It’s my anniversary! We’ve made it 8 years- and you all know how close we came to not making it. I’m happy we decided to stay together, I really do love our life.
Our school PTO basically shut down 2 yrs ago and just recently began efforts to restart. Feels kind of funny given our last day is May 20th, but I'm the new 5th grade rep...for 25 days, ha! I am to reach out to teachers today to see what their greatest needs are.
We had 80s this past weekend and it is currently 35. My body is a hot mess. My sunburn is greatly improved, but still some discomfort and now my arms are so dry. Sunday I took the kids and friends to the PTO ice skating party and halfway around the rink realized my left skate was rubbing my ankle despite wearing thick socks. I immediately took them off, but damage done, looks like a burn. And I have a mystery bruise on my arm.
Our house cleaners are coming today and I have no idea what time. I got two text reminders from them yesterday…one said our appt was scheduled for 1:30 and the other said 9:30, so I just ran around the house cleaning up (yes, I am a person who cleans for the cleaners) in case the 9:30 text was the correct one. I could have texted them to clarify, but it slipped my mind in all the other events of yesterday, so now we just wait to see when they show up.
Our house cleaners are coming today and I have no idea what time. I got two text reminders from them yesterday…one said our appt was scheduled for 1:30 and the other said 9:30, so I just ran around the house cleaning up (yes, I am a person who cleans for the cleaners) in case the 9:30 text was the correct one. I could have texted them to clarify, but it slipped my mind in all the other events of yesterday, so now we just wait to see when they show up.
When you say you clean before they come what does that mean? Picking up clutter or literally vacuuming and wiping things down?
I always declutter, put any breakfast dishes in the dishwasher, etc to get stuff out of their way, but don't actually clean anything.
Today is a good day so far for two very tiny, very dorky reasons:
1. The Peloton instructor (Daniel) high-fived me during an on-demand class this morning. 2. I got the Wordle in 2 guesses.
Not bad for a Tuesday.
I am so jealous of #1. I love Daniel! He cracks me up with how he just crushes himself during his own workouts, and I also love how frequently he says butt cheeks during lower body sessions.
And I also got the Wordle in 2 guesses today. I like to think that means I’m having a smart day.
My FIL has throat cancer. We just found out a few days ago. My husband is very upset. He will have surgery on Friday and then we will get more info. Right now, we are just waiting...and that sucks.
Work is meh. I am really interested in this new opportunity, but I don't know how fast they are hoping to move. We are supposed to get our team together for the first time, literally, every in San Jose towards the end of May and I really don't want to go if I'm going to be changing jobs. But I don't know if I will know anything by then.
Our house cleaners are coming today and I have no idea what time. I got two text reminders from them yesterday…one said our appt was scheduled for 1:30 and the other said 9:30, so I just ran around the house cleaning up (yes, I am a person who cleans for the cleaners) in case the 9:30 text was the correct one. I could have texted them to clarify, but it slipped my mind in all the other events of yesterday, so now we just wait to see when they show up.
When you say you clean before they come what does that mean? Picking up clutter or literally vacuuming and wiping things down?
I always declutter, put any breakfast dishes in the dishwasher, etc to get stuff out of their way, but don't actually clean anything.
Mainly just pick up and declutter, but I also wipe down the toilets and sinks. Not scrub them, but wipe them. I don’t know why! FI thinks I’m ridiculous, I think I’m being nice. It’s probably somewhere in between.
I had another dream last night where I was still married to my XH. This time we were packing for a vacation with my family. Before we left I was trying to text my current H and tell him that I wished he was going with me instead. In real life I didn't meet my H until almost 9 months after I split with my XH, so this was obviously not very realistic. I woke up feeling very relieved that my H was the one sleeping next to me
But hell, do I need therapy or something? I have these dreams semi regularly (at least several times a year). I haven't seen my XH in almost 9 years and rarely even think about him beyond random memories of my life back then or when I see post or articles about divorce related stuff. I am tired of him showing up in my subconscious though! Go away!
When you say you clean before they come what does that mean? Picking up clutter or literally vacuuming and wiping things down?
I always declutter, put any breakfast dishes in the dishwasher, etc to get stuff out of their way, but don't actually clean anything.
Mainly just pick up and declutter, but I also wipe down the toilets and sinks. Not scrub them, but wipe them. I don’t know why! FI thinks I’m ridiculous, I think I’m being nice. It’s probably somewhere in between.
Meh, it probably depends on how dirty they are! If they are really gross that's just nice. Ours are usually not awful (only 2 of us and the cleaners come biweekly, plus I usually wipe the sinks somewhere in between cleanings) so I don't really worry about it.
