The few times I've tried to lurk on HIH I find it simultaneously boring and hard to follow, which I find disappointing because I always hope it will be entrtaining in a car wreck kind of way.
I would resent the hell out of this too. Is he unable to get the kids after work, even once a week?
I need to leave work 30 minutes early in order to get to DD’s aftercare in time. But I still do it 1-2x per week because it wouldn’t be fair to DH otherwise. It seems like we never question the assumption that moms will move mountains to be available for their kids, but if men are like, “I can’t leave early, it’ll look bad,” we give them a pass. Maybe that’s not the situation here, and I might be projecting, but it’s been something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.
He does pick up DS once a week, but I go straight home to relieve him. In fairness, H’s job is more demanding than mine but I agree with you. He never takes time off for appointments, etc. That burden falls solely on me.
What if you didn’t go straight home on those nights? Seize the opportunity, woman! 😉
Regardless, I’m sorry you’re in a bad spot and hope you can come to a compromise with him. You should have an evening off the clock. You deserve it! And I see how much it’s done for my own mental health.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Feb 7, 2020 22:43:28 GMT -5
OH MY GOD. I just remembered that, when McBenny came over here, 05heel edited her posts to say “I like to tipe werds” and I still laugh every time I think about it.
OH MY GOD. I just remembered that, when McBenny came over here, 05heel edited her posts to say “I like to tipe werds” and I still laugh every time I think about it.
Making her a global mod was the best thing this board will ever do, hands down.
My son was chasing my daughter around the house for the 298382882th time. I pretended not to see her blatantly shove him because he had it coming.*
He needs to learn. Don't start none.
*no injuries.
I live for these moments. And then ds is all, "she just hit me!" And I'll usually just say I didn't see it so they need to work it out.
...once I called her over to me in the next room and put on my stern face while ds watched, but I just quietly asked her if she had a good day at school and if she got to go outside before it rained.
I am totally judging a car I saw in traffic today. It was an expensive Mercedes, custom painted grimace purple. Why? Why would you do that? Why would you spend a lot of money on an expensive car and have such a terrible color?! I do not approve.
LOL
I don’t interact with you particularly often but sometimes I feel like we might have been very happily married in a previous life. A lot of the time I don’t post bc my post would just be , “Yeah, what she said.”
I never read a romance novel until the thread on CEP about the RWA. I read that romance novels bring in more revenue than all the other genres put together and I was like hmmm maybe I'm missing out. I should try this.
I downloaded a book by Courtney Milan and thought it was a little silly but fun. 14 books later in 3 weeks....😂🤷♀️
Courtney Milan is a really good entree to the genre. If you listen to the podcast linked in that thread her productivity in writing was really stymied by the time she spent on RWA. It's unfortunate for her and those who love her books. She estimates she lost out on $500K of revenues doing these things. Anyone who enjoys the genre should support Courtney. And Alyssa Cole and I could go on.
ETA: Lisa Kelypas (certain titles) and Julia Quinn (Bridgerton series) are also good starts. Part of the reason the revenue is so high is that many Romance titles are not available for libraries to buy in a format palatable to regular re-use, so a ton of ebooks get sold.
My son was chasing my daughter around the house for the 298382882th time. I pretended not to see her blatantly shove him because he had it coming.*
He needs to learn. Don't start none.
*no injuries.
I live for these moments. And then ds is all, "she just hit me!" And I'll usually just say I didn't see it so they need to work it out.
...once I called her over to me in the next room and put on my stern face while ds watched, but I just quietly asked her if she had a good day at school and if she got to go outside before it rained.
My mother got to the point of saying, "Don't come to me. I don't care. You two are old enough to figure this stuff out and get along. If you can't, get out of my way and out of my face. Deal with it." And somehow we finally did.
He does pick up DS once a week, but I go straight home to relieve him. In fairness, H’s job is more demanding than mine but I agree with you. He never takes time off for appointments, etc. That burden falls solely on me.
What if you didn’t go straight home on those nights? Seize the opportunity, woman! 😉
Regardless, I’m sorry you’re in a bad spot and hope you can come to a compromise with him. You should have an evening off the clock. You deserve it! And I see how much it’s done for my own mental health.
