Post by starburst604 on Sept 18, 2023 18:41:37 GMT -5
I am stunned. Please smear this man to the 4 corners of the single Earth population.
But in seriousness I’m sorry this has happened and reopened the wound. It’s awful to find out that you trusted a person who wasn’t who you thought and causes you to examine the whole thing in the rearview. I’m glad you were able to get fast presumptive treatment and I hope he contracts something that makes his dick rot off.
Post by ellipses84 on Sept 18, 2023 18:55:29 GMT -5
I know you know this is all about his issues, not you, and you are way better off without him, but it still hurts to feel gaslighted and rejected. Obviously he didn’t have time for your relationship because it wasn’t the only one, and he’s an absolute sociopath to not tell you about an STD. I’m glad he’s been publicly outed and lots of people know, including a coworker.
Also, he is so freaking bold! With social media the way it is now, how did he not think he would be tagged in a picture or something that exposed his shit?! I am sure he thinks his secret is safe, but I love that the kid’s friends Mom knows the truth
fuck this guy. I am SO sorry you have to deal with this. A loved one of mine went through a similar situation and it rocked her and made her have such deep trust issues. I hope you are able to heal with therapy. Sending love.
Oh wow. That absolutely sucks and I’m so sorry you’re going through it. But I’m glad you found out before he came slithering back, which he would have, and I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself mentally and physically. Big hugs to you.
fuck this guy. I am SO sorry you have to deal with this. A loved one of mine went through a similar situation and it rocked her and made her have such deep trust issues. I hope you are able to heal with therapy. Sending love.
Yeah. I really went into this with a lot of intention.
He did a really really good job of building trust.
I remember one time I was there, and we were talking about something, and I was like, I know you’re busy, I’m busy also.
And he looked at me, and said, I don’t think you do know how busy I am.
And… nope. I guess I didn’t.
Oof. I'll admit, I laughed at this.
I'm so sorry. He's absolute trash, and I can see how this would throw you for a loop. It's just unbelievable!
I can also see the appeal of commiserating with his other victims, but like others have said, I don't know if that's the best move for your mental health. I trust you and your therapist will figure out a plan for moving forward. Remember, this isn't about you, it's because he's a con man. As much as it hurts to know all this about him, I'm grateful you have clarity and won't be sucked into anything with him again.
Holy hell, what a piece of work this guy is. I’m so sorry. Some people really are just moral black holes.
Maybe not for now, but sometime you might want to look up the podcast “Something Was Wrong.” The first several seasons are conversations with people who have been through similar experiences. These are super bright, competent, articulate women (usually) who have had the misfortune to fall in with - and sometimes marry - people who seem to lie more easily than they breathe. It really drives home how vulnerable any of us who are “normal” can be to a sociopath who has zero compunction about lying/gaslighting/deceiving.
I hope there’s a special circle of hell for people who abuse others’ trust like this.