Mainly just pick up and declutter, but I also wipe down the toilets and sinks. Not scrub them, but wipe them. I don’t know why! FI thinks I’m ridiculous, I think I’m being nice. It’s probably somewhere in between.
Meh, it probably depends on how dirty they are! If they are really gross that's just nice. Ours are usually not awful (only 2 of us and the cleaners come biweekly, plus I usually wipe the sinks somewhere in between cleanings) so I don't really worry about it.
They’re really not bad…it’s just the two of us and we’re not gross people, lol. I just have this fear that others will THINK we’re gross or messy or whatever and my need to be perceived as not those things always wins out.
Happy Anniversary Bernadine! I'm so happy you're happy.
I'm fighting with my insurance company. I've had trouble walking for over a year now. At first I thought it was from working from home and COVID and I was just out of shape. But it's at the point now where I can't walk more than twenty feet or so without needing to stop. And I'm falling a few times per week. Just out of nowhere my legs give out and I'm on the ground. Obviously my quality of life has suffered. I went to my primary care who sent me to an orthopedist. They ruled out anything bone/arthritis related. So now my primary care thinks I either have MS or I'm just stressed from my divorce. She wants me to have an MRI, but my insurance has denied it for going on three months now. I'm so frustrated at this point.
Meh, it probably depends on how dirty they are! If they are really gross that's just nice. Ours are usually not awful (only 2 of us and the cleaners come biweekly, plus I usually wipe the sinks somewhere in between cleanings) so I don't really worry about it.
They’re really not bad…it’s just the two of us and we’re not gross people, lol. I just have this fear that others will THINK we’re gross or messy or whatever and my need to be perceived as not those things always wins out.
I could probably use some therapy, haha.
Got it! Well, you could go either way I'm sure I always figure that they are cleaners - they've definitely seen much more gross than what we provide! But I also don't want to make their job any more miserable than it already is so I would try to be mindful if for some reason things were dirtier than usual.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Apr 26, 2022 9:07:56 GMT -5
I really need a break from everyone else’s FEELINGS!!!1!!!1!1! Living with a teenager, and immature H and a 6 year old is a lot of dramatics, and add in a 7 month old baby? God, I want a chance to cry for once, ya know?
I really need a break from everyone else’s FEELINGS!!!1!!!1!1! Living with a teenager, and immature H and a 6 year old is a lot of dramatics, and add in a 7 month old baby? God, I want a chance to cry for once, ya know?
Preach. Well, my husband is more mature than I am but tends to retreat to his lair in the office with a book when confronted with too many emotions so everyone emotes all over me instead.
The other day my (well fed) girl cat was meowing desperately for dinner maybe an hour before we normally put it out and I was SO ANNOYED. Like, shut up and leave me alone! I don't need your opinions and feelings either.
Post by lilypad1126 on Apr 26, 2022 9:27:37 GMT -5
I still have mosquitos. I really hope the pest control guy comes at 9am tomorrow (he is schedule for "Wednesday from 9-5". #eyeroll).
But the good news is that my ankle/foot feels better! I still don't know what I did that made it hurt so bad Sunday, but today, it feels 100% back to normal. Whew!
bcv513 what is their reason for denying it? Could your doctor refer you to a specialist and then have them ask for it? I had an issue years ago about a test and they were denying it because it came from my primary who apparently they didn’t believe would have the knowledge to order it? It made no sense. But it worked coming from another doctor.
I’m sorry you are dealing with this! The problem is scary enough without this hassle to get basic care.
Last night, my husband told DD to take a shower and start getting ready for bed...instead of doing that, she left the house without telling anyone and no one notice. We finally found her walking with our nextdoor neighbor and his dog.
I think she went out with the intention to comfront or spy on someone down the block, who she had seen hit his dog. It wasn't great discipline, but it wouldn't be something that would lead animal welfare to question the owner. She has such a great heart, but I wish she used her head a little better.
Post by HRH Queen Dick I on Apr 26, 2022 9:44:31 GMT -5
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The work on our street is interfering with our recycling pick up and I’m annoyed since we only have pick up twice a month. Please take my coke cans away.
Do other areas warn you when they are doing major work on your street? We haven’t lost power or anything but it’s so loud and they are blocking the street to traffic. It would be nice if I could plan around it; I have to film for a client today and it’s way too loud and some of the product I expected can’t be delivered because Fedex can’t get on my street. I’m all for the city fixing things but I can’t be only person who plans for anything and would need to adjust.
Post by sometimesrunner on Apr 26, 2022 9:50:22 GMT -5
Somebody here shared recently that a spring on her garage door broke and it sounded like an explosion. The exact same thing happened to me yesterday! It was so loud I thought someone ran into our garage door! I guess I should call somebody and get that fixed.
