Dumb Disney planning question- the 60 days out for dining reservations, is that 60 from the arrival date? Or do I have to get up early every day for 8 days?
TR that sucks! Could you guys go somewhere else? Or get separate lodging and then limit the amount of stuff you do with other people (though that may be hard, I know, if your H actually wants to be spending the time with them). Or you guys just go another time?
I think the thing is that H likes spending time with them. And I get it, it's one of his best friends from college. But for ME, I just want my vacation to be relaxed and not have to be ON for other people and get to enjoy the non-work/non-stress H all to myself and go take a nap if I want to take a nap or just sit and read by myself without it being considered rude or "not connecting with people".
I'm supposed to be going away with friends this weekend but it's a lot of socializing and I'm feeling really anxious about it. I really want to cancel but I also know objectively that I will have fun once I'm there. I just need to not think about it.
Can you get a separate hotel room? I’m going away with a bunch of girlfriends and they’re all staying in a single condo. Two of us are getting separate hotel rooms nearby. There’s no way I’m spending four straight days with five other women in a 2br 2ba timeshare condo.
We are staying at someones vacation home, so getting a hotel isn't really an option. It's been several years since we did this, but last time I drove myself which gave me some alone time on either end of the trip. I'm pretty sure they thought it was odd (it's a solid 2 hour drive and on the way home one of them kept offering to drive with me and it was awkward) but it helped with my anxiety about everything.
I'm kind of debating just being honest that this is a lot for me and I'm going to drive myself, but I feel like it could come off as insulting to them even though it's nothing personal.
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 28, 2023 11:10:01 GMT -5
L was a toddler and a half this morning, peeing every 5 seconds and with just a super naughty energy as I was trying to get out the damn door to the park to burn off that energy. Park was great, morning resolved I thought - and then he dove head first onto paving stones from a platform a few inches off the ground because he wasn't paying attention. He seems fine except for a goose egg and scrape on his forehead, thank god, but I just am over this whole day. I am really ready for daycare to restart!
Post by fangoriagurkel on Feb 28, 2023 11:12:51 GMT -5
My spending has been very out of control / I’ve been in Treat Yo Self mode since maybe New Years-ish and today is my last hoorah because buckling down for March.
I’m splitting my day between doing responsible things like dropping off an Rx, making a boring call to verify insurance referral procedure, ringing my GP’s office to schedule my next iron infusion, etc… with all the fun things I want to do!
So far my “fun” list contains- replenishing my fancy Nexxus hair products, local pizza for lunch, and a new bra and pocketbook from Macys (both of which are a want rather than a need).
Post by maudefindlay on Feb 28, 2023 11:13:13 GMT -5
TR can you go a few days early before others arrive? Maybe it will feel like you still get your old alone vacation that way. I feel you on the IL stuff. I didn't want to have to piss of SIL, but apparently I have and now she doesn't contact us to do stuff. I wouldn't mind seeing her and her DH, but it doesn't work that way. She always invites her 3 adult kids and their SOs and the 2 guys their daughters date are just awful. I miss our old holidays, I was relieved when Christmas was cancelled due to FIL and his gf having Covid and we didn't have to be around those 2 creepy guys.
Dumb Disney planning question- the 60 days out for dining reservations, is that 60 from the arrival date? Or do I have to get up early every day for 8 days?
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 28, 2023 11:19:18 GMT -5
jinkies be honest! There's nothing wrong with saying hey, I love you guys and am looking forward to our trip, but I'm going to drive by myself because I also need some alone time.
TR I think you've hit on a key difference between you and your H: he likes spending a lot of his free time with tons of loved ones, and you like spending more of your free time more low-key and just with him. I would imagine that the overall concept of those preferences and how to find a balance for them will come up in therapy, and hopefully it'll be in time for you to make 4th of July plans that you both enjoy.
Post by fangoriagurkel on Feb 28, 2023 11:23:12 GMT -5
I am kicking myself for having the worst neuropathy luck lately. On Friday, I ran up some stairs and missed the last two. I was wearing distressed jeans and of course skinned my knee on the open kneehole side. And yesterday, I took a walk to the post office and tripped on an incline over a nettle / burr and skinned my other knee. 😡😫🤬
I planned on wearing a dress today, but two scrapes up knees makes me feel like a giant toddler.
TR is it possible to stagger the vacation so that you have a few days to yourself before or after your friends join you?
As you can probably tell by my posts in this thread, I would also not be thrilled about sharing a house for the entire vacation. But having friends join for just part of the trip might be a way to compromise.
jinkies, I'm with emilyinchile and would just say "Hey I need the alone time and am going to drive myself." I wouldn't second guess someone doing that, but I realize that some people just don't get it.
Post by blondemoment123 on Feb 28, 2023 11:36:41 GMT -5
I lost my appeal for DS to receive services at school. I'm just feeling defeated.
I have to wait for him to start kindergarten and see how he does. I acknowledge the fact that he's made huge strides and I should see this as a good thing, but I'm not there yet.
DS still has a medical need for OT and PT. I've been on the wait list for after school appointments for years. I hate not being able to do anything.
If you were going to a luncheon and had a choice between chicken salad or a fancy sandwich would you want a choice of two breads/rolls (cornbread and something else) one the side or is just one choice good enough? There will be a couple cold sides (not chips, more like cold salads) and some sort of dessert—probably a slice of cake and some fruit. I would think most of the sandwich people wouldn’t want extra bread at all but am not sure.
I would not want a sandwich AND a bread side. Can you do chicken salad sandwiches and eliminate a bread option altogether?
