What secret are you keeping / withholding right now?

[fangoriagurkel]

I had a follow up ophthalmologist appointment today after my regular 👀 exam in May. My ophthalmologist was concerned the first layer of my optic lens looked extremely thin + some nerves (Cones? Rods? IDK) are very tilted.

She asked me to return in 3 months for a recheck, just to see if the thinness had maintained or gotten worse, etc… So that’s what I did today. And since I have peripheral neuropathy, of course my optic nerves are most likely damaged too, but no big deal. I feel fine!

I took a ton of tests. Including this one that looked like an MRI for your eyeball. Three tests done 2 times in both eyes. And apparently I fucking failed them miserably. I fully expected her to say that everything looks great and see you in one year. I turned 38 a couple weeks ago, I am too young for this.

So now my ophthalmologist wants me to see a glaucoma specialist (within their practice). Like asap. No 3 month time, etc… I’m scheduled in 2.5 weeks time (first available) but am quietly freaking out and googling Glaucoma like it’s my job. My ophthalmologist reassured me that I would most likely need drops for life to slow the progression, but there’s no true definition of what “slow” means.

I’m seeing family tomorrow for a random big dinner for a cousin who is visiting and I won’t breathe a word. No sense in sharing anything without a real Dx.

All this to say, what big or small thing are you currently withholding?

[fangoriagurkel]

TLDR: Any Disney trips, cute socks or silly gifts you’re withholding are beyond welcome! This place cheers me up like no other! 😎

[mrsukyankee]

fangoriagurkel, scary to hear all that. Hugs.

I've made reservations for several restaurants for our holiday to Portugal and haven't shared a thing with my H. He knows that I have planned this trip but not to this extent.

[followyourarrow]

I didn’t tell my mom about engagement photos because I didn’t want her opinion or suggestions. I’ll just send them to her when they’re ready.

[gummybear]

Oh fangoriagurkel good luck. That’s very stressful.
In the randoms I said I had an interview. I haven’t told anyone IRL. I just can’t. Even MH. I don’t want anyone asking me about it.

[CrazyLucky]

They announced last week that the place I work is closing next year. DH knows, but no one else. They gave us enough notice and I think I'll land on my feet, but I'm still figuring out what's next and I don't want a bunch of questions about what I'm going to do.

[waverly]

We have a trip planned to NYC and have not told the kids yet.

I feel like anything else I am withholding is not intentional more like I haven’t thought to bring it up and then when I chat with someone I am like oh didn’t I tell you whoops.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I started a job last week at a Catholic school, and they think I’m Catholic. They couldn’t ask me legally in an interview, but the Head definitely tried to ask without asking. I know all the choreography (lol) because I was raised in a devout household, but I left the Church six years ago and we are Unitarian Universalists. I’ll tell somebody when I feel more comfortable, just not now.

[CurlyQ284]

I'm planning a Disney trip for next fall. We went last year, DS10 knows there's another trip on the horizon but wants to be surprised the day we leave like last time.

We are going to do the Halloween party when we go and I think he will freak out about TOT at Disney.

fangoriagurkel I'm sorry to hear that ((hugs))

[raleighnc]

Aug 24, 2023 7:22:09 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

I started a job last week at a Catholic school, and they think I’m Catholic. They couldn’t ask me legally in an interview, but the Head definitely tried to ask without asking. I know all the choreography (lol) because I was raised in a devout household, but I left the Church six years ago and we are Unitarian Universalists. I’ll tell somebody when I feel more comfortable, just not now.

LOL at the choreography!

[sugarbear1]

My exH is still insisting that our kids mask everywhere. No restaurants, no sporting events, nothing. My older Da goes to school where exH works and younger goes where I work. DS1, who is desperate to fit in, says he feels like a freak.

It's hard to have this conversation with them without disparaging their father who has serious mental health issues, rigid thinking, and anxiety, but I will not badmouth him.

I have told them that with me, they do not have to mask (and I explained alllll the science about why I'm comfortable with that). They do NOT want me to speak to their dad about it so for now I'm keep it to myself.

[simpsongal]

We're on the cusp of beginning another addition/kitchen renovation but we haven't told our families yet. We wanted to wait until we had a signed deal w/the contractor (likely tomorrow) but we already have the plans and likely submitting for the permits Monday.

It's not that it's a secret, we just don't want to get ahead of ourselves.

[raleighnc]

I lead a Target Sports special interest troop for Girl Scouts because my daughters suck at sports but love target sports. Including target shooting with BBs. I'm super anti-gun and think the NRA is basically a terrorist organization, but I drove three hours to get certified (by Scouts BSA) to facilitate BBs because I'm a sucker for my girls and I have a knee-jerk reflex to anyone who tells them they can't do something because they are in Girl Scouts. So I cringe when my daughter tells everyone that I'm certified in BB guns because I don't want people to think I'm a gun nut. When we're actually shooting, I feel like a fraud because I'm teaching about guns but I've never touched one except for BBs. I try to use it as a platform for gun safety and control, and I'm sure the parents all feel the same way, but it's so weird.

Also, I suck at all target sports (we also do archery, slingshots, and axes). That is not a secret, LOL. I throw myself on that sword because I want the girls to know that you can still have fun even if you suck.

[Velar Fricative]

We leave for Disney World on Sunday and the kids still don't know (ages 6 and almost 10). And we've had the trip booked for well over a year now. We're trying to hold out until they wake up Sunday morning, but I have a feeling we'll slip up on Saturday because that'll be the big packing day. They're at summer camp through tomorrow so it's been easy to keep things from them otherwise.

