My H is interviewing for a job that would take us out of state. We haven’t told anyone because if he gets it and we move, my mom will never forgive me for “leaving” her.
Our four kids know we plan to get another dog (our last dog passed away in June 2020) at some point in the future, but the kids don't know that we've already put the wheels in motion and plan to get a puppy sooner rather than later. They'll be so excited.
There are very few people IRL that know about DS2's Type 1 Diabetes diagnosis. We have left the decision up to him on who to tell and when, and he says he wants to keep it private for as long as possible. We're respecting his decision and the autonomy he wants. DH isn't very close with his family after MIL passed away and none of them know, just to give you perspective on how few people actually do know.
I think I changed my mind on this baby's name. We had one picked and shared it, even ordered a personalized blanket...and then I heard something new yesterday and loved it. I told MH this morning thinking he'd be 100% against it, but he said he loves it. I told my mom we may change her name, but I have no intention of sharing what it is with my family.
Post by lovelovelove on Aug 24, 2023 10:49:53 GMT -5
Someone said some awful stuff to me about a friend and her kid. I told friend that something happened with this person and to keep distance, but I didn't get into specifics of what was said. I feel like it would just hurt and/or escalate, but I'm feeling guilty that I'm withholding the full details.
I started a job last week at a Catholic school, and they think I’m Catholic. They couldn’t ask me legally in an interview, but the Head definitely tried to ask without asking. I know all the choreography (lol) because I was raised in a devout household, but I left the Church six years ago and we are Unitarian Universalists. I’ll tell somebody when I feel more comfortable, just not now.
I am a total heathen and have been teaching at a catholic school for 20 years (in fairness, it's an independent catholic school so lighter than catholic-lite). I have three degrees from three Jesuit colleges, so they never even asked. They didn't find out until the following year when I was asked to teach religion and I suggested they probably did not want me to.
I've made reservations for several restaurants for our holiday to Portugal and haven't shared a thing with my H. He knows that I have planned this trip but not to this extent.
If I might jump it...Buy The Wine in Lisbon. You won't regret it. (I have more recs if you want them). Portugal is my very favorite place in the world.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
My DH's firm is closing kind of unexpectedly and he's on a mad hunt for a new job. I haven't told my family because I don't want to field a million phone calls a day when I don't have any info, even though it's consuming my life.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Post by DotAndBuzz on Aug 24, 2023 11:24:20 GMT -5
We're at the tail end of a huge house project that included painting our ridiculous 2 story foyer. So much paint. Scaffolding, moving a piano, huge PITA.
I hate the paint color I chose.
But I can't tell H, he would die.
So my plan is to live with it and figure out a way to "need" to repaint it when we do the kitchen project in a year or so.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Aug 24, 2023 11:59:44 GMT -5
I have a few ...
From family/friends - Miss R was dx w mixed obessional thoughts/acts (F42.2 in the DSM) which is very similar to OCD. How we're going to treat this in a child who refuses meds and I'm sure won't be onboard w CBT is anyone's guess.
From Miss R - The extent of my inheritance from my gpa. It's life changing but she's not going to know just HOW life changing. If she finds out, she's going to have it spent in her head before I can say anything. The less she knows, the better.
I started a job last week at a Catholic school, and they think I’m Catholic. They couldn’t ask me legally in an interview, but the Head definitely tried to ask without asking. I know all the choreography (lol) because I was raised in a devout household, but I left the Church six years ago and we are Unitarian Universalists. I’ll tell somebody when I feel more comfortable, just not now.
I used to work for a Christian ministry and they did ask in the interview and I fudged the truth as to my devoutness. The commute was great and the work interesting. I grew up going to Catholic school so I knew how to fake it. Within a few weeks it was pretty easy to tell the true believers from those of us just there to do a job. My team was great--even the true believers--but the senior management was such that I doubt I will ever darken the doorstep of a house of worship again. thankfully I was COVID laid off before they required employees to sign statements of faith.
I do have a funny secret that I can share here, but not with my community. A museum shares a building with other stores/ shops etc. Well one time they had a live reptile exhibit, and the snake got out several times. This was a VERY large snake. One of the times it was totally out of the museum and in the shared hallway. A hilarious story ensued of them trying to keep the snake contained and get him back in the cage. I think the owners of the exhibit were called to pick it up early. I was sworn to secrecy in that community. And I was told that they will never do a live reptile exhibit again. Please don't try to guess which museum since that is the secret part. They don't want their neighbors or customers to know about the snake that was all over the property.
This one is heavy so TW @@ I am currently miscarrying. At 42 and given my medical history I didn’t think it was possible. I haven’t been on BCP since the brain tumor 9 years ago and never once even had a scare. We even tried with fertility treatments when I was 39/40 and nothing. No one knows but my husband and my ob/Gyn. I don’t know how to feel.
Post by purplepenguin7 on Aug 24, 2023 13:32:04 GMT -5
this is going to sound more serious than it is but, I have a secret bank account my H doesn't know about. He is awful awful awful with money and doesn't understand budgeting at all. The only way I can stop him from spending is to "hide" money from him. I say more serious than it is because the account has about $500 in it. Sometimes more, but never exceeded 1k (not earmarked for something). I'm not hiding thousands from him, and I never spend it on myself.
probably more of a flamefull confession than a secret but oh well.
Both DH and I are dancing around a secret of who wants to get another cat or not. I'm team let's add another cat, but worried if the one we have will adapt well after losing their sibling this summer (only ever known the one sibling.) I think DH is ok without another cat, but then he'll make comments about how he looks at the site where we got the (2) cat(s) we have now. We keep telling ourselves the internet says wait at least 2 months before introducing new pets, but we're coming up on that time, so I'm curious if we take action soon.
My DH also knows that someone close to me had left a little bit of money to me in their will, however he doesn't know how much. I've started the process of moving it over with a lawyer, and right now I'm keeping it only in my name, with him as beneficiary. It's all in retirement funds, so not liquid anyway.
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My first job out of college was at a Catholic college. I think I tried to work some of my Catholic upbringing in to the interview because I needed that job. When I went through benefits they went over needing a note from your doctor that BCP's weren't for protection against pregnancy, but for medical reasons or the insurance wouldn't cover it. I had to bite my tongue with shock that it was a real thing, meaning yes I was a big hussy who needed pills for medical reasons, but also good to have in case I had (premarital) sex while working at this job. Thankfully they didn't actually hold me to the letter. Anyway, I later applied to a different Catholic college for 2 different jobs and had to really drive home that my mom went to Catholic school with the same order of nuns, because I learned at the first college that one person actually cares how Catholic you are, and not knowing this stuff is a strike against you. How is this stuff still legal?