Post by litskispeciality on Aug 9, 2023 11:03:58 GMT -5
We got to swim for just a bit last night and it was awesome. Pretty cold in the water, but I felt like I slept better overall. Really praying we can get *some* summer in the next few weeks, but I doubt it.
I also started listening to Blind Melon's self-titled (the No Rain/bee girl) album recently. I'm so mad at myself I never gave it a chance outside of the radio hits as it's so up my alley. I say every year that I'm going to DIY the bee girl costume, but never get there.
Post by fluffycookie on Aug 9, 2023 11:06:49 GMT -5
DS got a haircut this morning....yay!! He has been resisting for the past month. I think his last haircut was in April or May and it was so long. The woman kept commenting on how much hair he has and I said he didn't get it from me and that I was bald until I was two and my mom used to tape a bow to my head so people knew I was a girl. After that we grabbed protein shakes at a new place next door...holy expensive. I'll stick to my fairlife nutrition and premier protein shakes.
Well I hope no one in my family ever gets sick again. We are still on STBXH healthplan and our new cards just came in. The ER copay is now $950. With an HMO. Who has that kind of money? I mean, technically I do in savings, but that's not the point. Because this is an HMO we don't have an HSA, and I had $500 earmarked in savings for an ER copay if we ever needed it, and now I have to double that, thus taking away from another savings category. It's stupid. And I realize that I still sit in a place of privilege that I have insurance and have savings to pay should I need it, but that's not the point, what about the people that don't? And then they have to make the choice of either going in to medical debt, suffering, or maybe not paying some other bills? Our medical system is so effed up.
Oh, this is random: I feel much more rested if I stay up late but then sleep in late than if I go to bed early and wake up early sleeping the same total hours. Does everyone feel that way? I assume some people feel more rested on the early/early schedule, but I'd never really thought about it and now am curious. I just can't imagine not feeling like sleeping in, even if it's just 30 min, is the most glorious thing ever!
I get lost at “go to bed early”. Like, it doesn’t matter if I’m in bed at 9 or 11. I’m still falling asleep around 11:30. One just frustrates me more. But yes, same.
wildrice , pretending I don't have internet to look it up on my own...what kind of instructions come with the kits? I saw someone IRL crochet little stuffed animals and I"m intrigued as what I knit or crochet is always flat. I can't follow paper directions, are there videos or something else for non-paper learners?
It's videos! They are broken into a ton of tiny chunks, too, so it's not like you have to watch a 20 minute tutorial all at once. Also makes it easy to review certain steps. They definitely make it easy. And the little animals are super cute! The one I'm working on now is a purple penguin. I have no idea what purpose they will serve (we don't need little stuffed animals, lol) but they are fun regardless.
Well I hope no one in my family ever gets sick again. We are still on STBXH healthplan and our new cards just came in. The ER copay is now $950. With an HMO. Who has that kind of money? I mean, technically I do in savings, but that's not the point. Because this is an HMO we don't have an HSA, and I had $500 earmarked in savings for an ER copay if we ever needed it, and now I have to double that, thus taking away from another savings category. It's stupid. And I realize that I still sit in a place of privilege that I have insurance and have savings to pay should I need it, but that's not the point, what about the people that don't? And then they have to make the choice of either going in to medical debt, suffering, or maybe not paying some other bills? Our medical system is so effed up.
That's a LOT of money for an ER visit! I would worry that people won't use the ER when they really should because of the cost. I know when my H started having symptoms the other day he was like "I don't want to go to the ER, it will be too expensive!". Luckily we have good coverage so our copay is small, but I can see why he would have assumed that. If I had told him "don't worry, it will only be $950" I have a feeling he would have refused to go.
I'm sorry. Have you looked at rates through your job? I can't imagine they would be any worse!
And my kid has pink eye, and I want to set everything on fire. I haaaate pink eye.
This is an absolute worst nightmare. It seems like my kids always want to touch everything when they have pinkeye! Daily pillow washing, sheets over furniture, toys to disinfect…. I think burning everything is acceptable.
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This!!! I have co-workers who do this and it makes me crazy!!
Oh, this is random: I feel much more rested if I stay up late but then sleep in late than if I go to bed early and wake up early sleeping the same total hours. Does everyone feel that way? I assume some people feel more rested on the early/early schedule, but I'd never really thought about it and now am curious. I just can't imagine not feeling like sleeping in, even if it's just 30 min, is the most glorious thing ever!
great question, my ideal would have to be somewhere in the middle. Go to bed medium early and wake up medium early. I think going to bed really early feels just as glorious as sleeping in. I am a sleep hog anyway I can get it
DS leaves for college next week and the anticipation is so hard for both my husband and I. He’s the first to leave and he won’t even be far but man oh man is this emotional. I’m glad we had the vacation to distract us. DH teared up on the plane yesterday so I’m glad it’s not only me that is struggling.
This is us, too. We take oldest kid next Friday and I have refused to talk about it because I just don't want it to come. They also won't be far (a couple hours from us, but only one from school town) but with all the mental health issues they've had, I go from being super excited for them because I KNOW they will do amazing things and find their people and just love the crap out of the whole experience to being terrified that it will go the other way and they will take drastic measures. They don't even have a roommate right now so I can't ask the roommate to keep an eye on them. They will have therapy still and the school has resources, of course, but I'm still worried.
