Post by goldengirlz on Feb 5, 2023 21:53:01 GMT -5
… other people’s obviously
My ILs are obsessed with this idea of bringing their dog with them the next time they come visit, even though it would be a 42-hour round-trip drive. 🤷♀️
The dog is well-behaved for the most part, but he’s large and slobbery and he sheds a lot. We have a small house. Also, we have a cat. As far we know, the cat likes dogs and the dog likes cats, but … it’s still a wild card, right?
Just curious how other people approach these things.
UPDATE: H told his parents that they can’t bring the dog. We also found out why my MIL has been dreaming about this — she thinks the dog needs to see the ocean. I told you he’s spoiled!
Staying IN my house? Only in emergency circumstances. Their house was destroyed by a fire, that kind of thing.
Visiting for a short time, mainly in the fenced backyard? Only if I like the dog.
My in-laws refuse to travel without their dog and their dog is not fully house trained and does not follow the same rules we have for our dogs (ie, no dogs on the furniture), so they stay in a hotel with their dog when they visit us. I feel bad for the poor staff at the Residence Inn who have to clean dog sh*t off the sofa after their stay but I’m also glad it’s not my sofa.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
In general, no. There are a few exceptions for dogs we know well and are only here for short periods of time. (ETA: a few hours, like their family is over for dinner.)
I like dogs, but my house is not set up to host a dog for extended periods.
That's a hard and immediate pass in my house. I don't have dogs, but have two cats. I can't imagine trying to temporarily introduce a dog into their environment. Also, I just don't like dogs and would be so stressed out about the shedding and dirt a dog would track in. But I imagine that is very dependant your feelings to your in laws, their dog, and how much stress you can handle.
What's their backup plan if your cat and their dog won't tolerate each other? Are they willing to board the dog in your town?
Dogs aren't allowed in my home. Neither are cats, miniature horses, etc. I have allergies. My friends know this and leave their dogs at home. I LOVE dogs and can be around them in their home for few hours, but I can't introduce that dander into my house. No dog is "hypoallergenic." They all shed, just some more than others.
That's a hard and immediate pass in my house. I don't have dogs, but have two cats. I can't imagine trying to temporarily introduce a dog into their environment. Also, I just don't like dogs and would be so stressed out about the shedding and dirt a dog would track in. But I imagine that is very dependant your feelings to your in laws, their dog, and how much stress you can handle.
What's their backup plan if your cat and their dog won't tolerate each other? Are they willing to board the dog in your town?
I told my H that if that happens, they need to find a hotel.
I think my feelings about this are probably colored by how ridiculous my MIL can be about this dog. I posted before, for example, about how they let the dog lick all the plates and utensils before they put them in the dishwasher. THAT won’t happen in my house under any circumstance.
I love dogs and generally would be thrilled to have one stay with me. My cat, however, would not be happy so I would only allow one in an emergency. If I knew he would be ok with having one here I'd be all for it, though.
No dogs under ordinary circumstances. We don’t have dogs, our house isn’t set up for it, we don’t have a fenced yard, and the neighbors behind us have a dog that I wouldn’t trust to not be aggressive to another dog.
My sister did bring her 4lb yorkie once, and that was fine…but another family member has a mastiff that they think should be welcome to come, too. The yorkie has passed, so now we just have a blanket “no dogs” policy.
No dogs other than our own are allowed in our house. Only exception is an actual medical service dog but that's never been an issue. However, we would not allow friends' or family's dogs in our house.
We also do not travel with our dog. She goes to doggie camp when we go out of town.
Post by mysteriouswife on Feb 5, 2023 22:53:54 GMT -5
My cat would torment the poor dog until the dog ate her. Lol
Sadie is an asshole and doesn’t even do well when we board her. She has a huge red sign on her cage “I’m not a lover. I’m a fighter.” She often gets isolated when they are super busy or if there is an older cat being boarded. She also tried to fight a dog through the glass. 🤦🏻♀️ Thankfully the owner of the facility loves spirited cats. She thinks Sadie is funny.
