bcv513 what is their reason for denying it? Could your doctor refer you to a specialist and then have them ask for it? I had an issue years ago about a test and they were denying it because it came from my primary who apparently they didn’t believe would have the knowledge to order it? It made no sense. But it worked coming from another doctor.
I’m sorry you are dealing with this! The problem is scary enough without this hassle to get basic care.
bcv513 This is what I was going to suggest. Ask your PCP to write a referral to a Neurologist who can then write a referral for an MRI. What a pain in the ass. I hate insurance companies.
circa1978 , Seriously?!? How would they even know? We used to be a 2 dog family and when my senior dog passed I used their remaining meds on my other dog. I guess it would have looked like I missed some too? Also, I think during a pandemic they can relate to one month getting missed! That is insane.
They called the vet to check and wanted an Rx on record for every 12 months.
circa1978 , Seriously?!? How would they even know? We used to be a 2 dog family and when my senior dog passed I used their remaining meds on my other dog. I guess it would have looked like I missed some too? Also, I think during a pandemic they can relate to one month getting missed! That is insane.
They called the vet to check and wanted an Rx on record for every 12 months.
Whattheeverlovingfuck. These people are in the wrong field.
Post by mysteriouswife on Apr 26, 2022 10:22:17 GMT -5
The reconnecting post triggered a memory from last week. H was out on the patio playing his guitar and asked me to join him. We were chatting and he was playing softly. The kids were inside. It was a nice night and we were enjoying each other’s company. Out of no where I got stung three times by yellow jackets. I came flying out of my shirt and jacket. After I was calm and icing my side H looks at me to say “If it’s not work, kids or the cat it’s fucking nature ruining a good time.” Then he walks away defeated.
So we applied for a puppy via a rescue over the weekend.
We have had dogs for 15 years, have shown dogs and have worked in pet rescue ourselves. All of our pets have died of old age (often after us spending literally thousands on their medical care, working through blindness, incontinence, literally syringe feeding our cat, diapering our dog.)
We have a tween boy (so no little kids), a fenced yard, a very large house and both adults work from home. We have one 3.5-year-old dog who is incredibly well adjusted and trained. He is not only vetted annually but we have a special plan where we pay in advance for any problems.
We have relationships with a local training/dog daycare, a vet, a dog walker, a groomer and a respected dog boarding facility.
But we just got turned down because we missed a single year of renewing heartworm medication on time during the height of the pandemic. (He got 12 does in 2020 and 12 in 2022 but in 2021 while our other dog was literally dying and at the vet every week we probably started giving it more like once every 8 weeks instead of every month and it lasted longer than it should have.)
This is after giving these people our driver's license information, filling out a four-page application, being referenced checked and agreeing to a home visit. This is...defeating. And I feel like a terrible person. I'm a good dog mom!
ETA: I get that they have to be careful but it's also like, so now we'll never be approved by any rescue for an animal?
That is absolutely ridiculous. We actually lost our almost 16 year old dog yesterday to old age and I’m not looking forward to working with a rescue for this reason. He had a vet who we took him to for sick visits but we would do his annual shots and meds through a lower cost vaccination clinic. I fear we will get turned down because I don’t have pristine records of which clinic we used for every year of his almost 16 years. My dog lived a freaking great life as a member of our family and any dog would be lucky to have us. As would any dog you. We may just adopt direct from the shelter if it helps us avoid this.
So we applied for a puppy via a rescue over the weekend.
We have had dogs for 15 years, have shown dogs and have worked in pet rescue ourselves. All of our pets have died of old age (often after us spending literally thousands on their medical care, working through blindness, incontinence, literally syringe feeding our cat, diapering our dog.)
We have a tween boy (so no little kids), a fenced yard, a very large house and both adults work from home. We have one 3.5-year-old dog who is incredibly well adjusted and trained. He is not only vetted annually but we have a special plan where we pay in advance for any problems.
We have relationships with a local training/dog daycare, a vet, a dog walker, a groomer and a respected dog boarding facility.
But we just got turned down because we missed a single year of renewing heartworm medication on time during the height of the pandemic. (He got 12 does in 2020 and 12 in 2022 but in 2021 while our other dog was literally dying and at the vet every week we probably started giving it more like once every 8 weeks instead of every month and it lasted longer than it should have.)
