waverly, I literally just had a physical and everything was great, and of course this starts after. I will call if it continues, was just curious if anyone else has dealt with this. My mom does have a bunch of varicose veins so maybe that is the start of it? I'm not in any pain, it's just like I'm aware of that vein being there, if that makes any sense.
Holy Internalized Misogyny! I can only guess that you don’t have a teenage boy living in your home. Or, if you do, that he is somehow not the typical teenager (ie, mostly a pain the ass to those who love them the most). However sweet and awkward they are around adults not their parents, teenage boys come with their own host of problematic behavior, trust.
as the mother of an almost -6 year old boy, yes to this. Lol
at the mother of young adult men (baby turned 25 last week!) I bring tidings that they’ll be nice to you again someday. I genuinely like them now!
Post by litskispeciality on Jan 30, 2023 17:27:57 GMT -5
Apparently my hairdresser left the salon. I'm so bummed because she did an amazing job. The salon asked her to reach out direct, so I never heard until I called to cancel and reschedule an apt tomorrow (Tues). Only upside is in a month I'll have a haircut and a facial on a Saturday, so yeah!
I've been following along with this the past few months. As an observer, it felt like you and your employer fell out of step with one another. I'm hopeful for you moving forward, onward and upward. I think you're going to land somewhere great and be so happy.
Post by killercupcake on Jan 30, 2023 19:05:21 GMT -5
Around 8, my husband texted me and said it was snowing. I was bummed but I didn’t think it was going to stick. Around 9:30, we realized it was going to stay around and it was coming down pretty hard.
My boss and her secretary told me to go home and play with my kids since this only happens every so often. My son was already home sick so I picked up my daughter and we had a snow day.
It’s already melting now but it’s so pretty. My kids are obsessed. 😍 So worth it.
silva, that wasn’t 8 years lost, but rather 8 years of experience (whether positive or negative) gained. Fingers crossed for you that you find something better soon!
silva, I'm so sorry. I am glad you are doing ok right now and I hope this means the start of a positive new chapter for you.
gummybear, I am sorry you went through all of that with your daughter. Although I know you know it's "not all girls", I can see why you'd have the feelings you do.
silva, I'm so sorry. I am glad you are doing ok right now and I hope this means the start of a positive new chapter for you.
gummybear, I am sorry you went through all of that with your daughter. Although I know you know it's "not all girls", I can see why you'd have the feelings you do.
Thank you. I def don’t think it’s all girls. Our younger daughter has the sweetest, most kind friends. The older one is in high school now (at an all girls school, lol) and has made amazing, wonderful friends who treat each other with love. It’s so hard bc I’m so damaged by the pain she experienced that I keep thinking it’s too good to be true. I keep waiting for something bad to happen. I have no reason to feel this way and the girls have all been amazing but I guess that’s how trauma works. All I really meant was as a girl mom who largely missed out on seeing the kids go through that awkward adolescent commingling in middle school bc of Covid, I am thoroughly enjoying meeting the young men. It’s completely uncharted territory for me and I find them endearing. Obv I’m only seeing them at their best, lol 😂
Yes - and I think that is why I came out with knee jerk protectiveness for my kid who has a really great group of girl friends who have been harassed and threatened, without any consequences for the boys involved. Just "boys will be boys"
My kids have two sisters who they would consider their best friends (their mom is one of my very closest friends). In the last two weeks, both girls have cancelled on plans with my girls because something better came up. I'm surprised (and hurt) that their mom is allowing this, and I'm bummed for my kids
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
My kids have two sisters who they would consider their best friends (their mom is one of my very closest friends). In the last two weeks, both girls have cancelled on plans with my girls because something better came up. I'm surprised (and hurt) that their mom is allowing this, and I'm bummed for my kids
Ugh. I have a hard and fast rule that we don’t cancel plans bc something better comes up. This is pretty much non-negotiable and my kids have known this since they were little. A couple weeks ago we committed to ice skating and then another mom invited DD2 to Longwood Gardens last minute and was upset with me that I didn’t let my kid go. It was a big deal bc in her opinion her daughter would have fomo about the ice skating so she cancelled the entire LG trip for her family so the daughter could go to the rink and made me feel like it was my fault the night got ruined. I’m telling you, it’s more common than not for moms to let their kids change plans. I instituted the rule bc I was so shocked when DD1 was little how often it happened. SHOCKED. Because it would never cross my mind to allow it!
