TR , Did it used to be just you two? Do you like your therapist?
The first year it was just us. The second year this family realized they were going to be driving through the area around the same time and overlapped with us by a couple of days. And that was honestly fine. But they had such a good time they decided to do the full week every year since then and it's been 3 years of that and I've just realized I feel like I'm tagging along on H & his friend's vacation.
I do like our therapist! We've only had one session together and then each had an individual one so I can't speak to any effectiveness, yet, but we both feel really comfortable with him. He specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and it's based in attachment theory and I find the theories of it interesting so we'll see.
TR , Did it used to be just you two? Do you like your therapist?
The first year it was just us. The second year this family realized they were going to be driving through the area around the same time and overlapped with us by a few days. And that was honestly fine. But they had such a good time they decided to do the full week every year since then and it's been 3 years of that and I've just realized I feel like I'm tagging along on H & his friend's vacation.
I do like our therapist! We've only had one session together and then each had an individual one so I can't speak to any effectiveness, yet, but we both feel really comfortable with him. He specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and it's based in attachment theory and I find the theories of it interesting so we'll see.
I'm glad you like your therapist; that a huge key to it being effective.
I do think, in terms of the vacation, that there could be a compromise here. Especially when, for you, part of what means the most to you is getting time with just him sans stress. I wonder if you can take a longer vacation and have a few days before or after with just you two. Especially, if this family joining you two was never really discussed with you first. I also think since this is your vacation too, time away for a nap or to read should not be treated like you are being rude. No, you are enjoying your vacation too and that can mean taking breaks from being social. We share a beach house with three other families. Most days, I am reading on the beach and then taking breaks to talk with everyone. I have also gone to bed early.
TR, yeah I get that. Mostly I don't want to renew now because the cost x's 3, my DH has a new job and its going to be tough for him to take off to go with us which is a requirement with kids passports but also there no appointments that I can find for the next month. I'll likely have to go to one of the expensive processing places. ugh I'm going to call the agent and talk with her I guess.
if your DH can’t go you can get paperwork notarized I’m pretty sure and ho without him. We looked into it the last time we renewed (in 2020) but DH ended up being able to go. Something to look into.
This is what we did for our kids last year. I took them and just brought a notarized form saying I could get them passports w/o him present.
Still no power at home H said he's pretty sure everything in the fridge is trash which kinda sucks because I just bought a bunch of stuff for lunches. But he's getting the generator going and hopefully both of the freezers are ok because we have a half of a cow and pig in those (well less than half now but still a lot). Should be ok because they stayed shut the entire time and one is in the cold basement and the other is in the cold 3 season room.
Post by plutosmoon on Feb 28, 2023 16:57:41 GMT -5
egishere, I'm getting my DD a passport and there is a form (DS 3053) your DH can sign and have notarized if he can't get the time off work and appear in person. My ex lives in another country and won't appear in person so he signed it for us. I live in a ruralish location and there are passport appointments available tomorrow due to the small size of our city. If you have smaller more rural post offices within a reasonable distance you may have better luck than a city location. The only downside is the crappy hours of 10-2 only during the week.
I love my partner and he is great but he is ALWAYS forgetting something. I can’t tell you how many times he’s left a credit card at a restaurant, even his whole wallet. Will leave the house and forget his phone, etc. Today we are headed back to our apartment from our row house and he forgot his keys. Problem is I had given my keys to a family member to collect our mail and water our plants. So now we have to stop off in an Uber to get the keys from my family member which I wasn’t planning to do till tomorrow when it was more convenient. If his head wasn’t screwed on he’d probably leave it somewhere!
Oh hi 👋🏻, I’m your partner! Been this way since childhood, drives my H insane, and my mom always says the thing about leaving my head somewhere. Lol
Haha I don’t get it! Last week he left his hat in the Uber, the following day he left $200 eyeglasses in the Uber. I swear our child better not have these same tendencies lol, but I’m not holding my breath.
