Post by thebreakfastclub on Aug 10, 2023 11:22:54 GMT -5
There's so much nuance in the day to day we can't get from this. I still don't understand how a mid day text connects to the kid when that's better for quick communication and the kid is not texting.
My husband does much more of the day to day than me. We also split things up and each carry some load. I'll admit my H has a check in with my son's tutor tonight. He set it up and will attend alone, like I carry zero load on that.
On the flip side, I set up all of the dr and dentist appts. So we give and take to a level where we're each happy.
Constant is relative. If H was upset because I didn't text every day, I'd be annoyed.
Have you even read the OPs posts? She said they go weeks without contact during working hours. This is not the issue.
I think sunnysally may be referring to my post? David goes to a really strict school with lots of rules and students aren't allowed to have their cell phones out at all. If he texts, it through his watch and about school stuff. Lots of weird, off-topic assumptions made in your post, sunny.
Have you even read the OPs posts? She said they go weeks without contact during working hours. This is not the issue.
I think sunnysally may be referring to my post? David goes to a really strict school with lots of rules and students aren't allowed to have their cell phones out at all. If he texts, it through his watch and about school stuff. Lots of weird, off-topic assumptions made in your post, sunny.
I make weird off-topic assumptions? Weren't you and mofongo speculating about wildrice's ill sister being poisoned by a member of her fictional throuple?
Look, I don't care if you text your family every 5 minutes as long as everyone is on board. I think it is ridiculous to expect everyone to want that level of contact. There is this weird group think that happens here regarding expectations of partners. Everyone is so willing to extend "grace" unless it doesn't fit into your expectations.
I think sunnysally may be referring to my post? David goes to a really strict school with lots of rules and students aren't allowed to have their cell phones out at all. If he texts, it through his watch and about school stuff. Lots of weird, off-topic assumptions made in your post, sunny.
I make weird off-topic assumptions? Weren't you and mofongo speculating about wildrice's ill sister being poisoned by a member of her fictional throuple?
Look, I don't care if you text your family every 5 minutes as long as everyone is on board. I think it is ridiculous to expect everyone to want that level of contact. There is this weird group think that happens here regarding expectations of partners. Everyone is so willing to extend "grace" unless it doesn't fit into your expectations.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
I thinkĀ sunnysally may be referring to my post? David goes to a really strict school with lots of rules and students aren't allowed to have their cell phones out at all. If he texts, it through his watch and about school stuff. Lots of weird, off-topic assumptions made in your post, sunny.
I make weird off-topic assumptions? Weren't you and mofongoĀ speculating about wildrice's ill sister being poisoned by a member of her fictional throuple? [br.Ā
Lol, no. I have no idea what youāre referring to.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Aug 10, 2023 12:54:14 GMT -5
I donāt quite understand the āgroup thinkā angle in response to a vent. Itās a vent and is speaking to a larger societal issue of imbalanced mental workload. I donāt think someone venting needs to write a dissertation with sources to outline and defend their position and convince a message board to support them. This isnāt the senate chamber; we donāt need to debate merit.
While Iām a firm believer and supporter of communicating exactly what you want/need to your partner so you will not be disappointed if they donāt meet those expectations, I think we can also expect a partner to have some base-level/innate empathy, caring, love, support that they can tap into and go the extra mile (or, in this case, a 2 minute digital outreach) on their own.
If youāre not into family communication during the day, ok. This wasnāt your vent.