We have two dogs and normally people don’t bring their dogs to our house. Our dogs are goldens so they provide a lot of hair and energy to every situation on their own. My sister brings her dog to my parents but we do not. My mom is super allergic to our dogs but not my sister’s. It’s just much easier to leave our dogs at home and find someone to watch them than deal with the comments about our dogs.
Well, I hate my ILs dog and was firm on not having her in the house because she bit my elderly dog who died a year ago this month. But she's currently in my guest room because they came for my dad's funeral and I'm tired.
No dogs in our house. We have cats, this is their home, and they have the right to have a peaceful life. My ILs are all dog lovers and didn't take me seriously at first, but I made it very clear.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else would do. It is acceptable for you to make the decision to say no to this, and I think if that is what you want, you should say no.
A simple statement is fine. “We will not be able to have the dog at our house, please make other arrangements” or “no thank you” is adequate.
We are fine with other dogs - we have a large fenced backyard and plenty of extra space if we needed to close them up if we went out for dinner or whatever.
I definitely don’t think you have to though - I know boarding or hiring a pet sitter can be $$$ so I’m grateful our families have the same sort of rules. It can be hectic since between us and our IL’s we all have at least one dog but they’re also well trained.
I love animals, but I’d be a bit hesitant with a big, hair, slobbery dog. Especially if the dog has never been around cats? Your cat will likely be freaked, that’s just how they are. They do get over it, usually, but cats are finicky.
According to my MIL, the dog’s “best friend is a cat.” I’m not 100% sure what that means, but it sounds like he’s befriended at least one neighborhood cat.
And my cat thinks she’s a dog, so there’s that. She was also fostered with a dog and apparently got along great with him. That was a little dog though.
I honestly can’t imagine this happening on my house. But I just realized that no one in our immediate families have pets. Neither do my closest friends.
The thing with traveling with pets, isn’t it a lot more work? Are they going to bring their dog to every dinner or activity out?
I honestly can’t imagine this happening on my house. But I just realized that no one in our immediate families have pets. Neither do my closest friends.
The thing with traveling with pets, isn’t it a lot more work? Are they going to bring their dog to every dinner or activity out?
It sounds like the worst trip ever TBH. None of the national parks they want to see allow dogs and apparently it’s hard to find dog-friendly hotels.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else would do. It is acceptable for you to make the decision to say no to this, and I think if that is what you want, you should say no.
A simple statement is fine. “We will not be able to have the dog at our house, please make other arrangements” or “no thank you” is adequate.
It is your house. Tough shit for them.
My H is the one who’s been trying to soften me. The question is, do I REALLY want to make this a whole thing? I need to pick my battles, especially when it comes to his family. (It’s not like my mom is so easy to deal with!) And he says he’ll owe me one …
According to my MIL, the dog’s “best friend is a cat.” I’m not 100% sure what that means, but it sounds like he’s befriended at least one neighborhood cat.
And my cat thinks she’s a dog, so there’s that. She was also fostered with a dog and apparently got along great with him. That was a little dog though.
Well, in my experience, there’s always a lot of hissing and excitement on everyone’s part in the beginning and then they settle and adjust:) I have put my cats in my bedroom before, which is fine, except that the litter is then also in my bedroom. Dogs also like to eat treats from teh litter box, so that’s something else to consider.
I love to travel with my dog, but sometimes it’s nice to just be free of that responsibility! Are they in a city that would have decent boarding options? We have one we really like.
They usually board him. My MIL has just been obsessed with this idea for literally years now. It’s like a bucket list dream for her or something. I can’t even explain it.
I honestly can’t imagine this happening on my house. But I just realized that no one in our immediate families have pets. Neither do my closest friends.
The thing with traveling with pets, isn’t it a lot more work? Are they going to bring their dog to every dinner or activity out?
It sounds like the worst trip ever TBH. None of the national parks they want to see allow dogs and apparently it’s hard to find dog-friendly hotels.
I’m hoping this ridiculous idea dies on its own.
Do they know bringing their dog will affect the stuff y’all will do? I’ve had a dog before and never ever traveled with him because that isn’t a vacation to me.