I have also been on hold with the hospital forever trying to determine if our appointment for DD's MRI tomorrow should be rescheduled. I imagine it should be, but they sent a confirmation text this morning.
k3am, that makes sense. That's essentially exactly what we're doing anyway, but it's probably nice for people whose employers haven't told them to work remotely voluntarily, to now have a reason to do so.
I have 8 more reports to write, several of them are really complex and require a great deal of critical thinking. This is so freaking hard to do with the kids. My youngest went to daycare today but I do not feel like I can send him in the rest of the week. I am allowed to claim my time for days I need to work but it is going to be extremely slow progress.
Like many parents out there who are now struggling to work and parents simultaneously, this is hard.
Post by covergirl82 on Mar 17, 2020 14:52:17 GMT -5
One good thing I've experienced so far, because there is nothing to do and nowhere to go, is that I actually have time to exercise every day. I try and go outside if it's sunny and the temp is decent. The exercise and time in the sun will at least help keep me from feeling really depressed.
I feel very alone and overwhelmed. My husband had drill all weekend long, then he is working all day. I am supposed to be on a trail right now running, but he is working overtime.
I’m supposedly working from home and I feel very desperate bc I can’t get my work done and I just want it done. My kids are 10, 8, and 4. The 4 year old is very hard. Then he comes home and is like What’s for dinner. I don’t know bc I need to DO MY WORK can everyone just leave me alone?
Well potato soup would be great bc the potatoes are going to go bad soon. He takes the easy way out and makes shit from the freezer instead of the fresh produce we have and need to use.
I feel like I can do staying at home, working on academics even....but I can’t work and parent effectively. I need his ass to come home.
campermom, I'm sorry. Honestly, I have very little work to do (except the work that DH is giving me for his business), and I am feeling very much the same way. I don't know how you are doing it. My 10 year old is 100000X needier than my 7 year old when it comes to getting their stuff done. It's really frustrating. I timed a 30 minute block, and the kids interrupted me 10 times. TEN TIMES. So I have no advice, just commiseration.
DH is freaking right the F out over this whole thing, and I'm not used to being the calming voice in our relationship. So I have to remain calm with all parties in my house right now, and it's really not been easy.
They just announced school closure until April 28th with no e-learning required! The districts are required to offer health services, meal services, and daycare for medical personnel and first responders only. Plus all staff will continued to be paid. I don't know what I think other than oh crap. DD is happy as a clam with this news but I doubt she has let it sink in the gymnastics follows school closure.
I canceled our Vegas trip in April. I'm not too upset. I hope we can put the money into a really amazing Caribbean trip for the family next year.
I am struggling at work. We can telecommute. However, much of my staff are out in the field at screenings, meetings, or classes through the week. Its hard to justify working from home. So I am trying to get an answer, you want them to come in and spread germs and do nothing or stay home. I am not asking anyone to use PTO for this unless it is sick time. They need to cross train and utilize us. I am a little annoyed that my staff can't think creatively and use some of this time to catch up and do some things we have put on hold during busy times. I have lots to do with grants and reports, but I'm not staying home if they are at the office.
Yep. I won’t make it and I will throw a fit. That’s impossible. My child can’t skip half a year of material on elementary school.
I'll throw a fit too. I'll start contacting my state rep and senator and the governor's office. I understand wanting to keep people healthy, but this is a new type of cold, not Ebloa. The vast majority of people will get a cold or mild flu. The only difference from any other "cold and flu season" is that because it's a new virus, more people will get sick. But who's to say we weren't already exposed and infected? Most of the kids and staff at my kids' school were sick mid-January through mid-February. We have multiple global companies in our area where people travel internationally. (For my company, our second largest group of employees is in China.) I don't understand how, if this all started in December, that it would take months for it to reach other countries, given how much people travel internationally nowadays...makes no sense...
I do think employers and schools should provide options for people who are at risk for it being more severe for them, so that they can isolate or do what they feel is best to stay healthy.
k3am, After DD went to bed I took a long bath and cried myself out. Then DH made a stupid crack that at least it doesn't affect us and nothing has changed. I was so close to punching him but didn't (he had therapy last night too). I just said I'm going to bed and cried myself to sleep. I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted by the end of the day. DD is loving getting to hang with mommy all day and I just want 10 minutes of no one needing me or talking to me. Plus today I'm dealing with a major crying headache so I'm already in a foul mood and it is only 8:30am.
I agree that it's insane that schools are likely to be closed for the rest of the year.
covergirl82 , I think calling it a new type of cold is overly minimizing the severity of the coronavirus - colds don't kill healthy 40-somethings, which this definitely has. That said, I agree with everything else you said on being angry about the situation.
It's completely unsustainable for us to keep doing our jobs with no childcare for the rest of the year given that our kids are 7, 6, and 2. We both have really demanding investment industry jobs with lots of calls and meetings and things have only gotten busier. If it was only 7-year-old DD, we could make it work, but not with a 2-year-old boy and kindergarten boy, too.