I’m leaving on Friday to go to Jackson Hole, WY for a ski vacation with my brothers. I haven’t skied in probably 15 years. I use to be pretty decent at it. Anyway, I took myself skiing today. We have a small ski area about 15 minutes from my house. I’m happy to report that it seems to be like riding bike and I do remember how to ski.
Juuuuust FYI, because I think you're in PA, I grew up going to the Poconos to ski and consider myself decent enough. But skiing at Jackson Hole was another world entirely. It was like, straight vertical on the green runs lol So definitely start with the easiest hills and take your time.
Frankly I’m just hoping that I survive the first run (we’re sprinkling my Dads ashes) and then maybe I’ll spend the rest of the day in the lodge drinking LOL
My kids have two sisters who they would consider their best friends (their mom is one of my very closest friends). In the last two weeks, both girls have cancelled on plans with my girls because something better came up. I'm surprised (and hurt) that their mom is allowing this, and I'm bummed for my kids
Ugh. I have a hard and fast rule that we don’t cancel plans bc something better comes up. This is pretty much non-negotiable and my kids have known this since they were little. A couple weeks ago we committed to ice skating and then another mom invited DD2 to Longwood Gardens last minute and was upset with me that I didn’t let my kid go. It was a big deal bc in her opinion her daughter would have fomo about the ice skating so she cancelled the entire LG trip for her family so the daughter could go to the rink and made me feel like it was my fault the night got ruined. I’m telling you, it’s more common than not for moms to let their kids change plans. I instituted the rule bc I was so shocked when DD1 was little how often it happened. SHOCKED. Because it would never cross my mind to allow it!
That’s why I’m so surprised. This mom is my bestie. We are both teachers. We talk about this kind of stuff all the time (her kids have had some social difficulties with mean girls at school). This is new in the last couple of weeks that they’ve done this twice and it’s pissing me off that she is allowing it (and my feelings are hurt - I would never do this)
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I’m so sorry erbear That really sucks. Would you be comfortable discussing it with her?
I will at some point. I’m super non-confrontational though. I replied to her text (she asked if the kids would be bummed but B got asked to go skiing on Saturday and she’s been dying to go) and said “yeah, the kids will be bummed, and if she wants to go, I guess that’s that”. Not the most gracious response but I was hurt.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I will at some point. I’m super non-confrontational though. I replied to her text (she asked if the kids would be bummed but B got asked to go skiing on Saturday and she’s been dying to go) and said “yeah, the kids will be bummed, and if she wants to go, I guess that’s that”. Not the most gracious response but I was hurt.
Aw, I’m sorry:( what was the other thing? I’m glad the mom is being honest about the reasons, though. Do you live somewhere skiing is normal weekend activity, or was this more of a special opportunity for the other kid? If it is, while it still hurts, I can understand it a bit better.
It’s my younger daughter’s birthday. We invited DD2’s friend (her bestie), DD1’s bestie (the older sister) and the mom to join us with DD2’s friends at dinner (we are close — it would have been weird not to include them). Then my friend was supposed to take DD1 and her friend to their house for a sleepover since the littles are sleeping at my house.
We live in PA. Skiing is a regular occurrence here. She was invited by mutual friends and she’s just choosing those friends over my kid. Which is fine and all, but it sucks that 1) these kids are all our friends and my kid wasn’t invited and 2) she was supposed to hang with with her bestie this weekend and now she’s not only excluded from skiing but also doesn’t get to have the sleepover she was planning.
She’ll live. Disappointment is part of life, as is navigating friendships. Just sucks.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Thanks, you guys. I know this isn’t that big of a deal but my kid is having some social stuff at school lately and her saving grace has always been her neighborhood bestie. My feelings are hurt — I’ll never get on the roller coaster with her but I needed to vent it somewhere.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I've been following along with this the past few months. As an observer, it felt like you and your employer fell out of step with one another. I'm hopeful for you moving forward, onward and upward. I think you're going to land somewhere great and be so happy.
