

HOWEVER, he has started calling me MOM instead of MAMA or MOMMY about half the time and I DO NOT APPROVE, lol.

[pinkpeony08]

Jun 4, 2019 11:12:26 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

red, congrats on the house! hopefully that will be a good distraction to get you through a few weeks. Exciting!
pinkpeony08, hugs. Anniversaries are always hard.

Nothing much to report on here. S just went through a word explosion and it is SO helpful in communicating with him! He is not quite 2 and so far, this is my favorite stage (I keep saying that, lol). But he is so awesome, I love getting to talk WITH him and hearing him say "love you, mama." and give me kisses and hugs, etc.

HOWEVER, he has started calling me MOM instead of MAMA or MOMMY about half the time and I DO NOT APPROVE, lol.

Thanks.
As my kids get older, I feel like it just gets better and better, which is kind of amazing. But they grow so fast

[thoseareradishes]

We are doing well. E is growing up so fast, she ditched her crib and this past weekend we had to get rid of her booster seat at the table because she nearly flipped the chair over, with herself in it. So that's been interesting to deal with, her sitting at the table without being buckled in! She is also driving me up a wall with her climbing. Her favorite thing to do is walk on the arm of the couch and stand on the back of the couch and look out the window (thanks gymnastics). She fell off last week and scared the shit out of me, so now I constantly say "sit on your butt!!" and "get off the couch!". Not fun when I'm trying to cook or get anything else done.

shauni27, E calls H DAAAAAAAD! It's too cute. She has also started requesting that we read Huckle (her Richard Scarry books), which cracks me up. She only has like 40 words, and one of them is Huckle.

[shauni27]

thoseareradishes, that one of her words is "huckle" tickles me <3

[scm1011]

Jun 4, 2019 11:12:26 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Nothing much to report on here. S just went through a word explosion and it is SO helpful in communicating with him! He is not quite 2 and so far, this is my favorite stage (I keep saying that, lol). But he is so awesome, I love getting to talk WITH him and hearing him say "love you, mama." and give me kisses and hugs, etc.

I've found 2 to be SO much fun. I love hearing the funny things he says. I agree that every new stage is my favorite  

[scm1011]

I had a baby last week! Darby Clare was born on 5/30 after a 2 day induction. We're home and doing great:) I don't want to jinx it, but she is such a chill baby and is already giving me good 2-3 hour chunks of sleep at night, in her bassinet no less (it took 6+ months to get that with DS). DS is warming up to her and it just makes my heart burst to see him being sweet with her. We had a family photo session at home this morning and I cannot wait to see the pictures. All in all this has been a MUCH easier adjustment (so far) than with DS.

[shauni27]

scm1011, I am so glad that you 4 are setting in <3

[loira]

We had our holiday in May, but it wasn't the one I was hoping for. We were supposed to meet up with my aunt and uncle at their cabin, but my uncle died the week before. My aunt told us to go anyway, so we did, but then I had to drive an extra 3h and back into their city for the service. I was very close with my uncle, who was also my godfather, and was basically a 2nd father to me. A really loved the cabin, and H liked it too, but it was really hard for me to be there, with all those childhood memories.

[shauni27]

loira, I am so sorry for your loss.

[red]

loira,I am sorry for your loss.

[thoseareradishes]

I'm so sorry loira ((hugs))

[vmars]

I am really disappointed.....I had this grand plan of telling my parents/ILs/my sister & her family about the pregnancy on 6/15 and disguising it as a pre-Father’s day celebration.

I reached out to my sister and she’s not available at all that weekend (she won’t say why) and I know from a previous email she’s not available the next weekend - my brother is coming home from CA and she basically told me she doesn’t want to see him. I am fairly certain shortly after that she’s leaving for vacation too. She knows we were doing our transfer cycle (but didn’t know dates) so I assumed when I asked to see her she’d get the hint and make an appearance somehow. I am very upset I can’t tell her in person bc she was someone I was very excited to tell. 😔I also can’t just wait until I may or may not see her bc I know my mom will totally spill the beans, she cannot help herself.

[red]

That’s a bummer vmars. My mom/sister spilled the beans to my brother. I live out of state and got a congrats text from him (we’re not very close). It stinks when people steal your thunder though.

Had my NT scan and bloodwork done today. H could not come, heard the heartbeat for the first time so it would have been nice if he was there (other US were all transvag with no sound). The baby was wiggling all over the place. The tech is guessing it’s a boy, not sure how much you can tell at 12w4d. We do not have a strong gender preference.

Did your H come to all of your appts? I feel like I’ve had so many appts between the RE and OB, and with us buying a house H is already taking time off for closing/move etc. He went to every appt until today. The US tech seemed surprised he wasn’t there. He won’t be at my next one with the doctor in a few weeks either. He’ll be at the one following that for the gender.