My husband is taking the kids to the IL's next weekend since he and DD both have off for President's Day. I LOVE when they all leave me alone in the house for a few days. This morning they had MIL on speaker phone while I was pseudo-dozing nearby and I heard the judgy-disappointing tone in MIL's voice when my husband said I wasn't coming. Don't care! I'm going to make myself screwdrivers and catch up on work stuff. So much fun!!!
Also, screwdrivers are my new drink at home because I'm not motivated enough to open a bottle of wine. It's like I'm 21 again.
My husband is taking the kids to the IL's next weekend since he and DD both have off for President's Day. I LOVE when they all leave me alone in the house for a few days. This morning they had MIL on speaker phone while I was pseudo-dozing nearby and I heard the judgy-disappointing tone in MIL's voice when my husband said I wasn't coming. Don't care! I'm going to make myself screwdrivers and catch up on work stuff. So much fun!!!
Also, screwdrivers are my new drink at home because I'm not motivated enough to open a bottle of wine. It's like I'm 21 again.
I love when DH takes all 3 to my FIL's. Nope, I don't miss them, it's only a few days, but yet a wonderous few days. I have DH open the wine before he leaves.
My husband is taking the kids to the IL's next weekend since he and DD both have off for President's Day. I LOVE when they all leave me alone in the house for a few days. This morning they had MIL on speaker phone while I was pseudo-dozing nearby and I heard the judgy-disappointing tone in MIL's voice when my husband said I wasn't coming. Don't care! I'm going to make myself screwdrivers and catch up on work stuff. So much fun!!!
Also, screwdrivers are my new drink at home because I'm not motivated enough to open a bottle of wine. It's like I'm 21 again.
I love when DH takes all 3 to my FIL's. Nope, I don't miss them, it's only a few days, but yet a wonderous few days. I have DH open the wine before he leaves.
This is one of the things that annoys the crap out of me about my husband. He wants to do visits to our parents together. Ugh. No. I don't like my in laws and I want a break. This year I decided I was done and he could be as annoyed as he wanted at me, I'm not going. Too bad for him if he doesn't like it.
I love when DH takes all 3 to my FIL's. Nope, I don't miss them, it's only a few days, but yet a wonderous few days. I have DH open the wine before he leaves.
This is one of the things that annoys the crap out of me about my husband. He wants to do visits to our parents together. Ugh. No. I don't like my in laws and I want a break. This year I decided I was done and he could be as annoyed as he wanted at me, I'm not going. Too bad for him if he doesn't like it.
I would love to do that and quite honestly it would save us a bunch of $$ but the logistics of my H traveling alone with the three kids is too much.
My husband is taking the kids to the IL's next weekend since he and DD both have off for President's Day. I LOVE when they all leave me alone in the house for a few days. This morning they had MIL on speaker phone while I was pseudo-dozing nearby and I heard the judgy-disappointing tone in MIL's voice when my husband said I wasn't coming. Don't care! I'm going to make myself screwdrivers and catch up on work stuff. So much fun!!!
Also, screwdrivers are my new drink at home because I'm not motivated enough to open a bottle of wine. It's like I'm 21 again.
I love when DH takes all 3 to my FIL's. Nope, I don't miss them, it's only a few days, but yet a wonderous few days. I have DH open the wine before he leaves.
This is one of the things that annoys the crap out of me about my husband. He wants to do visits to our parents together. Ugh. No. I don't like my in laws and I want a break. This year I decided I was done and he could be as annoyed as he wanted at me, I'm not going. Too bad for him if he doesn't like it.
I would love to do that and quite honestly it would save us a bunch of $$ but the logistics of my H traveling alone with the three kids is too much.
How do you all make it work?
I mean..... They're his kids? He'll figure it out? Do you go places with all three?
We only have two kids but I don't find traveling with one adult to be a problem. What logistics are you worried about?
Post by goldengirlz on Feb 8, 2020 12:55:15 GMT -5
On the subject of random things a reasonable person should be able to do but I inexplicably can’t:
The last time I tried to put air in my tires, I failed miserably. I couldn’t get the damn low pressure warning light to shut off. I thought maybe I had a leak* (*I was pretty sure I was just incompetent) so I took the car to a tire place in my neighborhood and tipped a guy $20 to “diagnose” the fact that I’m an idiot.
On the subject of random things a reasonable person should be able to do but I inexplicably can’t:
The last time I tried to put air in my tires, I failed miserably. I couldn’t get the damn low pressure warning light to shut off. I thought maybe I had a leak* (*I was pretty sure I was just incompetent) so I took the car to a tire place in my neighborhood and tipped a guy $20 to “diagnose” the fact that I’m an idiot.