Thank you. I appreciate this so much. My therapist said today and for the next few days I’m going to be going through the stages of grief, so soon I’m going to get to a sad and hopeless place. So I just want to say thank you. Brought me solace today.
silva , that wasn’t 8 years lost, but rather 8 years of experience (whether positive or negative) gained. Fingers crossed for you that you find something better soon!
You’re right. Thank you for reframing that thought. Just what I needed to read.
I've been following along with this the past few months. As an observer, it felt like you and your employer fell out of step with one another. I'm hopeful for you moving forward, onward and upward. I think you're going to land somewhere great and be so happy.
Thank you. I appreciate this so much. My therapist said today and for the next few days I’m going to be going through the stages of grief, so soon I’m going to get to a sad and hopeless place. So I just want to say thank you. Brought me solace today.
Ooof, and be prepared for those stages of grief to cycle. Sometimes by the minute.
Thank you. I appreciate this so much. My therapist said today and for the next few days I’m going to be going through the stages of grief, so soon I’m going to get to a sad and hopeless place. So I just want to say thank you. Brought me solace today.
Ooof, and be prepared for those stages of grief to cycle. Sometimes by the minute.
Allow yourself to feel it.
Work on a plan to move on to greener pastures.
You'll make it.
I’m so grateful for your response. Thank you. Honestly.
I take solace that my husband…
my daughter…
and my small circle of friends…
will be there when I need them.
One seed planted a bit ago was the thought of going back to school for something different. But as a 40+ Woman, it’s hard to navigate what that would be!?
We had such an awesome weekend in Charleston. It was exhausting, but we saw SO many of our friends and it has filled my heart.
Unfortunately, when we got dropped at our car in the parking lot by the parking shuttle, the hatch opened with the fob, it unlocked, but then I went to start it as the hatch was closing and it, like, shorted out and then wouldn't do anything. I just replaced the battery Jan 7. Luckily we keep a portable battery jumper in the car and that got it to start, but while we were driving it kept flashing different dash lights and would kind of lose power, not accelerate right, etc. so I got off the highway and we took access roads home. It starts now, but still displays some weird dash lights that then go off, but the check engine light stays on. SO. I'm taking it to the dealership to drop it off in an hour or so here in a bit. We're a one car family so this is really annoying.
Maybe luckily or unluckily we have that "winter storm weather" coming, so the downside is I didn't want to take it out to the store today for extra stuff, I don't want to push my luck, but upside is we likely wouldn't be driving it the next couple of days anyway. I just hope it's not too $$$$ of a fix. It's only a 2017 with 30,000ish miles on it.
I'm having flashbacks right now. The first car I ever bought, 2 days aftwr purchase it showed its true colors -- sporadic, unpredictable, un-replicatable electrical issues. It would start with the radio going silent, then alllll the gauges would flip back and forth and dash lights would flicker. Then we played the fun game of "will it get its shit together, or is it gonna turn off on me in the middle of the highway?" Meanwhile turning off meant not only no acceleration, but no power steering. Ghaaa I'm sweating just thinking about it. I spent like 700 bucks on different attempts to diagnose it with zero luck.
Snow day for the kids due to very icy roads. Apparently the highways were a complete shitshow last night, and temp isn't expected to get above the low to mid 20's today. I think the district made the right call.
I'm a little more than halfway done with a 20-piece embroidery order. It's a nice one, bc each piece is fairly quick. The lady who ordered doesn't need them until mid-March, and I quoted her mid-Feb, but I'll probably have them done by this weekend.
I've been really into "puzzle" movies lately - action-y type movies that have some sort of mystery or puzzle to solve. National Treasure 1 & 2, the Dan Brown movies (DaVinci code, et al), Knives Out/Glass Onion, the Agatha Christie reboots (Orient Express, Murder on the Nile). Does anyone have any other movies like this they could recommend? I'm gonna burn these out if I keep rewatching lol
Haha….I watched Banshees of Inisherin and felt that way, and then I started The Menu and once I figured out what was happening I turned it off.
I knew I saw this movie discussed! We just watched it, what made you turn it off, exactly? We laughed through most of it, lol. I mean, it comes out what his plan is, were you just not into it at that point? I wanted to see the ending for sure.
Uh, I guess I can’t say without spoiling it. I just found it….odd.