This is after giving these people our driver's license information, filling out a four-page application, being referenced checked and agreeing to a home visit. This is...defeating. And I feel like a terrible person. I'm a good dog mom!
ETA: I get that they have to be careful but it's also like, so now we'll never be approved by any rescue for an animal?
I had a similar experience with private rescues. We ended up adopting from a public shelter, and it was such a great experience. They were more concerned that the dog was a match rather than doing a deep dive on our background.
So we applied for a puppy via a rescue over the weekend.
We have had dogs for 15 years, have shown dogs and have worked in pet rescue ourselves. All of our pets have died of old age (often after us spending literally thousands on their medical care, working through blindness, incontinence, literally syringe feeding our cat, diapering our dog.)
We have a tween boy (so no little kids), a fenced yard, a very large house and both adults work from home. We have one 3.5-year-old dog who is incredibly well adjusted and trained. He is not only vetted annually but we have a special plan where we pay in advance for any problems.
We have relationships with a local training/dog daycare, a vet, a dog walker, a groomer and a respected dog boarding facility.
But we just got turned down because we missed a single year of renewing heartworm medication on time during the height of the pandemic. (He got 12 does in 2020 and 12 in 2022 but in 2021 while our other dog was literally dying and at the vet every week we probably started giving it more like once every 8 weeks instead of every month and it lasted longer than it should have.)
This is after giving these people our driver's license information, filling out a four-page application, being referenced checked and agreeing to a home visit. This is...defeating. And I feel like a terrible person. I'm a good dog mom!
ETA: I get that they have to be careful but it's also like, so now we'll never be approved by any rescue for an animal?
Not all rescues have ridiculous requirements! Many do and it can be frustrating. I was nervous about doing the rescue process again after it was SO HARD to get my first dog, but the rescue my second dog came from was super chill. They didn't even call my vet.
bcv513 what is their reason for denying it? Could your doctor refer you to a specialist and then have them ask for it? I had an issue years ago about a test and they were denying it because it came from my primary who apparently they didn’t believe would have the knowledge to order it? It made no sense. But it worked coming from another doctor.
I’m sorry you are dealing with this! The problem is scary enough without this hassle to get basic care.
bcv513 This is what I was going to suggest. Ask your PCP to write a referral to a Neurologist who can then write a referral for an MRI. What a pain in the ass. I hate insurance companies.
Thank you both! This is exactly what they are saying - PCP doesn't have enough knowledge to order the test. I got referred to a neurologist...the first appointment is in September. My PCP is going to call and beg for an earlier appointment.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Apr 26, 2022 11:16:58 GMT -5
georgeharrison - I’m so sorry. My stepdad had throat cancer back in 2001. It was a very scary diagnosis and I’m sure a lot has changed since then, but he had a grim prognosis. He wound up living another 15 years before being diagnosed with a different cancer, which is what he eventually died from.
Don’t let Google scare you.
Also my best advice is to have a feeding peg put in as soon as you start seeing deterioration in how he’s eating. My stepdad was very resistant, but it was essential and he lost too much weight before he had it installed. Also, you don’t realize how social eating is until you can’t anymore. I was living with my parents at the time since I was in the middle of my own medical rehab after being medically separated from the Peace Corps, and used to sit with him while everyone else was eating.
Post by icedcoffee on Apr 26, 2022 11:31:34 GMT -5
There appears to be a VP meeting regarding something hush hush and one of the VPs is replying in the chat of an all staff meeting from yesterday so the whole company can see it.
Post by icedcoffee on Apr 26, 2022 11:37:47 GMT -5
I've become obsessed with looking at beach houses. I need to stop because while this isn't really spontaneous (we've talked about it for almost a decade) I really only want to pull the trigger for the perfect house and I don't tend to be rational when I'm obsessed.
I had another dream last night where I was still married to my XH. This time we were packing for a vacation with my family. Before we left I was trying to text my current H and tell him that I wished he was going with me instead. In real life I didn't meet my H until almost 9 months after I split with my XH, so this was obviously not very realistic. I woke up feeling very relieved that my H was the one sleeping next to me
But hell, do I need therapy or something? I have these dreams semi regularly (at least several times a year). I haven't seen my XH in almost 9 years and rarely even think about him beyond random memories of my life back then or when I see post or articles about divorce related stuff. I am tired of him showing up in my subconscious though! Go away!