It's DD's birthday today. She is just a ball of joy. Today is an early out day from school and I can't wait to pick her up and spend more time with her.
So we applied for a puppy via a rescue over the weekend.
We have had dogs for 15 years, have shown dogs and have worked in pet rescue ourselves. All of our pets have died of old age (often after us spending literally thousands on their medical care, working through blindness, incontinence, literally syringe feeding our cat, diapering our dog.)
We have a tween boy (so no little kids), a fenced yard, a very large house and both adults work from home. We have one 3.5-year-old dog who is incredibly well adjusted and trained. He is not only vetted annually but we have a special plan where we pay in advance for any problems.
We have relationships with a local training/dog daycare, a vet, a dog walker, a groomer and a respected dog boarding facility.
But we just got turned down because we missed a single year of renewing heartworm medication on time during the height of the pandemic. (He got 12 does in 2020 and 12 in 2022 but in 2021 while our other dog was literally dying and at the vet every week we probably started giving it more like once every 8 weeks instead of every month and it lasted longer than it should have.)
This is after giving these people our driver's license information, filling out a four-page application, being referenced checked and agreeing to a home visit. This is...defeating. And I feel like a terrible person. I'm a good dog mom!
ETA: I get that they have to be careful but it's also like, so now we'll never be approved by any rescue for an animal?
I had another dream last night where I was still married to my XH. This time we were packing for a vacation with my family. Before we left I was trying to text my current H and tell him that I wished he was going with me instead. In real life I didn't meet my H until almost 9 months after I split with my XH, so this was obviously not very realistic. I woke up feeling very relieved that my H was the one sleeping next to me
But hell, do I need therapy or something? I have these dreams semi regularly (at least several times a year). I haven't seen my XH in almost 9 years and rarely even think about him beyond random memories of my life back then or when I see post or articles about divorce related stuff. I am tired of him showing up in my subconscious though! Go away!
If you need therapy, so do I! It’s unnerving how often xh shows up in my dreams. It’s almost always me leaving him again, sometimes for my current h, sometimes not. So weird!
I really need a break from everyone else’s FEELINGS!!!1!!!1!1! Living with a teenager, and immature H and a 6 year old is a lot of dramatics, and add in a 7 month old baby? God, I want a chance to cry for once, ya know?
Preach. Well, my husband is more mature than I am but tends to retreat to his lair in the office with a book when confronted with too many emotions so everyone emotes all over me instead.
The other day my (well fed) girl cat was meowing desperately for dinner maybe an hour before we normally put it out and I was SO ANNOYED. Like, shut up and leave me alone! I don't need your opinions and feelings either.
Yes! One cat makes himself throw up when he’s upset. I don’t need your feline emotions too!
circa1978, Seriously?!? How would they even know? We used to be a 2 dog family and when my senior dog passed I used their remaining meds on my other dog. I guess it would have looked like I missed some too? Also, I think during a pandemic they can relate to one month getting missed! That is insane.
I find many animal rescues to be fucking ridiculous with their adoption requirements. I think there's got to be an obvious line between "getting a dog for fight bait" and "active family good for a pet." Hell, probably something pretty obvious between "uninformed yahoos looking for a last minute birthday gift for a 7 year old" and "active family good for a pet."
How does that insanity NOT drive people to backyard breeders? Like, I neglected going to the dentist FOR MYSELF for 2 years. I'm not morally unfit to care for other creatures.
And, yes, I used to volunteer at an animal rescue.
So we applied for a puppy via a rescue over the weekend.
We have had dogs for 15 years, have shown dogs and have worked in pet rescue ourselves. All of our pets have died of old age (often after us spending literally thousands on their medical care, working through blindness, incontinence, literally syringe feeding our cat, diapering our dog.)
We have a tween boy (so no little kids), a fenced yard, a very large house and both adults work from home. We have one 3.5-year-old dog who is incredibly well adjusted and trained. He is not only vetted annually but we have a special plan where we pay in advance for any problems.
We have relationships with a local training/dog daycare, a vet, a dog walker, a groomer and a respected dog boarding facility.
But we just got turned down because we missed a single year of renewing heartworm medication on time during the height of the pandemic. (He got 12 does in 2020 and 12 in 2022 but in 2021 while our other dog was literally dying and at the vet every week we probably started giving it more like once every 8 weeks instead of every month and it lasted longer than it should have.)
This is after giving these people our driver's license information, filling out a four-page application, being referenced checked and agreeing to a home visit. This is...defeating. And I feel like a terrible person. I'm a good dog mom!
ETA: I get that they have to be careful but it's also like, so now we'll never be approved by any rescue for an animal?
Rescue people can be a bit nutty sometimes. There are many rescues out there with widely varying requirements, don't give up yet.