So after feeling completely despondent and crying last night, I put out a proposal to our youngest's in-home daycare provider, who is in her 60s and lives one street over. I'm proposing to pay her very well to take all 3 kids 8:30 am - 12:30 pm everyday. I figure we could start March 30 after we have all been self-isolating for over 2 weeks and know that we don't have the virus. And I told her we'd continue to self-isolate as long as we have this arrangement (DH and I are both being made to work remotely). If this works out, then DH would get up and start working by 6 am like normal, I would handle kids 6:30 am - 8:30 am, they'd go to daycare provider's house 8:30-12:30 and she'd feed them lunch, then I would pick them up, put DS2 down for nap by 1:30 pm, older kids would do screen time for 2 hours while we both work, and DH would have the kids 3:30 -5:30 pm while I continue to work. Please cross your fingers that she says yes.
Schools will definitely be out until fall. How can you throw a fit? It’s kind of beyond that. No one has control over a once in a 100 year pandemic.
Are people blowing it out of proportion, maybe, but I don’t think so. It’s not worth debating. It’s one of those thing that you just have to see what happens.
Post by sandandsea on Mar 18, 2020 14:25:21 GMT -5
Throw a fit = me as a big crying sobfest figuring this all out and feeling overwhelmed with all the extra stuff now put on my plate and general uncertainty and being isolated for 6 months. Work isn’t slowing down and neither are expectations. The school district needs to get in gear and start some kind of online learning program to provide an education. They’ve done nothing so far but will still get all their funding. My son can’t afford to miss half of second grade and be expected to be ready for third grade in the fall after 6 months of nothing but partial homeschool while dh and I are working full time. And I know we are in a very privileged situation, so this is significantly worse for others. It just sucks for everyone.
Throw a fit = me as a big crying sobfest figuring this all out and feeling overwhelmed with all the extra stuff now put on my plate and general uncertainty and being isolated for 6 months. Work isn’t slowing down and neither are expectations. The school district needs to get in gear and start some kind of online learning program to provide an education. They’ve done nothing so far but will still get all their funding. My son can’t afford to miss half of second grade and be expected to be ready for third grade in the fall after 6 months of nothing but partial homeschool while dh and I are working full time. And I know we are in a very privileged situation, so this is significantly worse for others. It just sucks for everyone.
I hope the school district gets back to you soon! I feel like we’ve all had a sobfest in here by now. It is really hard.
I officially lost it today. After getting home with the massive stack of home school supplies and reading through the schedule they expect, it was just too much. I basically had your fit sandandsea. The stress of the trip, and the restaurants, and the schools, and work, the stories of some schools being closed for the rest of the year, and all of it... I lost it. I pulled myself together enough to hop on my senior leadership video conference meeting. And then my power and internet went out. So basically... I'm ready to throw in the towel.
twinmomma I'm basically going to tell the district to F off if they give us a bunch of homeschool requirements. There's no way it's going to happen. So far everything has been voluntary. Luckily DD is above grade level in all subjects, so I'm not too worried about her falling behind. DS1 (kindergarten) will definitely need some help from us, but we can try to work on reading and writing with him when we have time, not on a schedule the school district gives us.
Our elearning was pretty difficult 2.5 hours a day for the 3rd grade. They eased up by day 3. We only did an hour today but DS has to log back in and do maybe another 15 minutes of it.
No tax deadline change which I expected. The IRS is allowing you to pay later with no interest/penalties but the returns are still due 4/15 meaning no rest for me. On top of that we have a ton of clients wanting things NOW because they want to refi their loans. Ugh. I'm actually hoping for e-learning because DD takes instruction from others much better than me. So if I go Ms. S posted this for you to do today then she should just do it while now I'm getting the whining of why do I have to do a spring break packet we don't go back until forever. Plus she hates doing mommy homework.
We are doing online learning. They have assignments every day. They are using meet up apps and online meetings for class. DD is stressing, DS not so much. She is in group chats with her classmates where they help each other and then gripe about the work together. DS's online English 101 through the college starts tomorrow. This is his second college class, so I hope this doesn't throw him off.
The Facebook conversations from the parents are hysterical. Things like - suspended them this morning for fighting, now have the day off, how do I get this kid transferred from my class...
One mom who has 9 kids, got on there and wrote about her morning starting off with "I smacked one kid and dropped the F bomb and it's only 9" Mkay. Not sure I would vent all that out there for everyone.
My most annoying part of this whole thing is seeing people post on FB about how we should be "enjoying this time with our families" and teaching them to garden and sew buttons and all kinds of other stuff like that. Those people clearly aren't expected to work fulltime while being a homeschool teacher/homesteader.
sdlaura, amusingly, the largest chunk of those posts have actually come from teachers. And our district has mandated that they do nothing, so it *is* like they don't have a full-time job.
One of our former daycare providers is pissed. Her new company is making them work. Daycare is considered essential if they're providing care to first responders, medical personnel, etc. She works on a big tech campus, and all employees have been ordered to work from home. But the daycare is open. And routinely breaking the law by mixing classes to stay in ratio. Her FB thread is impressively documented and scary.
So our school is a hot zone apparently. Two parents of kids have it (we knew about one). One has subsequently passed away. And at least one kid has it.
k3am how long have you guys been out of school now?
So far just one teacher at another elementary school near our house has been diagnosed (our friends’ kids teacher). That case was only announced on Sunday, so there could very well be other ones related.
So our school is a hot zone apparently. Two parents of kids have it (we knew about one). One has subsequently passed away. And at least one kid has it.
So that’s... not reassuring?
One of them has passed away?! Omg. I’m starting to have doubts about this whole “most people will experience mild cases” thing.