I'm avoiding researching for a school paper so I was lurking over on HIH and there's this one poster that purposefully pushes their buttons and they always ALWAYS fall for it and engage with her. I guess the confession is that I get so pissed at them for just not ignoring her when I should just stop reading it, lol. It's why I don't watch most reality tv so I don't know why I read that board.
I’m sick of being the supportive wife listening to DH bitch about work every.single.day since August. His job is incredibly stressful and the complaining is totally justified and I know he just needs to vent and get it out of his system but I’m sick of hearing about it. Fingers crossed he can find a new job for next school year. For now, he’s trapped until June.
I’ve lurked over there periodically and I think I know who you’re talking about. I don’t understand all the backstory and nuances though since i don’t go there.
A dad of one of my students was on the bachelorette years ago. He’s hot. He’s a fire fighter. He owns a gym. During conferences it was hard not to stare. His wife is not as pretty as I would have thought. She’s nice though. Lol!
I’m sick of being the supportive wife listening to DH bitch about work every.single.day since August. His job is incredibly stressful and the complaining is totally justified and I know he just needs to vent and get it out of his system but I’m sick of hearing about it. Fingers crossed he can find a new job for next school year. For now, he’s trapped until June.
This is my feelings with my DH bitching about being unemployed. Almost everything we talk about gets turned into how he doesn't have a job and how much it sucks. I know, bud, and I truly empathize with you, but goddamn man stop with the woe is me!
TR , Is it the dishwashing woman with the kitchen org issue? LOL. I was v. caught up in that thread.
lol yes. And today she sort of called someone's dog ugly and you'd think she murdered someone's grandma. And everyone is all, "I don't even care." AND YET, lol.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 7, 2020 12:52:26 GMT -5
I am totally judging a car I saw in traffic today. It was an expensive Mercedes, custom painted grimace purple. Why? Why would you do that? Why would you spend a lot of money on an expensive car and have such a terrible color?! I do not approve.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
I’m sick of being the supportive wife listening to DH bitch about work every.single.day since August. His job is incredibly stressful and the complaining is totally justified and I know he just needs to vent and get it out of his system but I’m sick of hearing about it. Fingers crossed he can find a new job for next school year. For now, he’s trapped until June.
Kind of different because there's some back story that is key here, but I wouldn't let DH bitch to me about work for a solid year after he started this job. It created too much anxiety for me. I basically told him he could go find a therapist to talk to if he needed to get it out, but that I couldn't be that person for him. Things are better now and he likes his job and is doing well, so the occasions that he does complain don't give me anxiety like they did before, but I stuck to that for quite awhile. I think it's ok for you to do the same.
I’m gong to Celine dion tonight, is that a confession? I’m not super excited but I know I’ll have fun! Going with some friends and there will be dinner and drinks first..and during.
I went with girlfriends when she was in Atlanta a few weeks ago. So fun! It was nothing but middle aged ladies singing their hearts out and doing a lot of grabbing and arm sweeping motions. Magical. Also (her set list has been pretty consistent) there are two opportunities to hit the bar again when she sings her obscure French stuff.
tripleshot, it can be done in a gentle way. I basically sat mine down and said, "I know you just want to share what's going on and I love that you can come to me and feel better by talking things through, but this is causing me anxiety. I can't be this person for you right now. I think talking to a therapist might be a good idea if you want to get out your frustrations and discuss some strategies for coping or how to handle certain situations."
I think he actually did go see a therapist a few times.
I'm sorry that your H is struggling. Being unhappy in your job is really freaking hard.
Post by blondemoment123 on Feb 7, 2020 13:49:22 GMT -5
On the topic of complaining husbands, H is still pretty upset about getting passed over. I get it, but now it’s time to either make a change or stop complaining.
Also, I kind of resent him for the freedom he has. Just last night he went out with a buddy after work. If I want to go anywhere I need to plan childcare, etc. Maybe I resent the fact that he is okay with not planning ahead or thinking of other people.
On the topic of complaining husbands, H is still pretty upset about getting passed over. I get it, but now it’s time to either make a change or stop complaining.
Also, I kind of resent him for the freedom he has. Just last night he went out with a buddy after work. If I want to go anywhere I need to plan childcare, etc. Maybe I resent the fact that he is okay with not planning ahead or thinking of other people.
Did he check in with you to ask if it was ok?
DH and I sometimes do things after work on the fly, but we always give a heads up and ask if it's ok and if the other can pick up the kids. It's definitely a two-way street for us, not just him doing it or vice versa.
A dad of one of my students was on the bachelorette years ago. He’s hot. He’s a fire fighter. He owns a gym. During conferences it was hard not to stare. His wife is not as pretty as I would have thought. She’s nice though. Lol!
Huh. It’s almost as if what’s inside is more important than what’s outside when choosing a person to marry!
Seriously though long wow to this internal monologue of yours.
Post by biscoffcookies on Feb 7, 2020 13:58:56 GMT -5
tripleshot, and if finding and seeing a therapist in person is difficult or too costly, he might consider one of the apps like Betterhelp or Talkspace. I used the latter a bit when I just needed somewhere to vent/get a few coping suggestions and it served its purpose.