[chchchia]

Aug 24, 2023 7:22:09 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

I started a job last week at a Catholic school, and they think I’m Catholic. They couldn’t ask me legally in an interview, but the Head definitely tried to ask without asking. I know all the choreography (lol) because I was raised in a devout household, but I left the Church six years ago and we are Unitarian Universalists. I’ll tell somebody when I feel more comfortable, just not now.

I'm wondering if it will make a difference to them?  I went to Catholic schools from K-12 and had our non-catholic teachers come into our religion classes to speak about their religion and beliefs.  We had several Jewish teachers in high school and that's where I learned a lot about judaism, it might not be a big deal.

[lucybrown]

I told H I have to work a full day tomorrow. I decided to only work 2 hours and and plan to lay in bed for rest of the work day. I'm exhausted and it's the only way anyone in my family will leave me alone so I can recharge my own batteries.

[brooke77]

I spent a lot of $$ on Taylor Swift tickets. I told my H I spent half of what I did. We have separate bank accounts, but generally discuss large purchases. No regrets. It was worth every penny.

[macmars45]

I haven't told my boss at my new job that I have epilepsy yet. It's been under control for 17.5 years so it's a cya just in case. Yesterday was the first day of school. I'll tell her when things are a smidge calmer.

[waverly]

Aug 24, 2023 7:54:07 GMT -5 raleighnc said:

I lead a Target Sports special interest troop for Girl Scouts because my daughters suck at sports but love target sports. Including target shooting with BBs. I'm super anti-gun and think the NRA is basically a terrorist organization, but I drove three hours to get certified (by Scouts BSA) to facilitate BBs because I'm a sucker for my girls and I have a knee-jerk reflex to anyone who tells them they can't do something because they are in Girl Scouts. So I cringe when my daughter tells everyone that I'm certified in BB guns because I don't want people to think I'm a gun nut. When we're actually shooting, I feel like a fraud because I'm teaching about guns but I've never touched one except for BBs. I try to use it as a platform for gun safety and control, and I'm sure the parents all feel the same way, but it's so weird.

Also, I suck at all target sports (we also do archery, slingshots, and axes). That is not a secret, LOL. I throw myself on that sword because I want the girls to know that you can still have fun even if you suck.

DH told me he shot BB guns at camp and I was a little shocked, but now that my son was in Cub Scouts and my daughter is in Girl Scouts, I can say I would never equate BB guns for kids to practice target shooting as the same as a gun nut.  I equate gun nuts to AK47s.

[pandorica]

DD1(4) has no idea we're going to Disney in November. Mostly because she has no concept of time and once I tell her I know she'll ask me daily until we leave 😅

[waverly]

I thought of another one. We are selling a business/ asset and we haven't told anyone yet. I guess since it isn't their business it is not their business. Pun intended.

[Deleted]

We're going away with some friends in November. My H used his air miles to buy all of our flights, but we haven't told our friends that he upgraded us all to 1st class. My H is also paying for their room with his hotel points. I'm so excited for them to find out! They haven't had a vacation in years and they deserve this so much.

[sunnysally]

I had a really hot sex dream about a friend. It pops into my head more than I like to admit.

[rupertpenny]

Aug 24, 2023 8:07:00 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

We leave for Disney World on Sunday and the kids still don't know (ages 6 and almost 10). And we've had the trip booked for well over a year now. We're trying to hold out until they wake up Sunday morning, but I have a feeling we'll slip up on Saturday because that'll be the big packing day. They're at summer camp through tomorrow so it's been easy to keep things from them otherwise.

If you're flying Delta out of LGA we might be on the same flight, although I guess that's probably the worst airport for you. 

I'm not hiding anything really, but I am doing A LOT of compartmentalizing these days. 

[eb777888]

I'm planning a trip to NYC for David's fall break and I haven't mentioned it to H yet. I'm not necessarily trying to keep it from him, just forgetting to bring it up.

[Velar Fricative]

Aug 24, 2023 8:49:33 GMT -5 rupertpenny said:

Aug 24, 2023 8:07:00 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

We leave for Disney World on Sunday and the kids still don't know (ages 6 and almost 10). And we've had the trip booked for well over a year now. We're trying to hold out until they wake up Sunday morning, but I have a feeling we'll slip up on Saturday because that'll be the big packing day. They're at summer camp through tomorrow so it's been easy to keep things from them otherwise.

If you're flying Delta out of LGA we might be on the same flight, although I guess that's probably the worst airport for you. 

I'm not hiding anything really, but I am doing A LOT of compartmentalizing these days. 

Nope, we always use United via Newark. You couldn't pay me to voluntarily use the Belt Parkway to get to the other airports lol. I'll wave from the skies!

[madringal]

We bought DD1 tickets to Olympic Swim trials as her 16th birthday gift. This is her equivalent of Taylor Swift tickets, lol. It’s so hard not to tell her.

Our HS swim team is looking for a new asst coach. Everyone is stressed waiting for them to announce who they have hired. DH is likely going to accept the position and none of my friends even know he was even in the running.

[wambam]

Poof

[noodleoo]

Tickets to see Frozen the musical in Nov for my girls (age 5 and 8)! I almost forgot about them, we bought them so long ago. I'm not sure when we will tell them. I'm so excited to take them, it will be their first real show. And we're going with another family that is their best friends.

[Jalapeñomel]

It’s impossible for me to keep a real secret. I can’t buy presents early, because I’d just tell my kids or DH.