I feel like chicken salad and cornbread are a weird combo too, unless I'm missing out on something amazing that I've just never tried. I would expect that to be with a flakier bread.
Two sandwiches is not a option, there might be a second “salad” like shrimp salad or maybe soup.
Cornbread/corn muffins is the specialty of the event so they are always on the menu, often with a second bread. The chicken salad people wouldn’t be making diy sandwiches so any bread would be small and more like a side.
jinkies could you frame the drive as wanting some alone time to catch up on an audiobook/zone out not from them but your family? Like “I’m always in the car with so many people! I just want to be zen and drive for once”.
TR is it possible to stagger the vacation so that you have a few days to yourself before or after your friends join you?
As you can probably tell by my posts in this thread, I would also not be thrilled about sharing a house for the entire vacation. But having friends join for just part of the trip might be a way to compromise.
To be clear, we don't share a house with them. We usually stay at the ILs, which was totally fine when it was just H and me, we still went and did our own thing during the day. But this family rents their own place for the whole week (and this just evolved this way, it was never a discussion of 'hey let's all vacation together' at least not one that included me) but it's assumed we'll spend basically every day and every dinner/evening with them. I think emilyinchile hit the nail on the head with H wanting to spend time with loved ones and me wanting to spend time just us. Particularly considering that these aren't MY loved ones.
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 28, 2023 11:44:33 GMT -5
tacokick just cornbread is fine. People who want regular bread can have the sandwich.
blondemoment123 I'm so sorry. Reading so many posters talk about what a huge struggle it is to get these kind of supports for their children it all just sounds like a nightmare, no matter where you are or how much time and money you have.
The neighbor next door woke me up this morning. She was pounding on the walls and scream yelling/cursing at someone loud enough that I could make out a few words. It was 6am. Seems a bit early for that level of freakout, but who am I to judge? At least it wasn't midnight or 3am like it's been in the past 🤷 🙃
She does this several times a month, and H and I are always left wondering if it was something we did. We're very careful with TV volume. In general we aren't noisy people. I do know she's extremely protective of her second parking spot (which is almost never used), and the repairman who fixed our ice maker did park there yesterday. Maybe that set her off?
I've seen her screaming at our other neighbor (who is a delight), so I'm not at all interested in engaging with her for any reason. It's just odd and makes me wonder.
blondemoment123 (hugs) Waiting for services while your DS is struggling and you can't help him without the services is so defeating. I've been there so I empathize.
Can you get a separate hotel room? I’m going away with a bunch of girlfriends and they’re all staying in a single condo. Two of us are getting separate hotel rooms nearby. There’s no way I’m spending four straight days with five other women in a 2br 2ba timeshare condo.
We are staying at someones vacation home, so getting a hotel isn't really an option. It's been several years since we did this, but last time I drove myself which gave me some alone time on either end of the trip. I'm pretty sure they thought it was odd (it's a solid 2 hour drive and on the way home one of them kept offering to drive with me and it was awkward) but it helped with my anxiety about everything.
I'm kind of debating just being honest that this is a lot for me and I'm going to drive myself, but I feel like it could come off as insulting to them even though it's nothing personal.
You are 100% smart on this. I hate road tripping with people. Nope… alone in the car. Plus, having your car gives you a way to “go to their store and pick up that thing” every day. Which is the way we get through visits with family. There is always an errand mid afternoon.
Post by fangoriagurkel on Feb 28, 2023 11:50:04 GMT -5
SwimDeep That sounds like a personal problem having nothing to do with you. You can be as careful with volume and parking allotment as much as you’d like, but screaming and pounding are definitely not normal neighbor traits!
ETA: We have one in our neighborhood affectionally branded as “Music Man”. He parks a lawn chair in his second space (it’s a townhouse community) and will sing loudly while rocking a Walkman with vintage headphones.
tacokick I would want cold pasta salad, potato or macaroni salad as side options. No need for a secondary bread option.
Dessert wise, how about lemon pound cake, cheese cake, or carrot cake? Fruit is never dessert.
I agree fruit is not a dessert!! Last time I tried to ditch it though I got some complaints. I’m lobbying to keep that option very simple like literally just fresh strawberries or something like that.
I’m leaning towards a potato salad and ditching the other bread. One side is a pea salad which has orzo in it
Carrot cake is a good idea! I was thinking about a lemon ice box pie or a bundt.
Dumb Disney planning question- the 60 days out for dining reservations, is that 60 from the arrival date? Or do I have to get up early every day for 8 days?
Arrival date if you are staying on site. Each day if you are staying off site.
tacokick just cornbread is fine. People who want regular bread can have the sandwich.
This is what I want to hear! This is what I had said and then someone was like “well, maybe people don’t like cornbread”. I think it’s more likely people might get the chicken salad because it’s not a sandwich and not want any bread at all so too many offerings will just be a waste.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Feb 28, 2023 12:01:41 GMT -5
Sometimes I feel like a terrible adult. I google a LOT of things I assume I should just know at this point. But then I deal with my own parents and realize it’s a miracle I can get out of my own neighborhood. Being the sandwich generation fucking blows
Dumb Disney planning question- the 60 days out for dining reservations, is that 60 from the arrival date? Or do I have to get up early every day for 8 days?
Arrival date if you are staying on site. Each day if you are staying off site.
mel Happy early birthday and enjoy your appointment today! Do you already have a color in mind?
Not yet! I usually end up with a dark purple. I live in Ohio, so not sandals weather yet. If it was closer to summer, I'd get something brighter.
My nails are currently 🍓 so I might not be the bastion of adult advice, but I love something on the cheerier side! Especially since it’s not sandal weather, and no one will see it but you! Pick whatever floats your boat!