Oh hi 👋🏻, I’m your partner! Been this way since childhood, drives my H insane, and my mom always says the thing about leaving my head somewhere. Lol
Haha I don’t get it! Last week he left his hat in the Uber, the following day he left $200 eyeglasses in the Uber. I swear our child better not have these same tendencies lol, but I’m not holding my breath.
I’ve left my phone in an uber TWICE! My H actually does ask sometimes, so you have EVERYTHING!!!
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Still no power at home H said he's pretty sure everything in the fridge is trash which kinda sucks because I just bought a bunch of stuff for lunches. But he's getting the generator going and hopefully both of the freezers are ok because we have a half of a cow and pig in those (well less than half now but still a lot). Should be ok because they stayed shut the entire time and one is in the cold basement and the other is in the cold 3 season room.
Holy crap how many days has this been now?
On a positive note, you should be able to file a claim with your insurance company (if you want) for all the lost food.
Oh hi 👋🏻, I’m your partner! Been this way since childhood, drives my H insane, and my mom always says the thing about leaving my head somewhere. Lol
Haha I don’t get it! Last week he left his hat in the Uber, the following day he left $200 eyeglasses in the Uber. I swear our child better not have these same tendencies lol, but I’m not holding my breath.
Do we share an SO?! My H lost TWO pairs of sunglasses on our 5 day vacation last week. I stuffed his stocking with 6 pairs of (cheap) reading glasses, all missing already. Loses numerous phone chargers and steals mine. Hats, sweatshirts, jackets, some only hours or days old, gone. Has lost 2 wedding bands since we got married. They don’t fall off his finger, he takes them off to shower, work out and golf and doing one of those things he has lost two of them. Regularly leaves the house without wallet or phone. It’s honestly mind blowing.
I've mentioned before about the special bond I share with my 4 yr old great-nephew.
Well I haven't seen him since my surgery and he and his mom just stopped over for a quick visit and he gave me his "lovey" which is his favorite tiny blanket he has had since birth. He told me he would share it with me but I can't have it forever.
Post by starburst604 on Feb 28, 2023 19:56:08 GMT -5
I was helping DD with her shower, and heard the dog in the connected primary bedroom. Something made me go check on him, must have been the sounds of him chewing something plastic-y sounding. As I raced toward him, I quickly noted that H’a mouth guard case was open and empty on his nightstand. FUCK FUCK FUCK. I yelled leave it and the dog dropped the mouth guard.
I was scared to even go tell H even though it’s really no one’s fault except for his for not securing it. He didn’t flip though. He needs to clean it (blech) and see if the dog messed it up. It was still all in one piece, I just don’t know how long the dog had it and if he misaligned it somehow. Fingers crossed.
Do you ever feel like everyone in your family is the worst? Everyone is so prickly and bickery since we got back from vacation and all 3 of them have legitimate reasons to be, but also they are the woooooorst right now.
I love these buttheads, but they all exacerbate one anothers' worst traits sometimes and no one--NO ONE--in my family can just let something go. Whoosah and ignore the eyeroll! Pretend you didn't notice the tone! If someone is griping by asking the universe rhetorical questions, don't fucking answer them. I'm over in the corner thinking SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP ALL OF YOU.
Anyway. I'm amazing. They're awful. So I just went and took a long shower to be alone.
Thinking of running away from my life. Maybe to another country under an assumed name. Going to get a fedora like Carmen Sandiego and head for Botswana.
Do you ever feel like everyone in your family is the worst? Everyone is so prickly and bickery since we got back from vacation and all 3 of them have legitimate reasons to be, but also they are the woooooorst right now.
I love these buttheads, but they all exacerbate one anothers' worst traits sometimes and no one--NO ONE--in my family can just let something go. Whoosah and ignore the eyeroll! Pretend you didn't notice the tone! If someone is griping by asking the universe rhetorical questions, don't fucking answer them. I'm over in the corner thinking SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP ALL OF YOU.
Anyway. I'm amazing. They're awful. So I just went and took a long shower to be alone.
Thinking of running away from my life. Maybe to another country under an assumed name. Going to get a fedora like Carmen Sandiego and head for Botswana.