If you need therapy, so do I! It’s unnerving how often xh shows up in my dreams. It’s almost always me leaving him again, sometimes for my current h, sometimes not. So weird!
Same thing. I haven't seen/contacted my XH in almost 10 years and he still shows up in my dream. This is unnerving.
oh man, Simone Biles' BFF emailed me. She says she owes me an apology and "stands by her feelings, but not how she handled it". And she wants to reconnect. I hate awkwardness.
If you need therapy, so do I! It’s unnerving how often xh shows up in my dreams. It’s almost always me leaving him again, sometimes for my current h, sometimes not. So weird!
Same thing. I haven't seen/contacted my XH in almost 10 years and he still shows up in my dream. This is unnerving.
It always amazes me how many things are common among humans I guess it's good to know we're all normal! But also, maybe we need to hire an exorcist or something to get them out of our brains, lol.
oh man, Simone Biles' BFF emailed me. She says she owes me an apology and "stands by her feelings, but not how she handled it". And she wants to reconnect. I hate awkwardness.
Avoid. Life is too short to have friends that require this much energy.
I had another dream last night where I was still married to my XH. This time we were packing for a vacation with my family. Before we left I was trying to text my current H and tell him that I wished he was going with me instead. In real life I didn't meet my H until almost 9 months after I split with my XH, so this was obviously not very realistic. I woke up feeling very relieved that my H was the one sleeping next to me
But hell, do I need therapy or something? I have these dreams semi regularly (at least several times a year). I haven't seen my XH in almost 9 years and rarely even think about him beyond random memories of my life back then or when I see post or articles about divorce related stuff. I am tired of him showing up in my subconscious though! Go away!
I go through phases of those kinds of dreams about my XH! We've been divorced for 9 years I think? I think brains are just weird. I'm always so sad/resigned in my dreams that this is my life, and then incredibly relieved when I wake up!
Post by followyourarrow on Apr 26, 2022 12:04:06 GMT -5
I just had a 3rd and final interview for a position. Please let me get this one! I really liked the person I interviewed with and think we'd make a great team.
I've been divorced 9 years and still dream about exH, usually I dream that he's apologizing and wants me back. This is so fucked up because even if he did this, I wouldn't want him! He could apologize and have spent the last 9 years in therapy and still no.
So we applied for a puppy via a rescue over the weekend.
We have had dogs for 15 years, have shown dogs and have worked in pet rescue ourselves. All of our pets have died of old age (often after us spending literally thousands on their medical care, working through blindness, incontinence, literally syringe feeding our cat, diapering our dog.)
We have a tween boy (so no little kids), a fenced yard, a very large house and both adults work from home. We have one 3.5-year-old dog who is incredibly well adjusted and trained. He is not only vetted annually but we have a special plan where we pay in advance for any problems.
We have relationships with a local training/dog daycare, a vet, a dog walker, a groomer and a respected dog boarding facility.
But we just got turned down because we missed a single year of renewing heartworm medication on time during the height of the pandemic. (He got 12 does in 2020 and 12 in 2022 but in 2021 while our other dog was literally dying and at the vet every week we probably started giving it more like once every 8 weeks instead of every month and it lasted longer than it should have.)
This is after giving these people our driver's license information, filling out a four-page application, being referenced checked and agreeing to a home visit. This is...defeating. And I feel like a terrible person. I'm a good dog mom!
ETA: I get that they have to be careful but it's also like, so now we'll never be approved by any rescue for an animal?
I'm sorry, that sucks. There is a lot of holier than thou bs in the rescue world. I hope you find one that is reasonable and sees the positive home you'd offer.
I had another dream last night where I was still married to my XH. This time we were packing for a vacation with my family. Before we left I was trying to text my current H and tell him that I wished he was going with me instead. In real life I didn't meet my H until almost 9 months after I split with my XH, so this was obviously not very realistic. I woke up feeling very relieved that my H was the one sleeping next to me
But hell, do I need therapy or something? I have these dreams semi regularly (at least several times a year). I haven't seen my XH in almost 9 years and rarely even think about him beyond random memories of my life back then or when I see post or articles about divorce related stuff. I am tired of him showing up in my subconscious though! Go away!