On that same note, I'm trying to decide if we should move ds into oldest kid's room. His room is like 8' x 5' so really tiny and he's going into middle school this year. He mentioned it at one point, but oldest kid will be close enough that they will be able to come home often and will still need a place to sleep, etc. I'll have to talk to H about it. I don't want oldest kid to feel like we're pushing them out. Ds will be 11 in a couple weeks and will be starting middle school so he will need more space eventually and we don't have any other rooms in the house.
styme46, if you can avoid or even hold off a bit on changing rooms I'd recommend it. Your oldest is about to experience so many changes that keeping some things constant would be most ideal/comforting.
Well I hope no one in my family ever gets sick again. We are still on STBXH healthplan and our new cards just came in. The ER copay is now $950. With an HMO. Who has that kind of money? I mean, technically I do in savings, but that's not the point. Because this is an HMO we don't have an HSA, and I had $500 earmarked in savings for an ER copay if we ever needed it, and now I have to double that, thus taking away from another savings category. It's stupid. And I realize that I still sit in a place of privilege that I have insurance and have savings to pay should I need it, but that's not the point, what about the people that don't? And then they have to make the choice of either going in to medical debt, suffering, or maybe not paying some other bills? Our medical system is so effed up.
That's a LOT of money for an ER visit! I would worry that people won't use the ER when they really should because of the cost. I know when my H started having symptoms the other day he was like "I don't want to go to the ER, it will be too expensive!". Luckily we have good coverage so our copay is small, but I can see why he would have assumed that. If I had told him "don't worry, it will only be $950" I have a feeling he would have refused to go.
I'm sorry. Have you looked at rates through your job? I can't imagine they would be any worse!
Once the divorce is finalized I'll be getting coverage through my work and going with a High Deductible policy. So I'll still have potential high costs up front, but I'll also be putting a decent chunk into an HSA on top of a $1000 company contribution. Plus, the monthly premium is cheaper.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Aug 9, 2023 12:17:42 GMT -5
L didn’t take her anxiety medicine last night. She has an orthodontist appointment which is essentially torture for her. So the combination has set her off like a bomb.
It’s days like this that I really question everything.
wildrice , pretending I don't have internet to look it up on my own...what kind of instructions come with the kits? I saw someone IRL crochet little stuffed animals and I"m intrigued as what I knit or crochet is always flat. I can't follow paper directions, are there videos or something else for non-paper learners?
It's videos! They are broken into a ton of tiny chunks, too, so it's not like you have to watch a 20 minute tutorial all at once. Also makes it easy to review certain steps. They definitely make it easy. And the little animals are super cute! The one I'm working on now is a purple penguin. I have no idea what purpose they will serve (we don't need little stuffed animals, lol) but they are fun regardless.
I impulse bought the purple penguin as a bday gift for myself back in May and I still haven't done it. I need a hobby and it felt like a fun, low stakes one to try. Post a pic when yours is done, maybe it will inspire me to actually start mine! My kiddos will enjoy playing with it (if I ever make it) but I also think they'd make cute Xmas ornaments or gift toppers.
styme46 , if you can avoid or even hold off a bit on changing rooms I'd recommend it. Your oldest is about to experience so many changes that keeping some things constant would be most ideal/comforting.
It's videos! They are broken into a ton of tiny chunks, too, so it's not like you have to watch a 20 minute tutorial all at once. Also makes it easy to review certain steps. They definitely make it easy. And the little animals are super cute! The one I'm working on now is a purple penguin. I have no idea what purpose they will serve (we don't need little stuffed animals, lol) but they are fun regardless.
I impulse bought the purple penguin as a bday gift for myself back in May and I still haven't done it. I need a hobby and it felt like a fun, low stakes one to try. Post a pic when yours is done, maybe it will inspire me to actually start mine! My kiddos will enjoy playing with it (if I ever make it) but I also think they'd make cute Xmas ornaments or gift toppers.
It might inspire you - I am also working on the purple penguin! Of course if I do a poor job it may have the opposite effect, lol.
I also bought the tiger but haven't started it yet.
Eta: I forgot I already shared which one I am working on, sorry. Ha!
DS leaves for college next week and the anticipation is so hard for both my husband and I. He’s the first to leave and he won’t even be far but man oh man is this emotional. I’m glad we had the vacation to distract us. DH teared up on the plane yesterday so I’m glad it’s not only me that is struggling.
This is us, too. We take oldest kid next Friday and I have refused to talk about it because I just don't want it to come. They also won't be far (a couple hours from us, but only one from school town) but with all the mental health issues they've had, I go from being super excited for them because I KNOW they will do amazing things and find their people and just love the crap out of the whole experience to being terrified that it will go the other way and they will take drastic measures. They don't even have a roommate right now so I can't ask the roommate to keep an eye on them. They will have therapy still and the school has resources, of course, but I'm still worried.
Let's be there for each other! I hope your child is so happy. My son also has mental health issues so that makes it harder too. I hope he takes his anxiety seriously and takes his medicine. I also hope he puts himself out there since he's quiet and introverted. Also go back and forth about how he will do--seems so normal. I think almost all kids do well in college--I'm sure we would be better off to expect some bad but they will keep growing up and surprise us I'm sure. I'm going to make sure I keep up my therapy. I am also sad to have our family change. I figure I can go best to expect the change to be hard and keep myself busy
L didn’t take her anxiety medicine last night. She has an orthodontist appointment which is essentially torture for her. So the combination has set her off like a bomb.
It’s days like this that I really question everything.
that's the worst! Yes nothing upsets me more than when one of my kids is not doing well mental health wise. I hope the day improves.