[thoseareradishes]

red, my H went to our last RE appt and my anatomy scan, and I think he went to the NT scan and fetal echo, but I can't remember. He didn't go to any appointments I had at the obgyn office (scans were at the MFM).

[G22]

red, my H has only made it to 1 appt and it wasnt the one where we found out the gender. My OB is 50 minutes away and he just can't constantly take off work for hours to be at my appts.

I think the only appt he came to with my last pregnancy was the anatomy scan and that was because we wanted to find out gender together. So to me, its not weird to not have a spouse at appts.

[pandora89]

loira - I am so sorry for your loss

red - H came to my first ultrasound where we saw the heartbeat and I think 1 of the other weekly ultrasounds at the RE. He didn’t make it to my NT scan because he had an exam but did come to my anatomy scan. I can’t remember if he came to my last ultrasound around 34 weeks. I went to almost all my OB appointments by myself.

CD1 so called into my clinic to get IVF for #2 started. Here we go again.

[shauni27]

vmars, Could you have your sister facetime in? We did that for my sister.
red, my H was at almost all appointments until the end as we had a traumatic appointment during our first pregnancy when he was NOT there and I found out I lost the baby at 16 weeks. Because I was alone for that, he said he would come to all of them with me in case anything happened. I think once we made it almost to 3rd tri he did not come to them all, he also had a broken leg/surgery so it made it more challenging for him. But I think he came to most up until like 26 weeks or so.
pandora89,!!!!!!

[pooh8402]

Jun 4, 2019 11:12:26 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

HOWEVER, he has started calling me MOM instead of MAMA or MOMMY about half the time and I DO NOT APPROVE, lol.

AGREE. My older one is almost 4 (next month, how?!) and I am Mom more often than Mama and Mommy is nonexistent. No child you sound way too old. DH is still Daddy like 95% of the time.

[lovelyshoes]

I’m still having such a hard time getting the courage to post here, after all the ttc, so sticking my toe in. At what point after having your baby did your anxiety subside? I spent the entire pregnancy taking it one day at a time and that worked for me at keeping anxiety to a minimum, but it still creeps up here and there. I was hoping it would be almost gone by now. I’ve talked it through before and that helps a ton, but I don’t have time at this point to see a therapist. Anyone else dealing with this?

[shauni27]

lovelyshoes, I had a serious case of PPA, so for me, it took a couple of months to even back out, but thanks to meds. I would suggest you talk to your OBGYN and see if you can get on any SSIDS?

[knx9211]

😭😭😭

[shauni27]

knx9211, happy 2nd birthday, P!!! You cute, spunky, happy little boy!

[thoseareradishes]

Happy birthday P! knx9211

lovelyshoes, E's 2 and I still have a fair amount of anxiety, which I sometimes wonder if I should get help for. Do you think it is bad enough that it's impacting your daily life?

So E figured out how to get her ankle socks and short crew socks off, so I think we'll pass the sock test, heh.

[loira]

knx9211 😍😍😍

[lovelyshoes]

Jun 7, 2019 12:12:56 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Happy birthday P! knx9211

lovelyshoes, E's 2 and I still have a fair amount of anxiety, which I sometimes wonder if I should get help for. Do you think it is bad enough that it's impacting your daily life?

So E figured out how to get her ankle socks and short crew socks off, so I think we'll pass the sock test, heh.

I don’t think it is impacting my daily life in a way that I can’t function or feel all consuming, but I do worry about things. When people ask
Me a lot of questions I notice that’s when I’m at my worst. Things like why does he do this or that, is that normal? It gives me a new worry. Do people normally have the ability to ignore stuff like that, or would they react similar to me (annoyed and then worried). And the people who trigger that are my mom and mil, so that might be why I react the way I do, but I know the ttc and mc are definitely part of my anxiety.

knx9211 what a cutie!!

[loira]

So. I had my IUD taken out on Wednesday (because I couldn't find the strings and that was the last straw for me with that thing). Now sitting here birth control-less, which begs the question: do I want another kid? I told H if he wants another, he will have to convince me - and he sort of does. But also I am 36 this year and I always said that would be my max age for trying again after A. I thought we were OAD. I don't know anymore.

[shauni27]

lovelyshoes, what you describe sounds pretty normal to me. S suddenly hates ALL loud noises (even noises that are not super loud in my opinion) and he screams "'loud noises! no!!!" and I immediately think "sensory disorder??" and go down the rabbit hole of research. And I am on a very high dose anti anxiety meds. For me, what is not normal is the impacting of your daily life. The first 2 months of being a mom I literally could not leave the house without being in tears. Even going to the gas station.

loira, man. That is a big thing. I do not have an answer for you or anything that could even remotely help you guys make your decision other than just having some serious and in-depth conversations. I wish you the best of luck with your decision and we are here to help you if you need it.

knx9211, also, he is so big! S has been at 23 pounds for 6 months. And it took him about 6 months to get from 21 to 23 lbs, lol.

thoseareradishes, lol about the socks. Glad she did it!