I was helping DD with her shower, and heard the dog in the connected primary bedroom. Something made me go check on him, must have been the sounds of him chewing something plastic-y sounding. As I raced toward him, I quickly noted that H’a mouth guard case was open and empty on his nightstand. FUCK FUCK FUCK. I yelled leave it and the dog dropped the mouth guard.
I was scared to even go tell H even though it’s really no one’s fault except for his for not securing it. He didn’t flip though. He needs to clean it (blech) and see if the dog messed it up. It was still all in one piece, I just don’t know how long the dog had it and if he misaligned it somehow. Fingers crossed.
Apparently dogs really love mouth guards. My dentist told me to keep it away from my dog when I got fitted, since they love chewing on them
My friend's dog stole hers and she was never able to find it.
Post by mysteriouswife on Feb 28, 2023 23:13:47 GMT -5
Is it possible to hide from yourself? I have a subconjunctival hemorrhage that appeared for no known reason. I’m going to my optometrist in the morning. Then I hit my toe on the door and tore part of my toe nail off. Plus, I haven’t liked my attitude. I don’t like myself very much right now.
I was helping DD with her shower, and heard the dog in the connected primary bedroom. Something made me go check on him, must have been the sounds of him chewing something plastic-y sounding. As I raced toward him, I quickly noted that H’a mouth guard case was open and empty on his nightstand. FUCK FUCK FUCK. I yelled leave it and the dog dropped the mouth guard.
I was scared to even go tell H even though it’s really no one’s fault except for his for not securing it. He didn’t flip though. He needs to clean it (blech) and see if the dog messed it up. It was still all in one piece, I just don’t know how long the dog had it and if he misaligned it somehow. Fingers crossed.
Apparently dogs really love mouth guards. My dentist told me to keep it away from my dog when I got fitted, since they love chewing on them
My friend's dog stole hers and she was never able to find it.
My dog chewed up one and the other I assume he ate it. And he doesn’t eat or destroy anything!! They are not cheap, so it’s been an expensive learning!
Still no power at home H said he's pretty sure everything in the fridge is trash which kinda sucks because I just bought a bunch of stuff for lunches. But he's getting the generator going and hopefully both of the freezers are ok because we have a half of a cow and pig in those (well less than half now but still a lot). Should be ok because they stayed shut the entire time and one is in the cold basement and the other is in the cold 3 season room.
Holy crap how many days has this been now?
On a positive note, you should be able to file a claim with your insurance company (if you want) for all the lost food.
It was only about 12 hours - came back on a bit after 6pm yesterday thankfully. Freezer stuff seems ok because H got the generator going when he got home around 4. So just some fridge stuff needs to be tossed.
I was going to suggest talking it out in therapy, TR, so that sounds like a good plan. I can see us being in a similar dilemma and going and staying in a hotel for a couple of days, or going out there early to have a few days alone first. I think there can be compromise here that gets you both what you want.
Travel question that I don't want to create a separate post for. Going to France in May, departure date from the states is May 5th, returning to the states May 15th. My kids passports expire Aug 31st. Travel agent is trying to tell my Dad that they and my SIL need to renew before the trip (I'm not sure when SILs expires). According to this we are fine not to renew before this trip-correct?? travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/international-travel/International-Travel-Country-Information-Pages/France.html
My BFF was refused boarding on Delta to fly to Switzerland when she had 5mo left on her passport and a return flight 6 days later. I would renew now.
I just looked and Switzerland requires six months. France and the EU countries require 3 months.
I talked to my Dad about it and he's going to circle back to the travel agent but I think we will be fine from all my research. The soonest appt I'm finding in all of my metro area- including the small town post offices is a month away and expedited processing is saying 5-6 weeks which doesn't give us enough time. Or I can try for the emergency appt at a passport center two weeks before we travel- I think that's going to be my only option unless appointments pop up this week. They have to grant you an appointment for that- I'll still call them and try but I'm guessing they are going to tell me the expiration date is fine for France? Hopefully!