I go through phases of those kinds of dreams about my XH! We've been divorced for 9 years I think? I think brains are just weird. I'm always so sad/resigned in my dreams that this is my life, and then incredibly relieved when I wake up!
I have dreams about my ExH as well, and I hate them. He’s usually trying to sleep with me and I’m disgusted the entire time. I have dreams about him a lot this time of year because it was around this time that we eventually decided to split. This happened 7 years ago. I would love for the dreams to stop!
I know that my mom still has dreams about my father and they’ve been divorced for over 20 years now, so I’m not convinced the dreams will stop any time soon. Lovely.
Happy Anniversary Bernadine ! I'm so happy you're happy.
I'm fighting with my insurance company. I've had trouble walking for over a year now. At first I thought it was from working from home and COVID and I was just out of shape. But it's at the point now where I can't walk more than twenty feet or so without needing to stop. And I'm falling a few times per week. Just out of nowhere my legs give out and I'm on the ground. Obviously my quality of life has suffered. I went to my primary care who sent me to an orthopedist. They ruled out anything bone/arthritis related. So now my primary care thinks I either have MS or I'm just stressed from my divorce. She wants me to have an MRI, but my insurance has denied it for going on three months now. I'm so frustrated at this point.
I'm so sorry you are fighting with your insurance company. Are you having any trouble with your vision? That was the first symptom I had when I was diagnosed with MS.
I am overloaded with so much stuff going on right now! Friday is our school dance and I have to put together the silent auction and raffle baskets. I have enough donations to fill like 50 baskets! Next week is teacher and staff appreciation so I have food to order every day. Next Wednesday is our donuts with grown-ups fundraiser, so I have to order like 75 dozen donuts from Krispy Kreme. I have end of the year retirement to plan, kindergarten continuation, 5th grade graduation, music concerts, etc. Everyone needs a piece of the PTO and I'm so overwhelmed! The PTO board is helping, but most of the crap is in my house, so I don't want to move it. Just venting makes me feel better.
I go through phases of those kinds of dreams about my XH! We've been divorced for 9 years I think? I think brains are just weird. I'm always so sad/resigned in my dreams that this is my life, and then incredibly relieved when I wake up!
I have dreams about my ExH as well, and I hate them. He’s usually trying to sleep with me and I’m disgusted the entire time. I have dreams about him a lot this time of year because it was around this time that we eventually decided to split. This happened 7 years ago. I would love for the dreams to stop!
I know that my mom still has dreams about my father and they’ve been divorced for over 20 years now, so I’m not convinced the dreams will stop any time soon. Lovely.
20 years? DAMMIT, lol. Do not want!
Good point about the time of year - we decided to split in early February, and it was probably around this time that he actually moved out (IDK the actual date). I remember he came back to get his stuff on Memorial day weekend, and I never saw him again after that. So maybe once we get through May I'll have a reprieve for the rest of the year?
oh man, Simone Biles' BFF emailed me. She says she owes me an apology and "stands by her feelings, but not how she handled it". And she wants to reconnect. I hate awkwardness.
The best replies to a “sorry, but not really sorry” emails are:
1) Lol, no I’m good 2) new email, who dis? 3) nothing. 4) an actual sincere response. Like, thank you for reaching out. And then either say you’d like to reconnect too, or that you still need some time, or that you’re not interested.
oh man, Simone Biles' BFF emailed me. She says she owes me an apology and "stands by her feelings, but not how she handled it". And she wants to reconnect. I hate awkwardness.
The best replies to a “sorry, but not really sorry” emails are:
1) Lol, no I’m good 2) new email, who dis? 3) nothing. 4) an actual sincere response. Like, thank you for reaching out. And then either say you’d like to reconnect too, or that you still need some time, or that you’re not interested.
Good luck. She sounds exhausting!
It was a fairly sincere email. I'm trying to work out how I want to respond. Because the truth is, I feel like our friendship was kind of fading before that incident. And the Simone Biles thing was just final confirmation of, ok, this friendship isn't working. I need to figure out how to say, "It's fine, I harbor no bad feelings around the situation, I don't want it to be awkward or weird if we're in a group situation with mutual friends, but no, we won't go back to being besties again."