A dad of one of my students was on the bachelorette years ago. He’s hot. He’s a fire fighter. He owns a gym. During conferences it was hard not to stare. His wife is not as pretty as I would have thought. She’s nice though. Lol!
Because someone can't be nice and hot? Are they mutually exclusive?
And not everyone thinks the same features are attractive. I'm sure he finds his wife incredibly hot.
I know this is a confessions post, but you must have known this post would make you sound like a jerk.
A dad of one of my students was on the bachelorette years ago. He’s hot. He’s a fire fighter. He owns a gym. During conferences it was hard not to stare. His wife is not as pretty as I would have thought. She’s nice though. Lol!
Because someone can't be nice and hot? Are they mutually exclusive?
And not everyone thinks the same features are attractive. I'm sure he finds his wife incredibly hot.
I know this is a confessions post, but you must have known this post would make you sound like a jerk.
The power went out at work and in many surrounding areas. I'm home teleworking since I have power, but it's so quiet because a ton of people were already off and not everyone teleworks.
I'm doing laundry, purging stuff for a DAV pick-up on Monday, and catching up on CHEER on netflix while doing some emails and work stuff. I've been so productive, lol!
On the topic of complaining husbands, H is still pretty upset about getting passed over. I get it, but now it’s time to either make a change or stop complaining.
Also, I kind of resent him for the freedom he has. Just last night he went out with a buddy after work. If I want to go anywhere I need to plan childcare, etc. Maybe I resent the fact that he is okay with not planning ahead or thinking of other people.
I would resent the hell out of this too. Is he unable to get the kids after work, even once a week?
I need to leave work 30 minutes early in order to get to DD’s aftercare in time. But I still do it 1-2x per week because it wouldn’t be fair to DH otherwise. It seems like we never question the assumption that moms will move mountains to be available for their kids, but if men are like, “I can’t leave early, it’ll look bad,” we give them a pass. Maybe that’s not the situation here, and I might be projecting, but it’s been something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.
TR , Is it the dishwashing woman with the kitchen org issue? LOL. I was v. caught up in that thread.
lol yes. And today she sort of called someone's dog ugly and you'd think she murdered someone's grandma. And everyone is all, "I don't even care." AND YET, lol.
Okay, I just went to there and that was a trip, man. Total ML deja vu. 20 pages because someone is butthurt that someone doesn’t like labradoodles? (I’m assuming that’s where it went, I only got to page 6).
lol yes. And today she sort of called someone's dog ugly and you'd think she murdered someone's grandma. And everyone is all, "I don't even care." AND YET, lol.
Okay, I just went to there and that was a trip, man. Total ML deja vu. 20 pages because someone is butthurt that someone doesn’t like labradoodles? (I’m assuming that’s where it went, I only got to page 6).
lol yes. And today she sort of called someone's dog ugly and you'd think she murdered someone's grandma. And everyone is all, "I don't even care." AND YET, lol.
Okay, I just went to there and that was a trip, man. Total ML deja vu. 20 pages because someone is butthurt that someone doesn’t like labradoodles? (I’m assuming that’s where it went, I only got to page 6).
Okay, I just went to there and that was a trip, man. Total ML deja vu. 20 pages because someone is butthurt that someone doesn’t like labradoodles? (I’m assuming that’s where it went, I only got to page 6).
Excuse you. He is a GOLDENdoodle. LOL.
lol I mean, I love my dog an unhealthy amount, but even if someone said she, specifically, was ugly, I'd be like "k" and move on with my life.
I’m sick of being the supportive wife listening to DH bitch about work every.single.day since August. His job is incredibly stressful and the complaining is totally justified and I know he just needs to vent and get it out of his system but I’m sick of hearing about it. Fingers crossed he can find a new job for next school year. For now, he’s trapped until June.
Oh hi can I come sit with you? DH complains about his job EVERY. DAY. and honestly, I was an associate at a law firm, too, until I quit to SAH recently. A lot of it sounds like pretty standard associate tasks.
A dad of one of my students was on the bachelorette years ago. He’s hot. He’s a fire fighter. He owns a gym. During conferences it was hard not to stare. His wife is not as pretty as I would have thought. She’s nice though. Lol!
So was a guy I went to high school and college with. He loved himself a bit too much back then too
Because someone can't be nice and hot? Are they mutually exclusive?
And not everyone thinks the same features are attractive. I'm sure he finds his wife incredibly hot.
I know this is a confessions post, but you must have known this post would make you sound like a jerk.
Oh come on. Lighten up. Seriously.
Not only do I hate high school mean girls, but there's nothing a grown woman loves more than hearing that she's not hot enough. I don't know how hot this woman is supposed to be, or you know like others said if she's nice, a good person and/or his type, but don't make comments like that. Have you ever had to go to a work event with your spouse and feel self conscious that you're not as hot or as good as these wives, that you don't fit in? I hope you never face that.
lol I mean, I love my dog an unhealthy amount, but even if someone said she, specifically, was ugly, I'd be like "k" and move on with my life.
I would secretly think they’re wrong and stupid but I would be hurt lol. I didn’t give birth to this furry muppet. Even the one I gave birth to looked like an angry old man as a baby and when my SIL said so, I couldn’t even be mad.