I love flying alone! I echo the others who said the worst part is taking everything into the bathroom with you, otherwise it’s so nice to sit alone and have a drink or whatever while you wait. If you have a corporate credit card check to see if it gets you access to any of the airport lounges. Mine does and the last time I flew alone I used it (non cardholders are like $30 each so I haven’t used it with my kids and H) and never want to go back to waiting at the gate lol.
Also, your company may have something where you get preferred seats and boarding for no extra charge. This really reduces the chances of having to gate check your carry-on.
Post by wanderingback on Feb 12, 2023 12:06:48 GMT -5
I have a 3 month old. I’m planning to go to a conference in 2.5 months. My partner said as long as he has enough milk they’ll do just great. He is a great dad and very hands on, but I think it’ll be great for everyone for the 2 of them to spend those few days together alone. I know I’ll be going to conferences and travel a few times per year so it’s a good idea to get it started. Definitely go!
I travel ~ quarterly for work and I swear my son forgets I am gone. Probably because the rules are lax and he gets a ton more screen time than I would like, but he is fed and loved so I deal with it.
Also, anyone who is worried about their husband taking care of things while you are gone. They will do just fine and everyone in the house will be okay. It is good for them and the kids. Enjoy your time solo in a hotel room.
I’m happy that you decided to go. I think it will be good and your son.
Flying alone is great and many many people will be in the same boat as you. I get anxious flying, but if you can fly a direct flight, that would probably reduce any anxiety.
My DD has always had wild separation anxiety, and I'm also an anxious mum so I get it. But I promise it will be good for you and for him.
Try and take a cab to the airport because it will be much less dramatic to say goodbye out your front door than at the airport. This advice brought to you by me dropping my H and DD at the airport for their trip to visit his parents, only to have to listen to my DD have a full on screaming meltdown through security. I swear people thought he was kidnapping her. It was horrible.
Post by jeaniebueller on Feb 12, 2023 15:36:08 GMT -5
Go and please limit your contact while you are gone, for your own sake. You do not want to be fixating on things that you can’t control while you are on the trip.
Go and please limit your contact while you are gone, for your own sake. You do not want to be fixating on things that you can’t control while you are on the trip.
Yes this. It will be good for both of you for you to go. And too much contact will probably just make it harder on both of you. Go and enjoy.
I have a new boss who has suggested that I might want to travel less (I take a 3-day trip every 4-6 weeks or so). She has mentioned multiple times that this means time away from my family. She herself has three kids. I can't figure out if she just doesn't like being alone, but those work trips are a highlight for me.
I love having a hotel to myself, getting dinner on my own in the evening and having a drink while reading a book. Traveling for work is great.
I know it's easier said than done, but try to remind yourself that your son is in good hands. Keep yourself busy. Minimizing contact while you're gone may be best for both of you, honestly.
Post by maudefindlay on Feb 12, 2023 21:57:31 GMT -5
I agree with limiting contact while gone, just make sure your DH is on board. I.e that he is not like a friend's DH calling and texting about everything and anything that didn't go as planned with an air of expecting her to fix it all when she is states away and he is right there fully capable of just doing it without ever bothering her.
Post by dancingnancy on Feb 12, 2023 22:51:45 GMT -5
My job is to plan conferences, so I’ve been traveling since DD was 11 weeks old, which was gut wrenching, but at 5 yrs old I promise you will both benefit from it.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
He is starting kindergarten in the fall, right? This will be a practice run for handling big changes. And then it will end.
Also -please don't go belittling yourself for being an anxious depressed helicopter mom. We build up our kids and see the silver linings in all their challenges. You deserve the same.
It's okay to feel ambivalent about this. You can do it and you will bring your strengths to it.
My kid is also super clingy and hates any kind of change in routine. It'll be hard for him, and that's exactly why it's good for him! It's so important for kids to go through hard things and learn that it turns out okay in the end. I'd suggest prepping him some by talking about how he might feel about all of this, letting him know that's okay to miss you, feel sad, etc, but also don't over prep him and seem like this is hard for you too. It's important for you to act confident that he'll be okay. You got this! Oh and don't make the same mistake I did and do phone calls right before bed lol. That's the worst time because they are tired, and he'll miss you a lot then because changes in bedtime routine can be especially hard.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Feb 13, 2023 7:51:14 GMT -5
Only good things have happened when I leave my H in charge. I never would have known that had I not tried.
Try to think of it as an opportunity: an opportunity for you to focus on yourself and on work for once in your life, an opportunity for your husband to build confidence in handling parenting things alone, and an opportunity for your son to bond with his dad. I’m glad you’re going!
He is starting kindergarten in the fall, right? This will be a practice run for handling big changes. And then it will end.
Also -please don't go belittling yourself for being an anxious depressed helicopter mom. We build up our kids and see the silver linings in all their challenges. You deserve the same.
It's okay to feel ambivalent about this. You can do it and you will bring your strengths to it.
I agree with limiting contact while gone, just make sure your DH is on board. I.e that he is not like a friend's DH calling and texting about everything and anything that didn't go as planned with an air of expecting her to fix it all when she is states away and he is right there fully capable of just doing it without ever bothering her.
OMG (and this is a tangent now) but my friend's H does this and while we were on our girls' weekend he called her because he couldn't find a soccer uniform and she had to talk him through every.single.place. he could look. Like she goes, "Maybe the nanny put it in the wash." He checks the washer, it's not in there, out of ideas. "Then maybe it's in the dryer." SWEET MARY MOTHER OF JESUS.
I agree with limiting contact while gone, just make sure your DH is on board. I.e that he is not like a friend's DH calling and texting about everything and anything that didn't go as planned with an air of expecting her to fix it all when she is states away and he is right there fully capable of just doing it without ever bothering her.
OMG (and this is a tangent now) but my friend's H does this and while we were on our girls' weekend he called her because he couldn't find a soccer uniform and she had to talk him through every.single.place. he could look. Like she goes, "Maybe the nanny put it in the wash." He checks the washer, it's not in there, out of ideas. "Then maybe it's in the dryer." SWEET MARY MOTHER OF JESUS.
This sort of shit made me loathe my friend's H. This fucking dude was a mechanical genius but couldn't figure out how to give his poor wife a 2 hour break.
OMG (and this is a tangent now) but my friend's H does this and while we were on our girls' weekend he called her because he couldn't find a soccer uniform and she had to talk him through every.single.place. he could look. Like she goes, "Maybe the nanny put it in the wash." He checks the washer, it's not in there, out of ideas. "Then maybe it's in the dryer." SWEET MARY MOTHER OF JESUS.
This sort of shit made me loathe my friend's H. This fucking dude was a mechanical genius but couldn't figure out how to give his poor wife a 2 hour break.
I'll also add that with my friend her DH was also doing that anytime something didn't go as planned with the kids or something he had to deal with that wasn't fun. He did it because if he isn't having fun then she shouldn't be either. Asshole.