At least I got my tires filled.
This made me laugh because, girl, I’ve been there.
I would love to do that and quite honestly it would save us a bunch of $$ but the logistics of my H traveling alone with the three kids is too much.
How do you all make it work?
I mean..... They're his kids? He'll figure it out? Do you go places with all three?
We only have two kids but I don't find traveling with one adult to be a problem. What logistics are you worried about?
I have travelled with all three alone but it’s not easy and I get much less stressed out than he does by travel in general. The one thing that is definitely easier for me than him is the bathroom situation as they are all girls. Not everywhere has family bathrooms and often the men’s and women’s are not close together. Not to mention I don’t love the idea of sending a 10 yo into an airport bathroom without an adult. The 7 and 4 yo are prob young enough to still go with him in the men’s room I guess 🤷🏼♀️
Seating is an issue - with 4 people one definitely has to be in a different row. Carrying all of the crap although now that my middle is in a booster that’s a bit easier. Going through security is a hassle especially if one bag gets pulled for a recheck. I actually felt like it was easier to travel with all three when my youngest was still a bit younger as I could either wear her or have her in the stroller so just less people to lose 🤣
Idk just feels very overwhelming. I have done it but like I said I’m much more chill as a traveler than he is. None of this is insurmountable but it makes it feel hard to pull the trigger on him taking a trip alone. But when I think of the $$ we could save on one less flight, parking, lost wages from me taking off work, etc it is so tempting!
We don’t know anyone who does this so maybe I just need to give him an example😉
I love when DH takes all 3 to my FIL's. Nope, I don't miss them, it's only a few days, but yet a wonderous few days. I have DH open the wine before he leaves.
You can’t open wine?
No. I developed carpal tunnel in my last pregnancy and opening jars etc has been more difficult since. It has progressively worsened and my left hand is weak. It wasn't too bad till very recently. I'm going to get the surgery soon to fix it this spring.
I love when DH takes all 3 to my FIL's. Nope, I don't miss them, it's only a few days, but yet a wonderous few days. I have DH open the wine before he leaves.
I mean..... They're his kids? He'll figure it out? Do you go places with all three?
We only have two kids but I don't find traveling with one adult to be a problem. What logistics are you worried about?
I have travelled with all three alone but it’s not easy and I get much less stressed out than he does by travel in general. The one thing that is definitely easier for me than him is the bathroom situation as they are all girls. Not everywhere has family bathrooms and often the men’s and women’s are not close together. Not to mention I don’t love the idea of sending a 10 yo into an airport bathroom without an adult. The 7 and 4 yo are prob young enough to still go with him in the men’s room I guess 🤷🏼♀️
Seating is an issue - with 4 people one definitely has to be in a different row. Carrying all of the crap although now that my middle is in a booster that’s a bit easier. Going through security is a hassle especially if one bag gets pulled for a recheck. I actually felt like it was easier to travel with all three when my youngest was still a bit younger as I could either wear her or have her in the stroller so just less people to lose 🤣
Idk just feels very overwhelming. I have done it but like I said I’m much more chill as a traveler than he is. None of this is insurmountable but it makes it feel hard to pull the trigger on him taking a trip alone. But when I think of the $$ we could save on one less flight, parking, lost wages from me taking off work, etc it is so tempting!
We don’t know anyone who does this so maybe I just need to give him an example😉
My sister takes her 4 kids (currently 10, 8, 6 and 3) to visit my parents while they snowbird. She took them last month and did the same in 2019 and 2018. Via plane with a connecting flight. Another sister did the same with her one DS just last week. *shrug*
I get the overwhelming thing. I have yet to travel alone via plane with my one DS. But I have a disability so holding DS' hand, carrying the car seat and pulling/carrying our bag is logistically a nonstarter.
No. I developed carpal tunnel in my last pregnancy and opening jars etc has been more difficult since. It has progressively worsened and my left hand is weak. It wasn't too bad till very recently. I'm going to get the surgery soon to fix it this spring.
Why do you ask?
There are electric wine openers. Not sure if you actually need one but they’re nice!
I might if surgery doesn't help. On a funny note a kid I see for Speech told me his Mom had her baby this week by saying "Mama can drink wine again, 'cuz she don't got a baby in her belly no more".